Most couples don’t realize they’re stuck in a conflict pattern… they just know they keep having the same argument.

In this episode, I’m sharing three common patterns I see in relationships and how they can quietly create distance—especially during big transitions like having a baby.

Because it’s not the conflict itself that causes disconnection… it’s the pattern underneath it.

If you’re expecting or planning for a baby, this is one of the most important conversations you can start having now.

I also introduce Us Before Baby, my upcoming program designed to help couples feel like a team before life gets more demanding.

Want to check out the course? Click here!

Part 2 of this powerful and eye-opening episode of Love After Lullabies, Miranda sits down with birth worker and activist Liz Farmer to explore why the United States has the worst maternal health outcomes in the developed world — and what we can do about it.

Liz shares her background in anthropology and birth work, explaining how both over-medicalization in the U.S. and lack of access to care globally impact mothers and babies. She breaks down the critical gap in postpartum care — especially the dangerous window between birth and the six-week checkup — and highlights how conditions like postpartum preeclampsia are often missed.

The conversation dives deep into the role of birth and postpartum doulas, how Oregon now mandates insurance coverage for doula services, and why community-based support dramatically reduces postpartum depression, anxiety, and maternal mortality — particularly for under-resourced families.

Miranda and Liz also explore the cultural history of birth, the impact of patriarchy and profit-driven medicine, and the importance of embodied childbirth education. Liz discusses the hormonal parallels between orgasm and birth, how stress hormones inhibit labor, and why safety and relaxation are essential for physiological birth.

This episode is an empowering look at reclaiming ancestral wisdom, advocating for better maternal care, and preparing both your body and your relationship for the transition into parenthood.

Bio of Liz Farmer:

Liz Farmer is a second generation Jewish American anthropologist, activist and birth worker.  Liz holds a BA in Biological Anthropology and an MA in Cultural Anthropology.  During her studies she researched the detriment of over medicalization of birth in the US versus how withholding medical care in the Global South negatively affects birth outcomes. After graduate school she went on to become a birth and postpartum doula, providing private paid care to high income clients while volunteering with marginalized, historically underserved communities.  Liz is currently Director of Portland New Family Fund, a nonprofit that supports low income families across Oregon and Washington with birth and postpartum doula care and advocates for insurance to cover these services.  Liz is a mama to a rambunctious 9 year old, has two kitties and a wonderful husband of 11 years.

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In this powerful and eye-opening episode of Love After Lullabies, Miranda sits down with birth worker and activist Liz Farmer to explore why the United States has the worst maternal health outcomes in the developed world — and what we can do about it.

Liz shares her background in anthropology and birth work, explaining how both over-medicalization in the U.S. and lack of access to care globally impact mothers and babies. She breaks down the critical gap in postpartum care — especially the dangerous window between birth and the six-week checkup — and highlights how conditions like postpartum preeclampsia are often missed.

The conversation dives deep into the role of birth and postpartum doulas, how Oregon now mandates insurance coverage for doula services, and why community-based support dramatically reduces postpartum depression, anxiety, and maternal mortality — particularly for under-resourced families.

Miranda and Liz also explore the cultural history of birth, the impact of patriarchy and profit-driven medicine, and the importance of embodied childbirth education. Liz discusses the hormonal parallels between orgasm and birth, how stress hormones inhibit labor, and why safety and relaxation are essential for physiological birth.

This episode is an empowering look at reclaiming ancestral wisdom, advocating for better maternal care, and preparing both your body and your relationship for the transition into parenthood.

Bio of Liz Farmer:

Liz Farmer is a second generation Jewish American anthropologist, activist and birth worker.  Liz holds a BA in Biological Anthropology and an MA in Cultural Anthropology.  During her studies she researched the detriment of over medicalization of birth in the US versus how withholding medical care in the Global South negatively affects birth outcomes. After graduate school she went on to become a birth and postpartum doula, providing private paid care to high income clients while volunteering with marginalized, historically underserved communities.  Liz is currently Director of Portland New Family Fund, a nonprofit that supports low income families across Oregon and Washington with birth and postpartum doula care and advocates for insurance to cover these services.  Liz is a mama to a rambunctious 9 year old, has two kitties and a wonderful husband of 11 years.

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Join us as we share personal updates, reflect on community events like the Super Plunge, discuss health challenges, and explore upcoming plans including a postpartum doula interview and a sound bath experience.

