Let's Talk Courageous Communication with Telana Simpson

John Niland knew intellectually the distinctions between self-worth, self-esteem and self-confidence, yet he only started living this fundamental discovery after a significantly emotional event. John shares with Telana what he has learn on this journey, and how he discovered his true self-worth, and the benefits from this. He also relates how unconditional self-worth is the foundation for courageous conversations. Topics explored in this important episode include: Discovering self-worth; How self-worth differs to self-esteem; Relevance of self-worth in our current uncertain times, especially to the times of Covid-19; The business case for self-worth; The importance of listening; Courageous conversations.

How do we discuss something like a corporate culture? And in particular, in a way that we can improve that culture? Steve Simpson explains his concept of 'Unwritten Ground Rules' and how it gives leaders the language to develop the culture of their business, so that staff become more productive. Steve and Telana cover in particular how we have conversations that hold people accountable to improve their behaviour, and how to uncover the unwritten ground rules that govern that behaviour.

For more info see: https://www.innercoaching.co.za/talkcommunication/communicating-unwritten-ground-rules-steve-simpson

Naomi Estment, personal branding photographer and videographer, shares with Telana what she has learnt from being on both sides of the camera. They especially focus on overcoming the fear of rejection and being seen. She helps mainly women become comfortable in front of the camera, so that they can develop their brands and shine in their lives. Naomi also shares what she has learnt about getting your message across and having difficult conversations with those close to you. And she has a gift for all listeners and viewers.

For more info see: https://www.innercoaching.co.za/talkcommunication/camera-fear-of-rejection-naomi-estment

Some critical skills needed for today's world include people management, communication and emotional intelligence, as well as critical thinking and decision making. How does brain flexibility help us improve our communication skills? Dr André Vermeulen has been studying the brain for many years, and will help us answer that question, explaining the concepts of: brain flexibility and agility; cognitive flexibility; emotional intelligence; communication vs. talking; and listening. For more info see: https://www.innercoaching.co.za/talkcommunication/brain-flexibility-for-effective-communication-dr-vermeulen

In this episode of Let's Talk Communication, Daria Tsvenger, a mindset expert, shared with Telana Simpson what mental strength is, and how to develop it, especially in a time of crisis, like we find ourselves in today dealing with Covid-19. She covers aspects of ourselves like the flight/fight mode of our brains, procrastination, depression and self awareness. She also explains the difference between inspiration and motivation, and tackles how to have conversations that count, shedding some light on the topic from the neuro-science perspective. For more information see: https://www.innercoaching.co.za/talkcommunication/how-to-be-mentally-strong-in-a-crisis-with-daria-tsvenger/

How do we develop the the faculty of discernment and the ability to communicate consciously? Telana had a conversation that counts with Noy Pullen sitting alongside her fireplace in Cape Town. They talk about the written word and media, including newspapers and magazines, and how we can notice the force behind the media we consume, and how it may trigger us and allow us to go within to develop our inner resources and take responsibility for our growth. They also cover consciousness and creativity in this discussion around self reflection and self expression. Noy also shares a very practical self-coaching process and the usefulness of journaling.

For more info see: http://talkcommunication.innercoaching.co.za/conscious-media/

How do men and women communicate differently? And what's happening in the world of dating today? Bonita Grobbelaar, Love Coach, shares with Telana her tips on how to handle first dates, and to understand the differently communication styles that show themselves when we are attracted to someone, and wanting to make a good impression. They cover how to know if the person is into you, the roles men and women play, the dance of masculine and feminine energy, and some tips, especially for women, on getting the most out of your first date.

For more info about Bonita and this show, go to: http://talkcommunication.innercoaching.co.za/tips-for-first-date/ ‎

One of our coping strategies to attempt to deal with conflict, is to engage in triangulating in our relationships. This is where we play the role of usually victim or villain, and bring a third party into the dynamic (the rescuer), and avoid the conflict and confronting the actual person we should be talking to. Hazel Kurian, Counselling Psychologist shares more about triangles in relationships, and how they work from us being the person doing the triangulating, and from when we find ourselves being triangled into someone else's conflict. We also cover more effective ways, than this dynamic, to deal with the issue.

For more info about Hazel or the show, see:http://talkcommunication.innercoaching.co.za/triangles-victim-villain-rescuer-relationships

Denis Fourie has negotiation skills that range from hostage situations, to billion dollar deals, to with his young daughter. He also has a knack for networking and taking a business idea from conception to market, and has built and sold many companies successfully. We discuss the skills involved in relationship building and networking, and in dealing with conflict and negotiating.

For more info see: http://talkcommunication.innercoaching.co.za/denis-fourie-networking-negotiation

Nick Christelis, with over 30 years of global consulting experience and many lessons in leadership, talks about his book, "The Art of the Arrow: How Leaders Fly", and shares his knowledge on leadership and communication skills with Telana. They cover topics like:* the distinction between Management and Leadership* communication and story telling* feedback skills* conflict management skills* rapport* listening* dialogue circles, master minding and conversation cafe* case study examples like Nando's, the Robyn Island Prison system, Government discussions and his own life.

For more info see:http://talkcommunication.innercoaching.co.za/nick-christelis-leadership-communication-skills/