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October 01 What Does a Wife Need to Actually Want Sex? With Caroline Hood (Part 1)
If sex has become something you do just so you're not the "bad" partner, or something you keep waiting to feel like doing, you're not broken and you're not alone. In this episode you'll learn why many women don't want sex first and then start, but begin to want it once things are already underway, and why waiting until every emotional issue is fixed before you touch each other can keep you stuck. If you're too tired to even think about being in the mood, start with Dr. Diane's free video e-book How to Want It Again at mylibidodoc.com/libido-video-ebook.
About the Guest:
*Caroline Hood
Expertise: Caroline Hood is a sex and relationships writer, speaker, and consultant exploring the deeply human realities of sex, desire, intimacy, and long-term love. A licensed clinical social worker and certified sex therapist, she draws on more than 25 years of professional experience to combine candid storytelling, clinical insight, and cultural critique that challenge conventional wisdom about relationships and female desire.
Caroline is the author of Sex Begets Sex and writes the newsletter Desire in Real Life, where she explores sexual agency, intimacy, and the cultural narratives that shape our relationships. She holds a bachelor's degree in Psychology from Columbia University, a Master of Social Work from the University of Southern California, and an Executive Leadership Certificate from Harvard University.
Originally from the United States and now based in Sydney, Australia, Caroline lives with her husband, their three children, and their two rescue dogs.
Website: www.desireinreallife.com
IG: https://www.instagram.com/desireinreallife/
Substack: https://substack.com/@desireinreallife
Our Advocacy:
Our advocacy is centered around providing a supportive space for women to reclaim sexual vitality and joy for good. Help us achieve this by subscribing to our podcast and sharing us with your friends and family.
💖 Join our Next Libido Masterclass: https://mylibidodoc.com/masterclass
💖 Access Lab Testing: https://platinumself.circle.so/c/community
💥 Whenever we talk about products, we try to get you discount codes. Sometimes companies change the codes on us. To get the most up to date working coupon codes on products we recommend always go here: https://MyLibidoDoc.com/Products
Here is information about the penis pump and lady pump.
Coupon code: LibidoDoc10 for a 10% discount
Penis: https://doctorjoelkaplan.com/pages/autogro?a_aid=nzgdikssrskcdf&a_bid=948fa64f
Studies on this product show effectiveness improving erectile dysfunction and increasing size without drugs or medication. Helping men be the hero in their bedroom.
Lady: https://theladypump.com/pages/lady-pump?a_aid=nzgdikssrskcdf&a_bid=2eecfcb8
Increases blood flow to the clitoris and vulva — enhancing sensitivity, arousal, and natural lubrication. A drug-free way to amplify sensation and make every touch feel more intense.
To get part 2 of this conversation including how to have the right kind of sex, how to have more pleasure and how to have conversations about sex that make women want more of it register for our libido club! https://MyLibidoDoc.com/Club
More Libido Lounge
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✨ YouTube: https://youtube.com/@mylibidodoc
✨ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mylibidodoc/
✨ Join the Libido Club: https://mylibidodoc.com/Club/
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Timestamps:
0:00 Obligatory sex, desire myths, and intimacy without emotional connection
1:59 Losing desire in long-term relationships: common but not inevitable
6:52 Different arousal timelines and the need for better sexual education
8:44 Obligation and maintenance sex: when it becomes toxic
11:03 Sponsor: Hot Monogamy Society
15:44 Sponsor: Dr. Joel Kaplan (penis pumps and lady pumps)
17:45 Emotional intimacy vs. physical intimacy: which comes first?
20:30 Spontaneity, scheduling, and practical strategies for sustaining desire
21:27 Where to find Caroline Hood’s work: Desire in Real Life and Substack
(0:00) Obligatory sex, desire myths, and intimacy without emotional connection
(1:59) Losing desire in long-term relationships: common but not inevitable
(3:05) Busy lives, kids, perimenopause, and the real issues behind lost desire
(5:12) Cultural messaging, feminism, and permission for women to want sex
(6:52) Different arousal timelines and the need for better sexual education
(8:44) Obligation and maintenance sex: when it becomes toxic
(11:03) Sponsor: Hot Monogamy Society
(12:38) Sex begets sex: building desire vs. overriding a no
(14:38) Physical and emotional intimacy reinforcing each other
(15:44) Sponsor: Dr. Joel Kaplan (penis pumps and lady pumps)
(17:45) Emotional intimacy vs. physical intimacy: which comes first?
(20:30) Spontaneity, scheduling, and practical strategies for sustaining desire
(21:27) Where to find Caroline Hood’s work: Desire in Real Life and Substack
23 min
September 24 How a Time Limit on the Fight Saves Your Marriage with Kameran Alareqi (Part 2)
You had the same fight again tonight — different words, same wall — and now you're lying back-to-back on your own edges of the bed, wondering when "partners" quietly became "roommates who occasionally argue." In this episode you'll understand why the clock matters more than being right: repairing within 24 hours, and naming the criticize-then-withdraw loop you're both stuck in, is what actually keeps the distance from hardening into permanent. If tonight followed the same script it always does, take the free Sex Code Language quiz at mylibidodoc.com/freebies to finally see the pattern you and your partner keep triggering in each other.
