Anna Malaika Tubbs is a New York Times Bestselling author, advocate, and educator who is inspired to bring people together through the celebration of difference. Motivated by her mother’s work advocating for women’s and children’s rights around the world, Anna uses an intersectional lens to advocate for women of color and educate others. Her focus is on addressing gender and race issues in the US, especially the pervasive erasure of Black women which she explored in her recent release The Three Mothers: How the Mothers of Martin Luther King, Jr., Malcolm X, and James Baldwin Shaped a Nation. 

Connect with Anna and her work in the links below: 

• Book: https://amzn.to/3wam81h

HIGHLIGHTS

02:23 The secret power of power naps 

05:12 The story behind the book 

10:24 Rewriting the stories of the black mothers 

15:22 The role of white supremacy in the erasure of black mothers' stories

19:50 Black people do not need to educate everyone of their pain

22:35 We don't need to carry the burden alone

23:40 Anna's self-care habits and ways to prioritize family

32:35 Ways that society can improve their treatment of black mothers 

38:32 Raising a black family in this political climate 

50:19 Change is always possible in the world

QUOTES

08:31 Anna: "It happens all the time, that black women's stories are erased, that black mother's contributions are taken for granted. But I narrowed it down to the civil rights movement because we come back to it all the time in our policy discussions."

10:30 Anna: "It's very clear there's an intentional erasure of women's stories, and very specifically black women's stories. Because it doesn't fit this kind of hegemonic notion of this white male who is the leader, this white cisgender male as the hero of every story. It doesn't fit that, we're just gonna say it never happened or it didn't exist."

34:59 Anna: "These biases in our healthcare systems that tell back women, you're imagining this, this is just something you're feeling, happen over and over and over again. The black maternal health crisis, so much of it is a result of bias against black women that doesn't hear us, when I say this is happening to me." 

36:48 Anna: "We as a nation have seen over and over again that policing should not be responsible for social work. There should be more funding put towards social workers and de-escalation and thinking about other resources that people could call, especially victims of domestic violence."

41:16 Anna: "I needed to keep a hold on my joy and my love, and not allow fear to be the only thing that I was feeling. To use that fear as a driving force, to face it, not to hide it.  Say don't be afraid, but say yes, this world can be very scary but my joy and my agency is something I need to hold on to because that's how I continue to fight against these forces."

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Sah D’Simone is a spiritual revolutionary, artful guide, international transformational speaker, best-selling author, and creator of The Sah Method spiritual workout. He is pioneering a Spiritually Sassy, heart-based healing movement rooted in science-backed, tried-and-true techniques, in which joy and authenticity illuminate the path to enlightenment. 

His infectious enthusiasm for healing is grounded in a masterful and revolutionary synthesis of ancient Buddhism, modern contemplative psychotherapy, meditation, breathwork, and integrative nutrition, all delivered in his own radiant, approachable, and playful style.  His teachings have helped enrich the lives of millions of people, and inspire a new generation of change-makers. Deepak Chopra called Sah a "radical spiritual guide.”

Sah has worked with Kanye West, Cardi B, Google, MoMa, Unicef, and American Express among others, and is a TEDx speaker. His first book, 5-Minute Daily Meditations, has been translated into Spanish and was called “a yearlong personal retreat of daily meditations” by Sharon Salzberg and his 2022 Page-a-Day Calendar, 5-Minute Daily Meditations is available now. His second book, Spiritually Sassy: 8 Radical Steps to Activate Your Innate Superpowers, is out now and has been translated in German; and his top-rated podcast, The Spiritually Sassy Show, is a top 100 podcast in the United States in Spirituality. Sah’s message has been featured on The Doctors, Forbes, Vice, Refinery29, USA Today, Adweek, BuzzFeed, and more.

