Life Workshop

It is not a bad idea to question any basic principle as what and why we do something time to time. After all circumstances change. And sometime we are simply living the life we were taught and the life we want.
When asking a genuine question, almost any answer is good, but when we ask a question, expecting a certain answer, we can easily get offended or disappointed.
Often based on what we do we can get the good or the bad out of the same person. Good and bad wolf.

Do you ask enough questions or think its better to do it on your own, thinking you might be bothering people? Remember often people like to help, do not hesitate to ask for help.

When starting a relationship, it is important to be as honest as possible with yourself and the other party regarding your expectations of the relationship. Even if this is the case, over time we genuinely change our expectations. Since over years as we develop our own identity, we normally but not always, grow apart more than we grow closer to one another.

We get in a relationship for different reasons, e.g. financial reasons, sex, having a family, having a trusted friend, a travel partner, companionship, and so on. Over the years these might change e.g. not wanting more children, or the financial help, wanting other people for companionship. Simply put, our needs change. I believe relationships lasts because of our "needs". As our needs become less, relationships may weaken. Of course there are external factors as well such as culture, society expectations, religion.  

Don't be the Blockbuster, accept the reality and facts of life and move with it. You can't fight reality and facts

Break ups don't have to be hard, we make them hard and the law makes it difficult. Life will be easier to accept the change and move on. Look forward to the excitement ahead, and do not regret the past. 
Remember that "change" is exciting, that is why we do not want to repeat our past 5 yrs of lives and at the same time do not want to skip the next 5 yrs. 

In any war/fight both parties lose, one party more than the other, and in any working together/cooperation both parties gain, one party more than the other

Change the way you feel by changing the way you think. The excitement of what life has ahead of us makes life interesting while thinking of the past makes us stay stagnant and rot.

Any relationship normally last because of a "need and not want". And as we get to be more independent, relationships weaken. 

For safety reasons, no questions for this episode :)

We all need friends, so it is very important to know how to pick good friends and how to be one.
The following are a few of the red flags to watch out for when looking for a good friend: Wishing others ill, jealousy, negativity, not been able to show your vulnerability, and not respecting one's privacy.

We have to remember that everyone has flaws, so we don't want to write off people who potentially could be good friends due to the flaws they may have. Practice getting to know people. First impression doesn't count. If you don't initially like someone, get to know them, if you still don't like them, get to know them more.

It is a good thing to put friends in different categories, each has their own strengths and weaknesses, some might be good to work with, some are good to travel with, some are good to party with, while others are there to have a decent conversation, and so on.

Q: Do you connect with your friends at multiple levels? Or does each have their own place, this way you can have more friends?

There are times which we give a good connotation to a  bad behaviour or alternatively, a bad connotation to a  good behaviour. 
So when somebody makes a comment, you have to ask them, "is this a good thing or a bad thing?"
Richer societies can afford more independent life, independence leads to being alone which could lead to loneliness. That is why in richer societies anxiety and depression is more common and end up with less codependence and less sense of community.
Codependence, asking for help as well as providing help deepens friendships. Having a stronger community translates to more happiness.
At times we buy emotionally and justify rationally. 
Be comfortable to ask for help and make others comfortable to ask for your help. Often it is us who feel uncomfortable to ask for help, while others are more than willing to offer it. Very frequently we are too shy to ask for help, but are more than willing to offer it.
Mo claims he's vegetarian by dark.
Q: Ask your friends if they would trim your back, or come and help you blow out the water lines with their air compressor. Or would you do that for them?

Mo claims that loneliness or, having no friends, is the major cause of death, more than smoking, alcoholism, poor diet and so on.

To battle loneliness, one needs friends. Friends are those who are not your enemy, they celebrate your successes and get sad when you feel down. Secondly you have something in common with them. Some friends are good companions, while not being able to help in every way, are still there next to you. While others are more helpful and resourceful but do not give you the fuzzy feeling of a good friendship. These are a few tips which Mo would give people to help them build friendships.

If someone wishes someone else ill, they could never be a good friend to anyone.

