Having a likeness for things to be a certain way is human nature but how do you share those desires with your partner?  

In this episode of Lightbulb Moments, Steve talks about how we often mix up personal predilection with our beliefs of right and wrong.  To  be in a respectful partnership, each member must take responsibility for their own desires and learn to negotiate.  There is no one correct way of doing things, just personal preferences.

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How do you connect or form bonds with friends or people you admire? There are many different ways to pursue this and we are going to talk on one way in particular, complaining. 

Complaining about others is the junk food of connection.  It's a shortcut to bonding and it creates a sense of in group but has unintended consequences and often hurts others.  

In this episode of Lightbulb Moments, Steve talks about how to catch yourself in the act and talks about why junk food can cause harm in your attempt to building stronger connections. 

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Do you often say YES when you really want to say NO? Do you try and avoid a conversation so not to disappoint?

To avoid resentment, it's important to learn how to express your preferences with the important people in your life.  When you hide yourself, resentment begins to build and it is often comes out sideways, a way you may deeply regret.

In this week's episode of Lightbulb Moments, Steve talks about how to navigate challenging requests without building resentment. 

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In this episode of LightBulb Moments, Steve talks about how we can easily convince ourselves that conversations won’t go well with our partner so we tend to avoid them altogether in hopes of not getting into a fight. This can be problematic. 

He explains how we can start small and learn how to open ourselves up and share what matters to us.

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Surprisingly, telling other people how you want to feel can backfire. This week, Steve talks about a more reliable way to lead you and your partner to a higher quality conversation than focusing on what the two of you wish to feel. 

Learn how to take your connection beyond talking about what you don’t like and how you wish you felt.

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Power struggles happen and when they do, are you brave enough to take the first risk?

Taking a risk in the relationship can offer a big reward but it requires taking leadership in the midst of conversation gridlock.  In this episode, Steve continues to discuss the topic of how to elevate your conversations and this week the focus is on taking risks even when you have no assurance of getting the outcomes you want.

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Are you in a conversation rut, always have the same old argument with no resolution? 

In our last episode 15, the first part of our Leveling Up your conversation series,  Steve spoke about the role blame can play in the degradation of our conversations. 

In this episode, he is going to take you through a new practice that will help you leave that same old, dead-end argument behind.   

To have a better conversation, shift from talking about the other person and start focusing on you - what do you really  want?  

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Do you find yourself stuck in right or wrong thinking patterns?  

In this week's episode, Steve talks about how to elevate your conversations and how to move out of conversations stuck on figuring out who is right and who is wrong. He describes two tools you can use to retrain your brain to begin working through the arguments without getting stuck laying blame.

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Do you often find that you and your partner are having the same fight over and over again?  Stuck in low quality conversation patterns?  If so, you are not alone. In this week's episode of Lightbulb Moments, Steve talks about how to identify if you are stuck in a low quality conversation. Below are four ways to identify why this might be happening and what you can do to change it. 

4 Common Ways You Might Be in A Low Quality Conversation

*The focus of the disagreement is on your partner's behavior.  You may notice that conversations can focus on trying to convince your partner of what they’re doing wrong. What typically happens, is we are met with defensiveness.  It's now a debate and not a connection. 

*The argument is full of blame.  If you would be different, this relationship would improve. Low quality conversations are often debates about who is doing something wrong.

*You have the same argument many times. You fall in the same old ruts in the conversation. You find that similar points have been made.  Your partner's responses are familiar and repetitive.

*You try to Identify who is right and who is wrong. Trying to convince your partner in the conversation that you are right. The argument becomes a power struggle, trying to identify who will receive validation.

This week, take a few moments and be on the lookout - pay attention to your conversations.  If you find you are having low quality conversation, stay tuned to find out how to get out of that pattern. 

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Do you ever start to feel overwhelmed when your partner is venting?  

In this week's episode of BMP's Lightbulb Moments, learn the power to demonstrate in conversation that you see and notice your partner.  Steve talks about a few ways to get out of the old, low quality, conversations that occur when your partner is complaining. 

This episode will give you some easy tools to let the pressure out of challenging conversations. 

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