About the Guest:
*Kameran Alareqi
Expertise: Kameran is a Gottman certified marriage coach, the host of The Married and Connected Podcast, and the founder of the Recognizing Potential Coaching Program. In this program, Kameran meets monogamous couples where they’re at to help them strengthen their marriage by coaching them to deepen connection, improve communication, and apply tools needed to create the healthy marriage they envision and desire.
https://substack.com/@marriedandconnected
IG: www.instagram.com/married.and.connected
YouTube: www.youtube.com/@marriedandconnected
Join my Skool Community: https://www.skool.com/married-connected-4920/about
Buy my book- Connected To Me: The Blueprint: https://a.co/d/0a3d2hPx
My podcast: Married and Connected found anywhere you get your favorite podcasts
Our Advocacy:
Our advocacy is centered around providing a supportive space for women to reclaim sexual vitality and joy for good. Help us achieve this by subscribing to our podcast and sharing us with your friends and family.
💖 Join our Next Libido Masterclass: https://mylibidodoc.com/masterclass
💖 Access Lab Testing: https://platinumself.circle.so/c/community
💥 Whenever we talk about products, we try to get you discount codes. Sometimes companies change the codes on us. To get the most up to date working coupon codes on products we recommend always go here: https://MyLibidoDoc.com/Products
Here is information about the penis pump and lady pump.
Coupon code: LibidoDoc10 for a 10% discount
Penis: https://doctorjoelkaplan.com/pages/autogro?a_aid=nzgdikssrskcdf&a_bid=948fa64f
Studies on this product show effectiveness improving erectile dysfunction and increasing size without drugs or medication. Helping men be the hero in their bedroom.
Lady: https://theladypump.com/pages/lady-pump?a_aid=nzgdikssrskcdf&a_bid=2eecfcb8
Increases blood flow to the clitoris and vulva — enhancing sensitivity, arousal, and natural lubrication. A drug-free way to amplify sensation and make every touch feel more intense.
To get part 2 of this conversation including how to have the right kind of sex, how to have more pleasure and how to have conversations about sex that make women want more of it register for our libido club! https://MyLibidoDoc.com/Club
More Libido Lounge
✨ Website: https://mylibidodoc.com/
✨ YouTube: https://youtube.com/@mylibidodoc
✨ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mylibidodoc/
✨ Join the Libido Club: https://mylibidodoc.com/Club/
✨ Health Store: https://store.mylibidodoc.com/
✨ Take Our Libido Quiz! https://t.ly/quoNU
✨ Auto GRO Men's Pump: https://link.urlfun.com/ujsvrpouu
✨ Stimulate Red Light Pump Accessory: https://link.urlfun.com/gdnfgwroh
✨ AndroDEEP Traction Extender: https://link.urlfun.com/zncbmgfrj
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✨ LadyPump: https://link.urlfun.com/drpeyytjy
Timestamps:
0:00 The loop of doom, dismissive avoidance, and episode introduction
1:13 Dealing with recurring fights and attachment theory
2:50 Differentiating current issues from past unresolved conflicts
4:33 Importance of clear communication and expectations
6:12 The five finger apology method
9:03 Timing, tongue, and tone in conflict resolution
10:52 Sponsor: Dr. Joel Kaplan's pumps for sexual wellness
12:12 Introduction to attachment styles
17:32 Misuse of attachment styles in relationships
19:34 Healing relationship problems within a relationship
20:38 Attachment styles in intimacy and conflict
23:58 Dismissive avoidant attachment in sexual relationships
24:23 Disengagement in intimate relationships
24:55 Sponsor: Kameran Alareqi's free resources and where to find them
25:27 Dr. Diane Mueller's closing remarks and call to action
25:50 Where to find Dr. Diane Mueller online
(0:00) The loop of doom, dismissive avoidance, and episode introduction
(1:13) Dealing with recurring fights and attachment theory
(2:50) Differentiating current issues from past unresolved conflicts
(4:33) Importance of clear communication and expectations
(6:12) The five finger apology method
(9:03) Timing, tongue, and tone in conflict resolution
(10:52) Sponsor: Dr. Joel Kaplan's pumps for sexual wellness
(12:12) Introduction to attachment styles
(17:32) Misuse of attachment styles in relationships
(19:34) Healing relationship problems within a relationship
(20:38) Attachment styles in intimacy and conflict
(23:58) Dismissive avoidant attachment in sexual relationships
(24:23) Disengagement in intimate relationships
(24:55) Sponsor: Kameran Alareqi's free resources and where to find them
(25:27) Dr. Diane Mueller's closing remarks and call to action
(25:50) Where to find Dr. Diane Mueller online
27 min
September 17 How a Time Limit on the Fight Saves Your Marriage with Kameran Alareqi (Part 1)
By now it feels safer to stay quiet than risk another talk that ends with one of you walking off and the other chasing them down the hall. In this episode you'll see that what looks like a communication problem is usually a safety problem — and that giving a tense conversation a clear time limit is often the one small move that keeps one of you from bolting and the other from pushing until you both shut down. When the words have stopped coming easily, start there: grab Dr. Diane's free Yes, No, Maybe Checklist at mylibidodoc.com/freebies — a five-minute way back into the conversation.