Connect with Sah and his work in the links below: 

• Website: https://www.sahdsimone.com/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sahdsimone/
• Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sahdsimone
• Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-spiritually-sassy-show/id1547752940

HIGHLIGHTS

04:14 Finding beauty in the chaos

13:27 Flying high and unexpected ending

17:56 Trip to north of India and introduction to Buddhism

21:34 People have basic goodness, but it must be unlocked

27:04 Essential lessons to achieve wellness

37:17 A poetic state of mind is a liberated state of mind 

46:51 The next Buddha will be the community

48:30 Find people with the right amount of water and sunlight to your seed

53:05 Peace and true liberation is a paradox 

55:43 Experience Sacred Boredom

1:05:24 Vulnerability is the forefront of expression

QUOTES

10:06 Sah: "Your eyes recalibrate with the darkness and then all of a sudden, you're able to see in the dark. And then you don't have to go frantically look at every corner of the walls finding the light switch. All of a sudden, there is this moment where you know exactly where the light switch is so you just calmly walk yourself over across the room and you turn the light switch on and all of a sudden a dark room is filled with light."

16:23 Sah: "We're not conditioned to seek liberation. We're conditioned to accumulate and in hopes of more stuff will turn into inner liberation. The capitalistic god was at the forefront of my altar at that point."

21:07 Sah: "We have basic goodness. Everyone has basic goodness. yes, there's evil behavior but there are no evil people. People make evil mistakes and destructive and hurtful mistakes but there's no such thing as evil people because the core of our being, our essence is basically good."

53:02 Sah: "We've become so desensitized to our own suffering and the suffering of the world that we've learned to be okay with things that are not okay, we've learned to be comfortable with things that are not okay for us or for the world." 

1:05:07 Sah: "Never put yourself in that space that you are fully healed. Never put yourself in that space that you know all the answers. Never put yourself in that space that you are the wisest person in the room."

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Rachel Ricketts (she/her/hers) is a queer, multiracial Black woman. She is a global disruptor, mystic, media consultant and author of the international bestselling book Do Better: Spiritual Activism for Fighting and Healing from White Supremacy. As a racial justice leader, spiritual activist and collective mirror, she supports individuals and organizations heal from internalized oppression, unpack their role in perpetuating white supremacy, and help end global oppression in all forms. She has helped numerous global brands and organizations with racial justice including Google, WeWork and Buzzfeed and was named one of well+good’s 2020 Changemakers.

Rachel’s work has been featured on Good Morning America and Vox, and in the New York Times, People, Forbes, The Atlantic, Elle, Essence and Cosmopolitan. She loves donuts, dancing, disruption and all things metaphysical (ideally all at once).

Learn more at www.rachelricketts.com and @iamrachelricketts and grab a copy of her book from the link below.

• Amazon - https://amzn.to/3KdDqOT 

HIGHLIGHTS

03:39 We all need to believe that we can do better

06:37 Growing up as a poor person in a wealthy neighborhood 

10:51 A pile of black and brown bodies

14:02 COVID-19's effect on your life depends on your privilege 

17:09 Change is possible, but we all need to put in the work

19:38 The bare basics of shadow work

22:11 We're all oppressors and oppressed in various ways 

25:38 Self Care vs Soul Care 

34:43 How is your heart?

37:01 Helping her mother die

47:17 How to effectively deal with loss and grief

54:16 Ways we're addressing the systems of oppression 

58:57 Rachel's favorite things 

QUOTES

10:44 Rachel: "I don't know what this is, because none of us really do, but I know what's coming. And I literally just envisioned piles of brown and black bodies. I know that this is going to disproportionately impact those already made most marginalized, those already carrying too much of the load, those already ostracized and pushed to the margins of society." 

16:05 Rachel: "Things will continue to catch fire until enough of us activate and awaken for long enough for the critical mass to occur for change to happen. I wouldn't be in tis work if I didn't believe that that's possible. I do believe it's possible. But I also believe that we're running out of time and it's actually possible that we've missed the mark." 

22:26 Rachel: "I have lots of privilege and as a result, I oppress. I cause harm. I'm a bad person not because I'm trying to, not because I intend to. Just, that's the nature of the game. That's the way that it rolls and so, if I'm not doing my work to be able to withstand that and own that and acknowledge it, then I can't do anything to actually action on it, in a way again that prioritizes and centers those have been most harmed instead of prioritizing and centering me and my feelings about it."