In this engaging conversation, Dr. Diane Mueller discusses her new book, 'Want to Want It,' focusing on the interplay between hormones, intimacy, and sexual health. She emphasizes the importance of understanding hormonal changes during parenthood, the need for comprehensive testing, and the differences between desire and arousal in relationships. The discussion also highlights the role of oxytocin in reducing stress and enhancing intimacy, as well as innovative tools that can help couples improve their sexual experiences. Dr. Mueller shares insights on the necessity of communication and prioritizing intimacy in relationships, while also teasing future works that will delve deeper into these topics.

Chapters

00:00 Technical Difficulties and Introduction

00:46 Exploring Hormonal Changes Post-Childbirth

03:43 Understanding Health Tests and Hormonal Balance

09:38 The Importance of Optimal Hormone Levels

12:25 Desire vs. Arousal: Understanding Intimacy

17:57 Stress and Its Impact on Intimacy

20:47 Prioritizing Relationships for Better Connection

23:08 Hormonal Changes and Their Impact on Focus

25:05 The Role of Oxytocin in Pleasure and Intimacy

27:44 Understanding Orgasm and Its Effects on Desire

29:05 The Evolution of Intimacy Through Life Stages

31:55 Oxytocin: The Key to Stress Relief and Connection

34:04 The Importance of Tracking Pleasure

37:52 Innovative Tools for Enhancing Sexual Experience

39:21 Shame and Its Impact on Sexual Pleasure

39:25 Upcoming Works and Resources for Couples

Guest Bio:

Dr. Diane Mueller, ND, DAOM, is a seasoned sexual wellness authority, blending a strong educational foundation with a rich clinical and teaching experience. With a dual doctorate in Naturopathic Medicine and Acupuncture and Oriental Medicine, Diane has illuminated the discourse on sexual health through her practice, My Libido Doc. Her personal journey through sexual health challenges has equipped her with a unique empathetic lens, enriching her holistic approach to patient care. Diane extends her expertise through 'The Libido Lounge' podcast, her online training institute, and by training medical professionals worldwide in functional medicine. Her proactive community engagements, including co-hosting sexual health events and participating in numerous summits, reflect her commitment to fostering a well-informed sexual wellness dialogue. At the heart of her practice lies the belief that a healthy libido is a cornerstone to holistic wellness, driving a practice that has orchestrated transformative health journeys for her clients.

1. Hot And Modern Monogamy Club: MyLibidoClub.com or Easy to remember URL: modernmonogamyclub.com
2. My Podcast "Libido Lounge" mylibidodoc.com/podcast
3. My website: MyLibidoDoc.com
4. Youtube: Youtube.com/@mylibidodoc
5. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mylibidodoc/

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In this solo episode of Love After Lullabies, Miranda welcomes returning guest, Atara Parkinson, a licensed marriage and family therapist, to discuss the importance of minerals in mental health and postpartum wellness. Atara shares her journey through chronic fatigue and how understanding mineral deficiencies transformed her approach to health. The conversation covers practical tips for incorporating essential minerals into daily life, the significance of nutrition in managing anxiety, and the empowering role of education in health decisions. Listeners are encouraged to make small, manageable changes to improve their well-being and to seek out resources for further support.

Bio of our guest:

Atara is a licensed Marriage and Family therapist and has been practicing in the field of mental health for 14 years. She's continued her education by becoming a certified integrative practitioner. Her current passions include holistic healing, supporting postpartum mamas, Brainspotting, therapeutic intensives and educating on the role of minerals for brain health and nervous system regulation. Revitalization and rebalancing client's are core goals in Atara's work. 

www.ataraparkinson.com

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In this conversation, Nicole Lange, founder of Life Healing Life, discusses her journey into acupuncture and women's healthcare, focusing on the integration of traditional Chinese medicine with modern medical practices. She highlights the emotional and psychological challenges women face during fertility treatments, including the prevalence of PTSD. Lange emphasizes the importance of holistic approaches that consider both physical and emotional health, advocating for trauma-informed care and the need for better education in fertility and reproductive health. The discussion also touches on the financial burdens of fertility treatments and the cultural perceptions surrounding them, as well as the significance of couples therapy in navigating these challenges together.

Bio of our guest:

Nicole Lange is an acupuncturist and thought leader who's pioneered trauma-informed fertility care since 2006—and she’s passionate about addressing what happens to relationships during the fertility journey and the ripples it makes (for better or worse). 

Nicole leads the conversation around the shocking reality that nearly 50% of women in fertility treatment develop PTSD regardless of whether they conceive. Research shows couples who undergo failed fertility treatments are more than twice as likely to divorce—not because treatment failed, but because typical fertility care breaks down both individuals AND their relationships.

