Love Before 100

In the first episode of season 3 of the Transformation Maven podcast, Rachel Burch is talking all about desires and manifestation. Sometimes in the middle of the process of manifestation, we change our mind about what it is that we want, and guess what? That’s okay! Listen in to hear  Rachel’s takeaways from the “End of Effort” meditation retreat with Kyle Cease and why she encourages you to release any outdated desires that are keeping you from the next level of growth.

01:40 - Why it’s okay to release outdated desires once you’ve reached a certain level.

03:00 - How buying (and selling) a Bronco helped Rachel see how powerful she is.

04:00 - Lessons that desires teach

05:10 - Why there are no “right” desires

06:02 - After 6 days of digital detox and meditation, Rachel finds clarity.

07:15 - Rachels attends a meditation retreat run by Kyle Cease at Asilomar. 

08:25 - Day 1: “Surrender expectations.”

09:20 - Coronavirus gives us the opportunity to prioritize.

11:36 - The mistaken belief that we’ll be back at square one if we release a desire or expectation.

12:26 - “What are you avoiding feeling?”

13:20 - Rachel shares her experience of the day her brother died and how her need for control grabbed hold of her.

15:40 - A part of Rachel gets deeply healed.

17:02 - Lesson from day 2: Keeping commitments to ourselves.

18:04 - When we don’t keep our promises to ourselves, we stop trusting ourselves.

19:11 - “Releasing the illusion of control.”

20:46 - Lessons from 40 hours of silence - heightened senses, appreciating a friend’s essence, talking & thinking to avoid feeling.

23:14 - Growing up as the granddaughter of Holocaust survivors

25:15 - What you say you want for your children is actually what you want for yourself.

27:57 - The peak of the feeling that we’re afraid to feel lasts no more than 90 seconds.

Rachel Reva is a marketing and PR expert and a new mom living in Australia. Originally from a small town in Georgia, Rachel moved to Australia in 1999 with her mom and sisters after her mother met a man on the internet. In this episode, we talk about the journey of motherhood and how there are many ways to be a good mom. Stay tuned for the end of the episode where we share some marketing and social media tips, including how to be of service and what to post when you’re going through a hard time.

02:56 - Rachel shares her career journey, including the 12 years she spent in the PR industry.

03:38 - Rachel talks about losing her father when she was young, and the journey that it took her family on. 

07:01 - Taking the fear out of big life decisions

09:46 - Rachel asks herself some important questions before deciding on her next step.

10:08 - A financial goal helps Rachel find clarity.

12:18 - Rachel lands a job at the BBC.

14:06 - “Don’t share your most intimate stuff with people that haven’t earned it.”

15:03 - Pairing intuition with strategy.

15:27 - One date changes everything in Rachel’s life.

16:44 - “When you make a decision in the state of certainty, it’s never the wrong decision.”

18:04 - How Rachel’s background in crisis management is serving her as a new mom.

20:46 - It doesn’t get better, it gets different.

26:54 - “There’s a time for grieving, there’s a time for release, there’s a time for all of it. But you get to choose which ground you stand on.”

27:08 - Rachel shares the way she finds support in difficult situations.

30:11 - A discussion of the many ways to be a good mom

35:00 - Lightning Round

40:52 - “Look up, say yes, and go.”

46:55 - Sharing from the place of giving on social media.

Jodie Dolan is the founder of the fashion brand Dolan, which you may have seen in stores like Anthropologie and Saks Fifth Avenue. She’s also the creator of The Laundry Truck LA, which is a free mobile laundry service that supports the homeless population in Los Angeles. In this episode of The Transformation Maven Podcast, Jodie is sharing how persistence, intuition, and having an amazing team has been the secret recipe to her success. 

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01:44 - Rachel and Jodie catch up after not seeing each other for 20 years

03:04 - Rachel walks into Anthropologie and notices that all of the tops she’s drawn to are from Jodie’s fashion brand.

04:09 - Jodie shares the story of how her fashion brand was born.

04:52 - The first order Jodie gets is a $10,000 order from Saks Fifth Avenue.

05:41 - The key to Jodie’s success.

07:03 - Jodie learns the value of having a great team.

09:20 - In 2016, Jodie is coming out of a fashion event and experiences a powerful moment.

10:10 - Jodie finds herself on Skid Row volunteering with Monday Night Mission.

11:30 - Jodie starts a mobile laundry service for the homeless.

12:49 - The future of The Laundry Truck LA

13:44 - Jodie describes the network of services for the homeless in Los Angeles.

15:19 - Rachel shares her experience working with the homeless as an attorney.

16:16 - The power of smiling at a stranger on the street.

18:02 - Putting something good out into the universe!

19:09 - Jodie reflects on the group effort that helped create The Laundry Truck LA.

