When people hear that Living Out - a group of same-sex attracted Christians - believe that sex is reserved for the marriage of a man and a woman, they tend to have questions...

How does our intimacy (or lack of intimacy) with creation impact our intimacy with God, ourselves and others? Will the sea be warmer in the new creation? And when's the Intimacy Deficit merch dropping? Ed and Andy are joined by Anne to answer all the important questions.

Resources mentioned and related 

• The Intimacy Deficit by Ed Shaw
• God of All Things: Rediscovering the Sacred in an Everyday World by Andrew Wilson
• Brick
• Habitica
• iNaturalist  
• Merlin
• Keswick Convention talks on the intimacy deficit

Ed and Jo are joined by Jez Field to talk about intimacy with others. What are the catalysts for this kind of intimacy? What are some of the barriers to it? And do women need intimate friendships more than men do? 

Resources mentioned and related 

• The Intimacy Deficit by Ed Shaw
• Jez’s review of The Intimacy Deficit 
• Billy No-Mates: How I Realised Men Have a Friendship Problem by Max Dickins
• More from Jez on the Living Out website
• Keswick Convention talks on the intimacy deficit
• Living Out podcast series on Friendship (episode 1 here)

Intimacy with yourself – feeling comfortable in your own skin – being able to be honest with yourself about yourself. How do we grow in this? Isn’t it all a bit narcissistic and unChristian? How does it connect to intimacy with God and with others? Ed, Andrew and Jeanette talk it through. 

Resources mentioned and related 

• The Intimacy Deficit by Ed Shaw
• Keswick Convention talks on the intimacy deficit 
• Hear Jeanette’s story, in 5 minutes or in 30 minutes
• Jeanette’s latest book, ‘Betrothed: wooed by a greater love’ 

Ed and Adam chat with our guest Andrew Nicholls. What do we mean when we talk about intimacy with God? How do we experience it? And what gets in the way? 

Resources mentioned and related 

• The Intimacy Deficit Ed Shaw
• Keswick Convention talks on the intimacy deficit 
• Delight Podcast Episode 2: Meditation – dwelling on God’s truth 

In the first episode of our new series, Jo and Ashleigh quiz Ed on what the intimacy deficit is, why he’s written a book about it, where he struggles with intimacy himself – and, of course, whether he should get a dog. 

Resources mentioned and related 

• The Intimacy Deficit Ed Shaw
• Have You Been Intimate with Anyone Recently? Andrew Bunt 
• Keswick Convention talks on the intimacy deficit 
• Kaleidoscope

Ed's recent book, The Intimacy Deficit, helps us to think about our connection with God, ourselves, others, and creation. In this series we want to expand on the ideas in Ed’s book, involving more voices in the conversation, and hopefully helping all of us to deepen our experiences of intimacy.

Adam is joined by Katherine Brown from the Evangelical Alliance and Ben Thomas from OCCA. Katherine and Ben were both part of the LGBT community when they responded to the gospel, and in their roles now they engage in conversations with non Christians and new Christians about all sorts of faith questions. 

In the last episode of this series, we consider your questions on evangelism. Is it possible to evangelise to the LGBT community? How can we support friends in a same sex marriage? And what about the gay couple with kids who become Christians? 

Resources mentioned and related 

• Katherine’s story
• Ben’s story
• The Case Against the Sexual Revolution by Louise Perry
• The Sexual Revolution Has Failed — Now Try CHURCH || Louise Perry Full Interview Speak Life Podcast
• Challenges to Friendship (Friendship #6) 
• What If a Gay, Married Couple, With Children, Become Christians? Ed Shaw 
• Evangelical Alliance
• OCCA

Jennifer Kvamme and Robin Barfield are both parents and authors of books that help us engage with our teens in conversations about sexuality. In this episode they join Andrew to answer your questions on parenting teenagers. How can we love and support young people to keep looking to Jesus for the future? What is the best way to talk to young people about singleness being a gift from God? How do we parent a same-sex attracted teen?

Resources mentioned and related 

• More to the Story: Deep Answers to Real Questions on Attraction, Identity, and Relationships Jennifer Kvamme 
• Young People and Pornography: Understanding and Responding Pastorally Robin Barfield 
• Everyday Dadding podcast
• Chasing Love Sean McDowell 
• Applying The Handbrake: A Teenage Boy's Honest Account About God And Porn Ben Dyer 
• Gay Girl, Good God: The Story of Who I Was and Who God Has Always Been Jackie Hill Perry 
• A Change of Affection: A Gay Man’s Incredible Story of Redemption Becket Cook 
• Born Again This Way: Coming Out, Coming to Faith, and What Comes Next Rachel Gilson 
• The Holy Sexuality Project  
• ‘Today's Parenting Challenges Part 2’, Seminar from Keswick 2024 
• Kaleidoscope 

We’re joined by Rachel Gilson – author of Parenting Without Panic in an LGBT Affirming World – to answer your questions on parenting younger children. What are some easy ways into conversations about sex, sexuality and what God says? How can parents and youth leaders work together in having these conversations? Should you send your children to Christian schools, and what influence is the internet having on their experience of and learning about sexuality? 

Resources mentioned and related 

• Parenting Without Panic in an LGBT Affirming World Rachel Gilson 
• Born Again This Way Rachel Gilson 
• Kaleidoscope 
• Raising Confident Kids in a Confusing World Ed Drew 
• Start Talking to Your Kids about Sex: A Practical Guide for Catholics Julia Sadusky 
• God's Signpost: How Marriage Points Us to God's Love Sam Allberry (picture book for children) 
• God's Go-Togethers: A Celebration of God's Design for People Sam Allberry (picture book for children) 
• Keswick 2024 seminar – Today’s Parenting Challenges: Sexuality and Gender  
• A Parent’s Guide to Social Media Axis 
• A Parent’s Guide to Smartphones Axis 
• A Parent’s Guide to Influencers Axis