In this episode, Ralphii discusses the importance of making amends when wronging someone. He explores the power of a sincere apology and why it's often difficult for people to admit fault and say sorry. He explores the importance of taking responsibility for your actions when you've hurt someone and how it can positively impact your relationships. 

Throughout the episode, Ralphii outlines what a healthy and effective apology looks like, including choosing the right method of apologizing and how to know if your apology has been accepted.

Have you recently had a fallout with a loved one or simply want to improve your communication skills? Tune in and learn how to make things right and move forward.

[01:32] Steps that helped Ralphii learn how to apologize

[02:23] What a sincere apology does

[03:08] Why most people do not apologize

[05:36] The verse of the day (Matthew 5:7)

[06:17] What it means to take responsibility when you’ve hurt someone

[09:57] One of the best reasons to apologize

[12:18] What setting boundaries does to a relationship

[13:10] How a healthy and okay apology looks like

[13:54] How to easily move forward and put the conflict behind

[16:02] Choosing the best methods to apologize

[17:02] Why written apologies may not be effective to some people

[17:36] How to know that your apology was accepted

• A sincere and effective apology communicates genuine empathy, remorse, and regret, as well as a commitment to learning from your mistake.
• Apologizing can sometimes be intimidating, but it is also the first step to rebuild and trust.
• If you're not sure, an apology not only offers you the chance to own up to the mistakes that you've made, but it can also reestablish what you think was okay.
•  If you broke trust, can I do anything to help build your trust again? Whatever you can do to make things better, do it. If you're unsure what will help, ask the person you hurt. Don't try to be a mind reader. Because assumptions sometimes, mostly always make things worse. reaffirm boundaries.
• It's important to be fair in your apology, both to the other person and yourself. Don't accept all the blame. If it wasn't all your fault, that's unhealthy and it makes you a loser and somewhat of a liar.
• The healing effect of an apology to the restoration of trust and respect can best be achieved when one has a chance to clearly define the harmful behaviors and indicate how future misunderstandings can be avoided.
• Making demands kills pride and promotes the humble man.

Key HighlightsNotable QuotesResourcesIf you have anything you want to talk about, connect with Ralphii at ⁠[email protected]

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/thats-a-bucket-podcast/id1652278384
https://akadahome.com/

Listening to Feelings

Was there a time when someone wanted you to listen to them out?

How did you respond?

Sharing their feelings or thoughts can be a frightening process for many—especially if they have been judged for doing that in the past.

So, what can the listener do to make the expresser comfortable to open up, to share their feelings or thoughts?

In this episode of the Listen Clearly podcast, host Ralphii shares what a listener can do to help the person to share their feelings, how your body language impacts the expresser, how you should react, what you should say or what you shouldn’t say, and much more.

Tune in now!

EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS:

• [00:24] - Sharing our feelings with the people we trust
• [02:10] - What the listener should do?
• [04:10] - What does the body language of the listener mean to the expresser?
• [07:02] - Don’t judge someone’s problem
• [08:43] - Lend them your ear as a listener
• [10:34] - Their scars are worth talking about
• [12:01] - Notice when something is different
• [13:29] - Helping the situation
• [15:43] - Everybody is not emotionally tough
• [16:12] - Five steps to follow when you’re listening to someone
• [17:02] - Your duty as a friend

Words Of Wisdom:

“People are not crazy just because they have mental issues. But sometimes they really need to talk to somebody.”

“Nobody cares about people’s state until something bad happens.”

“Sharing our feelings and concerns is a vital component of your mental health.”

“Let people know that their scars are worth caring about, or talking about, and that they deserve to be heard.”

“For someone who is actually battling with their mental health, simply listening can be a supportive and compassionate act.”

“Helping the situation is not always about having money. You can help by being supportive, compassionate, and empathizing.”

USEFUL LINKS:

Email us at: [email protected]. Let us know what you think.

Connect to Ralph at: https://twitter.com/UnashamedRalph

If you liked this episode of the Listen Clearly podcast, then don’t forget to rate, review and follow us on your favorite podcast streaming platform! Thank you!

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/thats-a-bucket-podcast/id1652278384
https://akadahome.com/

For this first episode of Listen Clearly, I am joined by Chris Gillom to speak on The Sufficiency Of Christ. We highlight the sufficiency of Christ by emphasizing the trust that God is in control. The sufficiency of Christ is displayed in many layers, those of which we share during the episode and recite scriptures to complement each point. We invite you to join us!