Jealousy is when you hurt seeing others succeed, envy is when you wish to have their success but never wishing them to lose their success.

Friends don't judge you but will correct you when you are wrong and are genuinely honest while pointing out your flaws.

If you feel down, I'll be more than happy to give a hand to come up, but if you expect me to come down and stay with you, you are on your own.

If you don't like someone, try to get to know them first. If you still don't like them, get to know them some more. don't right off people too quickly.

Trust comes at two levels, 1. They have your best interests in mind. 2. Your best doesn't suck.  

Q:
What's the definition of a good friend to you and how many good friends do you have.
At times of loneliness and/or difficulties who comes to your mind.

Failure is not falling down/making mistakes, failure is not getting back up afterwards.
We all make mistakes, the difference is how we handle them.
Once you make a mistake, first realize the extent of it, then move on and focus on solving it. Do not settle down on the mistake, since you can't undo what is done.
There is good in any bad and bad in any good, focus on what you learnt from the bad experience.
Often we see our own mistakes as situational, while we see other people's mistakes with the view that they are bad people.

Q: Share some of the mistakes you have made and the way you handled them, did you focus on the mistake, or the solution? What is your advice to your friends, when they make a mistake, mistake or solution?

First we should learn from others, then add to it. We do not need to experience someone else's experience in order to learn.

You should ask first and then built on it.
Schooling teaches you how to fish it does not give you the fish.

Q: In your opinion, what is the better way, asking how or figuring it out on own?

Mo states that there are ways to approach your own happiness. Firstly, take care of the things that make you unhappy. One best way is to decrease your level of expectation of others and yourself.
In business and life one big element for success is to be clear with your level of expectations from yourself and others. While at times we realistically can't have our expectations lined up due to lack of clarity. In these cases we need to have a "buffer zone" as well as remember to take things easy on each other.
It is said that 97% of the things we worry about will never happen, and the other 3% we can't do anything about. If we start thinking in this way, it will get easier. Also, if you can do something about a situation, then do it, and if you can't, then don't worry about it.
One quick way to increase your level of happiness is to appreciate the things that you have rather than focusing on the things that you don't have. If you do not feel good one day, help someone.
Few other elements that make you happy:
1: Sunlight. Don't sit in the shade/dark when you don't need to, open the blinds and curtains when you can and try to be out in the sun more often. Don't wear shades if not too sunny to hurt your eyes.
2: An $80,000.00 income.
3: Having a community and close friends.
4: Fish oil and Vitamin D.
5: Exercise.
Q: for 21 day in a row, write down 21 things that you are grateful for. you can not repeat the same thing and email us at [email protected].

Failing to plan equates to planning to fail. Knowing the difference between happiness and pleasure will help us plan accordingly, as to which one is missing in our lives and which deserves more attention.
At times, we envy the life of others since they have more pleasure in their life, while in fact, that doesn't represent their level of happiness. 
While pleasure can increase your level of happiness over time, if obtained wrongly it can ruin your level of happiness as well.
It's important to choose the words in which we use correctly, eg. if you are frustrated do not say "I am angry", and if you are having fun it is different than being happy.
Are your friends the ones who add pleasure or happiness to your life, party friends or friends in need? and what kind of a friend are you?
Treating yourself with stuff or food can have a negative long term effect while helping others can be cumbersome at the beginning but rewarding for a long term.

Q: What do you do for pleasure and does it help or ruin your level of happiness?

In this episode, Mo states that any purpose, whether it is good or bad, is a driver for life and creates livelihood. However a bad purpose ends up to a bad ending.
The final purpose in life, is to have a good life. However smaller milestones/purposes are needed in order to get there.
A strong purpose, good or bad, stops you from feeling the present and is useful when present is not pleasant.
Review your life every few months to see if you are on the right path to get to where you want to go.  
Before going to bed review your day, what made you feel good or bad and why. 
The way you think, decides the way you feel.

Question: What's your life purpose? Are you on the right path to get there,
Send me an email and tell me what your life purpose is.