Cam and Elle explore how we can communicate in relationships to make both parties feel seen, loved, and supported.

This one is filled with actionable advice: we do 4 role-play examples AND a live body scan that you can leverage at any moment to connect with your body (24:06).

We discuss what to say when triggered, how to self-regulate before having a hard conversation, how to get in tune with your emotions via a Body Scan, how to approach men and women in a way that brings you closer… and so much more. ❤️

Thank you for listening! Feel free to DM us, we love hearing what resonated with you and may even feature your question or situation on the show. 👀

Connect with us:

✨ Listen Before Love youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@ElleBeecher 

✨ Elle’s twitter: https://x.com/ellebeecher 

✨ Cam’s twitter: https://x.com/thecameronhogan 

✨ Connect with Elle: https://stan.store/ellebeecher 

✨ Connect with Cam: https://stan.store/thecameronhogan 

✨ Join our daily gratitude call to embrace “feel good” emotions: https://www.theboardwalks.com/great-morning 

Who are these people? 👀

Cameron Hogan is a mindset mentor and intuitive healer who’s coached dozens of high-performers to shed their limiting beliefs and awaken. Cameron also writes (he published 100 newsletters in 100 days!), hosts men’s circles and retreats for men (upcoming retreat here), plays NBA2K, speaks at conferences, and hosts a daily gratitude call alongside Elle called Great Morning.

Elle Beecher is a relationship coach who helps ambitious women find love and socially anxious people step into confidence. Elle writes every day, hosts a weekly walk for meaningful conversations in Austin (118 so far), drinks Diet Coke, hosts a daily gratitude call alongside Cam (55 so far), speaks at fun conferences, and consults companies on culture and community building. Elle worked at Meta for 7 years and was named Forbes 30 Under 30 for her work with The Board Walks.

CHAPTERS: 

00:00 Welcome Back & Healthy Communication Basics

03:22 Self-Regulate Before A Hard Conversation

08:11 What to Say When Triggered

11:08 Process Your Emotions First to Create Emotional Safety

13:42 The Pendulum Swing of Men Sharing Emotions

16:24 Example #1: Men Feeling Anger Healthily

21:54 What Are You Feeling?

23:18 Live Body Scan with Elle

28:25 Example #2: Women Feeling Anger Healthily

31:49 Understanding When Men Feel Vulnerable

34:29 Example #3: How to Confront Your Man

39:52 Hold Hands in Conflict

41:07 Have Hard Conversations After You See A Pattern

45:32 Emotional Safety for Men

46:48 Example #4: Your Man Acts Out of Character

51:12 Bring Up One Issue At A Time

54:06 Don’t Pile On To Their Judgment

54:56 Cam Confronts Elle Live… STAY TUNED!

Cam and Elle keep the spice going… we’re back for more HOT TAKES! 👀

Reminder: Listen to Part 1 first to get the full scoop!

These takes are brought to you by coaching dozens of people, hosting over 150 events for meaningful conversations, and going down multiple rabbit holes/books/research studies to understand what the heck was going on in our own relationships. 

We discuss how toxic people can’t get near you if you’re connected to your body, the case for self-regulating and not sharing all your feelings, how a man’s commitment timeline looks different, teaching a man to be romantic (with examples), how men can feel anger without driving women away... and so much more. ❤️

Thank you for listening! We’d love to hear what resonated with you.

✨ Listen Before Love youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@ElleBeecher 

✨ Elle Beecher’s twitter: https://x.com/ellebeecher 

✨ Cameron Hogan’s twitter: https://x.com/thecameronhogan 

✨ Connect with Elle: https://www.ellebeecher.com/ 

✨ Connect with Cam: https://www.thecameronhogan.com/ 

✨ Join our daily gratitude call to embrace your “feel good” feminine energy: https://www.theboardwalks.com/great-morning 

CHAPTERS: 

00:00 Welcome Back & How To Connect To Your Body

07:53 A Man’s Commitment Timeline Looks Different

11:55 Women Make A Fairytale Out Of Everything

13:17 You Can Teach A Man Romance (With Examples)

20:29 Toxic People Can’t Find You If You’re Connected To Your Body

25:39 Men Don’t Like Eyelash Extensions

27:17 You Attract What You Lead With

32:17 What Men Look For

33:47 Don’t Share All Your Feelings

38:17 Example Of When Cam Got Angry At Elle

42:17 How Men Feel Anger & Other Feelings

48:17 Society Wants Men Suppressed

50:57 Outro & Quick Story To Reach Out To Us

Cam and Elle get spicy… it’s time for HOT TAKES! 👀

And oh boy, we don’t hold back on this one.