“We tend to stray away from Christ when we get caught up in the world’s ills”

Key Topics Discussed:

• Taking it upon ourselves to control our lives suggests a belief that Christ is not in control
• Those who have both money and God are no better than those who have God alone. Physical possessions distract us from the message of God
• Glorying God outshines the reverence of everything, including yourself

Timestamps:

[00:24] Introduction to Chris

[00:39] The sufficiency of Christ

[03:42] Straying away from Christ and the gospel

[09:04] Your testimony vs the gospel

[12:02] C.L Lewis quotes

[16:00] You can’t have two masters

[23:36] Having it all while counting it lost for Christ

[29:51] Staying in line with God’s will

[34:08] Misconceptions of coming into Christianity

[40:28] Glorying God

[46:08] Romans 8:18

[55:22] Outro

Quotes:

• “Make sure that your characters are free from the love of money.”
• “He who has God and everything has no more than he who has God only.”
• “God isn’t against you having things, He’s against things having you”

USEFUL LINKS:

Email us at: [email protected]. Let us know what you think.

Connect to Ralph at: https://twitter.com/UnashamedRalph

If you liked this episode of the Listen Clearly podcast, then don’t forget to rate, review and follow us on your favorite podcast streaming platform! Thank you!

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/thats-a-bucket-podcast/id1652278384
https://akadahome.com/

Do you have commitment issues?

Have you ever taken a step back in order to examine your life from a new perspective?

Are you aware of the impact your choices have had on others and yourself?

If you know that your actions are affecting someone around you negatively, you need to take accountability for your actions and find a way to change them.

In this episode of the Listen Clearly podcast, host Ralphii talks about taking accountability for your actions and growing in life. Accountability is the obligation or willingness to accept responsibility for one’s actions.

Tune in now!

In this episode, Ralphii talks about…

• How taking responsibility for your actions affects you and the people around you
• Stopping your habit of blaming others if things don’t go the way you decided
• Being responsible for your thoughts
• Recognizing when you’ve made a mistake and taking steps to prevent yourself from repeating those mistakes
• How your prior traumas shape your behavior as a victim
• Recognizing your traumas and regaining authority
• Not wasting your time by attempting to make the unworkable work
• Using your time to improve yourself

NOTABLE QUOTES:

“Don’t go around blaming other people if you can’t follow through with obligations.”

“Scars and bruises remind you of your past. Don’t let it dictate your future.”

“You need to have an accountability partner who will make you accountable and make you do better in life.”

“We cannot get better if we continue to blame others for our commitment flaws.”

USEFUL LINKS:

Email us at: [email protected]. Let us know what you think.

Connect to Ralphii at: https://twitter.com/UnashamedRalph

If you liked this episode of the Listen Clearly podcast, then don’t forget to rate, review and follow us on your favorite podcast streaming platform!

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/thats-a-bucket-podcast/id1652278384
https://akadahome.com/

A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP

At some point in our lives, almost all of us have been in a romantic relationship. We may have great experiences, but we may also have bad ones in the relationship.

The not-so-well experiences can sometimes ruin the relationship.

However, have you ever wondered why one is having these bad experiences in their relationship? What are the possible reasons for these not-so-well experiences, and who is to blame?

Every day there are certain things happening that seem normal to you but are slowly altering your relationships and leading to bad experiences.

In this episode of the Listen Clearly podcast, host Ralphii discusses the foundations of a healthy relationship and how certain things could potentially harm your relationship.

This episode is for everyone who has been or is in a romantic relationship as well as for those who aren’t in the moment (since in the future you might be in one ;)).

I’m sure you’ll enjoy this episode as much as I did.

Tune in now!

EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS:

[00:39] - What does a healthy relationship look like?

[01:04] - What does a healthy relationship require?

[01:12] - Why is privacy required in a relationship?

[01:51] - Setting boundaries for a healthy relationship

[03:01] - Communication- The rock of a relationship

[03:40] - Poor communication is dangerous

[04:00] - Give feedback to your spouse if you want a long term relationship

[05:02] - Giving and getting the emotional support

[07:18] - Don’t bring up your past relationships with other people

[08:13] - What is trust in a relationship?

[09:03] - Being open and honest with your partner

[09:25] - Issues that miscommunication can lead

WORDS OF WISDOM:

“Communication is the rock of a relationship.”

“A healthy relationship requires respect for personal space and privacy.”

“Every relationship benefits from being open and having honest communication because it allows you to be who you are to help them understand who you are and what you require.”

