LIFE IN DEPTH with Steph & Jamie

After nearly a year away... we’re back.

The last year tested us.

Family challenges.

Business pressure.

Financial stress.

Long stretches where nothing seemed to move forward.

In this episode, we talk about where we’ve been and what it took to stay connected when things got hard.

Most people start a new year by trying to add more.

More habits.

More goals.

More pressure.

That usually doesn’t work.

Real growth starts somewhere else.

It starts by cutting away what no longer serves you.

We use a simple plant story to explain why dead branches drain energy, even when you don’t notice it.

And why removing them creates space for new growth.

We talk about distraction.

Social media.

Comparison.

Why men and women struggle with it in different ways.

And how it quietly damages focus, confidence, and intimacy.

We also share the four simple games that helped us reconnect during our hardest season.

They’re easy to use.

They don’t require fixing each other.

They help people feel seen, heard, and appreciated again.

If you’ve had a tough year.

If you feel distracted or disconnected.

If you want 2026 to feel different.

This episode is for you.

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CHAPTERS:

00:00 – We’re Back: Where We’ve Been

02:30 – The Hard Year No One Talks About

05:10 – Business, Family, and Survival Mode

08:20 – Seasons in Relationships

11:00 – The Plant That Looked Dead

14:10 – Why Cutting Back Creates Growth

17:30 – When to Cut vs When to Keep Watering

19:10 – Why Adding More Usually Fails

20:30 – Social Media and the Comparison Trap

23:50 – Why AI Makes This Even Worse

26:30 – The Male vs Female Distraction Problem

31:40 – The Woman in the Red Dress (Matrix Analogy)

33:50 – Why Distraction Kills Intimacy

36:40 – Boundaries, Trust, and Eyegate Control

41:20 – How Men and Women Are Driven Differently

46:10 – Misunderstanding, Resentment, and Repair

49:00 – The Secret Relationship Games

52:10 – Game 1: Tell Me a Secret

55:20 – Game 2: Toot Your Horn

58:40 – Game 3: I’m Aware

01:02:30 – Game 4: I Give You Permission

01:05:10 – What to Cut Before 2026

01:06:30 – Final Thoughts and New Year Message

🚨 5 Signs of a Toxic Relationship You Should NEVER Ignore

Are you in a toxic relationship without even realising it?

In this episode, we break down the 5 major red flags that could be affecting your relationship and your mental well-being. Whether you’re in a long-term partnership or just starting out, understanding these warning signs can help you make better decisions about your love life!

📌  In This Episode, We Cover:

✔ How to find compassion & forgiveness for a toxic partner

💡 Why Listen?

📲 Join the Conversation!

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TAGS:

#ToxicRelationship #RelationshipAdvice #Podcast #DatingTips #RedFlags #LoveAndCommunication

Discover the Questions You NEED to Ask Before Getting Serious in a Relationship!

In this episode of Life in Depth with Steph & Jamie...

We delve into some crucial questions we believe are worth asking before getting deeply involved in any relationship.

Jamie and Steph share their personal journey and the importance of understanding peoples values through their up-bring & past relationships / experiences.

This episode aims to help listeners navigate the dating landscape more effectively by encouraging introspection and transparency.

Tune in to learn how to better vet potential partners and avoid unnecessary heartache!

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Proudly Sponsored by NEXUS NUTRITION

Shop Here: https://nexusnutrition.com/stephanie

*We highly recommend their Protein Waters!

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FOLLOW US:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/steph_and_jamie/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@steph_and_jamie

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TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 - Sneak Peek of the Episode

01:06 - About This Episode & Recap of the Previous Episode

03:39 - The Story of the Lonely Snake

05:44 - Why Hissing is Important when Dating

08:03 - Attract Love through Self Love

09:06 - Nexus Nutrition (Sponsorship)

11:26 - Why these Questions are Important

14:28 - When Jamie Vetted Steph with these Questions

15:00 - Question #1: What are your beliefs on God?

17:01 - Question #2A: What's your relationship like with your parents?

21:22 - Question #2B: What's your parents relationship like?

25:49 - Question #3: How did your last relationship end?

29:43 - Question #4: How many relationships & sexual partners have you had?

33:53 - Question #5: What's the biggest challenge you've ever faced?

41:47 - Question #6: How do you feel about joint accounts?

