The Wave of Light is a significant event that brings together families to remember and honor their lost babies, and in this episode, Siobhan and David reflect on their recent experience participating in this poignant occasion. They share how the event serves as a powerful reminder of the enduring love and grief that accompanies baby loss, emphasizing the importance of community and connection in navigating these difficult emotions. Siobhan discusses the challenges of balancing their loss with the demands of family life, while David highlights the need for open communication about feelings of anger and sorrow. Their daughter Alannah contributes to the conversation by reading two heartfelt poems, expressing her own connection to her sister Grace and the love that continues to exist despite the loss. Through their reflections, Siobhan and David encourage listeners to find solace and support within their own communities, reminding everyone that they are not alone in their grief.

Takeaways:

• The Wave of Light is a significant event for parents to remember their lost children.
• Community support during baby loss helps people feel less isolated in their grief.
• Alannah's poem symbolizes the deep bond and love that continues after loss.
• The importance of creating opportunities to share feelings about grief cannot be overstated.
• Events like the Wave of Light help acknowledge and honor the memories of lost babies.
• Camaraderie with others who understand makes a profound difference in the grieving process.

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This podcast episode delves into the complex topic of triggers experienced by those in the Babylost community. Siobhan and David explore various triggers—sights, sounds, smells, and memories—that can unexpectedly evoke intense emotional responses related to their loss. They discuss the nature of these triggers, how they manifest physically and emotionally, and the coping mechanisms they have developed over time. Additionally, the couple engages in a thoughtful conversation about the pros and cons of trigger warnings, emphasizing the importance of being able to express and process grief without fear of discomfort. Ultimately, they encourage listeners to share their own experiences and strategies for navigating the challenges of living with loss.

Takeaways:

• Triggers can be unexpected and can evoke intense emotional responses in those who have experienced baby loss.
• Understanding and identifying triggers is crucial for managing emotional responses and processing grief effectively.
• Using music and scents intentionally can help individuals connect with lost loved ones and process their emotions.
• The conversation around trigger warnings and content warnings highlights the need for sensitivity in discussions about grief.
• It's important to recognize that feeling triggered is a normal part of the grieving process after a significant loss.
• Developing strategies for grounding and calming oneself can aid in coping with triggers when they arise.

This podcast episode delves into the sensitive topic of what to say to parents who have experienced baby loss, emphasizing the importance of acknowledging the child's existence and the profound impact they had on their parents' lives. Siobhan and David share personal stories and reflections, highlighting the comfort that can come from positive affirmations and meaningful conversations about their lost child, Grace. They discuss the significance of recognizing the womb life and the love that existed during pregnancy, as well as the evolving relationship parents have with their deceased children. The episode also addresses the complexities of grief, the guilt that often accompanies the loss, and the need for supportive gestures from friends and family. Listeners are encouraged to consider thoughtful ways to engage with bereaved parents, fostering connection and understanding in moments of profound sadness.

Takeaways:

• Acknowledging the beauty and existence of a stillborn child can bring comfort to grieving parents.
• Offering specific help, such as bringing food or a listening ear, is often more appreciated than vague offers of assistance.
• It's important to recognize and validate the womb life experience of grieving parents, as it holds significant emotional value.
• As a bereaved parent, talking about your lost child can provide a sense of connection and healing.
• Expressing genuine curiosity about the deceased child, like asking for their name, can be incredibly meaningful for bereaved parents.
• Grief is a complex journey, and the relationship with a deceased child evolves as parents navigate their emotions.

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This episode focuses on the sensitive topic of what not to say to parents who have experienced the loss of a baby. Siobhan and David share their personal experiences and insights regarding the comments that can be hurtful or dismissive during such a painful time. They discuss how certain phrases, often meant to comfort, can instead diminish the significance of their loss and highlight the importance of empathy in conversations about grief. The couple reflects on the stark contrast between negative and supportive comments, emphasizing that well-meaning intentions do not always translate into helpful words. As they navigate through various examples, they aim to create awareness that can foster more compassionate communication in the face of tragedy.

Takeaways:

• The importance of knowing what not to say to someone grieving a baby loss.
• Comments that attempt to minimize the loss can be incredibly hurtful and damaging.
• Grieving parents often want their child's memory to be acknowledged and celebrated.
• Support during grief should focus on being present and listening rather than offering clichés.
• Assumptions about a grieving person's feelings or situation can lead to further isolation.
• It's crucial to recognize that every loss is personal and should be treated with empathy.