48:43 Rachel: "We hold not only our grief and trauma, but we hold our ancestor's grief and trauma as well. All that unresolved harm and violence, and trauma, and loss."

49:19 Rachel: "Grief is rage, and hopelessness and despair, but it can also be relief and reprieve."

49:25 Rachel: "When my mother died, I was overwhelmed by sadness, make no mistake. And I was also relieved because she didn't want to be in that body anymore and she was in so much pain. And I was so glad that finally she had found the peace she so desperately deserved that she was unable to acquire in this lifetime because of these systems of oppression." 

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Bryant Terry is a James Beard & NAACP Image Award-winning chef, educator, and author renowned for his activism to create a healthy, just, and sustainable food system. He is editor-in-chief of 4 Color Books, an imprint of Penguin Random House and Ten Speed Press, and he is co-principal and innovation director of Zenmi, a creative studio he founded. Since 2015 he has been the Chef-in-Residence at the Museum of the African Diaspora (MoAD) in San Francisco where he creates public programming at the intersection of food, farming, health, activism, art, culture, and the African Diaspora. 

His forthcoming collection of recipes, art, and stories entitled Black Food will be published by 4 Color Books/Ten Speed Press in the fall of 2021. In regard to his work, Bryant’s mentor Alice Waters says, “Bryant Terry knows that good food should be an everyday right and not a privilege.” San Francisco Magazine included Bryant among 11 Smartest People in the Bay Area Food Scene, and Fast Company named him one of 9 People Who Are Changing the Future of Food. 

Connect with Bryant via the links below: 

• Website: https://www.bryant-terry.com/
• Book: https://amzn.to/3BTpFC9
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bryantterry/

HIGHLIGHTS

04:23 Getting busy on Black History Month

08:20 Bryant's self-care non negotiables 

11:27 Mindfulness and meditation are crucial too

18:37 Working as a resident chef and writing a book 

23:02 Having the impetus to do more in the midst of a racial reckoning

24:09 Imagining a different kind of activism

28:38 Giving back to the community and honoring past mentors

30:38 Growing up creative with family in Memphis

42:51 Healing generational trauma starts with the family

49:25 Negative parenting styles don't work in the long term

55:15 The connection between corporal punishment and slavery

57:59 Capitalism and the illusion of choice

1:02:06 Veganism isn't the end solution

1:05:23 All about Positive Mental Attitude 

QUOTES

21:15  Bryant: "We all eat. We all have a stake in a healthy, just, and sustainable food system. There should be space in these institutions to talk about these issues, to build a community around these issues."

24:08 Bryant: "I want people to imagine activism outside of just on the ground, confrontational protests on the streets, or grassroots base building. And to be clear, those things are the foundation and the cornerstone of movement building. But everyone can't be in the streets like that."

37:32 Koya: "I think it's so important that people understand that men and women and gender roles and things like that don't have to be. And we all have masculine and feminine energy and how if we nurture both of those sides of ourselves, we can really grow and thrive."

42:54 Bryant: "One of the most important things which our family has been on the journey on is healing generational traumas and being aware that we so often pass down these traumas unknowingly just through the way that we live and not knowing that these are toxic behaviors."

49:25 Bryant: "The cornerstone of this parenting model is that shaming, blaming, isolating, and punishing children, it doesn't work. It may work in the short term. If you have a kid and you're doing something and you shame, blame, punish, yeah it might stop that behavior but what it also does is it instills fear, it starts to chip away at their self esteem, it doesn't create empowered people who are gonna be empowered adults." 

55:43 Bryant: "The more that we can do this introspection and recognize that these larger systems and histories have impacted the way that we interact with each other, I think it will get us closer to healing."

58:15 Bryant: "An industrialized food system that's largely controlled by a handful of multinational corporations, we need to understand that so much of the way that the food is grown, the way that it's transported, the way that it's cooked, the way that it's presented to us, these are decisions that are made by a small handful of people."

