Why staying in an asymmetrical relationship just to avoid being single is a slow drain on your self-worth.

Let's discuss the 5 clear signs you're carrying all the emotional, logistical, and communicative weight (and constantly rationalizing the bare minimum).

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Resources: Journey To The Heart by Melody Beattie

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Racism, classism, sexism, and colorism—we see these "isms" play out on our screens, in media like School Daze, and across reality TV franchises like The Real Housewives of Atlanta and Potomac. But what happens when the bias doesn't just come from the outside world or the workplace? What happens when it lives under your own roof, embedded right in your direct bloodline?

In this episode, we discuss:

• The generational and historical roots of colorism in the American South and beyond.
• Navigating favoritism, emotional absence, and harsh treatment within your own family.
• Unpacking low self-esteem, unlearning early rejection, and reclaiming self-worth.
• Analyzing how modern media and pop culture reinforce colorism and anti-Blackness.

With age comes wisdom, but some lessons take a few heartbreaks, red flags, and years of people-pleasing to fully land. Turning 50 changed the game for me, and in today's episode, I’m sharing the key truths I wish my younger self had understood.

We’re talking about the freedom of saying "No," surviving tough relationships by trusting your non-negotiables, choosing deep-rooted joy over fleeting happiness, and learning to laugh at yourself along the way.

Life is going to happen regardless—so grab a cup of tea (or a glass of wine), pull up a chair, and let’s talk about living a life filled with peace, boundaries, and unapologetic self-love.

Let’s Chat!!

Resources:

Journey To the Heart by Melody Beattie

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Have you ever noticed how often the word "but" sneaks into your vocabulary when you talk about your dreams? “I want to travel, but…” “I want to start that project, but…”

In this episode, we dive deep into the weightless excuses we carry that keep us from reaching our fullest potential. 

From a eye-opening lunch conversation about travel and cruises to the biblical story of Moses at the burning bush, we explore how our daily "buts" act as roadblocks to joy, adventure, and opportunity. 

Let’s chat!

Resources:

Journey To the Heart by Melody Beattie

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Growing up, I never heard words of encouragement or support from my mother. It wasn't entirely her fault; it was a cycle. My grandmother never nurtured my mom, so my mom didn't know how to do the same for my siblings and me.

When I had daughters of my own, I chose to break that cycle. I wanted my girls to feel deeply noticed, loved, and supported. Today, the young women of Gen Z and Gen Alpha are facing an uphill battle, often missing true emotional support in a world dominated by social media filters and reality TV "role models."

Join me as we explore how to speak life into the next generation, heal generational wounds, and master the power of affirmation. 

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I’ve Been Gone For a Minute Now. I’m back with the Jump Off!

Can we talk?

In today’s episode, I wanna catch you up on what’s been happening in my life. 

I was in a sheer state of exhaustion, anger and frustration.

ALL OF THE THINGS!

I’m maneuvering and managing through it all. Doing what I can to maintain. 

It was time to pivot my way of thinking and operating in a climate of change. 

Listening to God's voice telling me to "Be Still".

Let’s chat!

Resources:

• Journey To the Heart by Melody Beattie

These past 5 years have been plagued with so much death. People of different ages are taking their final rest. It really took a toll on me. Especially when my GGF and Uncle passed away back-to-back. It was a punch to the gut. I had never experienced grief of this magnitude before. I looked the way I felt. It was a hard time with no time stamp. It was rough. I thank God that I recognized the emotions and the feelings that came with it. I still have my days when I think about those who have passed while the tears flow. I’m glad I have not suppressed and invite those tears. It’s cleansing. 

If you need grief counseling contact a therapist, contact someone you can trust or contact your local Grief Counseling Center. 

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Observing my parents as they walked towards me one afternoon, I recognized that my parents are no longer as spry and vibrant as they once were. The reality is that my mother and father are well on their years. I have realized that time with my parents must be intentional. 

Time is priceless. It is what we cannot get back. How we truly spend our time is an important form of Selfcare. Being intentional with the time we spend with our loved ones as well as ourselves. I’m almost in my mid 50’s. I have more years behind me than I have ahead of me. What does it mean to be intentional with our time? Let’s discuss. 

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We have a tendency to play the game of “Beat The Clock”. We find ourselves facing anxiety and frustration because we are in a fictitious “race” with others. Trying to get something done before someone else. 

 Comparing your accomplishments to others. It’s important to take “YOUR” time. Scripture says, “I have seen something else under the sun: The race is not to the swift or the battle to the strong, nor does food come to the wise or wealth to the brilliant or favor to the learned; but time and chance happen to them all.” Ecclesiastes‬ ‭9‬:‭11‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Doing things on your terms, does not mean you have to rush through the process. You’ll find rushing through the process leads to mistakes and missed steps. 

I’m taking “my” time as I pursue my Bachelors Degree. It’s taken me a while because I started and stopped. I’m on a mission to be done in 2 years. I’ve been asked a number of times how many credits do you have left? This question would bring me so much anxiety and aggravation. I’m getting it done on my terms. 

It’s okay to take your time. Enjoy the journey, not the destination. 

Resource:

• The I Factor: How Building A Great Relationship With Yourself Is The Key To A Happy, Successful Life. 

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I have been renewed. I am living life anew, by walking in my coochie energy. I was reminded recently that I as a woman, I am resilient, I am sexy. I have reignited the light that shines in and through me; thanks to my co-worker and the words of Dr. Stacii Jae Johnson. 

Walking in my coochie Energy reminds  me of how Confident, Cabable and Beautiful I am.  Yeah I may be in menopause and have gained a few pounds. You won’t count e out yet. I still have heels and flowey skirts to wear.  

What do you do to maintain youir femenine energy? Are you walking in your coocchie energey? Have you allowed someone to dim your light? 

Let’s talk about it!!

Resource:

My TEDX Talk Vagina Kinetics: Allowing Your Feminine Energy To Manifest Your Greatest Love:

https://youtu.be/mo98Z_x7RB4?si=hU81tX4TFfxJqW1X

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