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Libido Lounge episodes

October 29 Why Did Our Sex Life Stop? How Couples Get It Back with Dr. Holly Richmond
You used to want each other, and now you pass in the hallway like roommates, both too nervous to be the one who brings it up. Sex therapist Dr. Holly Richmond explains why the spark fades for nearly every couple after the first year or so, and the four everyday habits that bring it back, including a gentle way to say “this isn’t working for me” without starting a fight. Ready to break the silence tonight? Grab the free Yes, No, Maybe Checklist at mylibidodoc.com/yesnomaybe and use it as your first low-pressure conversation starter.
About the Guest:
*Dr. Holly Richmond
Expertise: Dr. Holly Richmond is a somatic psychotherapist, certified sex therapist and sex therapy supervisor, and Associate Director of Modern Sex Therapy Institutes. An internationally recognized therapist, high-profile couples coach, speaker, retreat facilitator, and author of Reclaiming Pleasure: A Sex-Positive Guide for Moving Past Sexual Trauma and Living a Passionate Life, she takes a sex-positive approach to helping clients build healthy relationships and improve their sex lives in ways that are authentic, embodied and long-lasting. With a significant media following, her work has been featured in The New York Times, CNN, Oprah, Forbes, Netflix, NBC, and Cosmopolitan, among others.

www.drhollyrichmond.com
IG @drhollyrichmond
LinkedIn @ drhollyrichmond
Our Advocacy:
Our advocacy is centered around providing a supportive space for women to reclaim sexual vitality and joy for good. Help us achieve this by subscribing to our podcast and sharing us with your friends and family.
💖 Join our Next Libido Masterclass: https://mylibidodoc.com/masterclass
💖 Access Lab Testing: https://platinumself.circle.so/c/community
💥 Whenever we talk about products, we try to get you discount codes. Sometimes companies change the codes on us. To get the most up to date working coupon codes on products we recommend always go here: https://MyLibidoDoc.com/Products
Here is information about the penis pump and lady pump.
Coupon code: LibidoDoc10 for a 10% discount
Penis: https://doctorjoelkaplan.com/pages/autogro?a_aid=nzgdikssrskcdf&a_bid=948fa64f
Studies on this product show effectiveness improving erectile dysfunction and increasing size without drugs or medication. Helping men be the hero in their bedroom.
Lady: https://theladypump.com/pages/lady-pump?a_aid=nzgdikssrskcdf&a_bid=2eecfcb8
Increases blood flow to the clitoris and vulva — enhancing sensitivity, arousal, and natural lubrication. A drug-free way to amplify sensation and make every touch feel more intense.
To get part 2 of this conversation including how to have the right kind of sex, how to have more pleasure and how to have conversations about sex that make women want more of it register for our libido club! https://MyLibidoDoc.com/Club
More Libido Lounge
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✨ YouTube: https://youtube.com/@mylibidodoc
✨ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mylibidodoc/
✨ Join the Libido Club: https://mylibidodoc.com/Club/
✨ Health Store: https://store.mylibidodoc.com/
✨ Take Our Libido Quiz! https://t.ly/quoNU
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(0:00) Sex, Desire, and the Shit Sandwich
(4:45) Aftercare, Requests, and Better Communication
(8:03) Orgasm, Age, and Novelty
20 min
October 22 Is Something From My Childhood Ruining Our Sex Life? with Brooke Bralove
You love your spouse and nothing terrible ever happened to you, yet the moment things turn physical, something in you tightens up and pulls away, and you can’t explain why. Sex therapist Brooke Bralove explains how small childhood hurts, like being belittled or rejected, stay stored in your body as shame, why trying to look perfect quietly shuts sex down, and how couples can rebuild closeness even after betrayal. If you’re not sure what’s really behind your own shutdown, take Dr. Diane’s free quiz, Why Is My Desire Low?, at mylibidodoc.com/libido-quiz.
This is the second half of my conversation with Brooke Bralove. Catch Part 1, “Privacy or Secrecy? What I’m Not Telling My Spouse,” https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_GjV5VKA-dY
About the Guest:
*Brooke Bralove, LCSW-C
Expertise: Brooke Bralove, LCSW-C, is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, psychotherapist, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, and expert in trauma, sexual health, and emotional healing. With over 20 years in private practice, she helps individuals and couples overcome anxiety, trauma, and relationship challenges so they can feel more connected, confident, and fully themselves.?Brooke integrates neuroscience-based approaches, including Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART), to create rapid and lasting change. She is a sought-after speaker known for her warmth, insight, and ability to translate complex emotional and neurological processes into practical, transformative tools.
https://www.brookebralove.com?https://www.facebook.com/brookebralovepsychotherapy/?https://www.instagram.com/brookebralovepsychotherapy ?https://www.tiktok.com/@bbralovepsychotherapy ?https://www.linkedin.com/in/brookebralovepsychotherapy/?https://www.youtube.com/@brookebralovepsychotherapy
Our Advocacy:
Our advocacy is centered around providing a supportive space for women to reclaim sexual vitality and joy for good. Help us achieve this by subscribing to our podcast and sharing us with your friends and family.