59:08 Bryant: "We need to be organized against capitalism. I'm just gonna say it. If people don't understand that capitalism is not like if I just work hard I can make enough money. Capitalism is about these institutions that are concentrating so much wealth and making so many decisions about these systems that we have to push back against them."

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​​Queen Afua is a New York Times best selling author, holistic health practitioner and wellness coach and a pioneer in the green foods movement. She is the author of  5 best selling books, the creator of the Heal Thyself product line, Founder of Sacred Woman Rites of Passage Program and CEO of the Queen Afua Wellness Center.

She has devoted her life to fighting diseases by teaching people how to understand and utilize the power of food, self-care, and holistic healthy choices as an empowering lifestyle.

Queen Afua has inspired over 1,000,000 women, men and children throughout the United States, Canada, the Caribbean, Africa, and Europe with her workshops, books, products, and presentations.

Connect with Queen via the links below:

• Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/queenafua/
• Website: https://www.queenafua.com/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queenafua/?hl=en
• Book: https://amzn.to/3sqvion

HIGHLIGHTS

02:30 Healing is a daily practice 

05:57 Top 5 things to do to purify oneself

09:58 The challenge with family

12:04 Be patient with growth

15:04 Pray every day, all day long

18:03 Nourishment will help you heal

22:26 Learn how to reframe your situation

23:35 How do we end all suffering?

32:50 Allow the help to come through

35:09 Give yourself what you need

38:21 Dark periods are like messengers

44:04 Childbirth and learning how to listen

56:46 Be open like the water

QUOTES

10:37 Queen: "Stay in the spirit of gratitude. Because it will keep your heart light. Otherwise, you say, did you get this immediately when you heard it? How many people had to show you, how many workshops did you have to take before you got a deeper level? So be grateful that you have a family, some don't have families."

12:04 Queen: "Be patient with your growth, be patient with other people's growth. I would know because when I started this,  I wanted everybody to get it and I would Badger them into it. And I'd give them statistics and what are they doing with themselves? And I said I would have a heart attack trying to help people to heal."

17:51 Queen: "I found that all disease is two things: malnourishment and toxicity. So if you're depressed, you're malnourished. That's all. And so when you nourish yourself, then depression will leave. It's just the body is breaking down because you're not building it up."

22:24 Queen: "You're not limited to space. You are connected as you connect to your inner self, you connect to your outer self. This may be the best time for a retreat. People will say, 'I'm depressed because I just had a divorce. I said well don't say that word. Say, 'I'm going through a transformation now that I'm going through a divorce.'"

31:58 Queen: "It's a spiritual practice to listen, to get in tune. First, you got to get in tune. Like a whole instrument. That attunement is what impeccable listening will do.”

35:10 Queen: “You could ask at that moment, I am feeling in a state of despair. I am feeling empty. Because you have to be your own truth teller. I'm feeling lonely, whatever that is. And now ask, how do I overcome my loneliness? What do I need to do, to not feel afraid?”

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Oludara Adeeyo is a therapist and author of Self-Care for Black Women. Based in Los Angeles, California, she works as a psychiatric social worker where she assists individuals experiencing homelessness as well as severe and persistent mental illnesses. Oludara is passionate about helping people improve their overall wellbeing, especially black women. Before becoming a social worker, Oludara spent 7+ years working as a writer and editor. She's been a social web editor at Cosmopolitan, and managing editor at XXL. Oludara grew up in Edison, New Jersey. She loves Beyonce, hot yoga, cooking, and watching telenovelas.

