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Raff Dall is a Melbourne-based actor, DJ and content creator with a psychology brain and a storyteller’s heart. His work lives at the intersection of performance, mental health, and creative entrepreneurship, spanning acting, stand-up, podcasting, late-night DJ sets, and Pokémon-infused content that brings people together.

By day, Raff studies advanced psychology at Monash, diving into research, empathy frameworks and behaviour change. By night, he creates: filming showreels, building his “Finding The Middle” podcast, producing UGC, and streaming live to a growing online audience. He’s financially meticulous and fiercely self-directed, juggling multiple income streams, training for trail events, and building a runway for his next chapter overseas.

Preparing for a 2026 move to Canada, Raff is expanding his acting craft, exploring snowboarding pathways, and doubling down on experiences that make life feel like a movie. His work and worldview are grounded in curiosity, self-respect, and the belief that creativity and mental health don’t have to be separate pursuits, they make each other stronger.

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in this episode, Raff and i go deep on people-pleasing and why so many “good” high-achievers feel like ghosts in their own lives. we unpack how self-sacrifice becomes a survival strategy, how subtle family pressure trains you to perform for love and why you end up dating the same wound in a different outfit. we get into manipulation, love-bombing, shame spirals, withdrawal and the brutal truth that you will keep abandoning yourself until you learn to give yourself what you keep begging the world for. we also talk inner child work, somatic release, boundaries and the shift from chasing love to becoming it, without turning into singing kumbaya around the campfire. enjoy 💙

what we explored this episode

00:00 welcome Raff!

02:10 the “ghost” feeling, self-sacrifice and being a chameleon

05:15 where people-pleasing starts and the missing hug

08:10 subtle pressure, “where did i go wrong?” and the fish guts moment

11:45 why manipulation and people-pleasing are two coping styles

15:05 the car-seat shame spiral and feeling completely alone

18:00 how toxic dynamics hook you, love-bombing and breadcrumbing

21:10 the early red flags, contempt and “standards you walk past”

24:10 can you receive unconditional love from someone?

27:05 the turning point, journaling, self-talk and the “cringe” of self-love

30:20 “people full of love trigger people full of shit”

33:00 cognitive insight vs somatic healing, feeling the stuck shame

36:30 healing has an end point

39:10 how to let emotions move, surrender and safety

41:50 inner child work story, the year-one memory and the hug

46:10 boundaries in real life and choosing nourishing spaces

50:30 what “liberated” means to Raff

52:10 where to find Raff and a final nudge

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in this episode, i unpack why burnout keeps repeating even when you know better and why working harder never fixes it. we explore how hustle culture, fear and early conditioning wire the nervous system into survival mode, why burnout is not a time management issue but a belief and safety issue and how unprocessed stress keeps driving urgency, overwork and self-abandonment. drawing from neuroscience, trauma psychology, ancient wisdom and my own lived experience of collapse, chronic stress and rebuilding from stillness, this episode invites you to understand burnout at the root, regulate the body first and learn how sustainable success only emerges from safety, presence and alignment. enjoy.

what we explored this episode

00:00 welcome welcome!

00:38 burnout isn’t a time problem

03:31 why your nervous system is running the show

06:37 the belief beneath burnout

07:16 the psychocybernetic loop explained

09:44 props to carl jung

10:50 why calm feels unsafe

12:54 how i cooked myself and my business

15:03 the more elegant path to personal development

16:41 wise words from lao tzu

17:20 moments i felt really unsafe

18:54 calm as the real performance advantage

24:33 a burnout recovery blueprint for you

26:37 nature does not hurry, yet everything is accomplished

some takeaways

burnout is not a badge of honour, it is a signal

you cannot fix burnout from the same state that created it

stress narrows perception and kills clarity

the body remembers what the mind avoids

working harder from fear reinforces the loop

regulation restores creativity, focus and discernment

calm is a skill, not a personality trait

success built on stress eventually collapses

stillness creates sustainable power

true high performance comes from safety, not urgency

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Scott Ko is an executive leader, entrepreneur, and thought leader specialising in the powerful practice of curiosity. With a career spanning leadership roles across business, government, and non-profit sectors, Scott has consistently demonstrated the transformational impact curiosity has in unlocking innovation, clarity, and growth. As the former ACEO of Leadership Victoria—one of Australia's premier leadership development organisations—Scott rapidly revitalised the organisation's strategic vision, team culture, and commercial model, achieving results in months that typically take years.