45:53 - The Importance of Alignment

47:35 - Word of Caution when Dating

48:33 - Recognise Your Wounds while Appreciating Your Value

49:32 - The Story of the Priceless Jewell

52:26 - Summary & Ideas for Future Episodes

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REFERENCES:

1. “Psychopathy and victim selection: the use of gait as a cue to vulnerability” by A.Book, K.Costello & J.A.Camilleri

2. The Map of Consciousness by Dr. David R. Hawkins

3. Re-examining the link between premarital sex and divorce. Journal of Family Issues, by Smith, J., & Wolfinger, N. H. (2023)

4. “A Diamond is Forever" and Other Fairy Tales: The Relationship Between Wedding Expenses and Marriage Duration.  By Francis, A. M., & Mialon, H. M. (2015); Economic Inquiry 1919–1930

Discover the Questions You NEED to Ask Before Getting Serious in a Relationship!

In this episode of Life in Depth with Steph & Jamie...

We delve into some crucial questions we believe are worth asking before getting deeply involved in any relationship.

Jamie and Steph share their personal journey and the importance of understanding peoples values through their up-bring & past relationships / experiences.

This episode aims to help listeners navigate the dating landscape more effectively by encouraging introspection and transparency.

Tune in to learn how to better vet potential partners and avoid unnecessary heartache!

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Proudly Sponsored by NEXUS NUTRITION

Shop Here: https://nexusnutrition.com/stephanie

*We highly recommend their Protein Waters!

(Available Online as well as Woolworths & Costco)

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FOLLOW US:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/steph_and_jamie/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@steph_and_jamie

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KEY TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 - Sneak Peek of the Episode

01:08 - About This Episode & Recap of the Previous Episode

03:41 - The Story of the Lonely Snake

05:46 - Why Hissing is Important when Dating

08:05 - Attract Love through Self Love

09:08 - Nexus Nutrition (Sponsorship)

11:28 - Why these Questions are Important

14:30 - When Jamie Vetted Steph with these Questions

15:02 - Question #1: What are your beliefs on God?

17:03 - Question #2A: What's your relationship like with your parents?

21:24 - Question #2B: What's your parents relationship like?

25:51 - Question #3: How did your last relationship end?

29:45 - Question #4: How many relationships & sexual partners have you had?

33:55 - Question #5: What's the biggest challenge you've ever faced?

41:49 - Question #6: How do you feel about joint accounts?

45:55 - The Importance of Alignment

47:37 - Word of Caution when Dating

48:35 - Recognise Your Wounds while Appreciating Your Value

49:34 - The Story of the Priceless Jewell

52:30 - Summary & Ideas for Future Episodes

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REFERENCES:

1. “Psychopathy and victim selection: the use of gait as a cue to vulnerability” by A.Book, K.Costello & J.A.Camilleri

2. The Map of Consciousness by Dr. David R. Hawkins

3. Re-examining the link between premarital sex and divorce. Journal of Family Issues, by Smith, J., & Wolfinger, N. H. (2023)

4. “A Diamond is Forever" and Other Fairy Tales: The Relationship Between Wedding Expenses and Marriage Duration.  By Francis, A. M., & Mialon, H. M. (2015); Economic Inquiry 1919–1930

Finding Love in the New Year: Self-Improvement and Authentic Connection

In this episode of Life in Depth with Steph & Jamie...

We dive deep into the keys to attracting your perfect partner in the New Year.

We discuss the importance of focusing on self-improvement, developing confidence, and being authentic while looking for love.

Through personal stories and valuable insights, we explore how to break the cycle of failed relationships by creating meaningful change.

Join us as we talk about balancing masculine and feminine energies, cultivating presence, and understanding the importance of spiritual and emotional connection.

Whether you're single or in a relationship, this episode has valuable advice for you!

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Sponsored by NEXUS NUTRITION

Shop All Products: https://nexusnutrition.com/

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FOLLOW US:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/steph_and_jamie/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@steph_and_jamie

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TIMESTAMPS:

0:00 Sneak Peek Inside This Episode

1:02 Don’t Hope for Change in the New Year - Make It Happen!

