Life Check Yourself

Marni Marni welcomes Dr.Diane Mueller to the Life Check Yourself studio where the duo discusses sexual health, intimacy and how to get your sexy back. Dr.Diane is a podcast host who’s helped many women reclaim their vitality and jumpstart their libido. She also holds a doctorate in naturopathic medicine. Women often forget the importance of sex and the nuances that come with that kind of intimacy. However, sexual intimacy is one of the pillars for a good healthy life. 

• How does stress affect your sex drive?

• Sex is a foundation of health

• Why you should care about your libido 

It’s All in the Hormones, Baby [08:01]

Stress affects men and women differently when it comes to their sex drive. Similarly, the hormones released by men and by women after being intimate have a different effect on each gender. Whereas men release vasopressin, which allows them to then become focused, women release oxytocin, which gives them the urge to be held. 

What happens with stress is that stress will actually turn down oxytocin. 

What’s Sex Got to do With it? [12:58]

Conversations surrounding sex and sexuality when it comes to women, for centuries, have been regarded as too taboo to talk about. It is only over the past decade or so, that these topics are being tackled more. And with good reason.  

Being sexually intimate has proven to raise happiness levels and reduce anxiety. It also decreases social isolation and feelings of loneliness. 

There’s some research that is connecting a proper healthy sex life with really maintaining the longevity of a happy relationship.

Be Present [19:18]

To actually enjoy pleasure means to be present in the moment. Sounds self-evident but many women will sometimes zone out during the act as their mind drifts off to the laundry list or the grocery list or something that needs to be done. And that’s because of the way the hormones released affect the brain. However, that’s a sign that you’re not in the present, that you’re not in the body. 

The more we’re in that moment experiencing pleasure, the more oxytocin, the more stress resilience, the more happiness and all those things. 

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Marni welcomes Laura Foster to the Life Check Yourself where the duo discusses what it means to be in alignment with your true self by un-programming yourself. Laura has been helping women through her movement Soul Healing Humanity, and through her technique Holistic Scaffolding, to unpack their bullshit and leave it behind. The maverick, who decided to cut the bullshit out of her own life, guides her clients into doing the same and finding a massive makeshift in their physical, mental, and spiritual well-being. 

• How to cut the bullshit

• Stop the distractions

• Be there for you

Is Your Unhappiness Seeping through? [04:40]

It seems evident but looking at your happiness, or lack thereof, is the first indicator of whether you need to make a change or not. And sometimes, you might not even know that you’re unhappy. While things might look great on the outside, and you’ve ticked all the boxes for what a successful happy life looks like, what’s underneath is what counts more. 

When I’d stop all the doing and the busyness, and I would start to come into alignment with my true self, it was like that’s where a lot of unhappiness is coming from. 

Who is Your True Self?[13:00]

Your true self is what’s underneath everything you’ve been programmed to believe; it’s underneath everything you’ve been conditioned into thinking you need to do; and it’s underneath all the human bullshit. And as you get closer to who your true self is, you get into your power. But that’s something only you can do. 

To take back your power means to live in alignment with your true self.

Be Your Own Guru [20:38]

While it is beneficial to hear out other people or gurus, what ends up happening is that you replace one set of rules and dogma with another. However, the reality is, no one knows what’s best for you more than you do. 

Once you learn this framework that gets you to where you’re your own guru, then you design a life that you love by you, for you. 

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Marni welcomes Gillian Pothier to the Life Check Yourself studio where the duo dissects what masculine energy and maleness actually mean. Gillian is a writer, a teacher, and a mentor who has helped women create fulfilling lifelong relationships with the men in their lives. And that extends to their romantic partners, their brothers, and their fathers. Her work centers around what becomes possible when you understand masculine and feminine energy. 

• We need to talk about dad

• How to get right with the nature of maleness

• Is it time to reclaim the source of patriarchy? 

Going Back to Basics [03:35]

If you’re to start fixing or developing the masculine relationships in your lives, you need to look at the source code, the first template. And that’s the father figure. Women need to look back at what’s inside their systems because we project these same wounds unconsciously over and over again. 

If we’re talking about a path of repair with men in the masculine, in our lives, we have to look at the OG. 