Nicole's revolutionary approach integrates cutting-edge nervous system science with Traditional Chinese Medicine to prevent treatment-induced trauma while supporting couples through one of the most challenging experiences they'll face together. Her work serves all types of couples and relationships, teaching how to stay connected when you're on completely different pages about next steps, how to maintain intimacy when fertility becomes the third person in your relationship, and how to navigate this journey without sacrificing your partnership.

With nearly 20 years of clinical experience and outcomes that consistently surpass published studies, Nicole pioneers the best of both worlds—classic holistic practice integrated with modern science.

Find Nicole's programs and fertility education at lifehealinglife.com

Podcast listeners can enter LHLPOD for 10% off any online courses

And my online education is all on this page (lots for free): https://www.lifehealinglife.com/online-fertility-education

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In this episode, Miranda, her co-host Marisa sit down with Tianna Trinidad and explore the concept of 'mom brain' and its connection to hormonal changes after pregnancy. They discuss the societal pressures women face, particularly in relation to aging and health, and how capitalism influences these perceptions. Tianna shares her personal journey through loss and transformation, emphasizing the importance of mindset and body literacy in women's health. The conversation also touches on the challenges women of color face in healthcare, the effects of stress on cognitive function, and the complexities surrounding birth control. Ultimately, the episode encourages women to embrace their experiences and advocate for their health.

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Guest Bio:

Tianna Trinidad is a Registered Nurse and Founder of Love Served Warm, where she helps high-achieving women with PCOS regulate their cycles, restore ovulation, and get pregnant naturally, without diets, doctors, or burnout.

After losing her own pregnancy and being told she’d never conceive naturally, Tianna combined her medical background with trauma-informed coaching to create her From PCOS to Pregnancy framework. Her work blends hormone science with nervous system safety to help women feel at home in their bodies again.

She’s helped hundreds of women confirm ovulation, balance hormones, and build the families they were told were impossible.

www.loveservedwarm.com

In this conversation, Nicola Navon, a relationship communication and intimacy coach, shares her journey towards cultivating deep intimacy in her life and how she helps others do the same. The discussion covers the importance of communication in relationships, navigating triggers, shifting roles from parent to partner, and the significance of self-care and emotional trust in maintaining intimacy. Nicola emphasizes the need for vulnerability, expressing desires, and nurturing individual passions to keep the spark alive in relationships. In this conversation, Nicola, Miranda, and Aaron explore the complexities of parenting, intimacy, and communication in relationships, especially for new parents. They discuss the importance of self-care, the need for open communication, and the role of playfulness in maintaining intimacy. The conversation also delves into the challenges of sexual health post-childbirth and the societal pressures surrounding performance in relationships. Ultimately, they emphasize the importance of connection, understanding, and the fluidity of intimacy as life evolves.

Guest Bio:

Nicola Navon is a relationship and intimacy coach and the founder of Divine Union Coaching. Her work was born out of her own desire to feel deep intimacy and wild passion in her relationships, and she now guides couples and individuals into deeper connection, expression, and union by working with their communication and energetics. Her deeper mission is to bridge the gap between the masculine and feminine in relationships, and more broadly, through shared perspective, understanding, and resonance. She is trained in somatics, tantra, neuroscience, and communication, with additional expertise in masculine-feminine energetics and polarity. Outside of facilitating events in online and in Chicago, she hosts The Divine Union Podcast, loves doing Qigong in a random park in the city, studies Kabbalah, and enjoys cozying up in a local coffee shop with a book.

Check out her website:

https://www.nicolanavon.com/relationship-coaching

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In this festive episode, Ivy and Tallulah share their favorite Christmas jokes, movies, and memories. They discuss the best and worst gifts they've received, their favorite holiday books, and the joy of family traditions. The conversation flows into discussions about holiday treats, fun would-you-rather questions, and their thoughts on Christmas characters like Santa and the Grinch. The episode captures the essence of Christmas spirit through laughter, storytelling, and cherished moments with family.

Chapters:

00:00 Christmas Movie Favorites

01:12 Jokes and Laughter

03:04 Worst and Best Christmas Presents

05:11 Favorite Christmas Books and Stories

07:47 Christmas Traditions and Memories

10:04 Christmas Desserts and Treats

11:58 Family Gatherings and Celebrations

14:12 Would You Rather Christmas Edition

16:13 Final Jokes and Farewell

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