Love Lab MD with Dr. Kate Mangona

Do y'all have a spouse who isn't always easy to be around? And what about yourself? Are you always easy to be around? Would you invite yourself to cuddle in bed knowing what energy you are exuding today?

Do y'all have a spouse with a "quick tongue" or do you have the quick tongue, and also know a warm heart is always hiding under those harsh words which are merely only a disguise? A call for help, representative of the unmet needs on the inside?

Listen to Jimmy Turner, MD, host and founder of Money Meets Medicine, certified life coach, anesthesiologist, hubby, father, venture capitalist, and all around outstanding guy as we discuss the ins and outs of real life and what it took to carry him through a very dark place in his life.

Dr Borger is a Mom of 3, wife, board-certified physician, and successful business owner of both The Aesthetic Doctor and Concierge Medical Arts.

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Why you need to Surround yourself with humans who:

1. Push you
2. Empower you
3. Love you

Be the friend who:

1. Pushes
2. Empowers
3. Loves

Give yourself permission to fall down and then get back up. Allow yourself distance from those who drain, nag, and keep you down.

We all criticize and blame our spouse at various points in our relationship. Why? Our ego? Does it ever feel good to be blamed and criticized for an honest mistake or for being human? Or for just being ourselves? Listen to his episode to hear how to stop this vicious cycle and a simple technique to try out today. Sign up for a consult call today: https://calendly.com/katemangona/dicovery-call Enter Kate Louise Sign up for a consult cal today: insert My Calendly link

This technique can get you unstuck.

Have you ever seen those older couples in action?…you know…the ones who have been married for 20 or 30 years. They are so in sync. They are in tune. They walk to the same cadence and communicate with the same lingo. This is not a coincidence. This is neuroplasticity at its finest. Through struggles and joys, these couples are in tune with each other's needs and wants and do not even realize how much mirroring is actually taking place in their relationship because it becomes their way of living and loving.

Mirroring is a concept in Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) that involves subtly matching the behavior, body language, and communication style of another person. When used effectively, mirroring can enhance your relationship with your spouse by fostering rapport, building trust, and creating a deeper sense of connection. Here's how mirroring can be beneficial and some tips to avoid potential pitfalls:

1. Rapport building: Mirroring helps create a sense of familiarity and similarity between partners. By mirroring your spouse's nonverbal cues, such as posture, gestures, or facial expressions, you can establish a subconscious connection that promotes understanding and empathy.

2. Communication enhancement: Mirroring also extends to verbal communication. By matching your spouse's language patterns, tone of voice, and even the speed of speech, you can enhance communication by establishing a more harmonious and comfortable conversation flow.

3. Building trust: Mirroring can help build trust and a sense of validation. When you mirror your spouse, it shows that you are actively listening, understanding, and accepting their perspective. This can create an environment where both partners feel safe to express themselves openly and honestly.

It's important to distinguish mirroring from mimicking. While mirroring is about subtly aligning with your spouse's behavior and communication style, mimicking involves imitating them in a way that may seem insincere or mocking. Mimicking can be detrimental to a relationship, as it may lead to resentment or a lack of authenticity.

To avoid mirroring narcissism, where one partner excessively mirrors the other without maintaining their own identity, consider the following:

1. Maintain individuality: Remember to maintain your own unique personality, opinions, and interests. Healthy mirroring should not entail losing yourself or compromising your values.

2. Balance reciprocity: Mirroring should be a two-way street. Both partners should engage in mirroring behaviors, ensuring a balanced and equal exchange of understanding and connection.

3. Adapt to change: As individuals grow and change over time, it's essential to adapt your mirroring techniques accordingly. Be open to new experiences, perspectives, and communication styles to keep the relationship dynamic and thriving.

Here are a few relationship hacks for building deeper connections and understanding beyond mirroring:

1. Active listening: Practice active listening by giving your spouse your full attention, maintaining eye contact, and responding empathetically. This helps create an atmosphere of trust and understanding.

2. Emotional intelligence: Develop emotional intelligence by being aware of your own emotions and understanding those of your spouse. This allows you to respond appropriately and empathetically to their needs.

3. Quality time: Dedicate quality time to connect and engage in activities that both partners enjoy. This strengthens the bond and creates shared experiences.

4. Express appreciation: Regularly express gratitude and appreciation for your spouse's efforts, qualities, and achievements. This fosters a positive and supportive environment.

5. Foster open communication: Encourage open and honest communication by creating a safe space for your spouse to express their thoughts, concerns, and desires without judgment or criticism.

Remember, building a deeper connection and understanding in a relationship requires consistent effort, patience, and a willingness to grow together.

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So apparently I make it look easy.

I have been asked by several mothers, physicians, and friends how I do it. Do what??? Make mothering and doctoring look easy? Here's the answer. The SECRET divulged. 🤪💕🤪💞 It's not easy, I never pretend it is, and I keep going. I mess up A LOT. And then I keep going. That's it. Period. I mess up a hella lot. For instance, take today for example. It's my half admin day, so I take the kids to school, attend the parents club gathering, and jet off to an in person meeting where I left one of the necessary documents at home in another bag. I keep going. Next I pick two kids up from half day school, and jet back home to meet our nanny, so she can relieve me for a work teams meeting and coaching zoom call only to realize the teams work meeting had been scheduled an hour earlier than I thought. I keep going. I then finish up loose ends on some work projects before running out the door again to make a work out class only to get a text from my nanny that she can't find the minivan keys. I keep going. I then cancel my work out class as I'm driving away ($15 penalty but who's counting…it's more about my missed glutes and thighs session and 40 minutes of back and forth traffic) as I speed (not really) back home to deliver the keys to our nanny so she can take my two youngest to swim lessons an hour late. The entire universe feels a bit thrown off. I keep going. Here I sit back in my office finding my focus again. One more zoom collaboration session. One more work teams meeting. One more work social outing. Total FOMO wathcing coach friends on social arrive in Dallas from all over the world for a coaching event I cannot attend. One more client to coach at 9pm. And then off to bed. I just keep going. Giving myself grace. Reminding myself to give everyone else grace. How do you make it look easy? I assure you, from the outside, you make it look easy too. I would genuinely love to know.

Dr. Kara J. Wada is an allergist-immunologist in Columbus, Ohio and is affiliated with multiple hospitals in the area, including Ohio State University Wexner Medical Center and James Cancer Hospital and Solove Research Institute. She received her medical degree from University of Illinois College of Medicine at Chicago and has been in practice between 11-20 years.

We know that modern life drives modern diseases. Allergies. Asthma. Autoimmunity. Cancer. Diabetes. Obesity. Heart Disease.

What do these modern diseases have in common? They are all driven by TMI - Too Much Inflammation.

Wouldn't it be AMAZING if you could better understand WHAT is going on with your immune system & HOW to start taking steps to improve your (and your family's) health, that's doable with your go-go-go schedule, and actually works!

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You'll hear about everything from the Role of Integrative Approaches in Inflammation, Environmental Exposures, Inflammation, and Immune Disruption, Oral Inflammation and Its Effects on the Whole Body's System, and more.

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