Connect with Oludara via the links below: 

• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/oludaraadeeyo/
• Twitter: https://twitter.com/OludaraAdeeyo
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/oludaraadeeyo/?hl=en
• Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@oludaraadeeyo
• Book: https://amzn.to/3hgcphw

HIGHLIGHTS

01:56 Inspiration behind the book 

04:46 Getting through grief with self-care and therapy, 5 years later

07:44 Breaking generational trauma starts with you

10:25 Spirituality isn't always synonymous with religion

14:16 Oludara's Top 5 self-care exercises 

16:57 Get rid of limiting friendships and toxic relationships

21:20 Oludara's morning routine

24:09 Going vegan and improving energy levels, PCOS symptoms

26:22 Journey to book deal and entrepreneurship

28:59 From journalist to social worker

32:18 The power of journaling and affirmations

34:10 Practical things to do when the sadness hits

37:56 Our favorite things

39:53 Oludara's message to the world

QUOTES

08:07 Oludara: “I like to call myself a former strong black woman. I was known as the strong friend. I was the one you could go to anytime. No matter what I'm going through, like I'm always gonna be there for someone else. And I really had to learn that, that pattern, it stops with me. I'm not going to ignore my emotions, I'm not going to put my health in jeopardy just because I feel like I need to be perceived as this really super woman."

11:56 Oludara: "You got to find your high power for yourself. Often we like to have it be dictated by our community and the people around us, and we don't like to discover for ourselves and we just want to go off of what everyone's telling us. I really had to do that work myself."

24:44 Oludara: “I think nutrition is so important because sometimes if we eat the wrong stuff, it can really clog up our heads, make us feel worse, and I definitely notice it if I had too much takeout, even if it's plant-based, if I had too much takeout, I will definitely feel sluggish and tired.”

31:26 Oludara: “LA felt like home, social work felt like home. I was coming into my own as a person. Which is also just so important, I feel like as an adult, is like you need to sometimes get out of an environment that you were in for so long to really just grow and learn more about yourself.”

34:59 Oludara: "When you're sad, do whatever makes you feel better. That's very individual and I know it can sound very superficial. I also know that sometimes when you're sad you don't know what will make you feel better. So, practically just get up and move. Sometimes, you just need to move your body."  

39:57 Oludara: "My motto is put yourself first. But I say, your wellness is your greatest resistance in society. It's the greatest thing you can do to push back against grind culture, capitalism culture."

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Jessamyn Stanley is an internationally acclaimed voice in wellness, highly sought-after for her insights on 21st-century yoga and intersectional identity. As a successful award-winning yoga instructor and entrepreneur, she is the founder of The Underbelly, a streaming wellness app and community, co-host of the podcast Dear Jessamyn, and co-founder of We Go High, a North Carolina based cannabis justice initiative. She is a regular contributor to SELF magazine, has been featured on the cover of Cosmopolitan magazine (UK), and covered in the New York Times, Vogue, Glamour & Sports Illustrated among many other domestic and international media outlets. She is also the author of Yoke: My Yoga of Self-Acceptance and Every Body Yoga: Let Go of Fear, Get on the Mat, Love your Body. 

Connect with Jessamyn via the links below: 

• LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/jessamyn-stanley-7b82118/
• Website - https://jessamynstanley.com/.
• Twitter - https://twitter.com/JessamynStan
• Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/theunderbellyyoga/
• Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/mynameisjessamyn/
• Book - https://amzn.to/3pc3uSk

HIGHLIGHTS

02:16 Dealing with suicidal thoughts with raw honesty

09:12 All things in life is some version of Yoga

13:35 Yoga transcends the trappings of capitalism 

14:44 Healing is non-linear and comes in many forms 

22:49 Yoga can heal both body and mind

29:31 Acceptance is not letting it go, it's acknowledging that it's still there

32:26 You can't separate the ugly from the beautiful

39:01 Yoga and Cultural Appropriation 

42:44 What is the difference between appropriation and appreciation?

49:43 We need to acknowledge why people are unhealthy 

54:15 Capitalism thrives in our insecurities

58:56 Strengthening communities is the key to make lasting changes

QUOTES

09:40 Jessamyn: "That word, yoga, it literally just means 'to bring together'. It doesn't mean postures, it doesn't even mean breathwork or meditation. And so in life, we're always bringing things together. And we're specifically bringing things that on the surface don't look like they go together." 