4:10 Introduction: About This Episode

4:36 Story: Man Searching Outside Instead of Inside

5:35 The Importance of Inner Work for Attraction

6:41 The More You Search - The Further Away It Gets

7:48 The Pressure of “The Biological Clock” for Women

8:55 Focus on What You Can Control (Not What You Can’t)

9:25 The Importance of Letting Go

12:04 Cultivating the Faith Required to Let Go

14:06 Quick Recap of Our Story

14:53 Accept Being By Yourself

15:38 The Concept of Manifestation & Attraction

16:47 Desire Without Desperation

17:40 Putting the Action into the Law of Attraction

19:58 How to Become Attractive

21:44 Attraction Tips for Women

22:43 Attraction Tips for Men

25:43 Importance of Self Acceptance for Men

28:07 Women Sense When Men are “Hiding Things”

28:42 Don’t Be Fake (Be Authentically You)

29:54 Sponsorship: Nexus Supplements

32:40 The Power of Presence for Men

34:17 Energy Projection & Vibration Energetics

35:14 Energy Trumps Looks

37:08 The Map of Consciousness (Demystifying the “Woo-Woo” Behind Energetics)

39:05 How Steph Introduced Herself to Jamie

41:22 Ladies, Don’t Be Afraid to Introduce Yourself!

42:42 Flirtation vs Seduction (Tips for Women)

46:32 Cultivating the Confidence to Introduce Yourself

47:18 “Hitch-Like” Ideas

49:32 Why “Good Guys” Don’t Get a Chance

50:19 How Men Can Overcome Rejection

51:56 The Problem with Online Dating

55:24 Mind-blowing Statistics About Online Dating

58:24 Make the Effort to Get Out!

1:01:21 Exercise: Write a Description Of Your Dream Partner

1:02:16 Steph Wrote About “Him”

1:04:51 Go for the Heart First

1:05:47 Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs

1:07:30 Summary & Introduction to Part 2

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REFERENCES:

1. Book Reference: Power vs Force by Dr David R. Hawkins

2. New York Post Survey: https://nypost.com/2024/06/21/lifestyle/eight-in-ten-americans-burnt-out-with-dating-apps-research/

3. Psychological Framework Reference: Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs by Abraham Maslow

Finding Love in 2025: Self-Improvement and Authentic Connection

In this episode of Life in Depth with Steph & Jamie...

We dive deep into the keys to attracting your perfect partner in 2025.

We discuss the importance of focusing on self-improvement, developing confidence, and being authentic while looking for love.

Through personal stories and valuable insights, we explore how to break the cycle of failed relationships by creating meaningful change.

Join us as we talk about balancing masculine and feminine energies, cultivating presence, and understanding the importance of spiritual and emotional connection.

Whether you're single or in a relationship, this episode has valuable advice for you!

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Proudly Sponsored by NEXUS NUTRITION

If you or your partner are into training...

Be sure to check our the Nexus Supplements:

https://nexusnutrition.com/ 

We highly recommend their Protein Water & PER4M Pre-Workout!

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KEY TIMESTAMPS:

0:00 - Sneak Peek Inside This Episode

1:04 - Don’t Hope for Change in the New Year - Make It Happen!

4:12 - Introduction: About This Episode

4:38 - Story: Man Searching Outside Instead of Inside

5:37 - The Importance of Inner Work for Attraction

6:43 - The More You Search - The Further Away It Gets

7:50 - The Pressure of “The Biological Clock” for Women

8:57 - Focus on What You Can Control (Not What You Can’t)

9:27 - The Importance of Letting Go

12:06 - Cultivating the Faith Required to Let Go

14:08 - Quick Recap of Our Story

14:55 - Accept Being By Yourself

15:40 - The Concept of Manifestation & Attraction

16:49 - Desire Without Desperation

17:42 - Putting the Action into the Law of Attraction

20:00 - How to Become Attractive

21:46 - Attraction Tips for Women

22:45 - Attraction Tips for Men

25:45 - Importance of Self Acceptance for Men

28:09 - Women Sense When Men are “Hiding Things”

28:44 - Don’t Be Fake (Be Authentically You)

29:56 - Sponsorship: Nexus Supplements

32:42 - The Power of Presence for Men

34:19 - Energy Projection & Vibration Energetics

35:16 - Energy Trumps Looks

37:10 - The Map of Consciousness (Demystifying the “Woo-Woo” Behind Energetics)

39:07 - How Steph Introduced Herself to Jamie

41:24 - Ladies, Don’t Be Afraid to Introduce Yourself!

42:44 - Flirtation vs Seduction (Tips for Women)

46:34 - Cultivating the Confidence to Introduce Yourself

47:20 - “Hitch-Like” Ideas

49:34 - Why “Good Guys” Don’t Get a Chance

50:21 - How Men Can Overcome Rejection

51:58 - The Problem with Online Dating

55:26 - Mind-blowing Statistics About Online Dating

58:26 - Make the Effort to Get Out!