Scott is also the founder of ColourSpace Gallery, Australia's first certified arts social enterprise, creating innovative human-centred workplaces at scale, redefining how organisations think about creativity, culture and productivity. In doing so, he’s contributed over $200k to emerging artists and communities. Scott’s unique approach is grounded in deep expertise in sense-making and epistemology—helping leaders and teams navigate complexity and uncertainty. His core philosophy: Organisations don't transform until leaders transform their thinking first.

Through his proprietary Curiosity Mindset methodology, Scott helps organisations move from reactive to proactive, overwhelmed to clear, and stuck to agile. As a sought-after keynote speaker, facilitator and provocateur, Scott’s powerful insights enable leaders to unlock their own fresh thinking, turning confusion into clarity and curiosity into strategic advantage.

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www.scottko.com

https://www.linkedin.com/in/thescottko/

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in this episode, i sit down with Scott Ko to explore the quiet pressure that lives beneath ambition, leadership and success. we talk about self-doubt, identity and the invisible weight carried by people who lead, create and care deeply. through honest reflection, lived experience and grounded insight, we go deep into why self-doubt isn’t a flaw to eliminate but a signal to listen to. this conversation unpacks how pressure, performance and identity become entangled and how learning to relate differently to discomfort, uncertainty and ambition can create a more sustainable way of leading and living. this is a conversation about slowing down, staying curious and learning how to walk alongside uncertainty rather than fight it. enjoy.

what we explored this episode

00:00 welcome and setting the tone

02:10 why self-doubt shows up in leadership and business

05:30 separating who you are from what you do

08:45 the cost of tying identity to outcomes

12:10 personal brands, pressure and the fear of not being enough

15:40 when passion turns into self-judgment

19:00 the myth of confidence and the reality of doubt

22:30 why curiosity matters more than certainty

26:10 discomfort as a teacher, not a threat

29:45 the danger of hustle without reflection

33:20 emotional regulation vs emotional suppression

36:00 navigating dark nights without losing yourself

39:10 why growth requires both softness and structure

42:20 redefining success on your own terms

45:30 what it means to live and lead with integrity

48:40 the long game of self-trust and self-respect

56:41 what “liberated” means to Scott

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in this episode, i explore why your mind never seems to switch off and how overthinking is often not a flaw but a survival strategy shaped by stress, pressure and early conditioning. we unpack how hustle culture, fear and unresolved emotion wire the nervous system into constant alert, why trying to “think your way out” only deepens the loop and how real change begins when you shift from control to regulation. drawing from neuroscience, psychology, ancient wisdom and my own experience of burnout and self-betrayal, this episode invites you to understand the deeper intelligence beneath your thoughts, reconnect with the intelligence of your body and learn how the peace, clarity and creativity you’re seeking emerges from safety.

what we explored this episode

00:00 welcome welcome!

00:38 does your mind just never shut up?

04:33 hunting and gathering

07:46 why a cocktail in paradise won’t save you

09:01 working at McDonald’s

10:10 how the mind becomes overactive 

10:34 my journey with a wild mind

16:52 are you your thoughts?

18:57 mr. should is coming out

22:45 have you ever learned how to concentrate?