12:08 Jessamyn: "Postures are really great and are really an incredible way of understanding the practice but you can practice yoga without ever stepping on a yoga mat, without ever practicing a traditional posture." 

14:07 Jessamyn: "Sometimes I get so consumed by wanting to identify with capitalism and with capitalism's many offspring, that I get lost, the practice will become solely about those material items when ultimately it's just so much more. It's so big and complex and links you to everything that has ever been and will ever be." 

22:50 Koya: I went to heal my back. I didn't know that I was gonna get the mental benefits of also healing my childhood and family trauma and things like that. That's a lot that we just harbor inside as women that unless someone talks to us about it, it's still in there." 

32:28 Jessamyn: "Beautiful things are also ugly at the same time. If you don't accept the ugliness of it, you can't experience the beauty of it."

49:31 Jessamyn: "If you're not willing to have a conversation about the reasons why people are unhealthy, then how are we going to become healthy? And that comes in so many different forms. It's not about how much you weigh specifically. We all incur so much trauma that we don't acknowledge, and it shows up in our lives in different ways because that's not attached to our overall health. it's just an incomplete picture with incomplete medical research."

50:49 Koya: "If someone's hurting anywhere, we're all hurting everywhere. It's the oneness. We're all yoke, we're all connected, we're all the energy that governs the whole Earth." 

54:11 Jessamyn: "That is one of the vestiges of capitalism I think, is that we are so focused on our flaws, because in order for capitalism to work at its peak, we all have to think that there's something wrong with us, because otherwise we won't buy anything."

58:57 Jessamyn: I always think of ending systemic racism as a very lofty goal and aspiration because it does require so much of each of us, but that's how that can happen. If we're honest with ourselves, if we make spaces that are accepting, truly, then that is how we can heal systemic racism."

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Dr. Mariel Buqué is a Columbia University-trained Psychologist and sound bath meditation healer. Her work centers on healing wounds of intergenerational trauma, holistic mental wellness, and centering indigenous healing practices. She is also a wellness and antiracism consultant for Fortune 500 companies across the world and teaches the next generation of therapists as a professor at Columbia University. You may follow her on social media at @dr.marielbuque and find her work at www.drmarielbuque.com.

HIGHLIGHTS

03:28 Normalize therapy and healing 

05:58 There are many aspects of depression that look like trauma

08:17 Defining trauma from the point of view of stress

16:49 The hardest thing about being a therapist

19:19  Make self care a lifestyle rather than a practice

26:17 On 'ghosting' and abandonment issues 

35:04 It's officially healing season 

38:46 Being alone but not lonely

42:07 Improve your relationship with yourself 

45:01 Take care of your body first 

49:55 The personal is political

56:28 Our favorite things

QUOTES

06:16: Dr. Buqué: "When we start seeing recurring depression beyond one single episode, we sart understanding that there is something beneath he level that we are working at that we need to get at, that is actually upholding the depression. More often than not, there's a history of trauma." 

08:21: Dr. Buqué: "The way that I like to explain trauma, because I think it resonates more with who we are, human to human, is by explaining it as, the single experience that is very acute or an experience that is chronic, where a person would have experienced a level of stress that would have superseded their own internal capacity to cope. Basically, the stress was higher than the coping mechanisms that you had at the time to deal with that stressor."

17:18: Dr. Buqué: "There are times when I feel for my clients, and I think that one of the harder things is not being able to take the pain away right away. Like having to sit with the pain is a very hard thing to do especially when you deeply care for your clients and you want to see them well. But you know that their journey needs to look like what it looks like in order for them to be liberated from their pain."

19:18: Dr. Buqué: "The way that I do it is by making self care a lifestyle, rather than a practice. I make sure that everything I'm diving into has some element of caring myself within it. Every conversation, every project, everything that I do as I navigate through my work day has implemented within it something that honors me as a human."