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This episode explores the profound themes of generational trauma and the challenges of parenting in the wake of loss, as illustrated by the Disney movie Encanto. Siobhan and David delve into how the film resonates with their experiences, particularly the struggle of holding on too tightly to their living children after the loss of their daughter, Grace. They reflect on the impact of trauma on parenting styles, recognizing how fear and past experiences can unintentionally shape their interactions with their children. The conversation emphasizes the importance of being aware of these dynamics and the need to create a healthy environment for their children to grow and thrive. By examining their own responses to fear and vulnerability, they offer insights on how to navigate the delicate balance between protection and allowing freedom, ultimately advocating for conscious parenting rooted in understanding and compassion.

Takeaways:

• The Disney movie Encanto offers profound insights into generational trauma and its impact on families.
• It's essential to recognize the scripts running in the background of our parenting behaviors.
• Learning to let go and not hold on too tightly can benefit our children's development.
• Consciously processing trauma helps prevent it from negatively affecting our living children.
• Communicating openly with our children about trauma can foster understanding and empathy.
• Parenting after loss requires constant reflection and adjustment to new challenges and fears.

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• disneychannel.com/encanto

Catastrophizing can take on a new dimension for those who have experienced the trauma of baby loss, as explored in this heartfelt discussion between Siobhan and David. They delve into how the suddenness of losing a child can create an intense fear of potential dangers in everyday situations, amplifying feelings of anxiety and panic. Siobhan shares her personal journey of navigating these overwhelming emotions, highlighting the struggle between logical reasoning and the visceral responses triggered by past trauma. David adds his perspective, noting that the experience of loss can lead to a perpetual state of worry about the safety of loved ones. Together, they emphasize the importance of communication and self-care strategies in managing these feelings, encouraging listeners to recognize that they are not alone in their experiences.

Takeaways:

• Catastrophizing can manifest as a physical and emotional response, often triggered by stress.
• Communication between partners is crucial when managing feelings of anxiety and fear.
• Understanding one's nervous system can help in recognizing patterns of anxiety and panic.
• The traumatic experience of losing a child can alter one's perception of safety and security.
• Using techniques like meditation and emotional freedom techniques can aid in managing catastrophizing.
• Acknowledging that everyone's response to grief and anxiety is unique and individual is essential.

This podcast episode delves into the sensitive and often challenging question of how to respond to inquiries about children after experiencing baby loss. Siobhan and David share their personal experiences and strategies for navigating such conversations, highlighting the importance of acknowledging both living and deceased children without feeling pressured to explain their loss. They discuss the emotional nuances involved, including how the context of a conversation and their mood can influence their responses. The couple emphasizes that while humor can be a coping mechanism, it’s crucial to honor their daughter Grace's memory in a way that feels authentic to them. Ultimately, they encourage listeners to find their own ways to handle these conversations and remind them that it's perfectly acceptable to choose when and how to share their story.

Takeaways:

• The podcast explores the complexities of discussing children after experiencing baby loss, highlighting emotional sensitivities.
• David and Siobhan share personal anecdotes about how they navigate questions about their family.
• They emphasize the importance of finding your own way to honor a lost child.
• The couple discusses how they formulate responses to intrusive questions about their children.
• Humor is used as a coping mechanism in sharing their experiences with others.
• Listeners are encouraged to develop their own stock answers for difficult conversations about loss.

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And a beautiful heavenly birthday to Aden Jackson Wiggins on his 18th today

Siobhan and David reflect on Babyloss Awareness Week and it's climax - the Wave of Light; and ask the question - is it worth it?

Thanks to the parents of Angel babies - Ella, Rosie, Hayden, Maya-Hope, Ava, Little Bump, Ronnie and Grace for their participation in this episode.

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You may not know it but as long as you are part of the economy - stillbirth affects you.

An in depth report showed that a stillbirth costs the economy 3 times the cost of an uncomplicated live birth.

In this episode we unpack what that actually means

You may not know it but as long as you are part of the economy - stillbirth affects you.

You can read The Lancet report that this episode is based on here - https://www.thelancet.com/.../PIIS0140-6736(15.../fulltext

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“So don’t mind my tears

Or the look in my eye

cos my normality

has drifted into the sky”

David Monteith

Dreams don’t die, physical and mental pain don’t just fade away. Stillbirth is an event, a moment in time that gives birth to a new universe of trauma.

Join us as we unpack the ongoing effects of Stillbirth

My Spoken Word piece about grief and Mental Health - I Grieve

Petals - the Babyloss Counselling Charity

Cruse Bereavement Care

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