Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Your relationship with money runs deeper than your bank account. Most of us were never taught how to manage money well — and the beliefs we picked up along the way about what money means, what it says about us, and whether we deserve it can quietly drive every financial decision we make. Until we look at those beliefs honestly, no budget or spreadsheet is going to fix the problem. To help you get to the root of your financial life — and actually change it — I've invited certified financial planner and wealth coach Hilary Hendershott to join me on the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast. Hilary has helped countless people not just get their finances in order, but completely transform their relationship with money. And she's here to share her exact framework with you. In this episode, we're covering: Why your "money operating system" — the beliefs you formed about money growing up — may be quietly sabotaging your financial success Hilary's 7-step framework for building real, lasting wealth — from making a true decision to change, all the way to protecting what you've built Why budgets don't work for most people — and what to do instead How to set up a simple automated system that makes financial success almost inevitable The language shift that moves you from financial victim to financial empowerment How different money mindsets can create serious conflict in relationships — and how couples can get on the same page What to consider when navigating money and dating Whether you're drowning in debt, living paycheck to paycheck, or just feeling like your money disappears no matter how much you make — this episode will help you understand why, and what to do about it. With love, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.GrowingSelf.com

No matter how secure your relationship is otherwise, it hurts when you feel sexually rejected by your partner. That’s because sexuality is vulnerable and often bound up with our feelings of love, and worthiness — particularly if one of your top love languages is physical touch.   Every long-term relationship involves some ebbs and flows in sexual desire, but how you manage those fluctuations matters — especially if you're feeling hurt, or resentful. To help you approach these conversations with vulnerability, empathy, courage, and grace, I’ve invited my colleague Dori B. to join me on this podcast episode.    Dori is a certified sex therapist and couples counselor here at Growing Self, and she’s helped countless couples navigate differences in sexual desire, while building even better relationships in the process. Today, she’s sharing her wisdom and guidance with you.    I hope you’ll join us for her warm, actionable advice about handling hurt feelings related to sex, and getting back in synch with your partner.   Xoxo,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby 
www.GrowingSelf.com

People often wonder, “Is jealousy healthy in a relationship?”  Here’s the short answer: It depends. Jealousy can be healthy when it signals that it’s time to draw your partner close in response to a real or imagined threat. This is a good thing that helps preserve and strengthen your relationship — but only if you’re able to handle jealousy in a self-aware, intentional way. When jealousy gets out of control (particularly if it’s due to past relational trauma, rather than a current relational threat), it can be a destructive force that harms your relationship, your partner, and you.  In this episode, we’re talking about jealousy’s ancient roots, when it’s healthy and when it’s a problem, and how you can use feelings of jealousy to start important conversations, establish healthy boundaries, and strengthen your relationship.  Tune in for a discussion about: [03:23] What is Romantic Jealousy? [09:49] What Causes Jealousy in a Relationship? [17:49] When Jealousy is Healthy  [23:56] What to Do When You’re Feeling Jealous [41:56] When Jealousy Turns Abusive [46:01] Learning from Your Jealousy And more!  Xoxo,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.GrowingSelf.com

Can't stop thinking about your ex, even when you know the relationship is over? You're not broken. You're human. Most people don't just "get over" a breakup with time. The lingering thoughts, the obsessive replaying of what happened, the fantasies of a second chance — these aren't signs that something is wrong with you. They're signs that you're wired to bond deeply with other people. And when that bond breaks, your brain doesn't just move on. But staying stuck isn't inevitable. There is a way through. And it's not about distracting yourself or jumping back into dating. It's about doing the real work, layer by layer. In this episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast, I'm walking you through exactly why you can't stop thinking about your ex, and the step-by-step process for finally letting go for good. We'll cover: Why breakup recovery is so much like addiction and what that means for your healing Why time alone won't make these feelings go away The five layers of attachment that keep people stuck on an ex long after a relationship ends Why your thoughts about your ex are actually keeping you bonded to them, even when those thoughts are negative Why jumping into a rebound relationship or trying to just stop thinking about them almost always backfires How to do the deeper emotional work that leads to real, lasting freedom What it actually feels like when you're truly done and how to get there This episode will give you a roadmap for understanding what's happening and what to do about it. With love, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.GrowingSelf.com

