My first podcast guess is George 'TheTinmen' who advocates for the less than popular side of gender equality; boy's and men's issues. He has a remarkable ability to present uncomfortable facts and ugly truths about the challenges' our boy's and men are facing in society. BECOME A CHANNEL MEMBER ▶▶▶ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCE_Fs1wPifrghIGdSzsbrKg/join

Our recording platform decided to fail completely, just 30 minutes before our interview, so we made the decision to improvise rather than risk losing the opportunity to talk to George entirely.

I hope you can tolerate the dial up 90’s video quality (should be ok on a phone), because what follows is a wonderful conversation with George about how our are men are doing, what we might do to address the terrible truths about our school system, male loneliness, suicide and the fact that no-one really wants to talk about any of these important issues.

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Support George’s heroic work here: https://www.patreon.com/thetinmen

Here is the charity “Two Pints Deep” which George mentioned if you would like to support them: https://www.twopintsdeep.com/

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▼ ⌚️Timestamps ▼

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0:00 – 1:15 – Introduction

1:15 – 8:06 – Why Do This?

8:06 – 11:08 - Why Don’t We Care About Men?

11:08 – 15:51 - Male Victims of Abuse

15:51 – 21:16 - Women Can Be ‘Bad’ Too

21:16 – 26:58 - Male Suicide & Public Awareness

26-58 - 34:45 - Lack of Support for Men & Boys

34:45 – 40:31 - Societal Disregard for Men

40:31 – 46:25 - How Can We Help Men?

46:25 – 55:35 - Can We Ask Women to Help?

56:35 – 58:18 - Outro

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If you want your husband to function well, then sex needs to be regular and enjoyable feature of your marriage. If you have committed to loving your spouse, then do it well!

Why do so many women stop wanting sex with their husbands after marriage or children? And what can you do, as a couple to rescue your sex life? This in-depth guide is for men & women.

If you want your marriage to thrive and to be filled with pleasure, contentment and satisfaction, then you simply cannot give up on sex. Choosing to have no or little to no sex in marriage is like taking a wrecking ball to the whole enterprise. If my own story had not convinced me of that, then the countless couples I meet who aren’t having sex certainly would have.

There is a solution. It doesn’t have to be this way. There are plenty of things both spouses can do to understand what’s going on and work together to resolve the situation. It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been together or how long this has been a problem in your marriage; the solution is the same.

In a sex positive marriage, both partners experience greater feelings of intimacy and aliveness. These marriages are filled with more joy, connection, excitement and laughter than their sexually dull counter parts.

Developing and maintaining a sex positive attitude is important for the quality of not only our marriages, but also every other aspect of our health as human beings.

To develop this sexual positivity, some of us will need to embark on a journey if we haven't yet done so. Perhaps a journey of healing, increased awareness, of analysis, and of self-acceptance. We might have to ask ourselves why we feel so negatively about this aspect of our nature. We might have to address our own hang-ups or deal with past negative sexual experiences. We might have to consider what the people around us taught us to think about sex. We might also have to question the cultural narrative around what sex in marriage really looks like and have the courage to create something entirely different for ourselves.

If your husband tells you that sex is important to him, then in my view sex simply isn’t optional in your marriage if you want him to feel loved. We expect our husbands to meet our emotional needs, so we need to meet theirs.

Surely real love means caring about the general well-being of our partners and giving them what they actually need, rather than what we feel like giving? If our husbands say they need sex to feel fulfilled, then they need sex to feel fulfilled. End of story. We can't just decide they're mistaken and reject what they're telling us, that would be unfair. If you had a dog that needed walking daily, you wouldn’t refuse to walk it because you didn’t feel like it and then wonder why it’s pacing the walls and chewing up your furniture. The dog needs exercise or it will go mad. There’s nothing wrong with the dog.

If you are married to a good man who takes good care of you, and he tells you that sex is important to him, then in my view sex simply isn’t optional if you want him to feel loved. If we expect our husbands to be generous in meeting our emotional needs, then we need to be generous in meeting theirs.

If your marriage is unfulfilling and your husband or wife is refusing to engage in a healthy way, then you need to take responsibility for its recovery and lead by example.

If our marriages have been unhappy for some time, it’s likely that many of the things we already tried did not work, and it’s probably time that we try something new. As the old saying goes, the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result.

It will become increasingly difficult for a lazy or mean-spirited spouse to dictate the terms of your marriage if you are physically, emotionally and spiritually fit. If you are consistently meeting their needs and they continue to dismiss yours, then I would argue you have a martial obligation to protest. In a healthy marriage each spouse keeps the other on their toes.

You’re meant to inspire and support each other to grow and develop as individuals so that your union becomes a force stronger than the sum of its parts. You’re meant to be a team.

A relationship contract is a written agreement in which you both have an opportunity to define boundaries, hopes, expectations and a shared vision for the future of your relationship.

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Is your relationship on the right track? Is your it where you hoped it would be when you first started dating? Is the division of labour in your household fair? Is your spending under control? Are you able to discuss your needs with each other and feel heard when you do? Are you treating each other with love and respect on a daily basis, or have you slipped into resentment and apathy? Do you each commit to making meaningful changes where necessary?

If you answered no to any of these questions, then you might find a relationship contract could help you make a fresh start as a couple.

The socially acceptable addiction to news, entertainment and social media is contributing to the deterioration of our mental health, creativity, physical well-being and relational intimacy.

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Putting our screens down isn’t going to be easy, they are obviously hugely addictive to us. But, if they’re a problem for you currently, you can make some simple steps in the right direction today.

-Put your phone in the glove box when you arrive at the restaurant.

-Leave it at home when you go for a walk.

-Enforce a ‘no phones at the table’ or/and ‘no phones in the bedroom’ rule at home.

-Turn off notifications.

-Set App Time Limits.

-Turn your phone off at the same time everyday and leave it off.

-Notice when you unconsciously reach for your device and make a decision to leave it where it is.

Use screens the way a moderate drinker might choose to use alcohol. Mindfully, in moderation and with an awareness that too much is bad for your health.

Maintenance sex is the concept of having sex with a partner who you love, in order to strengthen the relationship and improve intimacy – even when you might not be in the mood for it yourself.

It is something you are willing to do for the health of the relationship, to feel connected with and to care for your partner and it is a mutual decision made by both of you. It is an effective and hopefully temporary strategy for a couple to manage discrepancies in sexual desire which are perfectly natural and normal.

It is a way to prioritise your partner and the relationship. It facilitates bonding, fosters intimacy and encourages open conversation. It should be enjoyable for both partners.

The key to solving conflict problems in marriage lies in our capacity as a husband or wife to address them as a team. This requires commitment to truth and open communication.

In a healthy marriage, each partner understands that the relationship needs to be discussed, and each person feels safe to bring their concerns to the other. In a healthy marriage no topic is off limits. Whether it’s time together, money, division of labour, sex or anything else; every area of your shared life should always be open for discussion.

You both must be able to ask for what you need, listen with interest to what your partner needs and have tough conversations about difficult issues as often as needed. It doesn’t matter if it’s you that’s conflict avoidant or if it’s your partner. If your marriage falls short of these simple benchmarks, then YOU have work to do.

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