Have you and your partner ever dealt with infidelity? I typically help my clients before it ever gets to that point. Infidelity typically happens because there is a problem in the relationship. My clients and I work together on the everyday patterns and disconnections that, if not addressed, can slowly erode a marriage over time. But my good friend and guest on this week’s podcast episode, Luke Shillings, helps his clients after the affair has happened. I invited Luke onto the podcast to pick his brain about what happens after the affair, and if there’s a way to move forward after a spouse has been betrayed.

Luke Shillings is a relationship and infidelity recovery coach and the host of The After the Affair Podcast. Drawing from personal experience and years of coaching individuals and couples, Luke helps people move from emotional chaos to clarity after betrayal. His work blends compassion with practicality, helping clients rebuild trust, identity, and authentic connection, whether they stay or leave.

In this week’s episode, we talk about healing and rebuilding after infidelity. Luke’s story is special because he has been through infidelity himself. His wife betrayed him, they separated and divorced, and years later, they reconnected and remarried. So infidelity doesn’t always mean the end of the relationship. If both parties want to work towards reconciliation, it can be the start of better communication, answering questions, and building an even stronger relationship than the one they had before. Listen to Luke’s episode to hear his thoughts on rebuilding after infidelity and how both parties can take responsibility for their part in the relationship. 

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We will all go through hot and cold phases in our marriage. It’s inevitable. Whether you're exhausted from chasing around the kids or you feel like you’re stuck in the roommate phase, there will be long stretches of time where you look around and realize the spark is gone. And on top of that, you have no idea how to get it back. 

I want you to know that this is more normal than you think. Life is not like the movies; we don’t always have the same level of romance in every phase of our relationship. But if you feel like it’s time to get the spark back, then we can do it together. 

In this week’s episode, we’re talking about how to reignite the spark in your marriage. We’re also going to talk about how to keep that spark alive once you’ve found it. Relationships take a little bit of work, just like everything else in life. So let’s get you two back together and fix this disconnect in your marriage. 

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Communication is a huge part of whether or not we have happy and healthy relationships. Not only because communication is a part of our daily lives, but it also builds every kind of intimacy we have. Emotional, mental, and physical intimacy all hinge on how we speak to each other. 

So when we’re out of touch with our partner, it can feel like the entire relationship is out of whack. You want to fix it, but you don’t know how, you don’t know what to say, and you don’t know why what you’re saying isn’t getting through to your partner. So what can you do when it feels like nothing is working?

In this week’s episode, we’re going to talk about how to address our needs and frustrations efficiently and with care. The way we talk to each other is our daily foundation for our relationships. If we ever want to build our emotional, mental, and physical connection, we have to start with our communication.

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Conflict is bound to happen, whether you’ve been married for two years or twenty. It’s a fact of life. But how you deal with it will determine if you have a long and happy relationship, or you both throw in the towel prematurely. 

Most people, in my opinion, tend to love their spouse and want to make it work. They just don’t know what to say or do to make it better. That’s why this week, we’re taking a few tips from my favorite relationship-solving book.  

In this week’s episode, we're gonna be talking about how to strengthen the relationship with your partner. As a relationship coach, I know that there is a way out of the darkness, and I can help guide you through it. I’m going to be talking about how to handle conflict in a healthy way and how small daily habits can help protect your marriage from disconnection and from stress. We’re going to be diving into the seven principles highlighted in the book Making Marriage Work by John M. Gottman and Nan Silver. Tune in to hear what simple tweaks you can make in your relationship to ease the stress and protect your marriage. 

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Limiting beliefs start out as a way to protect yourself, but if they never get resolved, they can evolve into an untrue story you tell yourself. For example, if you get a bad burn while cooking, you may never want to set foot into a kitchen again because cooking is dangerous. This is the story you tell yourself, and as time goes on, it limits your ability to feed yourself, develop your cooking skills, and work through your fears. 

Many of my clients want better for themselves; they want to improve their lives and their relationships, but they refuse to get out of their own way. It makes sense to them because they’ve been hurt before. Whether it was a relationship, a bad experience with a manager, or something in their childhood that never got resolved, people get stuck in limiting beliefs because they think they are keeping themselves safe. When in reality, they’re holding themselves back. 

In this week’s episode, we’re identifying what limiting beliefs are and how you can rewrite the stories that are keeping you stuck. To build an intentional life and an intentional relationship, it’s important to take a look at our limiting beliefs and how they’re holding us back. The only way to get over them is to work through them, and this week, we’re doing it together. 

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Our values are what tell us if we’re living the life we’re truly meant to live or not. That gross, gut feeling we get when we don’t stand up for ourselves, or when we accept something we shouldn’t, means we are not aligned with our values. And if we keep living in misalignment, we start to feel like we’re living on autopilot. 

That is no way to live. When we want to change our lives or even change our love lives, it’s often because we’re not living in alignment with our values. By identifying what values are, we can start living in alignment with them. 

In this week’s episode, we’re talking about how we can let our values lead the way. Our values are what’s more important to us. They tell us who we are and what we want to be. So if we’re ever feeling lost or confused, leaning on our values is the compass we need to make the right decision. It can be difficult to figure out these feelings on our own, which is why we’re going to do it together. 

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I know it sounds like this huge, daunting thing, designing your entire life, so let’s start with the basics. This is your life, so this process is going to take a lot of self-reflection. When designing your life, you have to ask yourself what you do want in your life, and what you don’t. 

Getting clear on what you want can be as simple as just being honest with yourself. By identifying your core values and beliefs, you can take the first steps towards the life you didn’t even know you wanted. And as your life and relationship coach, we can do it together. 

In this week’s episode, we're getting clear on what you want your life and your love to look like. You are allowed to change and evolve and grow, even if you don’t know what you want yet. In this episode, I’m going to be sharing some journal prompts that you can use to get clear on what you want, as well as sharing what I did to get clear on what I wanted when I first started designing my life. 

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To change our lives, we need to look inward and confront these feelings that keep surfacing. Feeling lost or stuck can mean we want to explore or move on from our current situation. Feeling like we don’t have any clarity can mean you want to start researching your options. And since you are in charge of your life, you can start designing your next steps. 

As a life and relationship coach, I see so many of my clients shy away from these feelings before they explore them. They feel as if changing any aspect of their lives is too much change for them to fully be in charge of. But it’s your life. It’s your relationship. You are allowed to change, edit, and evolve as much as you’d like!

In this week’s episode, we're going to talk about what it means to live life and love by design. It’s time to stop living by default, start taking ownership of your life, and start creating and designing the life and the relationship that you want to live. And we can do so together. Listen to this week’s episode to hear how you can identify some of these difficult feelings and start designing your life and your love with intention.

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Welcome to Life and Love by Design, the podcast that helps you create the life and relationship you truly want - intentionally and on your own terms.

I’m your host, Odette Coronel, an Accredited Professional Coach, Relationship Mentor, and NLP Practitioner. If you’re ready to let go of other people’s version of success and begin creating your own, this podcast is for you. Join us every week to get practical strategies and fresh perspectives to design your own version of success - one that includes both a life and a love you’re proud of!

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