“Believe in yourself” is more than a soundbite. It’s a necessary ingredient in a happy, self-directed life.  It’s also easier said than done. If you (like basically everyone) have internal narratives about the things you can’t do or changes you can’t make, you’re going to need more than a pep talk or some positive affirmations to shake those narratives loose. You’re going to need a self-belief-building plan.  On this episode of the podcast, we’re discussing how to believe in yourself, and the real steps you can take to build self-confidence, self-efficacy, and self-esteem, so you can start living life by your own design. Our guest is Elise R., M.Ed., NCC, CCC, LPCC. Elise is a therapist, life coach, and “holistic life design” expert here at Growing Self. After helping countless people build their self-belief and reach their most ambitious goals, she’s sharing her sage wisdom and actionable advice with you.  We are discussing: - Self-efficacy
- Shifting internally
- Raising kids that believe in themselves
- Mastering experiences
- Building an empowered career
- and more!  I hope you enjoy this episode and find the power of believing in yourself! You deserve it.  With love,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.GrowingSelf.com

Eating is one of the most basic ways we care for ourselves every day. But having an unhealthy relationship with food can leave you feeling stressed, emotionally drained, and bad about yourself, rather than nourished, energized and empowered.    Unfortunately, many of us have a fraught relationship with food. Emotional eating, shame, and anxiety around food or body image, and negative cultural messages about what we “should” be doing or how we “should” look, can get in the way of mindful, compassionate, and self-aware eating practices.    Intuitive eating is all about listening to yourself, trusting yourself, and having a positive relationship with the food that nourishes your body and brings you pleasure.    Today we're talking about how to shift from emotional to intuitive eating with an intuitive eating counselor who’s sharing some radical wisdom for making peace with food and your body. Tune in to learn all about:    [03:53] Emotional eating   [07:32] Unhealthy relationships with food   [17:06] Changing your relationship with food   [23:29] Adopting healthier coping mechanisms   And much more.     With love,    Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.GrowingSelf.com

Are we a good fit? Do we have enough in common? Is my partner really “The One?”  Personality type compatibility in relationships isn’t about being alike or agreeing on everything — it’s about learning to understand your differences and use them for the benefit of each other and the relationship.  In today's episode, you’ll learn all about what really makes a couple compatible, and how you can harness your differences for a stronger relationship. With love,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.GrowingSelf.com

We all dream of having a close, connected relationship that fulfills us on every level. If you're feeling lonely in a relationship, it hurts. It can be hard to know how to reconnect, especially if the distance has been growing for a while — or if negativity has crept in. Deep connection is created through the intentional cultivation of emotional intimacy. In this episode, we’re exploring how to do that, so you can create the loving, satisfying relationship you want and deserve. With love to you both,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

Dealing with control freaks is aggravating, but when you know what’s behind it, it’s easier to have understanding and empathy for them — and also create healthier boundaries for yourself.  In this episode, you'll learn all about the psychology of the control freak: What drives their behavior, and how you can maintain a relationship with the control freak(s) in your life while still being authentically yourself. xo,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

Our relationships are priceless. They can’t be bought, they can only be built. Without them, our lives would be empty.  But all of that is easy to forget when you’re in the midst of a furious argument with your partner, or anyone you love. When we’re emotionally elevated, we say and do things that damage our connections with others. But it doesn’t have to be that way — conflict can be an opportunity for deeper connection and better relationships.  On today’s episode, internationally recognized marriage counselor and author Terry Real shares how to get past "you and me" to build your "we." Tune in for advice on shedding the individualist mindset and bringing more love into your life. Made with love, for you! Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com