1:01:23 - Exercise: Write a Description Of Your Dream Partner

1:02:18 - Steph Wrote About “Him”

1:04:53 - Go for the Heart First

1:05:49 - Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs

1:07:32 - Summary & Introduction to Part 2

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REFERENCES:

1. Book Reference: Power vs Force by Dr David R. Hawkins

2. New York Post Survey: Eight in Ten Americans Burnt Out with Dating Apps Research by SWNS

3. Psychological Framework Reference: Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs by Abraham Maslow

Unlocking Men’s Potential: 5 Ways Women Can Build Stronger Relationships with Men

In this episode of Life in Depth with Steph & Jamie...

We dive deep into what women can do to better support their husbands, boyfriends, or male partners.

Steph and Jamie uncover the common missteps women make when trying to motivate men and how these actions can unintentionally backfire.

Steph opens up about her personal journey of understanding Jamie’s need for space, how it shaped their relationship, and the lessons she learned along the way.

Together, they explore the essential needs of men (praise, space, affection, and intimacy) and provide actionable insights on how women can foster these needs to create a thriving partnership.

They also tackle the impact of frequent criticism and threats, offering practical advice for building healthier, more constructive communication.

Discover what not to say to a man and why embracing mutual growth can transform your connection into a deeply fulfilling relationship.

Tune in to gain powerful tools and insights that can make all the difference in your relationship!

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Sponsored by NEXUS NUTRITION

https://nexusnutrition.com/

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TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 - Sneak Peek Inside this Episode

01:04 - Introduction

03:09 - Recap & Thoughts on the Last Episode

03:59 - Disclaimer

04:41 - Nexus Nutrition Supplements (Sponsor)

06:55 - Breaking Out of the "Honeymoon Phase"

10:14 - Appreciating the Differences Between Men & Women

13:18 - The "Rubber Band Effect"

14:59 - Why Men Struggle with Conflict

18:34 - Med Need Time & Space

19:33 - Why Men Hide Their Frustration & Anger

20:56 - How Personal Struggles Effect Relationships

21:35 - Communicating & Setting Boundaries

25:44 - Why Relationships Lead to Incredible Growth

28:02 - Criticism Doesn't Motivate Men

30:34 - Women "Shit Test" Men

31:37 - Framework for Women to Motivate Men

34:16 - Punishment.& Withdrawals in Relationships

36:38 - Men' Desire & Value Sex in Relationships

38:16 - Never Threaten to Leave

41:20 - The Importance of Kindness (Study by Masaru Emoto)

43:30 - The Ultimatum

44:18 - Caution for Women

45:02 - Men & Women View “Safety” Differently

46:10 - Understanding Men's Upbringing

48:28 - Speak Light & Belief into him

49:12 - The Symbolism Behind the Story of Adam & Eve

50:26 - Why He Distances Himself

51:03 - AVOID Becoming his "Mother"

52:51 - Give Him a Chance

53:57 - Summary: What Men Want

55:08 - The Importance of Physical Attraction (Long Term)

57:57 - Women & Exotic Novels

59:09 - Attracting Someone Great

1:00:05 - Final Thoughts

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REFERENCES:

1. Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus by John Gray

2. The Hidden Messages in Water by Dr. Masaru Emoto

Unlocking Men’s Potential: 5 Ways Women Can Build Stronger Relationships with Men

In this episode of Life in Depth with Steph & Jamie...

We dive deep into what women can do to better support their husbands, boyfriends, or male partners.

Steph and Jamie uncover the common missteps women make when trying to motivate men and how these actions can unintentionally backfire.

Steph opens up about her personal journey of understanding Jamie’s need for space, how it shaped their relationship, and the lessons she learned along the way.

Together, they explore the essential needs of men (praise, space, affection, and intimacy) and provide actionable insights on how women can foster these needs to create a thriving partnership.

They also tackle the impact of frequent criticism and threats, offering practical advice for building healthier, more constructive communication.

Discover what not to say to a man and why embracing mutual growth can transform your connection into a deeply fulfilling relationship.

Tune in to gain powerful tools and insights that can make all the difference in your relationship!

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Proudly Sponsored by NEXUS NUTRITION

If you or your partner are into training...

Be sure to check our the Nexus Supplements:

https://nexusnutrition.com/

We highly recommend their Protein Water & PER4M Pre-Workout!

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REFERENCES:

1. Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus by John Gray

2. The Hidden Messages in Water by Dr. Masaru Emoto

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00:00 - What's to come in this episode...

02:05 - Nexus Nutrition Supplements

03:52 - Introduction

05:02 - Why are Women Always Mad at Men?