Dethroning the Father [08:19]

Women do not understand men and maleness. The reality is that so many women continue to homogenize and feminize men. We want them to be like us. It’s important to cleanse ourselves from the distortions taught to us by a culture that degrades men in the masculine. 

We tend to use feminine values and ethos and morals and preferences in our relationship with men to judge them as a good man. 

Tough Love [14:15]

For what has happened to you as a little girl or throughout different stages of your life, it can easily be said that it wasn’t your responsibility. But the moment it lives in your nervous system and your constellation of beliefs, it becomes your responsibility. 

It’s not about blaming women though. But it is about understanding that in order to have the experience that you want, this is an invitation by life or the divine to enter into a heroine’s journey and create. 

We have developed a capitalistic socio-political word called the patriarchy. But patria means family.  

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Marni welcomes Marie Garvey to the Life Check Yourself studio where the duo talks about what it means for a woman to find her own voice and be in her own power, proudly. Marie is an entrepreneur, a motivational speaker and an executive and life coach who has empowered women to find success while being present in their power. From a young age, women are programmed into the good girl mentality. Marie helps them break free of that to become who they are meant to be today rather than who those around them have defined them as. 

• Our worth isn’t in other people’s hands

• How to stop being uncomfortable with conflict

• It’s a good girl rebellion 

What Happens to the Good Girl? [07:52]

The Good Girl mentality breeds a form of constant expectations where you're always waiting to get a pat on the back or to be commended for doing the right thing. But the danger with that is what happens when you don’t get that pat on the back or the recognition for having been a “good.” And that usually results in women working harder, and thinking that if they just do more, they'll get it. 

We’ve been told, ‘Don’t be too much,’ and we’re walking around being people pleasers and perfectionists all the time. 

Step Into Your Feminine [15:14]

It is okay to be in your feminine and your masculine energy because both are valuable. But own your feminine energy because the world needs that. Women are better listeners and collaborators whereas men tend to see the world more in black and white. Hone in your feminine advantages and step into that energy.  

I think every woman I’ve met, certainly every woman I work with has moderated their light to fit what they believe the world can handle of them. 

You Got This [19:55]

When it comes to the workforce, a lot of women don’t trust their own capabilities or power. It’s this overwhelming sense of ‘I haven’t earned this.’ 

And it is that kind of mentality that stops them from putting their hat in the ring. 

There are so many corporations that want women at the highest levels. And my biggest problem is convincing them that they’re ready for it. 

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Marni welcomes Shyama Mathews to The Life Check Yourself where the duo discusses what it means to go through menopause and how to handle the changes your body is experiencing. Shyama is a gynecologist who is trained in minimal invasive gynecology surgery as well as a certified menopause specialist.  She has helped women navigate their families and careers while enhancing their quality of life. In tackling the topic of menopause, Marni and Shyama agree that it isn’t something that is discussed enough, and it’s important to bear in mind that different women experience it differently. The transition, which has both mental and physical symptoms, is a subject that needs to gain more traction as it affects all women at some point. 

• Menopause isn’t the big bad wolf

• Not everyone experiences it in the same way

• How to seek the right information on menopause

Does Our Fear Stem From Misinformation [09:36]

Menopause isn’t a topic typically discussed in the media. The information surrounding menopause and what women should expect isn’t as readily available as other topics. While there are a number of resources, you need to actively search for them as they won’t necessarily how up on your feed. While the average age for menopause is around 50. However, the symptoms for menopause can start manifesting themselves 5 to 7 years before that. 

It isn’t actually an irrelevant topic for young women because I do think everyone should sort of know what’s coming down the road. 

Don’t DIY it [13:00]

It’s important to find the proper channels and experts to guide you through it when you start experiencing symptoms that you’re not familiar with. When you’re in an age bracket where it is likely to be menopause, do your research and find an expert to help you navigate it and dissect whether the symptoms are a byproduct of menopause or something else. 

Go for a consultation just like you would treat any other illness or problem. Go to a specialist for a special problem. 

Know Your Options [22:28]

Educating yourself on your body is important, especially as a woman. It could save you a lot of otherwise unnecessary trouble. As women, we need to be aware of our options and that comes through education. 