💖 Join our Next Libido Masterclass: https://mylibidodoc.com/masterclass
💖 Access Lab Testing: https://platinumself.circle.so/c/community
💥 Whenever we talk about products, we try to get you discount codes. Sometimes companies change the codes on us. To get the most up to date working coupon codes on products we recommend always go here: https://MyLibidoDoc.com/Products
Here is information about the penis pump and lady pump.
Coupon code: LibidoDoc10 for a 10% discount
Penis: https://doctorjoelkaplan.com/pages/autogro?a_aid=nzgdikssrskcdf&a_bid=948fa64f
Studies on this product show effectiveness improving erectile dysfunction and increasing size without drugs or medication. Helping men be the hero in their bedroom.
Lady: https://theladypump.com/pages/lady-pump?a_aid=nzgdikssrskcdf&a_bid=2eecfcb8
Increases blood flow to the clitoris and vulva — enhancing sensitivity, arousal, and natural lubrication. A drug-free way to amplify sensation and make every touch feel more intense.
To get part 2 of this conversation including how to have the right kind of sex, how to have more pleasure and how to have conversations about sex that make women want more of it register for our libido club! https://MyLibidoDoc.com/Club
More Libido Lounge
✨ Website: https://mylibidodoc.com/
✨ YouTube: https://youtube.com/@mylibidodoc
✨ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mylibidodoc/
✨ Join the Libido Club: https://mylibidodoc.com/Club/
✨ Health Store: https://store.mylibidodoc.com/
✨ Take Our Libido Quiz! https://t.ly/quoNU
✨ Auto GRO Men's Pump: https://link.urlfun.com/ujsvrpouu
✨ Stimulate Red Light Pump Accessory: https://link.urlfun.com/gdnfgwroh
✨ AndroDEEP Traction Extender: https://link.urlfun.com/zncbmgfrj
✨ Supplements: https://link.urlfun.com/tprmmtbai
✨ LadyPump: https://link.urlfun.com/drpeyytjy
(0:00) Little T Trauma and Desire
(6:42) Signs It’s Worth Exploring
(13:20) Confidence, Pumps, and Betrayal
(21:21) Knowing When to Start Sex Therapy
24 min
October 15 Privacy or Secrecy? What I'm Not Telling My Spouse with Brooke Bralove
You've started keeping things to yourself, like what you search late at night and what you wish you could say out loud, and you can't tell anymore whether that's privacy or a secret slowly pulling you two apart. Dr. Diane and a certified sex therapist give you two simple questions that separate healthy privacy from harmful secrecy. They also explain why wanting sex at different levels is normal, and why putting sex on the calendar can bring the wanting back instead of killing it. If you're not sure why things went quiet in your bedroom, take Dr. Diane's free "Why Is My Desire Low?" quiz at mylibidodoc.com/libido-quiz. It sorts out what's physical, what's emotional, and where to start.
About the Guest:
*Brooke Bralove, LCSW-C
Expertise: Brooke Bralove, LCSW-C, is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, psychotherapist, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, and expert in trauma, sexual health, and emotional healing. With over 20 years in private practice, she helps individuals and couples overcome anxiety, trauma, and relationship challenges so they can feel more connected, confident, and fully themselves.?Brooke integrates neuroscience-based approaches, including Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART), to create rapid and lasting change. She is a sought-after speaker known for her warmth, insight, and ability to translate complex emotional and neurological processes into practical, transformative tools.
https://www.brookebralove.com?https://www.facebook.com/brookebralovepsychotherapy/?https://www.instagram.com/brookebralovepsychotherapy ?https://www.tiktok.com/@bbralovepsychotherapy ?https://www.linkedin.com/in/brookebralovepsychotherapy/?https://www.youtube.com/@brookebralovepsychotherapy
Our Advocacy:
Our advocacy is centered around providing a supportive space for women to reclaim sexual vitality and joy for good. Help us achieve this by subscribing to our podcast and sharing us with your friends and family.
💖 Join our Next Libido Masterclass: https://mylibidodoc.com/masterclass
💖 Access Lab Testing: https://platinumself.circle.so/c/community
💥 Whenever we talk about products, we try to get you discount codes. Sometimes companies change the codes on us. To get the most up to date working coupon codes on products we recommend always go here: https://MyLibidoDoc.com/Products
Here is information about the penis pump and lady pump.
Coupon code: LibidoDoc10 for a 10% discount
Penis: https://doctorjoelkaplan.com/pages/autogro?a_aid=nzgdikssrskcdf&a_bid=948fa64f
Studies on this product show effectiveness improving erectile dysfunction and increasing size without drugs or medication. Helping men be the hero in their bedroom.
Lady: https://theladypump.com/pages/lady-pump?a_aid=nzgdikssrskcdf&a_bid=2eecfcb8
Increases blood flow to the clitoris and vulva — enhancing sensitivity, arousal, and natural lubrication. A drug-free way to amplify sensation and make every touch feel more intense.