About the Guest:
*Kameran Alareqi
Expertise: Kameran is a Gottman certified marriage coach, the host of The Married and Connected Podcast, and the founder of the Recognizing Potential Coaching Program. In this program, Kameran meets monogamous couples where they’re at to help them strengthen their marriage by coaching them to deepen connection, improve communication, and apply tools needed to create the healthy marriage they envision and desire.
https://substack.com/@marriedandconnected
IG: www.instagram.com/married.and.connected
YouTube: www.youtube.com/@marriedandconnected
Join my Skool Community: https://www.skool.com/married-connected-4920/about
Buy my book- Connected To Me: The Blueprint: https://a.co/d/0a3d2hPx
My podcast: Married and Connected found anywhere you get your favorite podcasts
Our Advocacy:
Our advocacy is centered around providing a supportive space for women to reclaim sexual vitality and joy for good. Help us achieve this by subscribing to our podcast and sharing us with your friends and family.
💖 Join our Next Libido Masterclass: https://mylibidodoc.com/masterclass
💖 Access Lab Testing: https://platinumself.circle.so/c/community
💥 Whenever we talk about products, we try to get you discount codes. Sometimes companies change the codes on us. To get the most up to date working coupon codes on products we recommend always go here: https://MyLibidoDoc.com/Products
Here is information about the penis pump and lady pump.
Coupon code: LibidoDoc10 for a 10% discount
Penis: https://doctorjoelkaplan.com/pages/autogro?a_aid=nzgdikssrskcdf&a_bid=948fa64f
Studies on this product show effectiveness improving erectile dysfunction and increasing size without drugs or medication. Helping men be the hero in their bedroom.
Lady: https://theladypump.com/pages/lady-pump?a_aid=nzgdikssrskcdf&a_bid=2eecfcb8
Increases blood flow to the clitoris and vulva — enhancing sensitivity, arousal, and natural lubrication. A drug-free way to amplify sensation and make every touch feel more intense.
To get part 2 of this conversation including how to have the right kind of sex, how to have more pleasure and how to have conversations about sex that make women want more of it register for our libido club! https://MyLibidoDoc.com/Club
More Libido Lounge
✨ Website: https://mylibidodoc.com/
✨ YouTube: https://youtube.com/@mylibidodoc
✨ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mylibidodoc/
✨ Join the Libido Club: https://mylibidodoc.com/Club/
✨ Health Store: https://store.mylibidodoc.com/
✨ Take Our Libido Quiz! https://t.ly/quoNU
✨ Auto GRO Men's Pump: https://link.urlfun.com/ujsvrpouu
✨ Stimulate Red Light Pump Accessory: https://link.urlfun.com/gdnfgwroh
✨ AndroDEEP Traction Extender: https://link.urlfun.com/zncbmgfrj
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✨ LadyPump: https://link.urlfun.com/drpeyytjy
Timestamps:
0:00 How little time couples spend alone and the real root of marital issues
0:48 Introduction and guest introduction
1:26 Key topics: divorce-proofing, nervous system in fights, and more
1:41 What it means to divorce-proof your marriage
2:18 "Playing baseball" as a metaphor for marriage communication
4:00 Turning towards emotional bids from your partner
5:41 Emotional safety as the foundation of strong relationships
10:03 Attraction and emotional regulation in marriage
13:19 Chemistry versus the stages of long-term relationships
15:29 Sponsor: Penis and labia pumps
19:14 Why seeking help for marriage issues matters
20:22 Preview of next week’s episode on recurring fights
20:59 Tools for managing emotional dysregulation
22:42 Resources for couples by Kameran Alareqi
23:32 Free resources and community information
23:51 Upcoming topics and episode preview
24:15 Closing remarks and Dr. Diane Mueller’s contact information
(0:00) How little time couples spend alone and the real root of marital issues
(0:48) Introduction and guest introduction
(1:26) Key topics: divorce-proofing, nervous system in fights, and more
(1:41) What it means to divorce-proof your marriage
(2:18) "Playing baseball" as a metaphor for marriage communication
(4:00) Turning towards emotional bids from your partner
(5:41) Emotional safety as the foundation of strong relationships
(10:03) Attraction and emotional regulation in marriage
(13:19) Chemistry versus the stages of long-term relationships
(15:29) Sponsor: Penis and labia pumps
(19:14) Why seeking help for marriage issues matters
(20:22) Preview of next week’s episode on recurring fights
(20:59) Tools for managing emotional dysregulation
(22:42) Resources for couples by Kameran Alareqi
(23:32) Free resources and community information
(23:51) Upcoming topics and episode preview
(24:15) Closing remarks and Dr. Diane Mueller’s contact information
25 min
September 10 The 2 Rules That Beat the Gottman Method in Relationships with Zach Brittle (Part 2)
You've done the date nights and the "we just need to communicate more" talks, and somehow you're still two polite roommates who happen to share a bed. In Part 2 with therapist Zach Brittle, you'll understand why more communication and more compromise were never the fix — and how two disarmingly simple rules, starting with agreeing on what sex is actually for and what counts, take the pressure out of every initiation so a "no" stops landing like a verdict. Turn those rules into one honest, five-minute conversation tonight with the free Yes, No, Maybe Checklist at mylibidodoc.com/freebies.
About the Guest:
*Zach Brittle
Expertise: Zach Brittle has been teaching, coaching, mentoring, and counseling couples for nearly 20 years. He's a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) in Washington, a Certified Gottman Therapist (CGT), and a Relational Life Therapist, the only therapist in the world certified in both. He's the host of Marriage Therapy Radio and the author of the bestselling The Relationship Alphabet and Marriage Therapy Journal. His work has been featured in Vanity Fair, Men's Health, Real Simple, The New York Times, and The Washington Post. Zach has been happily married to his wife Rebecca for 25 of 28 years. They live in Seattle with their two adult daughters. Learn more at zachbrittle.com.
