Let's Talk Confidence

Most people think confidence is something you either have or don’t. That’s wrong. There are actually three different types of confidence, and confusing them is why so many capable people still feel stuck, insecure, or inconsistent.

In this episode, I break down the difference between feeling confident, being confident in a skill, and having true confidence as a mindset.

More importantly, I explain why chasing the feeling of confidence keeps you unstable, why relying on skill confidence limits your growth, and why mindset confidence is the one that actually changes your life.

If you’ve ever felt confident one day and completely off the next, or strong in one area but unsure everywhere else, this will explain exactly what’s going on and what to do about it.

Most people think confidence is about how you feel, but it's not.
In this episode of Let's Talk Confidence, I break down how that hidden narrative shapes the way you lead, love, work and earn, and give you a practical way to examine the story you’re currently living inside so you can start changing it properly.

Most “confidence” at work isn’t confidence at all, it’s performance. Over-explaining, hedging, constant proving, perfectionism, people pleasing. It works just enough to keep you doing it, but it leaves you drained and still unsure of yourself. In this episode, I break down the signs you’re performing competence, why capable people fall into it, and how to build real inner authority using identity, intention and implementation, so you can lead with calm, clarity and congruence instead of the act.

You make the decision. You send the email. You agree the plan. You set the boundary. And it should be done. Finished. Boxed off.

But instead your brain keeps reopening it like a tab you can’t close. You re-read, rehearse, re-write, second guess, and convince yourself you’ve got it wrong.

In this episode of Let’s Talk Confidence, I break down what’s really happening in the decision spiral, why it hits leaders and business owners hardest, and why “thinking harder” isn’t intelligence, it’s fear.

You’ll learn how to spot the decisions you spiral on, the identity story underneath them, and a simple framework to stop re-deciding and start executing.

You're feeling absolutely fine, then you scroll for thirty seconds and suddenly you’re “behind”.

Someone else’s engagement, promotion, money post, transformation photo, and your brain decides your life isn’t good enough. That’s the comparison trap, and it doesn’t just steal joy: It steals confidence, momentum, and consistency in every area of your life.

In this episode, I break down what comparison is really doing to you, the three ways it quietly changes your behaviour, and the simple playbook I use to get your focus back.

Most people tell themselves they’re stuck because of timing, money, luck, or “needing more confidence”.

I don’t buy it.

More often, the real thing holding you back is the fear of being disliked. It’s why you don’t ask them out. It’s why you don’t go for the job. It’s why you don’t walk into the room, start the thing, or say what you actually think.

In this episode, I break down how that fear shows up in everyday life, why it shrinks your confidence over time, and the simple steps I use with clients to stop treating rejection like a verdict on your worth.

If you’re ready to stop playing safe and start building real self-trust, this one’s for you.

Ever had someone praise you, and instead of feeling confident you immediately thought, “They’re just being nice”? Most leaders I speak to have plenty of evidence they’re doing well, and still feel like they’re about to get found out.

In this episode of Let’s Talk Confidence, I break down the main mistake people make when they’re trying to reduce self-doubt: outsourcing confidence to other people.

I’ll show you how to get out of that loop by building identity confidence and self-trust, so praise becomes a bonus, not a lifeline. You’ll learn:

- Why compliments bounce off when your internal story is “I’m not enough”

- How validation turns silence into “rejection” in your head

- The practical steps to build confidence that doesn’t depend on other people’s reactions

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Monday mornings get a pretty bad rep. But if you’re someone who overthinks, spirals, and turns into an anxious mess, you already know the truth: it’s Sunday evenings that do the damage.

In this episode, I break down why Sunday nights hit harder than Mondays, what overthinking actually is (spoiler: it isn’t a personality trait), and the real reason the spiral keeps coming back. It’s not your calendar. It’s the story underneath your thoughts.

I’ll walk you through a simple 3-part framework to stop the spiral before it steals your peace, plus a practical 15-minute Sunday Reset you can use every week to shut your brain down and start Monday steady.

If you spend Sunday night rehearsing arguments that haven’t happened, opening emails that haven’t been sent, or convincing yourself you’re about to get found out, this one’s for you.

In this special episode of Let's Talk Confidence, I sit down with fellow confidence coach Nina De Sausmarez, breaking down what confidence is, and how to build it so it actually lasts.

We talk taking responsibility, why the fear of judgement destroys more confidence than failure ever does, and why the people who grow quickest aren’t the most talented, they’re the ones willing to take action before they feel ready.

Expect honest takes, no fluff, and a few practical shifts you can use straight away.

Check Nina out:

www.ninadesausmarez.com

www.instagram.com/ninadesausmarez

Most people think influence comes from being charismatic, loud, and having the best arguments. Heads up: it's not.

In this episode, I break down how real influence actually works, why “trying to be taken seriously” usually makes you less influential, and how internal confidence creates the kind of calm authority people naturally trust.

I’ll walk you through practical steps to build it, from getting clear on your values and stopping the approval audition, to regulating your nervous system and communicating with more weight, plus three challenges you can practise this week to start influencing without performing.