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Yall thought we'd go all year and NOT have an episode about sex? As we wrap up 2018, we're hitting yall with a 2-part series on that 3 letter word that so many of us love.

From consent, to losing our virginity, to our current feelings about sex, we cover it from all angles in this episode.  This episode was important because we wanted to not only break down sex & intimacy but also discuss those sometimes taboo subjects. C'mon fellas we've all been there. We know those 2 letters all too well. Shoutout to PE & ED for blocking our blessings.  And what about sex toys for men? Because why should ladies get to have all the fun?  We even discuss every straight man's favorite subject: The Orgasm Gap.  If you're unfamiliar, do a quick google search.  It's exactly what it sounds like. 

This episode was a lot of fun and we hope that the listeners take away the importance of listening to your partner and exploring EVERY way to make each other feel good.  Because as the studies show, we have a LONG way to go to close that gap. 

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When talking about brotherhood, how often do we include gay brothers into that conversation? As a society we've made progress in terms of LGBTQ rights, but we certainly have a long way to go in order to be better brothers to gay men especially in our community.  On today's episode we talk with The Great Jayden aka Jayden Hollywood about the relationship between gay and straight black men.  

On Let's Talk Bruh we talk a lot about masculinity from a straight male perspective, but it's important to talk about the differences from our gay brothers as well.  We bring back some concepts from our Black Male Privilege episode and even touch on what Black Male Privilege looks like from a gay black man's perspective. 

There's no way we could cover it all in one episode, but without a doubt there's a ton we can learn from each other.

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Here's something for your Thanksgiving Dinner conversations with grandma: The Kinsey Scale. 

Now at this point, you may be wondering wtf the Kinsey Scale even is.  So to briefly explain, in 1948 The Kinsey Scale determined that people typically did not fit into exclusive heterosexual or homosexual categories. Essentially suggesting that sexuality is fluid. The Kinsey Scale measures sexuality from 0-6. 

For example: 0 being exclusively heterosexual, 3 being equally heterosexual and homosexual and 6 being exclusively homosexual. 

With our sex episodes coming very soon, as straight black men, we wanted to challenge both ourselves (and yall), briefly tackle this topic and see where we fit according to the scale.

Is your sexuality fluid? The answer could be yes. Take a listen and find out. Then discuss with your family over dinner. If it goes south, just tell them to blame Let's Talk Bruh. 

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According to the calendar, Cuffing Season is officially upon us. Dating, relationships, situationships, swiping left and right is in full swing so it was only right to break down our thoughts on relationships. We talk about love languages, how we want to be loved, and what's important for us in relationships. We talk about the dreaded "C" word and what compels us to commit to someone. By no means do we claim to be relationship experts, but with our experiences we offer some keys to happy relationships as well as getting pretty candid with areas we need to improve upon in our relationships. Relationships are hard work and we can't make any guarantees, but hopefully after listening you'll be better prepared for this year's Cuffing Season.

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We spend of a lot of time on Let's Talk Bruh talking through the ways that men are impacted by patriarchy. So we discuss vulnerability, Black male privilege, Black men's health and more as a way to combat those issues. But we haven’t as much as we should have talked about some of the ways that Women are impacted by patriarchy.

So in today’s episode you’ll hear us start that conversation and we couldn’t do it alone. We invited our friend Taylor to share some of her experiences to the mic, but don’t get it twisted. Taylor doesn’t speak for all women nor did we expect her to.

We couldn't cover everything in one episode so today's show is just the start of several episodes to come in breaking down ways women are impacted by patriarchy, what men should know about women's issues and feminism. Tune in!

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This episode is the heart of this podcast. This episode is the reason we do Let’s Talk Bruh. 

This episode wasn’t in our plans but perhaps the universe planned it for us. 

A much needed conversation between 2 Black Men, 2 brothers and friends, ex roommates, trying to figure this shit out one podcast at a time. This conversation is the result of when things get swept under the rug for so long that eventually they become impossible to ignore. It’s a tough conversation for a number of reasons because: 1) When you feel disrespected, how do you still hold your friend accountable for their actions even as they're battling mental health issues? 2) How do you even explain your mental health to your friend? 3) And wtf happens to a podcast when all this is at play? In true #LetsTalkBruh fashion we talk through this on the mic invite y’all to our conversation. 

When you see the word, "family" what comes to mind? Maybe it's mom, dad, sister, brother.  Maybe it's summertime cookouts, holidays, and family traditions.  For many of us, family is all we have. But how do you define family? Do you include chosen family like friends? We talk about it all in this episode and get some help from the good brother BeMo Brown.  We also talk about what "Breaking the Cycle" looks like within in our families, family secrets, current frustrations with our families, and what legacy means. As much as we ALL love our families, everyone's family can be a bit "dysfunctional" at times. Can't live with em. Can't live without em. 

We're continuing our look at masculinity in culture this week by examining how masculinity and toxic masculinity were both presented in Season 3 of HBO's Insecure.  If you remember a few months ago in June, Issa Rae commented that for the upcoming season she wanted to examine Black Masculinity and toxic masculinity as they relate to Black Women.  This statement alone caused many of us Black Men to collectively lose our minds, because how on earth could a Black Woman have any knowledge on how Black Masculinity impacts them? (insert any applicable sarcasm gif here).  Now that the season is over, we took a look at a few examples of Black Masculinity in Season 3 AND the ways in which it impacted the Black Women in the show.  And as the old saying goes, art imitates life so many of these on screen moments reflect real life scenarios. So hopefully Issa, Molly, Nathan, Daniel, Lawrence, Kelli and everyone else did that so we don't have to go through that.  Now without further adieu it's time to press play. 

Spoiler Alert: This episode contains a few spoilers for the Insecure season finale. Now it's been out for roughly 3 days now so we assume you've already watched, but if not you'll want to catch up before listening.

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You ever remember riding in the car with your mom as a kid and turning to a different station or feeling wild uncomfortable when you knew your favorite MC was about to say some problematic shit? Maybe you can relate to this, but maybe not. 

The point is, it's interesting to note how sometimes we're more sensitive to certain lyrics when women are present. Have you ever felt conflicted while listening to your favorite artist? Or maybe you block it out completely and just enjoy the music? 

In today's episode we break down some of the more toxic elements of the culture we love. We acknowledge that Hip-Hop isn't responsible for sexism, but there's a need to address the misogyny and homophobia not only to push the culture forward, but also to be more inclusive for women and queer folk. We even look at how masculinity is presented in hip hop and ways it impacted us growing up.  Let us know what you think!

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So this week we called an audible. We had plans to drop our Hip Hop episode but during our discussion, we got into a slight debate over whether or not Black Men need a male Beyoncé.  

For everything Beyoncé represents and means for women and specifically Black Women, Jeremy believes it would be dope to have a male version who would uplift Black Men in a similar way that she does for Black Women.  Currently, Jeremy believes that there is a void when it comes to mainstream male artists who make music specifically for the uplift of Black Men and believes we need more mainstream artists to break down patriarchy in a dope way.

On the other hand, Kyr doesn't believe having a Male Beyonce is necessary because there are certain artists who talk about similar issues, a la, Beyoncé's husband aka Jay-Z.  

So what do you think? Do we need a Male Beyoncé?