Living - With Miles

The last trap we need to overcome on our journey to restoring ourselves to full engagement: Overcoming the negative. But there is a trick to it. Sometimes just deciding (for the right reasons) we need to have a certain outlook is enough to make it true.

I love Adulting. I spent years getting to life's grown up table, and I wouldn't give up my seat for the world. So what's with all the "Adulting is Hard" t-shirts? We got this. It ain't nothing but a thing and the toys are so much better.

How do we rebuild respect in ourselves? Let's start like we do with others, by listening. I recall an old tool once again: the Should-shank. Works wonders for this kind of reflection.

How to stop the debilitating over-correction that happens when we get hurt. It's all about owning the risks and making choices. Another in the series on rebuilding trust in our lives.

Strength is overcoming resistance. In our personal relationships though, sometimes we don't help ourselves to be strong. We can do this by establishing and maintaining meaningful boundaries.

Last week we acknowledged the loss of trust. Now let's get back engaged in life and start moving forward. Time to get back in that saddle and get back in the adventure.

When we are ready to start rebuilding trust in our lives, it is important to build on a solid foundation. We are that solid foundation and we need to understand what that foundation looks like. Start through reflection of innate emotional paradigms and understand those motives. From there we can build out without sabotaging ourselves in the future.

In this time of real hardship from the California Wildfires, we talk about the stages of grief and how they interact with the trust recovery paradigm.

Whenever our trust falters, we resort back to some kind of innate set of emotional responses. We can be subject to them or we can come to understand and learn from them. Once we know, then we can chose what to do from a more empowered place.

There is an emotional safety net that catches us when falling through the holes that failed trust leaves. They are innate to our being. Knowing when they are active and working is a big help when trying to get back in the driver's seat of our lives.