Love Bites

When you were in your last relationship, were you always honest with your feelings? Did you relay them openly to your partner? What about while breaking up? Has the story about why you broke up changed with some and hindsight, and could you be more honest with that ex now than maybe you were during the time you were together? On last week’s show, therapist Vienna Pharaon guided Ben through some patterns that came to light in his correspondence with two of his ex-girlfriends. Today, Diana Gasperoni of BeHER walks Jacqueline through if the communication she shared between her exes was as strong and open as she thinks it was, with the five questions each ex answered as fodder for their explorations.

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“Breaking up is hard to do,” goes the old Neil Sedaka song. But when you’ve got a radio show about establishing new and long-lasting relationships, sometimes you’ve got to push past any lingering “what ifs?” and get to the root of the issue. So on today’s show, Ben presents a list of questions he’s asked a few of the past women in his life: Why did they breakup? What did and didn’t work about them as a couple? What do they think of when they think of him now? And do they have any regrets? Guided by therapist Vienna Pharaon of Mindful Marriage and Family Therapy, Ben talks through the answers his exes sent him alongside the answers he wrote about the relationships, exploring if any of the “good” or “bad” about them might be affecting his chances of finding new love now. Plus, Jacqueline updates on what happened after she reported an abusive guy on OK Cupid, and what the site could have done to make the transaction a bit clearer. And the team sets up what Jacqueline will explore when her own therapist comes on to guide her through her “We We Didn’t Work” answers on next week’s show! Have a listen.

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For our first show of the new year and to kick off our second season (!), we’re recapping what we learned about dating in 2015 and setting dating goals for the upcoming year. Then we’re joined by It’s Not You author Sara Eckel, whose book dispels 27 myths single women have thrust at them constantly. Are you too negative, too liberated, too picky, too intimidating or too desperate? Do you “not really want a relationship” or should you “have married that guy”?! Find out what Sara’s learned from her studies of relationships and relationship self help books, and then stay tuned for the return of the “Online Dating Ass of the Week” awards, where we pull up some particularly sad exchanges we’ve had of late.

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We welcome back Antony Raymond of Elsinore County and Andrew McLeod of Union Beer – the guests on our two unaired pilots – for our last show of 2015! In a festive and celebratory mode, we talk what we’re drinking and eating this week, and then break down some dating cliches to get at the root of their truth. Is it better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all? Do you only find love when you stop looking? Or do you have to be out in the light in order to have love find you? Hear four opinions – for better or for worse – and get a sneak peak at what’s to come in 2016!

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We’re all for crazy love. The kind that kisses and consumes you. The kind the flames quickly and dies, and the kind that burns on embers indefinitely. There is no right kind of way to love (well, stalking and dangerous stuff aside, of course). Loving is loving, and we wanna hear stories of it in all forms.

Which is why we’ve asked Heritage Radio’s own Erin Fairbanks to join us on the show. Erin once shared a story with us of discovering a boyfriend’s insanely dark, hidden secret… and staying with him anyway. Longer than her loved ones wanted her to. We don’t want to give away too much. So let’s just say the story will be juicy, and we’ll all learn a bit from her trials and tribulations.

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Sometimes you have sex, sometimes you don’t. Sex can be one thing in your twenties, another in your thirties, and a new thing entirely depending on the person you’re having sex with. So what does sex mean to our hosts right now, today? Jacqueline and Ben share what having (or not having) sex does for them at the present moment, and what they hope for the future. Then they’re joined by Samuel Abrahams and Tom Greaves, the filmmaker and lead of the short film, Offline Dating. How did Samuel feel watching Tom walk up to strangers and ask them out? What was Tom feeling while he got rejected over and over again? And what they have learned from the process that we can take into our dating lives. Listen to find out.

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This week, Jacqueline swaps her general positivity for crank (as she wrote recently for BlogHer). So Ben grills her about dates canceling the day of, how ghosting is socially acceptable now, and how singletons keep their cool with friend after friend pairs off and disappears. What can we be doing to date better, or at least own our being single? Then they’re joined by Jesse Hirsch, the editor of Edible Manhattan and Edible Brooklyn. He recently ended a 6-year relationship… because of his job (somewhat, he says). What happens when your schedule is dominated by work events? When your significant others doesn’t want to join? Or when they really don’t give a shit about why you think kohlrabi is the new cauliflower (which was the new kale). Have a listen for the crankiest show of this season.

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On today’s show, Jacqueline and Ben talk confidence. How do you own it on a first date? In a relationship? Where is the line between confidence and ego? And is “owning yourself” enough? Then they’re joined by Lauren Resler, the pastry chef of Empellon restaurant and the mothers to 9-month old Jaxon Alexander Stupak, the #TacoPrince! She dishes about the challenges of motherhood in the industry, and how it’s a little different for women than men. Listen up, ladies.

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On last week’s show, Ben prepared for a date with a woman he’d been hooked up with via a listener! Was he more or less nervous? Where was he gonna take her? This week, we get the scoop on how it went, and how a first date moves on (or doesn’t) to a second. Then the team is joined by Lisa Mendelson, the Senior PR Manager for design and restaurant group, AvroKo. Lisa (single) shares why she’s okay NOT dating right now, and how handling publicity for a super-creative group affects whether or not she’ll start again any time soon. Have a listen.

“I’m a little notorious for meeting bartenders and dating them.. because I find it easy to be at a bar and have a conversation.” [20:00]

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On today’s show, Jacqueline and Ben explore how putting a call out to listeners for dates has manifested in ACTUAL DATES, and the benefits of getting setup by friends. How does it work? DOES it work? What can we gain from going offline and letting friends of friends set us up?! Then, they’re joined by Jamie Feldmar and Sarah Zorn, two local food writers. Jamie’s single, Sarah’s married, but neither of them are immune to the pressures a very social work life puts on the absence or existence of a significant other. How does eating for a living trump a dating life, or what do you do when your spouse doesn’t wanna join you for yet another walk-around tasting? The ladies spill. Then the team shares the best thing they ate / read / watched or listened to regarding dating and dining this past week.

“To me, date night is staying home with my husband…”  [10:30]

-Sarah Zorn

-Jamie Feldmar

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