20:20 - Miley Cyrus, Shonda Rimes, and Ashton Kutcher show their support for The Laundry Truck LA.

22:58 - Using the masculine and feminine sides to achieve success.

26:56 - The Lightning Round.

In this age of social media, it can seem like everyone is calm and put together, but the truth is, we’re all paddling like crazy underneath. Being happy takes work and today’s guest, comedian and actor Karen Forman, is someone who is doing that work. In this episode of The Transformation Maven Podcast, she’s chatting with Rachel about a project called “40 First Dates” and the growth that resulted from it, how developing a cocky LA new-age character helped her develop confidence onstage, and how her new series “I'm Triggered” went viral and was praised by Brené Brown. You can follow Karen on her Instagram account, where she does a parody of an influencer and her website. 

02:39 - Karen introduces herself - she’s a stand-up comic, writer, actor, and an improvisor.

03:01 - Rachel and Karen chat about the Funniest Housewives Competition.

05:28 - Karen’s web series “Triggered” takes a life of it’s own and gets promoted by Brené Brown and Dr. Dan Siegel. 

06:29 - After doing stand-up for many years, Karen decides that she wants to become a character on stage. 

08:00 - Pause the podcast and watch the web series here!

09:26 - What happens when you stop trying to make things go viral?

10:30 - Karen talks about her project “40 First Dates.”

11:44 - The impact of EMDR on Karen and how it affected her dating life.

13:53 - How our relationships can reflect our growth.

14:47 - Do you have to love yourself before someone else can love you?

17:30 - How stand-up saved Karen’s life.

18:53 - Karen talks about the many things she enjoys.

20:39 - The Lightning Round.

In this episode of The Transformation Maven Podcast, Rachel shares her experiences on Bumble, including her first date in 20 years (while in the South of France), how she overcomes the fear of rejection, and about how trusting the process has kept her from dating Mr. Terrible, Horrible, No Good, and Very Bad. 

01:22 - Life Lesson #1: You can’t win if you don’t play the game.

01:44 - Rachel’s first date in 20 years.

02:08 - In the South of France, with the support of friends, wine, and sunshine, Rachel downloads the Bumble app. 

02:51 - “Oops.”

03:57 - The Rules of Bumble

05:14 - The many reasons that Rachel was scared to go on a date.

06:05 - Rachel accepts an invitation for drinks.

08:06 - The date ends abruptly, but then…

09:08 - Life Lesson #2: We don’t audition for them, they audition for us.

09:58 - Rachel goes on another date, this time with an attorney in Miami. 

10:35 - Rachel’s date is shocked to find out that she is also an attorney.

11:04 - Life Lesson #3 - Trust the process.

12:10 - The Will Smith quote that’s become Rachel’s dating motto.

13:20 - After Rachel asks God for a sign, she gets a huge surprise

15:03 - A special form of rejection that happens on Bumble.

17:10 - “When we’re feeling crappy about something, gratitude is always the antidote.”

17:46 - The Hater Fantasy

18:32 - Laughing at lazy swipers with Milo Ventimiglia and Ellen Degeneres.

19: 30 - Rachel decides to take a sabbatical from dating....until January 1, 2020.

Dr. Michelle Ward is the host of 2 true crime television shows: “The Mind of a Murderer” and “Stalked: Someone’s Watching”. In this episode, she chats with Rachel about everything from what it’s like to walk the halls of death row to what it’s like to move your family to the South of France. Life is a complex balance of pleasure and pain, and this conversation covers it all!

01:48 - Michelle got her PhD in clinical neuroscience with a focus on the biological underpinnings of murder. 

02:25 - After learning that the math we use to predict human behavior can be used to predict jury behavior, Michelle became a litigation consultant.

02:42 - Michelle became the “Murder Girl” and consulted on big cases around the country like the Phil Spector and Casey Anthony trials.

03:00 - Michelle became one of the talking heads of the Phil Spector trial and was offered a chance to host a television show. 

05:09 - “If you become an expert in anything, there will be a job for you.”

07:14 - Michelle realized that she was exhilarated by doing new things everyday - especially when she’s walking into prisons and meeting murderers. 

09:40 - #1 funny thing: When visiting Houston death row, Michelle had to sign a contract saying that if she was taken hostage, the sharpshooter would shoot her. 

10:41 - #2 funny thing: At the same prison, Michelle has to go into the chaplain’s office to pump breastmilk, when an inmate wandered in. That guy was scared straight!

11:44 - Rachel asks Michelle how she stays so balanced when she is confronted by so much darkness.

12:51 - “When I look back on my life, the times when I’m laughing...are the times when I felt most centered and balanced.”

14:32 - The science behind “laughter is the best medicine.”

15:42 - Why social media can end up making us feel worse when we’re in a bad place.

18:17 - The posts people really want to see on social media.

20:00 - Michelle lost both of her parents in a short amount of time and she decided to move abroad.

