Experts Jane Garnett, LMFT & Dr. Theodora Harvey, MFT discuss what it takes to go NEXT LEVEL in intimate relationships with insights, tips, and techniques. Dr Harvey and her husband are contestants in the search for "America's favorite Couple" - a national competition celebrating love and supporting two great causes: Oceana, protecting the world's ocean, and the LA Foodbank. As married couple therapists who co-founded Harvey Center for Relationships, and specialize in supporting couples thrive, Theodora and her Husband are pros who walk their talk.

**please forgive glitches- this piece is a collection of excerpts from an intimate cacao and chat session between two old friends and colleagues

The following is an outline of the Repair Dialogue, a technique mentioned in the podcast, for you and your partner to practice after a break or Recess to repair a rupture. You and your partner finish the following sentences and take turns listening to each other's responses.

"My contribution to the nightmare (argument) was ..."

"What I did to make this nightmare (argument) worse was ..."

"What I could have done differently ..."

"What I will do differently next time is ..."

The above directions provide not only a foolproof way to reconnect, but has a positive side effect - it causes maturity. Speak only about yourself. Say nothing about your partner. If you can change your own behavior you can change the conditions of your life.

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