To get part 2 of this conversation including how to have the right kind of sex, how to have more pleasure and how to have conversations about sex that make women want more of it register for our libido club! https://MyLibidoDoc.com/Club
More Libido Lounge
✨ Website: https://mylibidodoc.com/
✨ YouTube: https://youtube.com/@mylibidodoc
✨ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mylibidodoc/
✨ Join the Libido Club: https://mylibidodoc.com/Club/
✨ Health Store: https://store.mylibidodoc.com/
✨ Take Our Libido Quiz! https://t.ly/quoNU
✨ Auto GRO Men's Pump: https://link.urlfun.com/ujsvrpouu
✨ Stimulate Red Light Pump Accessory: https://link.urlfun.com/gdnfgwroh
✨ AndroDEEP Traction Extender: https://link.urlfun.com/zncbmgfrj
✨ Supplements: https://link.urlfun.com/tprmmtbai
✨ LadyPump: https://link.urlfun.com/drpeyytjy
(0:00) Scheduling Sex and Desire
(6:15) Desire Mismatch and Normalcy
(13:41) Biological, Psychological, and Social Layers
(19:04) Privacy Versus Secrecy
26 min
October 08 What Does a Wife Need to Actually Want Sex? With Caroline Hood (Part 2)
If you've been waiting for the "right moment" to feel like lovers again instead of roommates, and it never seems to come, you're not broken, and you're not alone. In Part 2, Dr. Diane and Caroline Hood get practical: why spontaneity is mostly a myth (even early on), how scheduling sex builds anticipation instead of killing the mood, and the one honest sentence that lets you restart intimacy without a heavy, fraught conversation. If you don't know how to break the silence, bring the free Yes, No, Maybe Checklist to your next date night: mylibidodoc.com/yesnomaybe
About the Guest:
*Caroline Hood
Expertise: Caroline Hood is a sex and relationships writer, speaker, and consultant exploring the deeply human realities of sex, desire, intimacy, and long-term love. A licensed clinical social worker and certified sex therapist, she draws on more than 25 years of professional experience to combine candid storytelling, clinical insight, and cultural critique that challenge conventional wisdom about relationships and female desire.
Caroline is the author of Sex Begets Sex and writes the newsletter Desire in Real Life, where she explores sexual agency, intimacy, and the cultural narratives that shape our relationships. She holds a bachelor's degree in Psychology from Columbia University, a Master of Social Work from the University of Southern California, and an Executive Leadership Certificate from Harvard University.
Originally from the United States and now based in Sydney, Australia, Caroline lives with her husband, their three children, and their two rescue dogs.
Website: www.desireinreallife.com
IG: https://www.instagram.com/desireinreallife/
Substack: https://substack.com/@desireinreallife
Our Advocacy:
Our advocacy is centered around providing a supportive space for women to reclaim sexual vitality and joy for good. Help us achieve this by subscribing to our podcast and sharing us with your friends and family.
💖 Join our Next Libido Masterclass: https://mylibidodoc.com/masterclass
💖 Access Lab Testing: https://platinumself.circle.so/c/community
💥 Whenever we talk about products, we try to get you discount codes. Sometimes companies change the codes on us. To get the most up to date working coupon codes on products we recommend always go here: https://MyLibidoDoc.com/Products
Here is information about the penis pump and lady pump.
Coupon code: LibidoDoc10 for a 10% discount
Penis: https://doctorjoelkaplan.com/pages/autogro?a_aid=nzgdikssrskcdf&a_bid=948fa64f
Studies on this product show effectiveness improving erectile dysfunction and increasing size without drugs or medication. Helping men be the hero in their bedroom.
Lady: https://theladypump.com/pages/lady-pump?a_aid=nzgdikssrskcdf&a_bid=2eecfcb8
Increases blood flow to the clitoris and vulva — enhancing sensitivity, arousal, and natural lubrication. A drug-free way to amplify sensation and make every touch feel more intense.
To get part 2 of this conversation including how to have the right kind of sex, how to have more pleasure and how to have conversations about sex that make women want more of it register for our libido club! https://MyLibidoDoc.com/Club
More Libido Lounge
✨ Website: https://mylibidodoc.com/
✨ YouTube: https://youtube.com/@mylibidodoc
✨ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mylibidodoc/
✨ Join the Libido Club: https://mylibidodoc.com/Club/
✨ Health Store: https://store.mylibidodoc.com/
✨ Take Our Libido Quiz! https://t.ly/quoNU
✨ Auto GRO Men's Pump: https://link.urlfun.com/ujsvrpouu
✨ Stimulate Red Light Pump Accessory: https://link.urlfun.com/gdnfgwroh
✨ AndroDEEP Traction Extender: https://link.urlfun.com/zncbmgfrj
✨ Supplements: https://link.urlfun.com/tprmmtbai
✨ LadyPump: https://link.urlfun.com/drpeyytjy
Timestamps:
0:00 Spontaneity vs. Scheduling Sex: Why Intimacy Is Often Already Planned
2:18 Benefits of Scheduled Sex Over Waiting for Spontaneity
5:42 Lessons from Kink and Other Relationships: Anticipation and Safety
7:46 The Readiness Fallacy and Myths About Natural Desire Alignment
10:06 Sponsor: Hot Monogamy Society, Penis Pumps, and Vulva Pumps
11:22 Practical Ways to Prioritize Intimacy Daily
13:11 Flirting, Talking About Sex, and Keeping Playfulness Alive
16:21 How to Start Flirting Again When It Feels Awkward
18:31 Surprising Discoveries About Desire in Midlife and Long-Term Relationships
20:21 Resources: Caroline Hood, Sex Begets Sex, and Desire in Real Life
(0:00) Spontaneity vs. Scheduling Sex: Why Intimacy Is Often Already Planned
(2:18) Benefits of Scheduled Sex Over Waiting for Spontaneity
(5:42) Lessons from Kink and Other Relationships: Anticipation and Safety
(7:46) The Readiness Fallacy and Myths About Natural Desire Alignment
(10:06) Sponsor: Hot Monogamy Society, Penis Pumps, and Vulva Pumps
(11:22) Practical Ways to Prioritize Intimacy Daily
(13:11) Flirting, Talking About Sex, and Keeping Playfulness Alive
(16:21) How to Start Flirting Again When It Feels Awkward
(18:31) Surprising Discoveries About Desire in Midlife and Long-Term Relationships
(20:21) Resources: Caroline Hood, Sex Begets Sex, and Desire in Real Life
23 min
October 01 What Does a Wife Need to Actually Want Sex? With Caroline Hood (Part 1)
If sex has become something you do just so you're not the "bad" partner, or something you keep waiting to feel like doing, you're not broken and you're not alone. In this episode you'll learn why many women don't want sex first and then start, but begin to want it once things are already underway, and why waiting until every emotional issue is fixed before you touch each other can keep you stuck. If you're too tired to even think about being in the mood, start with Dr. Diane's free video e-book How to Want It Again at mylibidodoc.com/libido-video-ebook.