These takes are brought to you by coaching dozens of people, hosting over 150 events for meaningful conversations, and going down multiple rabbit holes/books/research studies to understand what the heck was going on in our own relationships. 

We discuss casual sex (and how it affects men and women differently!), how situationships are destructive for most women, the case for celibate dating, why we shouldn’t make excuses for bad behavior using attachment styles and unresolved trauma, how healthy men love commitment and will absolutely get their act together for their dream girl, and so much more.❤️

Thank you for listening! We’d love to hear what resonated with you.

✨ Listen Before Love youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@ElleBeecher 

✨ Elle's twitter: https://x.com/ellebeecher 

✨ Cam's twitter: https://x.com/thecameronhogan 

✨ Connect with Elle: https://www.ellebeecher.com/ 

✨ Connect with Cam: https://www.thecameronhogan.com/ 
✨ Join our daily gratitude call to embrace your “feel good” feminine energy: https://www.theboardwalks.com/great-morning

CHAPTERS:

0:00 Welcome Back & Let’s Get Spicy

0:42 Men Are Simple: Ignore Words, Trust Actions

5:08 Women Are Doing Too Much

8:18 Don’t Play Hard To Get, BE Hard To Get

10:52 Men Value What They Work Hard For

13:18 Stop Using Attachment Styles To Excuse Bad Behavior

18:04 Cam Looks You In The Eyeball & Tells The Truth

20:18 Situationships & Casual Sex Are Destructive

26:18 The Case For Celibate Dating

30:18 Don’t Chase Someone’s Love

33:18 Men Will ALWAYS Commit To His Dream Woman

39:48 Why Elle Finds Casual Sex Disempowering For Most Women

41:10 [Trigger Warning] Elle Had Sex When She Didn’t Want To

45:18 Why Elle Celibate Dated & Had A Great Time

50:00 Cam Reacts To Elle’s Stories

55:18 Understand The Biology of Sex

58:18 We Need To Take Our Power Back

1:02:12 Outro & To Be Continued Next Week…

Cam and Elle explore feminine and masculine energy.

What is it and why does it matter?! 👀

This is such a juicy and deliciously practical conversation… because after coaching dozens of women to find love, Elle *strongly* believes that a lack of feminine energy is why so many high-achieving people are struggling with dating right now.

We discuss the basics of feminine energy (Being) and masculine energy (Doing), why the world is VERY imbalanced right now, how your childhood influences your energetic balance, how you bring these energies into dating, the role polarity plays in attraction, practical things you can do to bring yourself into balance... and so much more. ❤️

Shoutout to Cam for this heater: “Are you adhering to Father Time or Mother Nature?”

Thank you for listening! We’d love to hear what resonated with you.

✨ Listen Before Love youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@ElleBeecher 

✨ Elle's twitter: https://x.com/ellebeecher 

✨ Cam's twitter: https://x.com/thecameronhogan 

✨ Connect with Elle: https://www.ellebeecher.com/ 

✨ Connect with Cam: https://www.thecameronhogan.com/ 

✨ Join our daily gratitude call to embrace your “feel good” feminine energy: https://www.theboardwalks.com/great-morning 

CHAPTERS: 

00:00 Welcome Back & Introducing Masculine and Feminine Energy Basics

02:54 Women And Men Are Imbalanced

07:28 Elle Had Too Much Masculine Energy

10:56 How Cam’s Family Created His Energy Balance

13:58 Why Men Struggle With “Being” & Can Embrace It Now

16:26 How Elle’s Childhood Impacted Her Dating Life

25:15 Polarity: Feminine Attracts Masculine

32:18 Rewriting What Makes Us Valuable

33:33 Examples of Masculine and Feminine Energy

39:00 How Cam Balanced His Energy & Quit 75 Hard

45:00 How To Balance Your Energies

51:10 Father Time or Mother Nature?