25:55 how to calm the body, calm the mind

32:14 your beliefs create your reality

34:41 high-ROI tools to experience a calm mind

some takeaways

your mind isn’t broken, it’s protective

overthinking is a learned survival response, not a flaw

awareness creates choice and choice creates freedom

you can’t outthink a dysregulated nervous system

attention is trainable, just like a muscle

calm isn’t the absence of thought, it’s a new relationship with it

healing happens when the body feels safe enough to let go

you don’t need to eliminate thoughts, only stop obeying them

peace comes from presence, not control

your mind isn’t the enemy.. it just needs guidance

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quick psa before we begin.

this conversation with Colin is one i’m deeply proud of. it’s honest, expansive and full of wisdom i know will land for many of you.

unfortunately, due to a technical issue in the studio, the microphones didn’t capture the audio as cleanly as intended. i’ve done my best in post-production to improve it, but it isn’t perfect.

i wanted to name that openly rather than pretend otherwise.

thank you for your patience and understanding. i chose to share this episode anyway because the depth of the conversation felt more important than waiting for perfection.

i’m committed to improving the production quality as the podcast grows and i appreciate you being here with me as i learn and refine along the way.

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david 🙏

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Colin Weir is a Curious, Courageous and Present Innovator, Entrepreneur and tech exec with a proven track record of defining the future and building growth businesses to harness it.

With inherent tolerance for ambiguity and a passion for technology, Colin runs Moroku: a digital banking and payments company to define and deliver the next generation of financial services experiences.

Cycling across Australia in 2010 with friends to raise money for charity highlights much of who he is: loving adventure, the outdoors, sports, challenging himself, growing and having robust conversations about things that are meaningful.

“You don’t need eyes to see, you need vision”: Faithless

connect with Col: https://www.linkedin.com/in/colweir/

learn more about Moroku: https://moroku.com/ 

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in this episode, i sit down with Col for an honest conversation about ambition, pressure and the quiet cost of always striving. we explore what happens when success stops delivering the relief you expected, how self-leadership is forged through discomfort and why vulnerability is not a weakness but a requirement for real growth. this conversation invites you to question the beliefs driving your effort, reconnect with emotional awareness and lead your life and work from a place of courage, presence and integrity rather than fear or performance.

what we explored this episode

00:00 welcome to the gymnasium of life

01:02 the hardest part of leading yourself

03:12 why fighting reality keeps you stuck

05:10 the phd that never happened (and why it mattered)

07:04 success, ego, and the crash that follows

09:02 the upper limit problem nobody talks about

11:48 when success feels uncomfortable

13:06 childhood programming and inherited scarcity

15:02 tall poppy syndrome or playing small?

17:10 questioning the beliefs you never chose

19:06 throw the rulebook away

21:14 courage vs bravado

23:09 failure is the curriculum

25:04 stop reacting, start responding

27:01 from careful to carefree

29:10 emotions are data, not enemies

31:02 addiction, numbing and avoiding reality

34:10 sobriety, clarity, and clean decisions

36:28 where’s the gold in this pain?

39:02 victimhood or radical ownership

42:18 the people you surround yourself with matter

45:01 leadership when everything falls apart

48:10 parenting yourself through chaos

51:06 vulnerability is strength, not weakness

54:02 courage as a core value

57:14 how to zoom out when life hits hard

59:50 the only way out is through

1:02:10 expanding beyond who you were taught to be

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in this convo, i take you through the gnarly concept of self-betrayal, particularly for those who often take on the role of the strong one in their work and relationships. self-betrayal is not merely a lack of discipline but is deeply rooted in trauma responses such as people-pleasing. i take you deep into my personal experiences with addiction and the facade of being put together while struggling internally and i also share some practical tools for you to stop abandoning yourself and to cultivate unshakable self-trust and reliability.

what we explored this episode

00:00 welcome welcome!

00:38 why do you keep betraying yourself?

05:20 where i learned to betray myself

09:07 the four demons of self-betrayal

16:00 shoutout to ben and jerry’s ice cream

20:06 the self-betrayal liberation framework

24:19 ethical selfishness™ 

27:55 there’s a reason you’re here

28:44 from awareness to embodiment

some takeaways

this episode is for those tired of being the strong one.

self-betrayal stems from deeper issues, not just discipline.

people-pleasing is a trauma response, not a personality trait.

simple tools exist to help stop self-abandonment.

building self-trust is essential for emotional health.

understanding trauma is important for personal growth.

healing requires acknowledging one's own needs.

reliability on oneself is key to overcoming challenges.

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Elisha Tamasi, known as The Polynesian Life Coach, is a confidence and self love coach helping women fall in love with the woman they see in the mirror and know they are worthy exactly as they are.