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagetherapyradio/?hl=en
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/marriagetherapyradio/
Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/marriage-therapy-radio/id1295458667
Website: https://zachbrittle.com/
Substack: https://zachbrittle.substack.com/
Our Advocacy:
Our advocacy is centered around providing a supportive space for women to reclaim sexual vitality and joy for good. Help us achieve this by subscribing to our podcast and sharing us with your friends and family.
💖 Join our Next Libido Masterclass: https://mylibidodoc.com/masterclass
💖 Access Lab Testing: https://platinumself.circle.so/c/community
💥 Whenever we talk about products, we try to get you discount codes. Sometimes companies change the codes on us. To get the most up to date working coupon codes on products we recommend always go here: https://MyLibidoDoc.com/Products
Here is information about the penis pump and lady pump.
Coupon code: LibidoDoc10 for a 10% discount
Penis: https://doctorjoelkaplan.com/pages/autogro?a_aid=nzgdikssrskcdf&a_bid=948fa64f
Studies on this product show effectiveness improving erectile dysfunction and increasing size without drugs or medication. Helping men be the hero in their bedroom.
Lady: https://theladypump.com/pages/lady-pump?a_aid=nzgdikssrskcdf&a_bid=2eecfcb8
Increases blood flow to the clitoris and vulva — enhancing sensitivity, arousal, and natural lubrication. A drug-free way to amplify sensation and make every touch fe
To get part 2 of this conversation including how to have the right kind of sex, how to have more pleasure and how to have conversations about sex that make women want more of it register for our libido club! https://MyLibidoDoc.com/Club
More Libido Lounge
✨ Website: https://mylibidodoc.com/
✨ YouTube: https://youtube.com/@mylibidodoc
✨ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mylibidodoc/
✨ Join the Libido Club: https://mylibidodoc.com/Club/
✨ Health Store: https://store.mylibidodoc.com/
✨ Take Our Libido Quiz! https://t.ly/quoNU
✨ Auto GRO Men's Pump: https://link.urlfun.com/ujsvrpouu
✨ Stimulate Red Light Pump Accessory: https://link.urlfun.com/gdnfgwroh
✨ AndroDEEP Traction Extender: https://link.urlfun.com/zncbmgfrj
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✨ LadyPump: https://link.urlfun.com/drpeyytjy
Timestamps:
0:00 Contempt, questions about intimacy, and episode recap
1:30 Zach Brittle's background and desire discrepancy
2:36 Discussion on desire discrepancy
3:05 Different types of intimacy
4:06 Physical intimacy and non-sexual contact
5:17 Training, cultural aspects, and media portrayal of intimacy
8:19 Responsibility for intimacy training
9:12 Questions to improve sexual intimacy
10:29 Defining what counts as sex
11:19 Role of shame in intimacy and its societal impact
15:17 Personal anecdotes on shame
16:06 Introduction to contempt
17:08 Sponsor: Dr. Joel Kaplan's pumps
17:23 Contempt as a predictor of divorce
18:09 Criticism, defensiveness, and stonewalling
19:05 Elevating your partner to combat contempt
20:46 Final thoughts on contempt and intimacy
23:03 Voting, guest performance, and resources
24:19 Closing remarks and outro
(0:00) Contempt, questions about intimacy, and episode recap
(1:30) Zach Brittle's background and desire discrepancy
(2:36) Discussion on desire discrepancy
(3:05) Different types of intimacy
(4:06) Physical intimacy and non-sexual contact
(5:17) Training, cultural aspects, and media portrayal of intimacy
(8:19) Responsibility for intimacy training
(9:12) Questions to improve sexual intimacy
(10:29) Defining what counts as sex
(11:19) Role of shame in intimacy and its societal impact
(15:17) Personal anecdotes on shame
(16:06) Introduction to contempt
(17:08) Sponsor: Dr. Joel Kaplan's pumps
(17:23) Contempt as a predictor of divorce
(18:09) Criticism, defensiveness, and stonewalling
(19:05) Elevating your partner to combat contempt
(20:46) Final thoughts on contempt and intimacy
(23:03) Voting, guest performance, and resources
(24:19) Closing remarks and outro
25 min
September 03 The 2 Rules That Beat the Gottman Method in Relationships with Zach Brittle (Part 1)
One of you wants more, and has no idea how to bring it up without it landing as pressure or getting quietly turned down, so lately nobody reaches at all. By the end of this episode you'll understand why almost every touch has started to read as a demand for sex, and how two questions...what is it for, and what actually counts, take the pressure off far faster than trying harder does. Start tonight with Dr. Diane's free Yes, No, Maybe Checklist: a five-minute, no-pressure way to say what you want when the words won't come: mylibidodoc.com/yesnomaybe.
About the Guest:
*Zach Brittle
Expertise: Zach Brittle has been teaching, coaching, mentoring, and counseling couples for nearly 20 years. He's a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) in Washington, a Certified Gottman Therapist (CGT), and a Relational Life Therapist, the only therapist in the world certified in both. He's the host of Marriage Therapy Radio and the author of the bestselling The Relationship Alphabet and Marriage Therapy Journal. His work has been featured in Vanity Fair, Men's Health, Real Simple, The New York Times, and The Washington Post. Zach has been happily married to his wife Rebecca for 25 of 28 years. They live in Seattle with their two adult daughters. Learn more at zachbrittle.com.