About the Guest:
*Caroline Hood
Expertise: Caroline Hood is a sex and relationships writer, speaker, and consultant exploring the deeply human realities of sex, desire, intimacy, and long-term love. A licensed clinical social worker and certified sex therapist, she draws on more than 25 years of professional experience to combine candid storytelling, clinical insight, and cultural critique that challenge conventional wisdom about relationships and female desire.
Caroline is the author of Sex Begets Sex and writes the newsletter Desire in Real Life, where she explores sexual agency, intimacy, and the cultural narratives that shape our relationships. She holds a bachelor's degree in Psychology from Columbia University, a Master of Social Work from the University of Southern California, and an Executive Leadership Certificate from Harvard University.
Originally from the United States and now based in Sydney, Australia, Caroline lives with her husband, their three children, and their two rescue dogs.
Website: www.desireinreallife.com
IG: https://www.instagram.com/desireinreallife/
Substack: https://substack.com/@desireinreallife
Our Advocacy:
Our advocacy is centered around providing a supportive space for women to reclaim sexual vitality and joy for good. Help us achieve this by subscribing to our podcast and sharing us with your friends and family.
💖 Join our Next Libido Masterclass: https://mylibidodoc.com/masterclass
💖 Access Lab Testing: https://platinumself.circle.so/c/community
💥 Whenever we talk about products, we try to get you discount codes. Sometimes companies change the codes on us. To get the most up to date working coupon codes on products we recommend always go here: https://MyLibidoDoc.com/Products
Here is information about the penis pump and lady pump.
Coupon code: LibidoDoc10 for a 10% discount
Penis: https://doctorjoelkaplan.com/pages/autogro?a_aid=nzgdikssrskcdf&a_bid=948fa64f
Studies on this product show effectiveness improving erectile dysfunction and increasing size without drugs or medication. Helping men be the hero in their bedroom.
Lady: https://theladypump.com/pages/lady-pump?a_aid=nzgdikssrskcdf&a_bid=2eecfcb8
Increases blood flow to the clitoris and vulva — enhancing sensitivity, arousal, and natural lubrication. A drug-free way to amplify sensation and make every touch feel more intense.
To get part 2 of this conversation including how to have the right kind of sex, how to have more pleasure and how to have conversations about sex that make women want more of it register for our libido club! https://MyLibidoDoc.com/Club
More Libido Lounge
✨ Website: https://mylibidodoc.com/
✨ YouTube: https://youtube.com/@mylibidodoc
✨ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mylibidodoc/
✨ Join the Libido Club: https://mylibidodoc.com/Club/
✨ Health Store: https://store.mylibidodoc.com/
✨ Take Our Libido Quiz! https://t.ly/quoNU
✨ Auto GRO Men's Pump: https://link.urlfun.com/ujsvrpouu
✨ Stimulate Red Light Pump Accessory: https://link.urlfun.com/gdnfgwroh
✨ AndroDEEP Traction Extender: https://link.urlfun.com/zncbmgfrj
✨ Supplements: https://link.urlfun.com/tprmmtbai
✨ LadyPump: https://link.urlfun.com/drpeyytjy
Timestamps:
0:00 Obligatory sex, desire myths, and intimacy without emotional connection
1:59 Losing desire in long-term relationships: common but not inevitable
6:52 Different arousal timelines and the need for better sexual education
8:44 Obligation and maintenance sex: when it becomes toxic
11:03 Sponsor: Hot Monogamy Society
15:44 Sponsor: Dr. Joel Kaplan (penis pumps and lady pumps)
17:45 Emotional intimacy vs. physical intimacy: which comes first?