After being fired from her dream job as an international flight attendant, Elisha hit rock bottom battling body shame, toxic relationships, and numbing out with alcohol, drugs, and food. Through deep inner healing, she rebuilt her relationship with herself, found unshakable confidence, and turned her pain into purpose.

Today, she’s the founder of Destination Self Love, an online program guiding women home to themselves. Elisha runs the program through scholarships and brand sponsorships, making self love and confidence coaching accessible to women who may have never believed this kind of transformation was possible for them.

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in this conversation, Leesh and i explore the themes of self-betrayal and self-abandonment, delving into personal journeys of self-discovery and the tools that can cultivate unshakable self-love!! we discuss the impact of self-sabotage, the pervasive feeling of 'not enough’ and the importance of self-reflection and awareness. Leesh shares her experiences with coaching and the significance of having someone believe in you before you can believe in yourself. we go through the importance of healing the inner child and creating a safe space for emotions, while also providing practical steps for self-validation and personal growth.

what we explored this episode

00:00 introducing Leesh

01:40 the opposite of self-love

04:40 hitting rock bottom

06:25 so you’re saying my thoughts create my reality?

12:00 help me believe that i am enough as i am!!

13:54 props to Byron Katie’s The WORK

15:40 how to break free from diet culture & self-hatred

18:30 but i don’t know how to stop this negative pattern

23:06 breaking the generational curse (blessing)

27:50 reparenting 6-year-old Leesh

29:20 how i can give myself what i seek in others

33:20 how having a coach transformed Leesh’s life

38:11 why some people wait for rock bottom to change

44:26 watching Leesh at work

50:27 you’re an actor in a movie.. what’s your script?

50:58 powerful vs forceful emotions

52:02 do affirmations even work?

52:45 healing the root cause of body image issues

57:48 everything is just an expression of love

59:45 a message to all women struggling with not-enoughness

1:03:00 the strongest force in the mind

1:03:22 the “when i, then i” fallacy

1:05:55 what success means to Leesh

1:08:10 what success means to Dave

1:10:22 what being “liberated” means to Leesh

some takeaways

the journey of self-discovery often involves confronting past traumas.

self-sabotage can stem from not listening to one's intuition.

the feeling of 'not enough' is a very common struggle.

breaking the cycle of self-doubt requires conscious effort and reflection.

coaches play a vital role in helping individuals believe in themselves.

awareness of one's thoughts and feelings is the first step towards change.

healing the inner child is a powerful method for self-acceptance.

investing in yourself can prevent hitting rock bottom.

comfort can hinder growth and change.

visualisation can help in achieving goals.

root causes of negative beliefs must be addressed.

self-worth is not determined by external factors.

everyone is worthy as they are right now.

success is subjective and defined by personal values.

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in today’s conversation, i take you through the paradox of productivity and the feeling of inadequacy that often accompanies it. we go deep into how many people may achieve their goals yet still feel stressed and anxious, leading to a cycle of survival rather than fulfillment. success without peace isn’t success at all! the name of the game is dreaming big while recognising the importance of inner peace and unlocking ways to slow down in a chaotic, fast-paced world.

what we explored this episode

00:00 welcome welcome!

00:38 not my best gag

00:54 understanding the chase

04:00 how “chasing-after mode” is created

10:12 the four traps of chasing

24:07 there’s no “there” there

25:00 five signs you’re stuck on the treadmill

26:56 breaking free from the chase (5 steps)

30:11 bangers and mash!

31:53 keep dreaming big and finding peace

some takeaways

even when achieving goals, one can feel inadequate.

ambition can sometimes lead to stress and anxiety.

the need for inner peace is often ignored.

slowing down can feel unsafe and counterproductive for some.

the cycle of chasing productivity can be exhausting.

recognising the feeling of survival is crucial.

true peace is often perceived as a waste of time.

building a life on forward motion can be detrimental.

mental health is as important as productivity.