22:09 - Michelle’s friend told her about a town in Provence called Bonnieux and she decided to take action.

23:35 - “I have never felt so alive.”

25:02 - Rachel had a chance to visit Michelle during her time in Bonnieux.

27:07 - “Life is this push and pull of pleasure and pain. And if we don’t allow ourselves the pleasure, we’re going to sit in the pain.”

27:33 - Michelle’s marriage fell apart in France, but it was still an important experience.

29:00 - Thoughts on inertia.

30:00 - Do you want to just feel happy or do you want to feel alive?

32:20 - Balancing life’s more serious moments with humor.

35:45 - Michelle makes her friends laugh even when she’s not there!

36:16 - Michelle can be very gullible…

38:58 - Michelle meets a guy named “Yo.”

40:22 - The Lightning Round.

In last week’s episode, you heard Rachel’s stand up comedy set from the Funniest Housewives Competition Finals. This week Rachel is sharing her process as she was preparing for this competition, including the fears and excuses that came up along the way. She challenges you to notice if there are any fears that are coming up as you work towards your goals!

01:30 - 10 years ago, Rachel attended an event where everyone shared what they would do if they had no fear.

02:19 - Rachel’s answer? Travel around the world and perform stand up comedy.

03:02 - Rachel signed up for a 6-week comedy class called Students of Stand Up. 

03:49 - After her first performance, Rachel was officially in love with stand up!

04:23 - Changing your state through comedy.

05:34 - Rachel realizes she’s created a story about her comedy - that it’s only for a certain kind of person.

06:47 - Rachel sees that there’s a competition called “The Funniest Housewives”, but doesn’t even think about entering. She even thinks that maybe her sister should do it!

08:17 - Rachel’s comedy teacher suggests that she give it a try!

09:23 - After putting the competition on her to-do list, but delaying signing up, Rachel feels a sense of accomplishment when she completes the application.

09:30 - “Maybe I don’t want that…” “Maybe I don’t have time for that…”

10:50 - How often do we deny ourselves from celebrating our achievements?

11:20 - Rachel is accepted into the preliminary competition, and then moves on to the next round!

12:36 - Visualization: Rachel pictures herself moving on to the finals, she set an alarm on her phone congratulating herself for moving on to the finals, and she wakes up and says to herself “I’m so happy and grateful that I moved on to the finals.”

13:23 - Rachel ups her game…

14:14 - Taking suggestions from Mike Dooley’s Leveraging the Universe.

15:07 - On the day of the competition, Rachel has a Babe Ruth moment.

16:07 - “This or something better.”

16:42 - Rachel places 3rd, but has 2 important people come up to her. 

17:50 - “We’ve got to stop making failure mean something about us that it doesn’t mean.”

19:08 - A Facebook message…

20:40 - Commit to saying yes when it feels uncomfortable and you know it’s good for you.

Enjoy this comedy interlude featuring Rachel's performance from the Funniest Housewives Competition Finals. This comedy set covers hypochondria, vegans, drug commercials, and marriage. Then stay tuned for next week where Rachel shares the story behind the competition and the blocks she had to overcome to make it to the finals!

Rachel Burch was able to manifest her dream car, from vision board to garage, in just 9 days...but not without overcoming some fears and obstacles first. In this episode of The Transformation Maven Podcast, Rachel is sharing how she made it happen, starting with the first step: giving herself permission to have the thing she wants, right now.

01:00 - Rachel talks about how challenging it was to record this episode

01:35 - The vintage Bronco that Rachel has wanted since high school.

01:54 - “As we give ourselves permission to have the things we want to have, do the things we want to do, be the person we want to be now, before we achieve every single goal we’ve ever set out for ourselves, we’re going to have a lot of shit come up.”

02:45 - What is something you really want?

04:10 - Manifesting starts with taking the first step: giving yourself full permission to have it right now.

05:04 - Rachel realizes that she needs to set a goal, and this one thing pops out to her from her vision board…

07:00 - Don’t make a decision when you’re in a low vibe place.

07:52 - “I deserve to feel good.”

09:21 - Why you shouldn’t wait to get the things you want.

10:00 - An obstacle to manifestation: other people’s negative talk.

11:43 - When 2 people in Rachel’s life showed their love and support in different ways.

13:34 - Start thinking about the different ways to get what you want, and a viable option will present itself.

14:50 - “Once you start this process, magic can happen.”

17:22 - Why you should read Jen Sincero’s You are a Badass at Making Money.

19:56 - Rachel says yes! But then another hurdle appears….

21:34 - The car or the $3000?

23:20 - “When you make these things happen, you are a changed person.”

In this episode of The Transformation Maven Podcast, Rachel shares what happened after manifesting her dream car, the resulting slump in "high vibe" energy and what she did to get back in the game.  

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