He Pretended to Grieve - I Sent Him My Last $28,000
Grief turned into a con: a 26-year-old named Duane lost his mother and, within weeks, was talking to a man who claimed the same loss - a traveling healthcare contractor who asked for money and kept asking until $28,000 was gone. How did private chats, a found dry-bag, and a laminated photograph expose the scam?
In this episode, we follow the timeline from the discovery in the culvert to the months of chats on a grief forum, showing how trust built through precise empathy became a vector for repeated financial requests; could the man Duane trusted really be the person in the photo?
Person: Duane Fleming
Date: July 9, 2022
Location: culvert east of Kettner Lake, Shelby County
Topic: online grief support forum conversations and financial requests
Amount lost: $28,000
- The dry-bag found in the culvert contained 43 printed pages of chat transcripts, a prepaid debit card, and a laminated photograph.
- Duane Fleming was 26 years old and cared for a 15-year-old cat named Bessel who needed medication twice daily.
- Duane joined the StillHere forum in late March 2022; on March 27, 2022, Eric Murphy also joined the forum.
- The first money request was $300 in late May, which Duane sent and received back nine days later.
- In June, Murphy asked for $1,100 to cover a billing dispute related to his father's estate.
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