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Constantine Georgiou is the author of Ineffable Refuge and founder of Ineffable, where he guides individuals and teams toward unshakeable inner peace through an integration of Tibetan Buddhist practices and modern neuroscience. After a high-pressure corporate career ended in complete nervous system collapse, Constantine embarked on intensive training under pioneering teachers including Dr. Daniel P. Brown, Dustin DiPerna and Stephen Altair, receiving transmission in the Dzogchen and Mahāmudrā traditions. He uniquely combines ancient teachings on Waking up into Rigpa (awakened awareness) with cutting-edge approaches for Cleaning up, including Internal Family Systems, somatic trauma healing, EFT tapping, and heart coherence practices. As a former tech entrepreneur and startup coach who witnessed brilliant entrepreneurs crumble despite technical mastery, Constantine developed comprehensive protocols that address not just peak performance but foundational nervous system regulation and psychological integration - bridging the gap between spiritual awakening and embodied living. He believes the current socio-technological and political crisis requires inner technologies to find Ineffable Refuge because no one is coming to save us. His work offers no spiritual bypassing or quick fixes, only scientifically-grounded practices that transform profound insights into sustainable, compassionate presence in daily life.

Connect with Constantine

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in this conversation with Constantine, we talk about a truth most high performers avoid facing. no one is coming to save you. not a mentor, not a job, not a relationship, not a title.

Constantine opens up about the weight of self-reliance, what it takes to build an inner refuge & practice that doesn’t collapse under pressure and why chasing the life you think you should want will never feel as fulfilling as building the one that’s true for you.

if you’ve been feeling torn between who you are and who the world expects you to be, this one will hit home. enjoy 💙

what we explored this episode

00:00 introduction to Constantine

01:48 a crazily provocative challenge Constantine has thrown at David

04:43 what is “inner refuge” and why is it important in a noisy world

09:21 why are so many people trapped giving their power away to others

12:33 the distraction epidemic we live in

17:58 why you’re always on edge (and how to come home)

24:36 have you ever learned how to concentrate?

26:51 how an inner refuge practice positively impacts the world

29:37 the war for your attention

30:25 Constantine’s social media experiment

33:21 when “success” still isn’t enough

38:47 what on earth is “awakening”?

42:43 fettuccine carbonara practice

44:58 three types of awakening

47:57 will the 3I/ATLAS aliens save us?

50:08 isn’t this all just escapism and bypassing?

53:35 the demons came out of the woodwork

54:37 the missing piece in ending self-sabotage for good

59:26 who are your ideal parents?

1:02:01 the power of dance, yoga and EFT

1:08:27 does going with the flow actually work?

1:11:31 how does inner refuge impact leadership, relationships & creativity?

1:12:56 the beauty of impermanence

1:20:04 more on Constantine’s book: Ineffable Refuge

1:22:45 what does “liberated” mean to Constantine?

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in our first conversation together, i take you on a journey through the pervasive feeling of not being good enough, tracing its roots to childhood conditioning and societal expectations. i emphasise the importance of recognising your inherent worth(!), distinguishing it from self-esteem, which is often tied to external validation. through personal anecdotes and insights, i share my journey of overcoming limiting beliefs and the inner critic, offering practical steps for you to cultivate self-acceptance and liberation from the cycle of comparison and self-doubt.

what we explored this episode

00:00 welcome welcome!

00:38 why we’re here

01:50 what is “not-good-enoughness”?

04:15 how not-good-enoughness crushed (liberated) me

16:05 why you’re inherently worthy

18:07 the emptiness of chasing and what true fulfilment looks like

21:00 the hedonic treadmill

23:56 disarming the inner critic

27:35 signs that you don’t feel good enough

31:30 breaking the cycle of not enoughness

some takeaways

feeling not good enough is a common experience.

this feeling often stems from childhood conditioning.

society rewards productivity over inherent worth.

self-worth is inherent; self-esteem is performance-based.

high achievers often struggle with feelings of inadequacy.

transforming limiting beliefs requires awareness and compassion.

the inner critic is a protective mechanism, not an enemy.

success without self-worth leads to emptiness.

it's essential to redefine worth beyond achievements.

practical steps can help break the cycle of not enoughness.

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