We have old information. We’re doing a huge disservice. 

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Marni welcomes Leah Van Dolder to The Life Check Yourself where the duo discusses our relationship with food, perfectionism, and the line that separates success from failure. Leah is a mindset coach who has helped thousands of clients hit their weight goal while simultaneously leveling up their confidence and their energy, as well as achieving a stronger sense of self. Women often set high expectations for themselves, and while that might be good in a lot of cases, it can also be destructive when too much expectation is placed on a certain goal. 

• How to achieve your goal sustainably

• The key is achievable goals

• How to have that wake-up call 

Allow Yourself to be Human [06:26]

Your mindset should be taking it one step at a time. Don’t overwhelm yourself because that is not sustainable and will not get you to where you need to be. Rather than jump all in with unrealistic expectations, break up your goal into achievable steps. You are human, so allow yourself room for error. 

What are those daily things that we can do? Such as drinking a liter of water before bed, blocking those workouts in your schedule, or having an appointment with yourself 3 days a week. 

Listen to your soul [10:59]

When you feel a certain desire, one that is nagging at you, listen to it. It’s there for a reason. It’s meant to happen for you. But you need to be the one to make it a reality. Make time for what it is you want to achieve. 

There’s never going to be a right time to make a change.

What’s Your Relationship with Food [18:20]

Examine your eating habits, look at your relationship with food. We all placate ourselves by reasoning with ourselves. Whether we’re overeating because we don’t want to waste food or we are invited out for dinner at a 5-star restaurant, there is always a way around these excuses.

When it comes to a choice of our own, I think to myself, ‘okay, who is living and feeling the consequence of my choice? 

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Marni welcomes Naketa Ren to The Life Check Yourself where the duo talks about balancing life, love, and success as well as learning how to take pauses when you need them. Naketa is a podcast host, author, and the number one balance and relationship advisor globally. The powerhouse helps clients find that work-life balance, build a sustainable successful business while also prioritizing mental health and personal relationships. And it all starts with knowing when to slow down, and how to do it. 

• Give yourself permission to slow down 

• How to be mindful

• How to leave an imprint on the world

The Multigenerational Imprint [10:17]

The multigenerational imprint that you leave on this planet begins with yourself. It stems from showing up as an individual that honors authenticity, transparency, and kindness. It’s by practicing all those qualities with yourself that you can then share them with others. Be kind to yourself, be transparent with yourself and be authentic and honest when looking inwards. 

Authenticity is different from transparency. You could be very authentic and show up as fully who you are but not be transparent with why you are being that way. 

How You Show Up Could be Killing You [15:47]

How do you speak to yourself? Is it with kindness? Or are you harsh on yourself? Focus on what it is you say to you because when you put yourself down, and stress yourself out, you’re not only unhealthy mentally but physically as well. Stress dictates a big part of our physical health. It accounts for a high percentage of non-congenital illnesses. 

How you think of yourself and how you show up for yourself could be killing you slowly. 

Imagine all of those hidden diseases and hidden illnesses that are stress-induced.  

High Egos And Corporate Traumas [21:00]

It’s not a bad thing to have an ego, but it is bad to let your ego run the whole show. Unfortunately, we can’t change another person’s ego. What we can do is hold up a mirror to them but sometimes it’s not enough. 

And in a work environment, your superiors' egos could be destructive to your mental well-being as well as those around you. But how do you galvanize the shift?

You can change how you react to the person while building your exit plan.

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Marni welcomes Dr.Ken Druck to the Life Check Yourself where the duo discusses how to heal from loss and use it to become a better version of yourself. Dr.Ken is a best-selling author who has coached leaders both in business and in government. Having gone through the tragic loss of his daughter Jenna, Dr.Ken managed to develop groundbreaking work that has helped bereaved families and taught people how to recuperate from life’s biggest losses. 

 - How do you go on?

 - Putting your hand on your heart

 - How to calibrate the plan

What Now? [06:50]

Move from harsh criticism to kind self-compassion. What you tell yourself is important, particularly after a loss. The narrative that you tell yourself is what will determine whether you’ll lift yourself up or whether you’ll sink and miss a potential opportunity to grow. 