42:11: Dr. Buqué: "The relationship that you have with yourself is one that could really benefit from the daily attention. The thing about having a relationship with urself is we have to get honest. I think that's what scares us, that we have to be honest about  the things that are deep and dark. We have to get honest about the things that we'll find that we don't like, that will probably require us to shift and shifting is very hard for us. Change is very hard for humans."

45:33: Dr. Buqué: "We capture a lot of the stress that we experience in this world in our bodies. And so whenever it comes to helping people, especially in the outset of them wanting to establish a healthier routine, I always lean on body-based practices. So I would lean on trauma-informed yoga, I would lean on sound-bath mediation that can really create soundwaves and sound medicine in your life. I would go with something that is, some sort of a body scan but that has a body component like progressive muscle relaxation or emotional freedom techniques and tapping. I would go with the body-centered, more nervous system regulatory practices first, and then get at the mind. Because we need a body that is in safety in order to transition to mind-based work."

51:20: Dr. Buqué:"Even if you exist in a body that isn't suppressed and oppressed, you area existing in a body that holds privilege but as we all know, those privileges don't also exempt those humans from also being in bodies that are in high stress or in bodies that need to be liberated as well."

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Neale Donald Walsch has written 39 books on contemporary spirituality and its practical application in everyday life. Seven of the nine books in his Conversations with God series have made the New York Times Bestseller list, with Book One remaining on that list for 134 weeks. His titles have been translated into 37 languages. 

He is the creator of CWG Connect (www.CWGConnect.com), a global online platform connecting people who wish to more deeply explore the messages in the CWG body of work. His latest book is The God Solution, published in Dec. 2020. He may be reached at NealeDonaldWalsch.com

HIGHLIGHTS

04:26 - Formative years of spirituality and break up with organized religion

11:55 - Meeting an accident and living off the streets 

15:09 - The Making of Conversations with God 

26:00 - What it means to be an 'Idea Hero'

30:21 - What if we changed our idea of God?

38:21 - Desire and need are two different things

48:41 - All life is energy 

53:10 - Fear is an expression of love 

1:05:15 - Give and you shall receive even more

1:14:10 - God is talking to people all the time, but who's listening?

QUOTES

10:09 - Neale: "I thought, let me see if I understand this correctly. God is so judgmental and so needy and so condemning and so punishing, that he's gonna punish a 9-year old boy with hellfire and brimstone for the rest of eternity because I didn't go to church last Sunday? Even at 9, I was trying to put that together. And as I grew older, I realized, when I got to 13, 14, 15,, that can't be the way it is."

16:17 - Neale: "I started calling out to God in my mind. What does it take to make life work? I saw a yellow legal pad on the table in front of me, so I started writing it out: What does it take to make life work? What do you want from me? I'm not that bad of a person, now what is it that I'm supposed to be doing here? I remember thinking, somebody tell me the rules. I'll play. I promise, I'll play. Just give me the damn rulebook. Tell me how the game goes. And once you give me the rules, don't change the rules every other week."

29:55 - Neale: "An example of an idea hero is a person who says, actually our idea of God is inaccurate. God does not judge anybody. God does not condemn anybody. And God does not punish anybody. Now a statement like that violates the doctrine of all the world's religions. Virtually very religion on Earth says God is judgmental, punishing and condemning and will condemn you if you don't obey the rules that God has set up." 

32:28 - Neale: "Pure love needs, expects, requests, and demands nothing in return. Humans don't know how to love each other that way. We can't even love the person to be the dearest person in our life. The person across the pillow, the person we're sleeping with. We can't even imagine loving that person much less anybody else without needing or expecting or requiring or demanding something in return. We can't even imagine a God who would do that. We can't even imagine the supreme being having the ability to do that. So we've created a theology that says no no no, God loves us. but because he loves us so much, he has to assert rules that we have to obey and if we don't obey them, life we have to go to the mass in Sunday, like we can't be gay we have to be straight, we can't be involved in a same-sex marriage, we have to obey the ten commandments, we have to belong to the right religion. We can't be Jewish, we can't be Muslim, we can't be Hindu." 