20:30 Spontaneity, scheduling, and practical strategies for sustaining desire
21:27 Where to find Caroline Hood’s work: Desire in Real Life and Substack
(0:00) Obligatory sex, desire myths, and intimacy without emotional connection
(1:59) Losing desire in long-term relationships: common but not inevitable
(3:05) Busy lives, kids, perimenopause, and the real issues behind lost desire
(5:12) Cultural messaging, feminism, and permission for women to want sex
(6:52) Different arousal timelines and the need for better sexual education
(8:44) Obligation and maintenance sex: when it becomes toxic
(11:03) Sponsor: Hot Monogamy Society
(12:38) Sex begets sex: building desire vs. overriding a no
(14:38) Physical and emotional intimacy reinforcing each other
(15:44) Sponsor: Dr. Joel Kaplan (penis pumps and lady pumps)
(17:45) Emotional intimacy vs. physical intimacy: which comes first?
(20:30) Spontaneity, scheduling, and practical strategies for sustaining desire
(21:27) Where to find Caroline Hood’s work: Desire in Real Life and Substack
23 min
September 24 How a Time Limit on the Fight Saves Your Marriage with Kameran Alareqi (Part 2)
You had the same fight again tonight — different words, same wall — and now you're lying back-to-back on your own edges of the bed, wondering when "partners" quietly became "roommates who occasionally argue." In this episode you'll understand why the clock matters more than being right: repairing within 24 hours, and naming the criticize-then-withdraw loop you're both stuck in, is what actually keeps the distance from hardening into permanent. If tonight followed the same script it always does, take the free Sex Code Language quiz at mylibidodoc.com/freebies to finally see the pattern you and your partner keep triggering in each other.
About the Guest:
*Kameran Alareqi
Expertise: Kameran is a Gottman certified marriage coach, the host of The Married and Connected Podcast, and the founder of the Recognizing Potential Coaching Program. In this program, Kameran meets monogamous couples where they’re at to help them strengthen their marriage by coaching them to deepen connection, improve communication, and apply tools needed to create the healthy marriage they envision and desire.
https://substack.com/@marriedandconnected
IG: www.instagram.com/married.and.connected
YouTube: www.youtube.com/@marriedandconnected
Join my Skool Community: https://www.skool.com/married-connected-4920/about
Buy my book- Connected To Me: The Blueprint: https://a.co/d/0a3d2hPx
My podcast: Married and Connected found anywhere you get your favorite podcasts
Our Advocacy:
Our advocacy is centered around providing a supportive space for women to reclaim sexual vitality and joy for good. Help us achieve this by subscribing to our podcast and sharing us with your friends and family.
💖 Join our Next Libido Masterclass: https://mylibidodoc.com/masterclass
💖 Access Lab Testing: https://platinumself.circle.so/c/community
💥 Whenever we talk about products, we try to get you discount codes. Sometimes companies change the codes on us. To get the most up to date working coupon codes on products we recommend always go here: https://MyLibidoDoc.com/Products
Here is information about the penis pump and lady pump.
Coupon code: LibidoDoc10 for a 10% discount
Penis: https://doctorjoelkaplan.com/pages/autogro?a_aid=nzgdikssrskcdf&a_bid=948fa64f
Studies on this product show effectiveness improving erectile dysfunction and increasing size without drugs or medication. Helping men be the hero in their bedroom.
Lady: https://theladypump.com/pages/lady-pump?a_aid=nzgdikssrskcdf&a_bid=2eecfcb8
Increases blood flow to the clitoris and vulva — enhancing sensitivity, arousal, and natural lubrication. A drug-free way to amplify sensation and make every touch feel more intense.
To get part 2 of this conversation including how to have the right kind of sex, how to have more pleasure and how to have conversations about sex that make women want more of it register for our libido club! https://MyLibidoDoc.com/Club
More Libido Lounge
✨ Website: https://mylibidodoc.com/
✨ YouTube: https://youtube.com/@mylibidodoc
✨ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mylibidodoc/
✨ Join the Libido Club: https://mylibidodoc.com/Club/
✨ Health Store: https://store.mylibidodoc.com/
✨ Take Our Libido Quiz! https://t.ly/quoNU
✨ Auto GRO Men's Pump: https://link.urlfun.com/ujsvrpouu
✨ Stimulate Red Light Pump Accessory: https://link.urlfun.com/gdnfgwroh
✨ AndroDEEP Traction Extender: https://link.urlfun.com/zncbmgfrj
✨ Supplements: https://link.urlfun.com/tprmmtbai
✨ LadyPump: https://link.urlfun.com/drpeyytjy
Timestamps:
0:00 The loop of doom, dismissive avoidance, and episode introduction
1:13 Dealing with recurring fights and attachment theory
2:50 Differentiating current issues from past unresolved conflicts
4:33 Importance of clear communication and expectations
6:12 The five finger apology method
9:03 Timing, tongue, and tone in conflict resolution
10:52 Sponsor: Dr. Joel Kaplan's pumps for sexual wellness
12:12 Introduction to attachment styles
17:32 Misuse of attachment styles in relationships
19:34 Healing relationship problems within a relationship
20:38 Attachment styles in intimacy and conflict
23:58 Dismissive avoidant attachment in sexual relationships
24:23 Disengagement in intimate relationships
24:55 Sponsor: Kameran Alareqi's free resources and where to find them
25:27 Dr. Diane Mueller's closing remarks and call to action
25:50 Where to find Dr. Diane Mueller online
(0:00) The loop of doom, dismissive avoidance, and episode introduction
(1:13) Dealing with recurring fights and attachment theory
(2:50) Differentiating current issues from past unresolved conflicts
(4:33) Importance of clear communication and expectations
(6:12) The five finger apology method
(9:03) Timing, tongue, and tone in conflict resolution
(10:52) Sponsor: Dr. Joel Kaplan's pumps for sexual wellness
(12:12) Introduction to attachment styles
(17:32) Misuse of attachment styles in relationships
(19:34) Healing relationship problems within a relationship
(20:38) Attachment styles in intimacy and conflict
(23:58) Dismissive avoidant attachment in sexual relationships
(24:23) Disengagement in intimate relationships
(24:55) Sponsor: Kameran Alareqi's free resources and where to find them
(25:27) Dr. Diane Mueller's closing remarks and call to action
(25:50) Where to find Dr. Diane Mueller online
27 min
September 17 How a Time Limit on the Fight Saves Your Marriage with Kameran Alareqi (Part 1)
By now it feels safer to stay quiet than risk another talk that ends with one of you walking off and the other chasing them down the hall. In this episode you'll see that what looks like a communication problem is usually a safety problem — and that giving a tense conversation a clear time limit is often the one small move that keeps one of you from bolting and the other from pushing until you both shut down. When the words have stopped coming easily, start there: grab Dr. Diane's free Yes, No, Maybe Checklist at mylibidodoc.com/freebies — a five-minute way back into the conversation.
