From Ephesians 5, this message lays out God's pattern for the family, applicable across every situation, single, widowed, divorced, blended, since God will build wherever he is allowed to build. The pattern begins with a relationship with him, the one thing he wants most, available only through his Son. It continues with a holy life: you cannot live unholy and expect a holy God to bless you. It calls for a Spirit-filled life, continually drinking in the Spirit through Word, prayer, and service. Finally it commends a submissive life, reframing submission not as inferiority but, following Christ's own example in Philippians 2, as the path God exalts. Marriage lived well becomes a mutual submission contest that draws a watching world to Jesus.