"Just be yourself" might be the worst advice you've ever been given.

In this episode of the Life Habits Podcast, we're taking apart the myths running modern life — and the research that actually helps you navigate it.

Suzanne makes the case for why "being yourself" has become a shield for bad behavior and what to do instead. MJ unpacks the quiet rise of incivility, it’s causes, and what we can do about it. Mandy takes on the perfection trap, and Karel digs into the Dark Triad of narcissism, Machiavellianism, and psychopathy and how to survive these toxic personalities showing up in our workplaces and lives.

Tell us in the comments which trap has had the strongest grip on you? And please rate and follow us plus share us with your friends and colleagues.

Dr. Leanne ten Brinke’s “Dirty Dozen” checklist from her book “Poisonous People”.

The "Dirty Dozen" Checklist

1. Do they tend to manipulate others to get their way?

2. Have they used deceit or "white lies" to get what they want?

3. Do they use flattery or "love bombing" for ulterior motives?

4. Do they tend to exploit others for their own gain?

5. Do they lack remorse or seem indifferent after hurting someone's feelings?

6. Do they seem unconcerned with the morality of their actions?

7. Are they often callous or insensitive to the needs of others?

8. Do they lean toward being cynical or distrustful of everyone’s motives?

9. Do they have a constant need for others to admire them?

10. Do they want others to pay attention to them at all times?

11. Do they frequently seek prestige or status, even at the cost of relationships?

12. Do they expect special favors from others as if it’s their right?

This episode of the Life Habits Podcast explores the intersection of human psychology, well-being, and emerging technology. The team discusses the concept of "body budgeting," where social connections directly impact our energy levels and performance. They also examine a 2025 study suggesting that wellness is a prerequisite for self-control, highlighting kindness as a powerful tool for boosting mood and discipline. Additionally, the episode provides a guide to identifying and managing adult attachment styles—secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized—to improve relationship communication.A significant and controversial portion of the discussion focuses on the evolving role of Artificial Intelligence in providing emotional support.

Are you just "existing" at work, or are you actually thriving? In this episode of the Life Habits Podcast, host Karel Vredenburg is joined by co-hosts Mandy Kloppers, MJ Shaar, and Suzanne Joy Clark to explore the "messy reality" of modern work life. Using evidence-based research, the team dives into why global happiness is on the decline and provides actionable, science-backed strategies to reclaim your fulfillment.

Many people are is talking about the latest MIT research on AI, but are we missing the bigger picture? In this episode, we strip away the hype and conduct a critical reappraisal of the findings that the popular press describe as "AI is rotting your brain".

IN THIS EPISODE: We dig into the actual study behind the headlines to separate evidence-based and generalizable fact from media over interpretation fiction.

The Headline vs. The Reality: What the study actually showed and the reasons why we should be cautious in interpreting it.

Advice for Effective Use of AI: We provide practical suggestions for a healthy way of using AI that enhances your own skills, optimizes your use of AI, and keeps or gets you employed.

The Implications: We also discuss what all this means for the future of human intelligence and workforce productivity.

Life Habits returns from hiatus with fresh energy, new voices, and a new format—now also in video on YouTube. Karel is joined by three remarkable permanent co-hosts: psychologist Mandy Kloppers, kindness and wellness architect MJ Shaar, and leadership strategist Suzanne Joy Clark. Together, they explore how mentorship—and life itself—can evolve when “science meets the messy reality of life.” Expect real stories, evidence-based insights, and practical habits to help you thrive at work, in health, and beyond.

In this episode, Karel and Paige continue their insightful conversation with Jeff Wetzler, a human potential and learning expert and co-founder of Transcend. They explore the power of fostering curiosity in leadership, organizations, and personal relationships. Drawing from his book, Ask: Tap into the Hidden Wisdom of People Around You, Jeff shares practical frameworks for leveraging feedback, breaking down divisive barriers, and mastering skills that are essential for growth and collaboration in a polarized world.

In this transformative episode, we have Jeff Wetzler, the author of "Ask: Tap Into the Hidden Wisdom of People Around You for Unexpected Breakthroughs In Leadership and Life" unpack the profound power of curiosity and the art of asking the right questions. Drawing from personal experiences, groundbreaking research, and insights from thought leaders, Jeff reveals why most of us fail to tap into the wisdom of those around us—and how that’s holding us back in life and work.

Discover the one question that can unlock deeper connections, better decisions, and groundbreaking innovation. Learn how to listen like a leader, ask questions that inspire truth, and use curiosity to turn even your strongest emotions into opportunities for growth. This is the ultimate guide to transforming how you communicate, lead, and live.

It’s time to ask better, listen harder, and learn more.

Cindy Carrillo, author of Finding Your Nxt, discusses the importance of embracing change and finding your next phase in life. She shares quotes that inspire her and emphasizes the need to be intentional about setting goals and making changes. Cindy also addresses common blockers to change, such as fear of the unknown, fear of failure, and the willingness to settle. She encourages people to break free from financial constraints and take small steps towards living a life they truly want. Cindy's book and coaching programs provide guidance and support in finding your next.

In this powerful conclusion to our three-part series with Topaz Adizes, we explore his conversation-transforming new book, The 12 Questions for Love. Drawing from over 1,200 filmed conversations for {THE AND} project, Topaz distills years of insights into a practical guide for cultivating meaningful, well-constructed dialogues. This book serves as a blueprint for creating safe spaces that encourage vulnerability, authenticity, and deeper connections.

In this episode, Topaz highlights the critical role of reflection and the art of asking the right questions to elicit profound responses. He shares his vision for how these practices can positively impact relationships and inspire greater connection in our lives. If you’ve ever wondered how to build stronger relationships or elevate the quality of your conversations, this discussion is filled with actionable wisdom and inspiration.

Quotes from this episode:

“The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed.”

― Carl Gustav Jung

Key Takeaways:

A guide to meaningful conversations:The 12 Questions for Love provides tools for creating safe spaces that foster vulnerability and exploration.

The power of reflection: Thoughtful reflection and asking the right questions are essential for building meaningful connections.

Quality relationships start with quality conversations: Deep and impactful dialogues enhance the overall quality of life.

Safe spaces and boundaries matter: Establishing a safe environment with clear boundaries is crucial for successful conversations.

Love is an act and a practice: It goes beyond emotion and requires intentional effort and care.

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