54:02 Serious Energy Drives Men Away

55:58 Women Need To Let Go Of Control In Dating

58:58 What Relationship Dynamic Are You Creating?

58:58 Examples of How Women Can Create A New Dynamic

1:07:58 Inner Work To Balance Energies Is A Gift

1:12:43 Do You Feel Good?

1:16:00 Feelings Dictate The Quality of Your Life

1:19:28 Trust Yourself & Stop Rehearsing

1:21:58 Women Hold All The Power

1:23:20 Outro & Please Share What Resonates!

"I deserved to be cheated on..."

Sheesh, have you ever heard someone say THAT on a podcast?! 👀

In this conversation, Cam and Elle explore cheating, trust issues, and when to give second chances.

Cam vulnerably discusses his experience being cheated on while living in Bali and how he took it as an opportunity to self-reflect, understand how he created the conditions for infidelity, and use it as fuel to turn himself into an incredible man. ❤️

We also discuss why people stay in the wrong relationships, how we can support friends who have been cheated on, a wild “second chance?” story from The Board Walks here in Austin, the crucial “test period” after you give a relationship another go, the inputs of being seen, finding forgiveness and re-framing your relationship to hard moments, why you need to stop trying to solve romance because love isn’t logical... and so much more.

Thank you for listening! We’d love to hear what resonated with you. 💌

✨ Listen Before Love youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@ElleBeecher 

✨ Elle's twitter: https://x.com/ellebeecher 

✨ Cam's twitter: https://x.com/thecameronhogan 

✨ Connect with Elle: https://www.ellebeecher.com/ 

✨ Connect with Cam: https://www.thecameronhogan.com/ 

✨ Join our free daily gratitude call: https://www.theboardwalks.com/great-morning 

CHAPTERS:

00:00 Welcome Back & Talking From The Heart

02:33 “Have You Ever Stayed in A Relationship Too Long?”

04:55 Cam’s Experience Being Cheated On

17:19 Why People Cheat

23:03 Cam Takes Responsibility For Being Cheated On

25:43 Second Chances After Cheating

32:05 Healing Trust Issues

39:30 How We Can Support Friends Who Get Cheated On

44:45 Cam’s Ex Called Him Out & Propelled Him Into Growth

51:05 How You Get Momentum & Keep It

57:45 The Pyramid to Change Your Life

01:00:45 “When Should You Give A Second Chance?” (Story From The Walk)

01:13:45 Why Cam Recommends a “Test Period” Minus Sex

01:16:45 Don’t Try To “Solve” Romance… It’s A Feeling

01:21:45 Everyone Wants Emotional Safety

01:26:05 Listen To Your Own Voice in Dating & Tell 1 Trusted Friend

01:32:33 Why Cam Forgave His Ex

01:37:45 Kobe Build and NBA2K (Being Seen)

01:41:33 Why Rizz is Taking Risks

01:45:33 “The Work” Is Inner Work, Not Biohacking

01:50:13 Outro & Join Us For Fun Projects!

Cam and Elle explore how energy doesn’t lie… no matter how hard we try to play it cool, we bring the pain we haven’t addressed on our dates.

We say that with no judgment and a well of compassion, because Elle was afraid of men and kept settling for years before she decided to look under the emotional hood and heal her relationship anxiety.

Trigger warning: Elle vulnerably discusses the roots of her anxiety with men – growing up Catholic and an experience of sexual assault on an airplane – live in this episode, so please skip those chapters (listed below) if you’d rather avoid these topics. Sending much love your way if you can relate to her stories. ❤️

They also discuss what causes “dating burnout,” how anxiety shows up on dates and drives people away (and tips on how to heal it), why women put men on a pedestal and give their power away, growing up religious and how that impacts your energetic blueprint for dating, how men can face and feel their emotions through solitude, why "keeping score" is your sign to re-examine your relationship, how a service mindset creates infinite love... and so much more.