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagetherapyradio/?hl=en
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/marriagetherapyradio/
Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/marriage-therapy-radio/id1295458667
Website: https://zachbrittle.com/
Substack: https://zachbrittle.substack.com/
Our Advocacy:
Our advocacy is centered around providing a supportive space for women to reclaim sexual vitality and joy for good. Help us achieve this by subscribing to our podcast and sharing us with your friends and family.
💖 Join our Next Libido Masterclass: https://mylibidodoc.com/masterclass
💖 Access Lab Testing: https://platinumself.circle.so/c/community
💥 Whenever we talk about products, we try to get you discount codes. Sometimes companies change the codes on us. To get the most up to date working coupon codes on products we recommend always go here: https://MyLibidoDoc.com/Products
Here is information about the penis pump and lady pump.
Coupon code: LibidoDoc10 for a 10% discount
Penis: https://doctorjoelkaplan.com/pages/autogro?a_aid=nzgdikssrskcdf&a_bid=948fa64f
Studies on this product show effectiveness improving erectile dysfunction and increasing size without drugs or medication. Helping men be the hero in their bedroom.
Lady: https://theladypump.com/pages/lady-pump?a_aid=nzgdikssrskcdf&a_bid=2eecfcb8
Increases blood flow to the clitoris and vulva — enhancing sensitivity, arousal, and natural lubrication. A drug-free way to amplify sensation and make every touch feel more intense.
To get part 2 of this conversation including how to have the right kind of sex, how to have more pleasure and how to have conversations about sex that make women want more of it register for our libido club! https://MyLibidoDoc.com/Club
More Libido Lounge
✨ Website: https://mylibidodoc.com/
✨ YouTube: https://youtube.com/@mylibidodoc
✨ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mylibidodoc/
✨ Join the Libido Club: https://mylibidodoc.com/Club/
✨ Health Store: https://store.mylibidodoc.com/
✨ Take Our Libido Quiz! https://t.ly/quoNU
✨ Auto GRO Men's Pump: https://link.urlfun.com/ujsvrpouu
✨ Stimulate Red Light Pump Accessory: https://link.urlfun.com/gdnfgwroh
✨ AndroDEEP Traction Extender: https://link.urlfun.com/zncbmgfrj
✨ Supplements: https://link.urlfun.com/tprmmtbai
✨ LadyPump: https://link.urlfun.com/drpeyytjy
Timestamps:
0:00 Introduction and recap with Zach Brittle
1:50 Desire discrepancy and types of intimacy
4:06 Increasing non-sexual physical intimacy
5:14 Training for intimacy and the impact of trauma
7:02 Cultural influences and media portrayal of sex
8:43 Responsibility for learning intimacy
9:18 Purpose, meaning, and creativity in sex
10:27 Broadening the definition of sex and role of shame
12:42 Shame from cultural and personal experiences
15:06 Contempt and its impact on relationships
16:52 Addressing contempt, criticism, and defensiveness
20:44 Secrets to maintaining strong relationships
21:54 Flexibility in relationship principles and partner appreciation
22:28 Zach Brittle's podcast, Substack, and closing remarks
(0:00) Introduction and recap with Zach Brittle
(1:50) Desire discrepancy and types of intimacy
(4:06) Increasing non-sexual physical intimacy
(5:14) Training for intimacy and the impact of trauma
(7:02) Cultural influences and media portrayal of sex
(8:43) Responsibility for learning intimacy
(9:18) Purpose, meaning, and creativity in sex
(10:27) Broadening the definition of sex and role of shame
(12:42) Shame from cultural and personal experiences
(15:06) Contempt and its impact on relationships
(16:52) Addressing contempt, criticism, and defensiveness
(20:44) Secrets to maintaining strong relationships
(21:54) Flexibility in relationship principles and partner appreciation
(22:28) Zach Brittle's podcast, Substack, and closing remarks
24 min
August 27 Is Your Marriage Stuck in the Same Fight? with Dr. Jessica Higgins Part 2
You've had this fight so many times you could script both sides, and you're starting to wonder if the two of you are just fundamentally incompatible. In Part 2, you'll learn why that recurring argument almost never means what it appears to — and how naming the fear underneath your own frustration can change the conversation before you've said a word to your partner. When you're ready to translate all of that into something you can actually do together, grab Dr. Diane's free Yes, No, Maybe Checklist at mylibidodoc.com/yesnomaybe — a low-pressure way to start saying out loud what's been going unspoken.
About the Guest:
*Dr. Jessica Higgins
Expertise: Dr. Jessica Higgins holds two graduate degrees in psychology, two coaching certifications, and over 20 years of experience helping clients achieve successful results. As the host of the Empowered Relationship Podcast, she helps people navigate the terrain of long-lasting intimacy more skillfully and mindfully. Through her coaching and online course, clients transform pain into love and connection.
https://www.facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship https://www.linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins/ https://www.instagram.com/drjessicahiggins/ https://in.pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation/ https://twitter.com/DrJessHiggins Website: https://drjessicahiggins.com/
Download Dr. Jessica's free guide - SHIFTING CRITICISM FOR CONNECTED COMMUNICATION: https://drjessicahiggins.com/shifting-criticism-for-connected-communication
Our Advocacy:
Our advocacy is centered around providing a supportive space for women to reclaim sexual vitality and joy for good. Help us achieve this by subscribing to our podcast and sharing us with your friends and family.