Resources

If you have anything you want to talk about, connect with Ralphii at [email protected]

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/thats-a-bucket-podcast/id1652278384
https://akadahome.com/

The Listen Clearly Podcast: Our Stories, Our Thoughts, Our Voice Part II

Hello, welcome to another episode from the My Story series on the Listen Clearly Podcast. In this episode, Ralphii talks about the what, how, and why he was triggered into his narcissistic behavior. He also shares how he was able to turn off his feeling and why he became insensitive to everyone’s else feelings. We have, at some point, found ourselves in such a situation and may feel alone. Sharing a story and knowing some other people have gone through it makes one feel relieved. Ralphii shares his. Tune in to Listen Clearly!

Key Highlights

[00:34] What, how, and why narcissistic behavior came about

[04:52] Things that made Ralphii mad

[06:20] What triggered narcissism

[12:30] Reasons it was hard for Ralphii to talk about what was happening to him

[14:56] Why Ralphii had to bury his feelings

[15:25] Forces barring Ralphii from hurting her directly

[17:02] Why Ralphii is not proud of being a self-centered person

[18:26] Unique way devices to hurt people

[19:37] Forces behind being egotistical and manipulative

[22:26] Connect with Listen Clearly Podcast

Notable Quotes

• Like I said before, we are responsible for our actions. She didn't make me do it; she was just a big part of it. 
• I know sometimes people might not have understood what they were doing in a way. But I still took that; I ran with that. I still ran with that and did the worst thing that could possibly be done at that moment, not to come out hurt or mad or something like that, in a way.
•  But it was like, oh, let's just let it maintain. Let's make sure he doesn't blow this builder. But he can crash a car into this house. 
• And I just was like; I'm just going to learn how to, I'm just going to learn how to destroy her in a way where I can just use my words to make sure she knows not to try me again.
• And I'm not proud of it because I destroyed some relationships that would have been great if I wasn't the way I was. And I knew it.
• Let's listen to communicate, not just respond.
• If I knew something personal about you that I knew or hurt you. I think that would be too easy. That one helped me, and no one helped me if I knew you had lost your mom. Talking about her wouldn't be a joy for me because anybody can hurt you with that. No, that wasn't me. I wanted to hurt you my way. And that wasn't my way. That's everybody's way.

Resources

If you have anything you want to talk about, connect with Ralphii at [email protected]

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/thats-a-bucket-podcast/id1652278384
https://akadahome.com/

The Listen Clearly Podcast: Our Stories, Our Thoughts, Our Voice

Hello, welcome to a brand new episode of the Listen Clearly Podcast. In this episode, Ralphii talks about the factors that inspired him to start his podcast. At some point, we have found ourselves in dire need of talking to someone to get peace or let something go. We often approach people who are willing to listen and sometimes who are not ready. Here, Ralphii shares a lot about how people respond when you share your story. We also get to learn why it is important to respect those who choose to share their stories. A lot happened in his life, including the loss of his grandmother and divorce. He talks about how he dealt with and overcame all that befell him. Tune in to learn more! 

Key Highlights

[01:35] How people respond when you reach out to them

[06:52] Why you should show people respect when they talk to you about things stressing them

[09:47] Why listening to people helps

[10:44] Dealing with the loss of the grandmother

[15:15] Events leading to choosing to help people in what they are going through

[19:16] How divorce came about

[22:24] Why you can’t tell some things to some people

[23:06] Why couples shouldn’t be throwing things at their partners about past events

[25:41] Advice to married people on how to balance their normal life and marriage life

[28:17] Trying to fix the relationship

[32:23] Dealing with the outcomes of the divorce

[34:00] Upcoming episodes  

Notable Quotes

• Sometimes I didn't even need advice. I just needed somebody to listen and understand what I'm going through. 
• It's not easy for people who go on to something hard to always want to speak out about it.
• Body language is big because you don't have to say anything but your body language speaks volumes.
• Advice is not always needed. Just the ear, a shoulder, and I'm sometimes saying they might want you to mourn with them, and it helps
• When it was time to put my foot down and lead and be the man there, it started becoming a problem. Because I was letting somebody else have too much of a voice.
• Some people you can’t tell things to. Some things you got to keep, like, low at a very minimum, like, because some people you can’t tell things still, because once you get into them, sometimes they bring it back to throw it right back in your face.
• Kids don't get in your way. Unless you let them. Marriage does not get in your way unless you let it. People do not get in your way unless you let them. 
• At the end of the day, at the end of whatever's going on, you're still responsible for your actions. It's the way you do things. Don't blame people for what you've could have done.
• Let’s listen, communicate, and not just respond! 