About the Guest:
*Kameran Alareqi
Expertise: Kameran is a Gottman certified marriage coach, the host of The Married and Connected Podcast, and the founder of the Recognizing Potential Coaching Program. In this program, Kameran meets monogamous couples where they’re at to help them strengthen their marriage by coaching them to deepen connection, improve communication, and apply tools needed to create the healthy marriage they envision and desire.
https://substack.com/@marriedandconnected
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Timestamps:
0:00 How little time couples spend alone and the real root of marital issues
0:48 Introduction and guest introduction
1:26 Key topics: divorce-proofing, nervous system in fights, and more
1:41 What it means to divorce-proof your marriage
2:18 "Playing baseball" as a metaphor for marriage communication
4:00 Turning towards emotional bids from your partner
5:41 Emotional safety as the foundation of strong relationships
10:03 Attraction and emotional regulation in marriage
13:19 Chemistry versus the stages of long-term relationships
15:29 Sponsor: Penis and labia pumps
19:14 Why seeking help for marriage issues matters
20:22 Preview of next week’s episode on recurring fights
20:59 Tools for managing emotional dysregulation
22:42 Resources for couples by Kameran Alareqi
23:32 Free resources and community information
23:51 Upcoming topics and episode preview
24:15 Closing remarks and Dr. Diane Mueller’s contact information
(0:00) How little time couples spend alone and the real root of marital issues
(0:48) Introduction and guest introduction
(1:26) Key topics: divorce-proofing, nervous system in fights, and more
(1:41) What it means to divorce-proof your marriage
(2:18) "Playing baseball" as a metaphor for marriage communication
(4:00) Turning towards emotional bids from your partner
(5:41) Emotional safety as the foundation of strong relationships
(10:03) Attraction and emotional regulation in marriage
(13:19) Chemistry versus the stages of long-term relationships
(15:29) Sponsor: Penis and labia pumps
(19:14) Why seeking help for marriage issues matters
(20:22) Preview of next week’s episode on recurring fights
(20:59) Tools for managing emotional dysregulation
(22:42) Resources for couples by Kameran Alareqi
(23:32) Free resources and community information
(23:51) Upcoming topics and episode preview
(24:15) Closing remarks and Dr. Diane Mueller’s contact information
25 min
September 10 The 2 Rules That Beat the Gottman Method in Relationships with Zach Brittle (Part 2)
You've done the date nights and the "we just need to communicate more" talks, and somehow you're still two polite roommates who happen to share a bed. In Part 2 with therapist Zach Brittle, you'll understand why more communication and more compromise were never the fix — and how two disarmingly simple rules, starting with agreeing on what sex is actually for and what counts, take the pressure out of every initiation so a "no" stops landing like a verdict. Turn those rules into one honest, five-minute conversation tonight with the free Yes, No, Maybe Checklist at mylibidodoc.com/freebies.
About the Guest:
*Zach Brittle
Expertise: Zach Brittle has been teaching, coaching, mentoring, and counseling couples for nearly 20 years. He's a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) in Washington, a Certified Gottman Therapist (CGT), and a Relational Life Therapist, the only therapist in the world certified in both. He's the host of Marriage Therapy Radio and the author of the bestselling The Relationship Alphabet and Marriage Therapy Journal. His work has been featured in Vanity Fair, Men's Health, Real Simple, The New York Times, and The Washington Post. Zach has been happily married to his wife Rebecca for 25 of 28 years. They live in Seattle with their two adult daughters. Learn more at zachbrittle.com.
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagetherapyradio/?hl=en
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/marriagetherapyradio/
Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/marriage-therapy-radio/id1295458667
Website: https://zachbrittle.com/
Substack: https://zachbrittle.substack.com/
Our Advocacy:
Our advocacy is centered around providing a supportive space for women to reclaim sexual vitality and joy for good. Help us achieve this by subscribing to our podcast and sharing us with your friends and family.