💖 Join our Next Libido Masterclass: https://mylibidodoc.com/masterclass
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Timestamps:
0:00 Understanding vulnerability and conflicts in relationships
2:22 Communication breakdowns and deeper issues
4:16 The importance of listening beyond words
7:17 Strategies for better communication and understanding
9:26 Breaking the rejection cycle in the bedroom
10:10 Sponsor: Hot Monogamy Society
11:33 Expanding the definition of intimacy and pleasure
14:40 Sponsor: Doctor Joel Kaplan’s Lady Pump
16:14 Unspoken expectations about sex in long-term relationships
18:38 Practical tip to improve your relationship tonight
19:36 Free guide and shifting out of critical tendencies
20:18 Closing remarks and listener engagement
(0:00) Understanding vulnerability and conflicts in relationships
(2:22) Communication breakdowns and deeper issues
(4:16) The importance of listening beyond words
(7:17) Strategies for better communication and understanding
(9:26) Breaking the rejection cycle in the bedroom
(10:10) Sponsor: Hot Monogamy Society
(11:33) Expanding the definition of intimacy and pleasure
(14:40) Sponsor: Doctor Joel Kaplan’s Lady Pump
(16:14) Unspoken expectations about sex in long-term relationships
(18:38) Practical tip to improve your relationship tonight
(19:36) Free guide and shifting out of critical tendencies
(20:18) Closing remarks and listener engagement
22 min
August 24 Is Your Marriage Stuck in the Same Fight? with Dr. Jessica Higgins Part 1
t's the same argument on a loop — different night, same wall, same silence afterward — and you keep thinking if you could just explain it better this time, it would finally land. By the end of this episode you'll see the fight was never really about the dishes or the schedule; you're both running protective moves that quietly hurt the other, and once you name what's underneath, the same conversation that used to blow up can actually move mountains. Bring Dr. Diane's free Yes, No, Maybe Checklist to your next talk — a five-minute, low-stakes way to say what you mean before it turns into a fight: mylibidodoc.com/yesnomaybe.
About the Guest:
*Dr. Jessica Higgins
Expertise: Dr. Jessica Higgins holds two graduate degrees in psychology, two coaching certifications, and over 20 years of experience helping clients achieve successful results. As the host of the Empowered Relationship Podcast, she helps people navigate the terrain of long-lasting intimacy more skillfully and mindfully. Through her coaching and online course, clients transform pain into love and connection.
https://www.facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship https://www.linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins/ https://www.instagram.com/drjessicahiggins/ https://in.pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation/ https://twitter.com/DrJessHiggins Website: https://drjessicahiggins.com/
Download Dr. Jessica's free guide - SHIFTING CRITICISM FOR CONNECTED COMMUNICATION: https://drjessicahiggins.com/shifting-criticism-for-connected-communication
Our Advocacy:
Our advocacy is centered around providing a supportive space for women to reclaim sexual vitality and joy for good. Help us achieve this by subscribing to our podcast and sharing us with your friends and family.
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💥 Whenever we talk about products, we try to get you discount codes. Sometimes companies change the codes on us. To get the most up to date working coupon codes on products we recommend always go here: https://MyLibidoDoc.com/Products
Here is information about the penis pump and lady pump.
Coupon code: LibidoDoc10 for a 10% discount
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Studies on this product show effectiveness improving erectile dysfunction and increasing size without drugs or medication. Helping men be the hero in their bedroom.
Lady: https://theladypump.com/pages/lady-pump?a_aid=nzgdikssrskcdf&a_bid=2eecfcb8
Increases blood flow to the clitoris and vulva — enhancing sensitivity, arousal, and natural lubrication. A drug-free way to amplify sensation and make every touch feel more intense.
To get part 2 of this conversation including how to have the right kind of sex, how to have more pleasure and how to have conversations about sex that make women want more of it register for our libido club! https://MyLibidoDoc.com/Club
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Timestamps:
0:00 Introduction, communication breakdown, and deeper needs in conflict
4:23 Strategies for effective listening
7:16 Steps for addressing conflict in relationships
9:40 Breaking the rejection cycle in the bedroom
11:41 Sponsor: Hot Monogamy Society
12:13 Expanding the definition of intimacy
15:08 Sponsor: Dr. Joel Kaplan's Lady Pump
16:43 Expectations about sex in long-term relationships
19:22 One simple tip to improve your relationship tonight
20:07 Free gift from Dr. Jessica Higgins
21:02 Announcement and closing remarks
(0:00) Introduction, communication breakdown, and deeper needs in conflict
(4:23) Strategies for effective listening
(7:16) Steps for addressing conflict in relationships
(9:40) Breaking the rejection cycle in the bedroom
(11:41) Sponsor: Hot Monogamy Society
(12:13) Expanding the definition of intimacy
(15:08) Sponsor: Dr. Joel Kaplan's Lady Pump
(16:43) Expectations about sex in long-term relationships
(19:22) One simple tip to improve your relationship tonight
(20:07) Free gift from Dr. Jessica Higgins
(21:02) Announcement and closing remarks
23 min
August 13 Do this for 3% of the day to save your marriage with Monica Tanner Part 2
You lie next to someone you love and feel more like co-managers of a household than a couple — and you couldn't name the day it started.
