If helping someone is a need, to a fault, with no regard for your spiritual and emotional well-being there could be a problem. 

Trying to find help for ourselves is tough enough. Your unwillingness to understand only makes it worse.

Lets talk about how dealing with the addict/mental health issue family member has you defensive.

Lets talk a little about how one's self-centered tendencies can be more harmful to those in active addiction or in early recovery from addiction/mental health issues. 

Lets talk about your anger now, how it complicates the mental health concerns for others.

Let's talk now about those negative influences, and how they "set" the mood.

Starting with mental health then on to characters defects as barriers to healthy recovery and relationships.

Lets talk about paying it forward. Once you have some knowledge and wisdom, have had a spiritual awakening, what do you do with it?

Lets talk about what it is like to find any degree of peace in your life and the ways to make it possible.

Lets talk about the good and or hurtful things that happen today.