Of course, you don’t know what to do. How could you? You this is all new. How could you not feel fearful?

Begin by Learning [16:21]

The first step starts with you. To be compassionate with others, you need to first be compassionate with yourself. One you’ve practiced self-compassion, then you can turn it outwards and truly help those around you. Don’t repress the feelings you dislike but rather sit with them. 

Nothing special has happened because it’s all special. 

The Seven Honorings [20:22]

There are several ways to honor someone you’ve lost. Your own survival is one of them. You get to honor the person you’ve lost by being adamant on living, on surviving. Be stubborn about it. The second is doing something good in their name because that’s something that never dies. That is how you keep them alive beyond the physical world.

It clears the ability in us to take what began as the purest love then became an unspeakable sorrow and to turn it back into the purest love. 

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Marni welcomes Crystal Ware to Life Check Yourself where the duo discusses what it means to become the best version of yourself in life, love, and business. Crystal is a former Fortune 500 corporate leader and attorney who realized she wanted more out of life. She quit her job and became an entrepreneur and started her own podcast to help women take charge of their lives. And it all begins with removing the limiting belief that you do not have a choice and getting clear on your vision. 

Takeaways from this episode:

 - How to break free from excuses

 - Get clear on your vision

 - How to find that freedom

Are You in a Vicious Cycle? [07:10]

Are you strong enough? Are you smart enough? These are the questions that usually pull a person back into a cycle that they have been trying to get out of, or rather that they know they want to get out of. Fear. Fear in all its forms, fear of rejection, fear of judgment keep you spiraling in that loop. It’s almost like a constant vicious cycle that prevents you from getting off where you need to in order to get to the metaphorical train station. 

One of the first things you need to do is get really clear on where you want to end up, having that live vision  for yourself is the most important thing.  

Break Free from Limiting Beliefs [12:24]

It’s important to recognize that, no matter what stage you’re in, you always have a choice in your career, in your relationship, and in your life in general. Part of that is taking steps towards breaking free from the limiting beliefs you may be holding. 

I think when you have the courage to recognize it then the power is liberating. 

But What Are Virtuous Cycles? [17:00]

Reframe the question. It’s vital to ask yourself the questions that matter. What would give you more peace? How do you get more satisfaction and happiness? Everybody is tied down by things but it’s about looking at what brings you peace of mind. And finding the answers to those questions is what is going to align your heart, your soul, your body, and your mind with the world. The virtuous cycle is more about finding the positives that you have to contribute to the world and how to make them work for you. 

What are the attributes about you that make you shine? How can you turn them into positivity in the world?. 

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Marni welcomes Veronica Amaya in the Life Check Yourself studio, where they discuss how to elevate your relationship game and communicate with your partner in a way to get them to listen. Veronica is a relationship and dating coach, and the founder of the Conscious Relationship School. She has helped thousands of women and men overcome dating anxiety and break unhealthy relationship patterns. 

Takeaways from this episode:

 - Men are team players

 - You attract what you believe

 - How to communicate softly

Leave Your Judgment at the Door [05:15]

Sometimes, the blame that women attribute to men stems from a place of self-protection and self-preservation. However, when you date with these negative stereotypes about men living in the back of your mind, you end up interpreting everything your partner does through that lens. 

You also end up attracting the type of person you fear most.

If you believe a certain thing then you’re going to have that experience. We have to look at how you create those new beliefs that will reflect what you want. 

Trust Him to Lead [13:00]

It’s important for the man in a relationship to feel really strong in himself so that he can be secure in the knowledge that he is capable of handling things. 

When you start putting more trust in your partner, very often he’s going to show up in ways you didn’t expect. 

I think once the butterflies and rainbow part of a relationship is over, these are the things that can sabotage a really good relationship. 

The Medium is the Message [19:00]

It’s about communicating softly. It’s in the way you say things. That doesn’t mean that you need to stay silent but rather that you need to say things in a kind and soft way. 

Many women go immediately into anger. Men are usually logic-oriented. So, if you give him this problem to fix, he will respond. 

Sometimes that means that you won’t get your needs met immediately. Sometimes, you’re going to have a lot of pain that comes up too. That’s part of softness. 

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