In this second part, Dr. Diane Mueller reframes the resentment you've been quietly swallowing as a warning light on the dashboard, not a death sentence — and shows how handing each other just 3% of your week patches the small leaks before the boat takes on real water.
Before your next date night, grab her free Yes, No, Maybe Checklist (mylibidodoc.com/yesnomaybe) and use it to finally say the small things out loud — the ones that pile up when they stay unspoken.
About the Guest:
*Monica Tanner
Expertise: Monica Tanner, Relational Life Therapy Certified, Relationship Coach and host of the Secrets of Happily Ever After podcast, transforms marriages with simple communication, connection, conflict resolution and commitment strategies. Her mission is to lower the divorce rate and improve marital satisfaction. Through her engaging podcast, new Amazon Best-Selling book, Bad Marriage Advice, vibrant social media community, and couple’s coaching practice, Monica's expert guidance has impacted thousands of couples, by helping them ditch resentment and roommate syndrome and get back to living their happily ever after love story.
Website: https://monicatanner.com
Instagram: https://instagram.com/monitalksmarriage
50 Connecting Questions to Ask Your Spouse - https://monicatanner.com/connect
Our Advocacy:
Our advocacy is centered around providing a supportive space for women to reclaim sexual vitality and joy for good. Help us achieve this by subscribing to our podcast and sharing us with your friends and family.
💖 Join our Next Libido Masterclass: https://mylibidodoc.com/masterclass
💖 Access Lab Testing: https://platinumself.circle.so/c/community
💥 Whenever we talk about products, we try to get you discount codes. Sometimes companies change the codes on us. To get the most up to date working coupon codes on products we recommend always go here: https://MyLibidoDoc.com/Products
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To get part 2 of this conversation including how to have the right kind of sex, how to have more pleasure and how to have conversations about sex that make women want more of it register for our libido club! https://MyLibidoDoc.com/Club
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Timestamps:
0:00 Roommate syndrome and myths in long-term relationships
3:20 How common is roommate syndrome?
4:42 The 3% rule for maintaining connection
7:22 Using connecting questions to deepen intimacy
10:03 The power of a yearly getaway
13:00 Sponsor: Hot Monogamy Society
14:28 Recycling connecting questions over time
15:50 Addressing and resolving resentment
20:11 Skills for tackling small issues early
22:27 How to work with Monica and her book
23:36 Free gift from Monica and closing remarks
(0:00) Roommate syndrome and myths in long-term relationships
(3:20) How common is roommate syndrome?
(4:42) The 3% rule for maintaining connection
(7:22) Using connecting questions to deepen intimacy
(10:03) The power of a yearly getaway
(13:00) Sponsor: Hot Monogamy Society
(14:28) Recycling connecting questions over time
(15:50) Addressing and resolving resentment
(20:11) Skills for tackling small issues early
(22:27) How to work with Monica and her book
(23:36) Free gift from Monica and closing remarks
25 min
August 06 Do this for 3% of the day to save your marriage with Monica Tanner Part 1
You're not fighting — but you're not really reaching for each other either, and somewhere between the mortgage and the bedtimes the two of you started living like polite roommates who happen to share a bed.
By the end of this episode you'll see the thing no one told you: "meeting in the middle" hasn't kept the peace — it's quietly made you both lose, and the way back isn't more compromise, it's getting curious about your partner again instead of managing them.
If that curiosity is the part that's gone cold, start small and start solo — take the free Sex Code Language quiz to learn how you're wired and how your partner is, at mylibidodoc.com/freebies.
About the Guest:
*Monica Tanner
Expertise: Monica Tanner, Relational Life Therapy Certified, Relationship Coach and host of the Secrets of Happily Ever After podcast, transforms marriages with simple communication, connection, conflict resolution and commitment strategies. Her mission is to lower the divorce rate and improve marital satisfaction. Through her engaging podcast, new Amazon Best-Selling book, Bad Marriage Advice, vibrant social media community, and couple’s coaching practice, Monica's expert guidance has impacted thousands of couples, by helping them ditch resentment and roommate syndrome and get back to living their happily ever after love story.
Website: https://monicatanner.com
Instagram: https://instagram.com/monitalksmarriage
50 Connecting Questions to Ask Your Spouse - https://monicatanner.com/connect
Our Advocacy:
Our advocacy is centered around providing a supportive space for women to reclaim sexual vitality and joy for good. Help us achieve this by subscribing to our podcast and sharing us with your friends and family.