Resources

If you have anything you want to talk about, connect with Ralphii at [email protected]

Check out the That’s A Bucket podcast on all streaming platforms

Check out Akadahome candles at: akadahome.com

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/thats-a-bucket-podcast/id1652278384
https://akadahome.com/

 For this first episode of Listen Clearly, I am joined by Chris Gillom to speak on The Sufficiency Of Christ. We highlight the sufficiency of Christ by emphasizing the trust that God is in control. The sufficiency of Christ is displayed in many layers, those of which we share during the episode and recite scriptures to complement each point. We invite you to join us!

“We tend to stray away from Christ when we get caught up in the world’s ills”

Key Topics Discussed:

• Taking it upon ourselves to control our lives suggests a belief that Christ is not in control 
• Those who have both money and God are no better than those who have God alone. Physical possessions distract us from the message of God
• Glorying God outshines the reverence of everything, including yourself

Timestamps:

[00:24] Introduction to Chris 

[00:39] The sufficiency of Christ

[03:42] Straying away from Christ and the gospel 

[09:04] Your testimony vs the gospel

[12:02] C.L Lewis quotes 

[16:00] You can’t have two masters

[23:36] Having it all while counting it as lost for Christ

[29:51] Staying in line with God’s will

[34:08] Misconceptions of coming into Christianity

[40:28] Glorying God

[46:08] Romans 8:18 

[55:22] Outro

Quotes: 

• “Make sure that your characters are free from the love of money.” 
• “He who has God and everything has no more than he who has God only.”
• “God isn’t against you having things, He’s against things having you”

Do you have commitment issues? 

 Have you ever taken a step back in order to examine your life from a new perspective? 

 Are you aware of the impact your choices have had on others and yourself? 

 If you know that your actions are affecting someone around you negatively, you need to take accountability for your actions and find a way to change them. 

 In this episode of the Listen Clearly podcast, host Ralphii talks about taking accountability for your actions and growing in life. Accountability is the obligation or willingness to accept responsibilities for one’s actions. 

 Tune in now!

 In this episode, Ralphii talks about… 

• How taking responsibility for your actions affects you and the people around you
• Stopping your habit of blaming others if things don’t go the way you decided
• Being responsible for your thoughts
• Recognizing when you’ve made a mistake and taking steps to prevent yourself from repeating those mistakes
• How your prior traumas shape your behavior as a victim
• Recognizing your traumas and regaining authority
• Not wasting your time by attempting to make the unworkable work
• Using your time to improve yourself

 
NOTABLE QUOTES:


“Don’t go around blaming other people if you can’t follow through with obligations.”


“Scars and bruises remind you of your past. Don’t let it dictate your future.”


“You need to have an accountability partner who will make you accountable and make you do better in life.”


“We cannot get better if we continue to blame others for our commitment flaws.”



USEFUL LINKS:



Email us at: [email protected]. Let us know what you think.



Connect me at: https://twitter.com/UnashamedRalph




If you liked this episode of the Listen Clearly podcast, then don’t forget to rate, review and follow us on your favorite podcast streaming platform!

Listening to Feelings

Was there a time when someone wanted you to listen to them out? 

How did you respond?

Sharing their feelings or thoughts can be a frightening process for many—especially if they have been judged for doing that in the past.

So, what can the listener do to make the expresser comfortable to open up, to share their feelings or thoughts?  

In this episode of the Listen Clearly podcast, host Ralphii shares what a listener can do to help the person to share their feelings, how your body language impacts the expresser, how you should react, what you should say or what you shouldn’t say, and much more.

Tune in now! 

EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS:

• [00:24] - Sharing our feelings with the people we trust
• [02:10] - What the listener should do?
• [04:10] - What does the body language of the listener mean to the expresser?
• [07:02] - Don’t judge someone’s problem
• [08:43] - Lend them your ear as a listener
• [10:34] - Their scars are worth talking about
• [12:01] - Notice when something is different
• [13:29] - Helping the situation
• [15:43] - Everybody is not emotionally tough
• [16:12] - Five steps to follow when you’re listening to someone
• [17:02] - Your duty as a friend

Words Of Wisdom:

“People are not crazy just because they have mental issues. But sometimes they really need to talk to somebody.”

“Nobody cares about people’s state until something bad happens.”

“Sharing our feelings and concerns is a vital component of your mental health.”

“Let people know that their scars are worth caring about, or talking about, and that they deserve to be heard.”

“For someone who is actually battling with their mental health, simply listening can be a supportive and compassionate act.”

“Helping the situation is not always about having money. You can help by being supportive, compassionate, and empathizing.”

USEFUL LINKS:

Email us at: [email protected]. Let us know what you think.

Connect to Ralph at: https://twitter.com/UnashamedRalph 

If you liked this episode of the Listen Clearly podcast, then don’t forget to rate, review and follow us on your favorite podcast streaming platform! Thank you!