34:08  - Neale: "The sad part about that, Koye, is that people base their behaviors using God as their model. They assume that God is the highest entity of the universe, so if we were to emulate God, use God as our model then you can't do any better than that. So we feel that it's okay for us to be judgmental, condemning and punishing with others because after all, that's how God loves us. So why shouldn't we act that way with others. Now if we change our mind about God, we could be changing the model that we are using on which to base our own behavior as human beings. 

37:22 - Neale: "The beginning of pure love is the realization that we need nothing in particular from another person in order to love them. And we can say to the other person, I love you, no matter what."

38:38 - Neale: "Not needing does not mean you have to abandon the cycle of giving and receiving. The two are not the same thing. Desire and need are two different things."

53:49  - Neale: "If I didn't love my life, I wouldn't fear losing it. If I didn't love you, I wouldn't fear losing you. If I didn't love my cellphone, I wouldn't be afraid that somebody might steal it if I leave it lying on the table in a restaurant. The only reason that I fear anything, is because I love something."

1:05:39 "Whatever you want more of in your life, be the source of it in the life of another."

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Known as One Great Vegan, Gabrielle Reyes is an award-winning singer, actress, chef, cookbook author, TV personality, and tours the world + live-streams everyday teaching others how to create her musical meals. 

She is blessed to get to share her favorite plant-based and flavor-full recipes plus tips on how to create vibrant dishes through music and songs while helping her followers heal their bodies and feed their souls! She currently hosts The Colorful Home Cooking Show and partners with her favorite brands to combine vegan culinary expertise with her passion for musical performance and creates entertaining + educational content featuring catchy recipe videos, easy kitchen guidance, mental + physical health coaching, and of course, mouthwatering meals. 

Recently she has been featured on: Oprah, Food Network, The Today Show, Access Hollywood, The New York Times, Buzzfeed Tasty, CBS, Delish, Tastemade, Yahoo News, Good Morning Texas, and The FeedFeed. 

Sing your song. Do your dance. Speak your truth! 

For more information, please visit these links:

• Linkedin - https://www.linkedin.com/in/gabrielle-reyes-784991171/
• Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/onegreatvegan
• Website - https://www.onegreatvegan.com/

HIGHLIGHTS

02:44 - Growing around good food and musical theater

03:35 - Waking up and becoming a vegan 

14:46 - Benefits of switching to a plant-based diet

18:20 - Sheet pan dinners are the key 

36:57 - Finding an audience in the middle of the COVID-19 pandemic 

48:09 - Challenges of being an actor 

57:00 - You have nothing to prove because you are who you are 

58:22 - New cookbooks and inclusion in the official Tiktok recipes 

1:00:30 - Connect with Gabrielle

QUOTES

15:30 - Gabrielle: "It's an overall experience. I mean my mind is clearer. I love my life better. I mean, I found my husband. You know, like, I'm not saying going vegan will make you fall in love, but going vegan will remove an aspect of despair and sadness and cruelty from your life. Like you don't have to partake in death." 

25:44 - Koya: "I love that you share the tough parts too because I think people see the highlight reel and they think oh I wish I could have that but they don't see the arguments, the frustration, the times when it's not cool that you have to get through in order to find your flow."

27:49 - Gabrielle: "The main key point to going vegan, staying vegan, number one, is as I said, seasoning. But the main thing is to keep it simple. Don't try to complicate it. Realistically work with what time you have. If you have 20 minutes a week to cook, you can still make it happen." 

48:32 - Gabrielle: "The job is auditioning, all the time. You got to learn to love it. You got to learn to just be a hundred percent okay with being uncomfortably honest. And, if you can do that, practice breaking down to whatever your truth is." 

50:34 - Gabrielle: "I want to just exist in my truth, and I have such faith that if I continue to share my truth and help other people share their truth, that I'll spread my truth to exactly the right amount of people that want and need to hear it."

57:33 - Gabrielle: "The only reason we exist is to go hard in our dreams. The only reason we exist is to bring a passion and possibilities to this world and to share it with others."

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