💖 Join our Next Libido Masterclass: https://mylibidodoc.com/masterclass
💖 Access Lab Testing: https://platinumself.circle.so/c/community
💥 Whenever we talk about products, we try to get you discount codes. Sometimes companies change the codes on us. To get the most up to date working coupon codes on products we recommend always go here: https://MyLibidoDoc.com/Products
Get stronger better erections and grow in both length in size by getting the top of the line penis pump here: https://bit.ly/3Nn4J0h. Make sure to use the code to get a 10% discount LibidoDoc10
To get part 2 of this conversation including how to have the right kind of sex, how to have more pleasure and how to have conversations about sex that make women want more of it register for our libido club! https://MyLibidoDoc.com/Club
More Libido Lounge
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✨ YouTube: https://youtube.com/@mylibidodoc
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Timestamps:
0:00 Monica Tanner's childhood beliefs, parental divorce, and introduction to today's topic
2:07 Monica's realization about bad marriage advice and her study of marriage
4:38 Monica's motivation to write her book and personal marriage experience
6:12 Sharing relationship lessons with children and the problem with "happy wife, happy life" advice
11:43 Sponsor: Hot Monogamy Society
13:16 Impact of constant serving on masculinity and intimacy
15:25 The issue with compromising in marriage
17:24 Collaboration as a better alternative to compromise
21:02 Importance of being on the same team in a relationship
22:33 Teaser for part two: roommate syndrome and resentment
23:09 Monica's freebie and ways to work with her
24:36 Conclusion and call to action
(0:00) Monica Tanner's childhood beliefs, parental divorce, and introduction to today's topic
(2:07) Monica's realization about bad marriage advice and her study of marriage
(4:38) Monica's motivation to write her book and personal marriage experience
(6:12) Sharing relationship lessons with children and the problem with "happy wife, happy life" advice
(11:43) Sponsor: Hot Monogamy Society
(13:16) Impact of constant serving on masculinity and intimacy
(15:25) The issue with compromising in marriage
(17:24) Collaboration as a better alternative to compromise
(21:02) Importance of being on the same team in a relationship
(22:33) Teaser for part two: roommate syndrome and resentment
(23:09) Monica's freebie and ways to work with her
(24:36) Conclusion and call to action
25 min
July 30 Why You Can't Tell Your Husband What You Want Part 2 with James Bullard
You're lying awake next to them wondering when reaching over became the hardest thing in the room — and whether asking out loud would fix it or finally break it.
In this episode, Dr. Diane Mueller unpacks why a partner's "no" isn't a verdict, why most of the resentment between you is built from assumptions neither of you said out loud, and how non-sexual touch can rebuild the bridge before either of you has to be brave about anything bigger.
If you want a way to start the conversation without it turning into a fight, grab Dr. Diane's free YES, NO, MAYBE Checklist at mylibidodoc.com/yesnomaybe — it gives you the language to say what you actually want, hear what they want, and find where you two still meet.
About the Guest:
*James Bullard
Expertise: James Bullard is a storyteller, public speaker, and host of the podcast Radical Joy — part therapy session, part stand-up set, part permission slip to want more out of life. Through his speaking engagements and one-on-one coaching, he helps people who are secretly terrified of success as much as failure finally chase the big, scary, honest goal instead of settling for "fine.”
YouTube freebie, Sustainable Audacity: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F6ciBFVNjR8
Join The Bullard Brand community (includes Sustainable Audacity master class and BONUS PDF download): https://tinyurl.com/Sustainable-Audacity
Schedule a 30-minute connection session: https://calendly.com/thebullardbrand/30min
Opt-in/lead magnet: https://james-bullard.mykajabi.com/apply-to-work-with-me
Our Advocacy:
Our advocacy is centered around providing a supportive space for women to reclaim sexual vitality and joy for good. Help us achieve this by subscribing to our podcast and sharing us with your friends and family.
💖 Join our Next Libido Masterclass: https://mylibidodoc.com/masterclass
💖 Access Lab Testing: https://platinumself.circle.so/c/community
💥 Whenever we talk about products, we try to get you discount codes. Sometimes companies change the codes on us. To get the most up to date working coupon codes on products we recommend always go here: https://MyLibidoDoc.com/Products
Get stronger better erections and grow in both length in size by getting the top of the line penis pump here: https://bit.ly/3Nn4J0h. Make sure to use the code to get a 10% discount LibidoDoc10
To get part 2 of this conversation including how to have the right kind of sex, how to have more pleasure and how to have conversations about sex that make women want more of it register for our libido club! https://MyLibidoDoc.com/Club
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✨ YouTube: https://youtube.com/@mylibidodoc
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✨ Health Store: https://store.mylibidodoc.com/
✨ Take Our Libido Quiz! https://t.ly/quoNU
Timestamps:
0:00 Introduction, recap, and the problem of assumptions and resentment
1:54 Asking your partner for permission to share your wants
2:38 Respecting boundaries and finding support in your tribe
5:41 Identifying and clarifying wants and needs in a relationship
7:00 Preparing for and initiating discussions about relationship needs
8:51 Addressing small grievances before they escalate
10:52 Sponsor: Hot Monogamy Society
12:11 Importance of communication to avoid resentment
18:42 Apologizing and acknowledging impact in relationships
20:09 Addressing desire mismatches and intimacy issues
23:21 Promises versus guarantees in relationships
24:20 Importance of clear and open communication
24:39 Announcing James E. Bullard's free giveaway
26:10 Upcoming episodes preview
26:38 Closing remarks and key takeaways
26:48 Where to find Dr. Diane Mueller online
(0:00) Introduction, recap, and the problem of assumptions and resentment
(1:54) Asking your partner for permission to share your wants
(2:38) Respecting boundaries and finding support in your tribe
(5:41) Identifying and clarifying wants and needs in a relationship
(7:00) Preparing for and initiating discussions about relationship needs
(8:51) Addressing small grievances before they escalate
(10:52) Sponsor: Hot Monogamy Society
(12:11) Importance of communication to avoid resentment
(18:42) Apologizing and acknowledging impact in relationships
(20:09) Addressing desire mismatches and intimacy issues
(23:21) Promises versus guarantees in relationships
(24:20) Importance of clear and open communication
(24:39) Announcing James E. Bullard's free giveaway
(26:10) Upcoming episodes preview
(26:38) Closing remarks and key takeaways
(26:48) Where to find Dr. Diane Mueller online
28 min

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