Thank you for listening! We’d love to hear what resonated with you. 💌

✨ Listen Before Love youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@ElleBeecher 

✨ Elle's twitter: https://x.com/ellebeecher 

✨ Cam's twitter: https://x.com/thecameronhogan 

✨ Connect with Elle: https://www.ellebeecher.com/ 

✨ Connect with Cam: https://www.thecameronhogan.com/ 

✨ Join our daily gratitude call: https://skool.com/greatmorning/about

CHAPTERS:00:00 [Trailer] Energy Doesn’t Lie: Don’t Over-Research or Strategize in Love

02:15 Welcome Back & Trusting Yourself to Show Up With No Prep

4:10 Energy Dynamics: Comfortable vs. Caring A Lot

08:10 People Can Feel Anxious Energy in Dating

14:00 Women Are Putting Men on Pedestals & Giving Their Power Away

18:00 The Danger of Over-Researching in Dating

21:09 “Dating Burnout”

28:00 Women Are Blinded By Love Stories 

30:01 Relationships That Feel Forced Come From the Mind

33:33 Why People Settle & An Example From Elle’s Past

42:20 “Are We Incompatible or Can We Work on This?”

49:00 If You Keep Score, This Ain’t It

54:12 The Infinite Game of Love and Service

58:40 Masculine & Feminine Energies

01:06:00 Growing Up Catholic & Why Elle Was Afraid of Men

01:09:00 [Trigger Warning] Elle’s Sexual Assault on a Flight 

01:18:08 Aziz Ansari & Why Women Carry Trauma Into Dating

01:28:00 How Elle Healed Her Anxiety & Tangible Advice 

01:36:00 Men Need to Face Their Feelings & Let Go

01:43:00 Why Do People Self-Sabotage?

1:50:00 Why We Need Solitude

1:57:23 Outro & Join Us For Fun Projects!

Welcome to our very first episode of Listen Before Love! ✨

Join us to explore relationships with people who are madly in love. This show is designed to be the “Start Here” for anyone who wants to find and keep a lifetime of romance... before you say "I Do."

In this conversation, Cam and Elle explore how they prepared themselves to meet each other: by doing the hard inner work to face, feel, and heal their wounds and insecurities.

They met at a yoga studio in Austin and broke long-standing patterns to fall in love (juicy details included, as always!), and they are both convinced this never would have happened if they didn't do the hard work to unlock a sense of ease in their hearts first.

They discuss why we settle in relationships, how to let go of limiting beliefs and break the patterns holding you back, opening your heart to attract your soulmate and soul tribe, how the woman chooses in love, regaining safety in your body... and so much more.

Thank you for listening! Please reach out, we'd love to hear what resonated with you.

✨ Elle's twitter: https://x.com/ellebeecher

✨ Cam's twitter: https://x.com/thecameronhogan

✨ Connect with Elle: https://www.ellebeecher.com/

✨ Connect with Cam: https://www.thecameronhogan.com/

✨ Join our daily gratitude call: https://skool.com/greatmorning/about

TIME STAMPS:

00:00 [Trailer] You Attract What You Are

03:17 Welcome To Our New Show & Why We’re Yapping

04:58 How We Met… Jk, How Elle and Cam Prepared to Meet

11:22 Doing the Inner Work is Your Insurance Policy

17:40 IDGAF Mentality is Sexy

20:15 How Conversations With Danny Shifted Things

27:40 Analyze Your Last 6 Months & Find Patterns (Like Settling)

36:00 How Fear & Scarcity in One Area Spreads to All Areas

48:00 Cam and Elle’s Relationship Philosophy

58:20 Elle’s Dating Journey as High-Achieving Woman

01:02:30 Cam and Elle’s Relationship Dynamic

01:11:00 Journaling Exercise for Your Perfect Year

01:14:50 How Elle and Cam Met

01:29:00 The Lonely Journey of Self Growth (Keep the Faith!)

01:35:00 Juicy Plot Twist in Cam and Elle’s Relationship

02:00:53 Cam’s 2024 Has Been Wild

02:04:11 Running Towards Responsibility and Growth

02:09:00 The Trap of “Good Enough”

02:14:00 The Inputs to Finding Love (It Won’t Fall Out of the Sky)

02:19:00 Why We Settle & Stay in Misaligned Relationships

02:23:10 The Intention of This Podcast