Love and Libido

Are you someone who struggles with unwanted sexual fantasies? Are you a survivor of sexual abuse and struggling to regain your sexual power? Or maybe you’re curious about how the field of sex therapy has evolved in the last 40 years. Well, I cover all of that and more in today’s episode of Love and Libido.  I had the absolute pleasure of sitting down with one of my favorite sex therapists, Wendy Maltz, whose career has spanned four decades. No matter how many times I clean out my bookshelf, her books remain front and center as a resource to myself […]

Are you struggling to overcome a sexual difficulty like an elusive orgasm or loss of erection? Or maybe you’re feeling sexually disconnected from your partner and want a strategy to reintegrate sex without it feeling awkward and uncomfortable. Perhaps you’re a cancer survivor and need help reawakening the pleasure pathways in your body. One sexual intervention is tried and true – sensate focus. Which is the topic of today’s episode. About half way through recording, I realized that I opened nearly every sentence with “one thing I love about sensate” and that’s because there is a lot to love! Linda […]

Kicking off Part 2 of my conversation with cyberinfidelity expert, Dr. Peter Kanaris! If you missed Part 1, go back and catch up—we broke down some eye-opening stats on who’s most likely to cheat and why. Today, we’re diving into Dr. Kanaris’ collaborative model for infidelity recovery and rebuilding trust. This is a must-listen for anyone looking to heal after betrayal. Dr. Peter Kanaris is a licensed psychologist and an AASECT Certified Diplomat of Sex Therapy. He is a Distinguished Fellow of the New York State Psychological Association. He has been the featured guest on many live interviews and call-in […]

Infidelity ain’t what it used to be. Like it or not, the internet has opened a whole new frontier ripe for cheating. Whether you’ve faced this in your own relationship or not, you need to listen to today’s episode with cyberinfidelity expert, Dr. Peter Kanaris. Our conversation was so good that I had to break it up into two episodes. In part 1, we will discuss statistics around infidelity and cyperinfidelity, so you’ll know who is most likely to cheat and why. And be sure to come back for Part 1 when we dive into infidelity recovery and how to […]

What can vanilla people learn from kinky people? It turns out, they can learn a lot! Kinky people have figured out how to negotiate, explore, and take care of each other in really wonderful ways, skills that apply not just to them, but to all people. Today we are going to start by busting some myths and misconceptions about kink and kinky people, and then my wonderful guest is going to outline 5 clear lessons that vanilla people can take home.  But first, let’s get to know our guest.  Claire Perelman is a Queer, Jewish Sex Therapist and Educator living […]

Sexual desire remains one of the most complex yet common issues that sex therapists treat. How do you maintain a passion in a long-term relationship? Is it possible to have hot monogamy despite the monotony of day-to-day life? What does pleasure have to do with desire? What can heterosexual couples learn from lesbians about desire and pleasure? Let’s just say that we have a lot to discuss. Today I’m joined by Dr. Jenn Kennedy, a clinical sexologist and licensed marriage and family therapist based in Santa Barbara. In 2023, Dr. Jenn launched The Pleasure Project, which is dedicated to helping […]

The dreaded relationship argument. It’s inevitable. You feel tension building only to explode on your partner, saying things you don’t mean and damaging the relationship as a result. But what exactly happens to the body during an argument and what can you do to hack the nervous system so that you and your partner can learn to fight fair? That’s the topic of today’s episode. I am joined by Deborah Fox a clinical social worker with over thirty-five years of experience in private practice in Washington, DC. She is a Certified Imago Relationship Therapist and a Certified Sex therapist, providing […]

Today, I had the absolute pleasure of sitting down with celebrity television host, Samantha Harris. Samantha was at the top of her game hosting Dancing with the Stars when she experienced a health crisis that stopped her dead in her tracks. Her story was one of the most beautiful I have heard on how intimacy can deepen, and how sex can improve after navigating a crisis effectively as a couple. Every couple can learn from how she and her wonderful husband worked together to overcome the painful aftermath of her recovery. She candidly shares tips on how they reconnected not […]

Ever catch yourself wondering if those butterflies in your stomach are signs of excitement or warning signals? Today, we’re discovering how to spot these signs and what your gut feelings really mean. Joining me is Lauren Zoeller, an expert in turning personal challenges into stepping stones for better relationships. She’s not just a podcast host and speaker; she’s helped thousands through her unique approach to emotional and generational healing. In this episode, we dive into how our bodies react in relationships and what these reactions tell us. It’s like having a conversation about what goes on under the surface when […]

Sexual scripts comprise your attitudes, values, beliefs, feelings, and behaviors about sex. They are formed from a very young age and are affected by your upbringing, culture, religion, experiences, and expectations about gender. Holding too rigid of a sexual script inhibits pleasure and satisfaction, especially as you age. Given the fact that we are living longer, we need to talk about how to adapt our scripts to our lives as they evolve. Early in 2021, Jim Benton decided on a career change. After many years in the Special Events industry, and the ravages of Covid-19, Jim took a deep dive […]