Andrew tells us about his favourite episode from our back catalogue. This episode from our first Meet The Authors series features thirteen guests giving their answers to five quickfire questions. We'll hear what advice our guests would give to their younger selves, what resources they recommend, how churches have been particularly helpful, what's been good about being same-sex attracted or being single, and top tips for deepening healthy intimacy in friendship.

Resources mentioned

• 7 Myths About Singleness Sam Allberry
• Is God Anti Gay? Sam Allberry
• Breaking the Marriage Idol Kutter Callaway
• The Center for Faith, Sexuality & Gender
• A Change of Affection Becket Cook
• Redeeming Singleness Barry Danylak
• Born Again This Way Rachel Gilson
• Jesus, Lover of My Soul Julian Hardyman
• Washed and Waiting Wesley Hill
• The Single Issue Al Hsu
• The Prodigal God Tim Keller
• Living Out Identity in Christ conference
• The Plausibility Problem Ed Shaw (Published in the US as 'Same-Sex Attraction and the Church')
• Single Friendly Church
• People To Be Loved Preston Sprinkle
• Two Views on Homosexuality, the Bible, and the Church Preston Sprinkle
• Single-Minded Kate Wharton
• Understanding Sexual Identity Mark Yarhouse

Ed tells us about his favourite episode from our back catalogue. 

So far in this series we’ve talked about why we need friendships and the difference Jesus makes to them, but what does that look like in reality? Adam and Ashleigh each sit down with a friend to talk about how their friendship has brought them closer to God and taught them more about him, and share their reflections on what has helped their friendships to thrive. Why not share this episode with a friend and let them know how much you appreciate them?

Resources mentioned and related

• Friendship podcast series
• The Radiant Dawn Tom Parsons
• From Glory Into Glory Tom Parsons
• Kaleidoscope
• Friendship and Intimacy (Friendship #3) 

When you begin to tell people about your experiences of same-sex attraction or your decision to obey what God says about sexuality, you’re likely to receive questions. 

Andy is joined by our old friend Anne and our new friend Laurence to talk about their experiences here. What’s it like for us as same-sex attracted Christians when people ask us those questions? How might we begin to answer them? 

Resources mentioned and related 

A Better Love 

Should I Go to a Gay Wedding?, Anne Witton 

Shouldn't We Expect Sexuality to Change? (Engaging Objections #6), Living Out Podcast 

What's Wrong With a Permanent, Faithful, Stable Same-Sex Sexual Relationship?, Ed Shaw 

Isn't Love Good? (Engaging Objections #5), Living Out Podcast 

Podcast Series: The Plausibility Problem, Living Out Podcast 

How Can You Live Life Without Sex?, Ed Shaw 

What Is Sexuality For?, Ed Shaw 

What Does Sexuality Have to Do With the Gospel?, Ashleigh Hull 

What Would Jesus Do? Ask Questions!, Ed Shaw 

For more common questions, have a look at our Explore Questions page and check out our previous podcast series Questions No One Wants to Answer and Engaging Objections. 

Ashleigh is joined by our old friend Nat and our new friend Angela to talk about what leaving a same-sex relationship was like for them. 

Whether you’re considering leaving a same-sex relationship in order to follow Jesus, or you’re wanting to support someone in that situation, this conversation has something for you. 

Resources recommended and related 

• Nat and Matt: Mixed-Orientation Marriage (Different Stories #9), Living Out Podcast 
• Support to Grieve, Anne Witton 
• What's Wrong With a Permanent, Faithful, Stable Same-Sex Sexual Relationship?, Ed Shaw 
• What If a Gay, Married Couple, With Children, Become Christians?, Ed Shaw

Ed and Adam are joined by our new friend Tom to talk about the times when their experiences of same-sex attraction make them want to give up on their faith. What keeps them going in these times? 

Resources mentioned and related

Psalms 63 and 73 (Bible Encouragements #3), Living Out Podcast 

The Intimacy Deficit by Ed Shaw 

Exploring the Intimacy Deficit, Living Out Podcast 

Andy is joined by Jeanette and Simon to talk about whether we should expect a change in our same-sex attractions as followers of Jesus. They share ways they’ve sought change in the past, how they view it now, and how others have helped them. 

Resources mentioned and related 

• Living Faith 
• Simon: Reconciling Sexuality, Faith and Ministry (Different Stories #1), Living Out Podcast 
• Shouldn't We Expect Sexuality to Change? (Engaging Objections #6), Living Out Podcast 
• 2 Corinthians 12 and Revelation 5 (Bible Encouragements #2), Living Out Podcast 
• What's Good About Struggling With Same-Sex Attraction?, Anne Witton 
• Getting God’s Perspective by Andrew Bunt 
• Resources on Conversion Therapy, Living Out Team 

Andrew is joined by Jeanette and Jon to share their stories of same-sex attraction and faith. They’re honest about their experiences of loneliness, talk about how singleness and childlessness can come with grief as well as joys, and consider what we can do about loneliness. 

Resources mentioned and related 

• Jeanette’s story and writing  
• Kaleidoscope 
• Friendship and Intimacy (Friendship #3), Living Out Podcast 
• Strengthening Friendships (Friendship #5), Living Out Podcast 
• Youth Leader Network 
• Are We Just Playing at Being Family?, Ashleigh Hull 
• More Living Out resources about loneliness 

Andrew is joined by our old friend Dan and our new friend Ruth as they share their stories of same-sex attraction and talk all about the realities of sexual temptation.  

What helps us to avoid temptation? What about when we give in to it? And what can we learn from how Jesus faced temptation? 

Resources mentioned & related 

• Meet the Authors #21 - Dan Reid 
• I Used to Identify As a Sinner. Now I’m Learning Who I Really Am., Dan Reid 
• Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing, by Jay Stringer (see our book review here and listen to Jay on an episode of ‘The One Conversation’ podcast here) 
• How Can I Find Freedom from the Weight of Sexual Sin?, Dan Reid 
• Handling Sexual Urges (Part 1), Jo Johnson 
• Handling Sexual Urges (Part 2), Jo Johnson 
• The Desires That Tempt You May Not Be Your Deepest Desires, Andrew Bunt 
• What Are Your Desires Telling You? (Could It Be Something Different Than You Think?), Amy Riordan 
• Getting God’s Perspective by Andrew Bunt

Coming out (sharing with someone about your experience of sexuality) is not always easy, whether you're the person sharing or the one hearing about it.

Laura and Paul join Ashleigh to talk about what coming out was like for them. We hear about the first people they told, the things that have been helpful for them in these conversations, and what it's like to share so publicly about such a personal experience. Paul also shares some thoughts on doing all of this when you're married.

Resources mentioned & related

• Laura: Good Friendship (Different Stories #6)
• Paul: Responding to Our Desires (Different Stories #5)
• Should All Same-Sex Attracted Christians Come Out?, Vaughan Roberts
• Coming Out – Some Advice for Christians, Andrew Bunt
• How Should I Respond When a Christian Comes Out to Me?, The Living Out Team

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As Christians who experience same-sex attraction, how can we flourish? In this series we'll talk about coming out, answering people's questions, feeling alone, and more. 

Whether you experience same-sex attraction yourself or you want to support someone who does, this series will have something to comfort, challenge and encourage you.