05:58 - The Role of the Menstrual Cycle in Relationships

08:16 - The Hormonal Challenges for Women

10:35 - Highlighting the Differences Between Men & Women

11:46 - Common Symptoms of a Menstrual Cycle

12:39 - The Symbolic Meaning behind the “28 Day Cycle”

13:58 - Why Men NEED to Understand this...

16:22 - Does this make Women “Crazy”?

17:45 - Evidence Backed by Science

19:19 - Triggering Content

22:08 - The Struggles Women Face which Men Don't Understand

24:39 - What Should Men do When She's Mad?

25:46 - Introducing our Framework

26:28 - Study References Supporting our Framework

29:51 - Beta Males vs Alpha Males

30:58 - Should you be a Beta or an Alpha in your Relationship?

31:40 - Our Framework: The “Chad/Dad” Personas

35:07 - Biological Symbolism as Evidence

36:28 - Why Should Men Change?

38:28 - Crediting Men for their Efforts

41:13 - Stephanie Interrupts

41:40 - Biological & Psychological Effects of the Menstrual Cycle

43:32 - Real-Time Example: Converting from "Chad" to "Dad"

44:28 - One of the Greatest Benefits of a Relationship

47:05 - Hormonal Impacts on Feminine & Masculine Energy

48:49 - Being Mindful of Men's Struggles

52:15 - How Women can Communicate with Men about this...

53:53 - How to Handle a Stubborn Man...

56:46 - Steph Out-Alpha's Jamie?

58:12 - Divorce Rates & the Dangers of a Woman's Dissatisfaction

59:47 - Accepting & Appreciating your Woman’s Feedback

1:01:31 - Summary

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Understanding Her Mood Swings: Navigating Relationships with the "Chad-Dad" Dynamic.

In this episode of Life in Depth with Steph & Jamie...

We explore the complexities of navigating relationships through the lens of the female menstrual cycle.

Jamie shares his journey of understanding Stephanie's moods, attributing them to different phases of her cycle, and how this understanding has profoundly impacted their relationship.

They uncover their framework of the "Chad" and "Dad" personas to illustrate the dual roles that men need to take in order to harmonize with their partners.

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Sponsored by NEXUS NUTRITION

https://nexusnutrition.com/

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TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 - What's to come in this episode...

02:05 - Nexus Nutrition Supplements

03:52 - Introduction

05:02 - Why are Women Always Mad at Men?

05:58 - The Role of the Menstrual Cycle in Relationships

08:16 - The Hormonal Challenges for Women

10:35 - Highlighting the Differences Between Men & Women

11:46 - Common Symptoms of a Menstrual Cycle

12:39 - The Symbolic Meaning behind the “28 Day Cycle”

13:58 - Why Men NEED to Understand this...

16:22 - Does this make Women “Crazy”?

17:45 - Evidence Backed by Science

19:19 - Triggering Content

22:08 - The Struggles Women Face which Men Don't Understand

24:39 - What Should Men do When She's Mad?

25:46 - Introducing our Framework

26:28 - Study References Supporting our Framework

29:51 - Beta Males vs Alpha Males

30:58 - Should you be a Beta or an Alpha in your Relationship?

31:40 - Our Framework: The “Chad/Dad” Personas

35:07 - Biological Symbolism as Evidence

36:28 - Why Should Men Change?

38:28 - Crediting Men for their Efforts

41:13 - Stephanie Interrupts

41:40 - Biological & Psychological Effects of the Menstrual Cycle

43:32 - Real-Time Example: Converting from "Chad" to "Dad"

44:28 - One of the Greatest Benefits of a Relationship

47:05 - Hormonal Impacts on Feminine & Masculine Energy

48:49 - Being Mindful of Men's Struggles

52:15 - How Women can Communicate with Men about this...

53:53 - How to Handle a Stubborn Man...

56:46 - Steph Out-Alpha's Jamie?

58:12 - Divorce Rates & the Dangers of a Woman's Dissatisfaction

59:47 - Accepting & Appreciating your Woman’s Feedback

1:01:31 - Summary

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REFERENCES:

1. Penton-Voak et al. (1999) "Female preference for male faces change cyclically"

2. Gangestad & Thornhill (1998) "Menstrual cycle variation in women's preferences for the scent of symmetrical men"

3. Haselton & Gangestad (2006) "Conditional expression of women's desires and men's mate guarding across the ovulatory cycle"

4. Gildersleeve, Haselton & Fales (2014) "Do women's mate preferences change across the ovulatory cycle?"

5. Little & Jones (2011) "Variation in facial masculinity and symmetry preferences across the menstrual cycle is moderated by relationship context"