Today’s topic is one that can easily keep moms spinning, striving and ultimately worn down.

Yep - we are taking on the lie: I have to be perfect or I’m going to mess up my kids.

Every mom’s greatest fear! Why?

Our Momma hearts have a deep desire to do well and to be confident that we are, in fact, good moms who are doing a good job with our kids. We want to look back on our motherhood journey and know that we did what was pleasing to the Lord by raising little disciples who, ideally, become adults living out their lives with kingdom purpose. So naturally, this is an area the enemy is going to attack because he knows if it is important to us, we can be found vulnerable.

Here to speak to this topic with me today is writer, speaker and editor in Chief of Mom Mentor - Sarah Wood and friend, you are going to love this conversation with Sarah as she and I dive into the real life struggles, the mom fails and the lessons we’ve learned so far in our motherhood journeys as it pertains to perfectionism.

Sarah will share how her experiences have helped her to grow as a mom and as a believer and offer you practical steps to encourage and get your started in silencing this lie and replace it with Truth about your identity, your mission and purpose!

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FAVORITE TAKEAWAYS:

The enemy knows, if it is important to us - we can be found vulnerable.

What exactly does perfect mean and how are we defining that?

I find that it’s not about perfectionism, it’s about control.

We have to realize as moms that we are stewards, we’re not puppet masters.

Because it’s God’s plan for their lives, not our plans for their lives.

It’s not up to us, it’s up to God. - audio clip

We cannot impose our identity and self worth on our children and their behavior

The minute we do that, it places this terrible millstone around their neck.

We often take a snapshot of what our child is struggling with and project it through their entire life.

God is the perfect Father but look at His children.

2 Timothy 3:3-6

I was really trying to modify behavior and not change the heart.

I wanted that behavior modification because I wanted to look good.

I wanted to have that appearance that I was a good mom, that I had it all under control, that I was doing things the right way.

I had to get with the Lord and have Him root out that false foundation I had placed my identity on.

If my child acts up that does not mean I am a bad mom, that does not mean that I’m a failure, that does not mean that I am doing things wrong.

What is my child’s poor behavior teaching me?

Sometimes when we say no, that means we are a good mom.

As moms we are cultivating character. It’s not about cultivating an image, it’s about cultivating character.

2 Timothy 1:6-7

1. Think about what you’re thinking about.
2. Call it out and bring it into the light.
3. Write it down and find a verse that will combat the lie.
4. Get to work - keeping speaking God’s Truth over yourself

Lies are not only meant to discourage, they are meant to distract and take you off course.