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Increases blood flow to the clitoris and vulva — enhancing sensitivity, arousal, and natural lubrication. A drug-free way to amplify sensation and make every touch fe
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Timestamps:
0:00 Contempt, questions about intimacy, and episode recap
1:30 Zach Brittle's background and desire discrepancy
2:36 Discussion on desire discrepancy
3:05 Different types of intimacy
4:06 Physical intimacy and non-sexual contact
5:17 Training, cultural aspects, and media portrayal of intimacy
8:19 Responsibility for intimacy training
9:12 Questions to improve sexual intimacy
10:29 Defining what counts as sex
11:19 Role of shame in intimacy and its societal impact
15:17 Personal anecdotes on shame
16:06 Introduction to contempt
17:08 Sponsor: Dr. Joel Kaplan's pumps
17:23 Contempt as a predictor of divorce
18:09 Criticism, defensiveness, and stonewalling
19:05 Elevating your partner to combat contempt
20:46 Final thoughts on contempt and intimacy
23:03 Voting, guest performance, and resources
24:19 Closing remarks and outro
(0:00) Contempt, questions about intimacy, and episode recap
(1:30) Zach Brittle's background and desire discrepancy
(2:36) Discussion on desire discrepancy
(3:05) Different types of intimacy
(4:06) Physical intimacy and non-sexual contact
(5:17) Training, cultural aspects, and media portrayal of intimacy
(8:19) Responsibility for intimacy training
(9:12) Questions to improve sexual intimacy
(10:29) Defining what counts as sex
(11:19) Role of shame in intimacy and its societal impact
(15:17) Personal anecdotes on shame
(16:06) Introduction to contempt
(17:08) Sponsor: Dr. Joel Kaplan's pumps
(17:23) Contempt as a predictor of divorce
(18:09) Criticism, defensiveness, and stonewalling
(19:05) Elevating your partner to combat contempt
(20:46) Final thoughts on contempt and intimacy
(23:03) Voting, guest performance, and resources
(24:19) Closing remarks and outro
25 min
September 03 The 2 Rules That Beat the Gottman Method in Relationships with Zach Brittle (Part 1)
One of you wants more, and has no idea how to bring it up without it landing as pressure or getting quietly turned down, so lately nobody reaches at all. By the end of this episode you'll understand why almost every touch has started to read as a demand for sex, and how two questions...what is it for, and what actually counts, take the pressure off far faster than trying harder does. Start tonight with Dr. Diane's free Yes, No, Maybe Checklist: a five-minute, no-pressure way to say what you want when the words won't come: mylibidodoc.com/yesnomaybe.
About the Guest:
*Zach Brittle
Expertise: Zach Brittle has been teaching, coaching, mentoring, and counseling couples for nearly 20 years. He's a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) in Washington, a Certified Gottman Therapist (CGT), and a Relational Life Therapist, the only therapist in the world certified in both. He's the host of Marriage Therapy Radio and the author of the bestselling The Relationship Alphabet and Marriage Therapy Journal. His work has been featured in Vanity Fair, Men's Health, Real Simple, The New York Times, and The Washington Post. Zach has been happily married to his wife Rebecca for 25 of 28 years. They live in Seattle with their two adult daughters. Learn more at zachbrittle.com.
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagetherapyradio/?hl=en
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/marriagetherapyradio/
Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/marriage-therapy-radio/id1295458667
Website: https://zachbrittle.com/
Substack: https://zachbrittle.substack.com/
Our Advocacy:
Our advocacy is centered around providing a supportive space for women to reclaim sexual vitality and joy for good. Help us achieve this by subscribing to our podcast and sharing us with your friends and family.
💖 Join our Next Libido Masterclass: https://mylibidodoc.com/masterclass
💖 Access Lab Testing: https://platinumself.circle.so/c/community
💥 Whenever we talk about products, we try to get you discount codes. Sometimes companies change the codes on us. To get the most up to date working coupon codes on products we recommend always go here: https://MyLibidoDoc.com/Products
Here is information about the penis pump and lady pump.
Coupon code: LibidoDoc10 for a 10% discount
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Studies on this product show effectiveness improving erectile dysfunction and increasing size without drugs or medication. Helping men be the hero in their bedroom.
Lady: https://theladypump.com/pages/lady-pump?a_aid=nzgdikssrskcdf&a_bid=2eecfcb8
Increases blood flow to the clitoris and vulva — enhancing sensitivity, arousal, and natural lubrication. A drug-free way to amplify sensation and make every touch feel more intense.
