People traditionally called empaths and those with an incredibly large heart of kindness need to understand that there are those they will never return your kindness back because they are emotionally incapable of understanding you and are self cantered and unable to empathetically understand another human beings pain from their own because the focus is own their own pain and victimhood which is always larger than anyone else’s in their mind and so that sense of entitlement prevents that sense of emotional connection and understanding

Highly empathic, emotionally centred and optimistic people need to be careful not to see qualities in someone that don’t exist or that hope will exist. We need to see people AS they are. We cannot influence people all that much to turn negative people into positive people.

Our expectations of not wanting toxic people from our past to be the shitty people they are is what causes our attachment. We must accept a toxic person as that, a toxic person.

Often we don’t realize someone is a toxic person until they leave and how they leave. Here I two how to identify a toxic person before you invite them in any further.’

All forms of validation are to appease some self concept but the result is that we often have to change ourselves to get the validation we seek and constantly check if we have enough validation. Far better to not require it anymore as it isn’t a useful paradigm or way to live. We don’t need to be liked and we don’t need to be validated.

The importance of not trying to be or become anything and the dangers that can result to yourself if you try to be anything other than you.

Changing the narrative of success to be grounded in reality.

Being nice doesn’t get you far. Being authentic does.

You can’t execute on an idea of something you want to do. But you can execute on a plan for something you want to accomplish.

In life, traumas happen to you and then the brain creates a sense of lack. That lack often becomes a damaging motivational core value we seek to fulfil or gain in the world. We need to reprogram that