Love and Libido

It’s probably no secret that your upbringing shaped the way you interact with people around you, especially your romantic partner. You may even be able to pinpoint your triggers. But how skilled are you at identifying the specific attachment wound that was triggered, and – more importantly – calming and ultimately reprogramming your nervous system to respond instead of react? That’s the topic of today’s episode. Jenn Pinkerton is a psychotherapist, high-performance coach, certified sex therapist, writer, speaker, and host of the REDHEADREVEAL® Podcast. As the owner of Pinkerton Psychotherapy, she works with individuals and couples to uncover the root causes […]

What does it really mean to love the one you’re with? On today’s episode of Love and Libido, I sit down with Dr. Corey Allan to talk about what makes marriages thrive, why intimacy is a learned skill, and how to stop waiting six years before seeking help. If you’re in a long-term relationship, this one’s a must-listen! Learn more about Corey Purchase my new book Anatomy of Desire in hardcover, ebook, or audiobook here: https://bit.ly/4fob5pi If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to follow & subscribe so that you’ll be notified when a new episode is released. If you like what you’re hearing, don’t […]

Did you know that the bedroom is often the last place for unresolved issues to show up? That’s right. Imagine you’ve done therapy and are feeling better about yourself. You get into a relationship and start having sex only to discover that sex feels off. Is it bad chemistry, or could it be your old demons rearing their ugly heads again? That just scratches the surface of everything we cover in today’s episode. I’m joined by relationship expert Naketa Rig Thigpen. After escaping a family of violence and exploitation, my guest discovered her inner nerd and learned everything she could […]

Are you one of the many people who finds it hard to quiet the mind enough to focus during sex? Does pleasure feel like elusive because of how detached you are from your body? Then you need to listen to today’s episode. Today I am joined by embodiment expert Mark Walsh. His work on embodiment was a huge inspiration for the material in my book, so it’s an extra honor to sit down with him today. Not only will you finish the episode with practical tools, I promise you’ll be entertained. I can’t help it, I am such a sucker […]

Would most people look at your relationship and assume everything is fine? Maybe you and your partner are high functioning all things considered, but there is a thorn in the side of the relationship that is preventing you from fully thriving in love. Old resentments, relationship betrayals, and unhealed trauma can prevent relationships from reaching their full emotional and erotic potential which is the topic of today’s episode. Today, I’m joined by sex and trauma expert and now psychedelic retreat facilitator, Dr. Holly Richmond. Let’s get to know our guest.  Dr. Holly Richmond is a Somatic Psychotherapist, Licensed Marriage & […]

Do you or your partner struggle to feel free and uninhibited in the bedroom? Shame could very likely be the culprit. Sexual shame is deep and pervasive, even in today’s society. We’ve made some progress as a culture, but we still have a long ways to go. In today’s episode, I sit down with a renowned expert on sexual shame. We talk about when and how sexual shame worked its way into the collective psyche and discuss strategies to overcome it. You don’t want to miss this one! Let’s meet our guest.  Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers is a licensed sex […]

Are you someone who struggles with unwanted sexual fantasies? Are you a survivor of sexual abuse and struggling to regain your sexual power? Or maybe you’re curious about how the field of sex therapy has evolved in the last 40 years. Well, I cover all of that and more in today’s episode of Love and Libido.  I had the absolute pleasure of sitting down with one of my favorite sex therapists, Wendy Maltz, whose career has spanned four decades. No matter how many times I clean out my bookshelf, her books remain front and center as a resource to myself […]

Kicking off Part 2 of my conversation with cyberinfidelity expert, Dr. Peter Kanaris! If you missed Part 1, go back and catch up—we broke down some eye-opening stats on who’s most likely to cheat and why. Today, we’re diving into Dr. Kanaris’ collaborative model for infidelity recovery and rebuilding trust. This is a must-listen for anyone looking to heal after betrayal. Dr. Peter Kanaris is a licensed psychologist and an AASECT Certified Diplomat of Sex Therapy. He is a Distinguished Fellow of the New York State Psychological Association. He has been the featured guest on many live interviews and call-in […]

Infidelity ain’t what it used to be. Like it or not, the internet has opened a whole new frontier ripe for cheating. Whether you’ve faced this in your own relationship or not, you need to listen to today’s episode with cyberinfidelity expert, Dr. Peter Kanaris. Our conversation was so good that I had to break it up into two episodes. In part 1, we will discuss statistics around infidelity and cyperinfidelity, so you’ll know who is most likely to cheat and why. And be sure to come back for Part 1 when we dive into infidelity recovery and how to […]

The dreaded relationship argument. It’s inevitable. You feel tension building only to explode on your partner, saying things you don’t mean and damaging the relationship as a result. But what exactly happens to the body during an argument and what can you do to hack the nervous system so that you and your partner can learn to fight fair? That’s the topic of today’s episode. I am joined by Deborah Fox a clinical social worker with over thirty-five years of experience in private practice in Washington, DC. She is a Certified Imago Relationship Therapist and a Certified Sex therapist, providing […]