To get part 2 of this conversation including how to have the right kind of sex, how to have more pleasure and how to have conversations about sex that make women want more of it register for our libido club! https://MyLibidoDoc.com/Club
More Libido Lounge
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✨ Join the Libido Club: https://mylibidodoc.com/Club/
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Timestamps:
0:00 Introduction and recap with Zach Brittle
1:50 Desire discrepancy and types of intimacy
4:06 Increasing non-sexual physical intimacy
5:14 Training for intimacy and the impact of trauma
7:02 Cultural influences and media portrayal of sex
8:43 Responsibility for learning intimacy
9:18 Purpose, meaning, and creativity in sex
10:27 Broadening the definition of sex and role of shame
12:42 Shame from cultural and personal experiences
15:06 Contempt and its impact on relationships
16:52 Addressing contempt, criticism, and defensiveness
20:44 Secrets to maintaining strong relationships
21:54 Flexibility in relationship principles and partner appreciation
22:28 Zach Brittle's podcast, Substack, and closing remarks
(0:00) Introduction and recap with Zach Brittle
(1:50) Desire discrepancy and types of intimacy
(4:06) Increasing non-sexual physical intimacy
(5:14) Training for intimacy and the impact of trauma
(7:02) Cultural influences and media portrayal of sex
(8:43) Responsibility for learning intimacy
(9:18) Purpose, meaning, and creativity in sex
(10:27) Broadening the definition of sex and role of shame
(12:42) Shame from cultural and personal experiences
(15:06) Contempt and its impact on relationships
(16:52) Addressing contempt, criticism, and defensiveness
(20:44) Secrets to maintaining strong relationships
(21:54) Flexibility in relationship principles and partner appreciation
(22:28) Zach Brittle's podcast, Substack, and closing remarks
24 min
August 27 Is Your Marriage Stuck in the Same Fight? with Dr. Jessica Higgins Part 2
You've had this fight so many times you could script both sides, and you're starting to wonder if the two of you are just fundamentally incompatible. In Part 2, you'll learn why that recurring argument almost never means what it appears to — and how naming the fear underneath your own frustration can change the conversation before you've said a word to your partner. When you're ready to translate all of that into something you can actually do together, grab Dr. Diane's free Yes, No, Maybe Checklist at mylibidodoc.com/yesnomaybe — a low-pressure way to start saying out loud what's been going unspoken.
About the Guest:
*Dr. Jessica Higgins
Expertise: Dr. Jessica Higgins holds two graduate degrees in psychology, two coaching certifications, and over 20 years of experience helping clients achieve successful results. As the host of the Empowered Relationship Podcast, she helps people navigate the terrain of long-lasting intimacy more skillfully and mindfully. Through her coaching and online course, clients transform pain into love and connection.
https://www.facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship https://www.linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins/ https://www.instagram.com/drjessicahiggins/ https://in.pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation/ https://twitter.com/DrJessHiggins Website: https://drjessicahiggins.com/
Download Dr. Jessica's free guide - SHIFTING CRITICISM FOR CONNECTED COMMUNICATION: https://drjessicahiggins.com/shifting-criticism-for-connected-communication
Our Advocacy:
Our advocacy is centered around providing a supportive space for women to reclaim sexual vitality and joy for good. Help us achieve this by subscribing to our podcast and sharing us with your friends and family.
💖 Join our Next Libido Masterclass: https://mylibidodoc.com/masterclass
💖 Access Lab Testing: https://platinumself.circle.so/c/community
💥 Whenever we talk about products, we try to get you discount codes. Sometimes companies change the codes on us. To get the most up to date working coupon codes on products we recommend always go here: https://MyLibidoDoc.com/Products
Here is information about the penis pump and lady pump.
Coupon code: LibidoDoc10 for a 10% discount
Penis: https://doctorjoelkaplan.com/pages/autogro?a_aid=nzgdikssrskcdf&a_bid=948fa64f
Studies on this product show effectiveness improving erectile dysfunction and increasing size without drugs or medication. Helping men be the hero in their bedroom.
Lady: https://theladypump.com/pages/lady-pump?a_aid=nzgdikssrskcdf&a_bid=2eecfcb8
Increases blood flow to the clitoris and vulva — enhancing sensitivity, arousal, and natural lubrication. A drug-free way to amplify sensation and make every touch feel more intense.
To get part 2 of this conversation including how to have the right kind of sex, how to have more pleasure and how to have conversations about sex that make women want more of it register for our libido club! https://MyLibidoDoc.com/Club
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✨ Join the Libido Club: https://mylibidodoc.com/Club/
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Timestamps:
0:00 Understanding vulnerability and conflicts in relationships
2:22 Communication breakdowns and deeper issues
4:16 The importance of listening beyond words
7:17 Strategies for better communication and understanding
9:26 Breaking the rejection cycle in the bedroom
10:10 Sponsor: Hot Monogamy Society
11:33 Expanding the definition of intimacy and pleasure
14:40 Sponsor: Doctor Joel Kaplan’s Lady Pump
16:14 Unspoken expectations about sex in long-term relationships
18:38 Practical tip to improve your relationship tonight
19:36 Free guide and shifting out of critical tendencies
20:18 Closing remarks and listener engagement
(0:00) Understanding vulnerability and conflicts in relationships
(2:22) Communication breakdowns and deeper issues
(4:16) The importance of listening beyond words
(7:17) Strategies for better communication and understanding
(9:26) Breaking the rejection cycle in the bedroom
(10:10) Sponsor: Hot Monogamy Society
(11:33) Expanding the definition of intimacy and pleasure
(14:40) Sponsor: Doctor Joel Kaplan’s Lady Pump
(16:14) Unspoken expectations about sex in long-term relationships
(18:38) Practical tip to improve your relationship tonight
(19:36) Free guide and shifting out of critical tendencies
(20:18) Closing remarks and listener engagement
22 min

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