Welcome to episode 26 of the Love, Light and Happiness Podcast.
Can I speak to my partner about my ex-partners?
In a conscious relationship, you feel safe to be vulnerable and open. It is a lot easier to share your past experiences when your partner can hold space for you. I understand that your partner might not be able to do that. But YOU CAN!
Before you share anything about your ex-partners, ask yourself these questions?
(Think of something in your past relationship that you want to speak to your partner about)
Why am I sharing this? (External validation, fear of being abandoned and not accepted)
Do I need to? Why do I feel the need to or why not?
How will I feel after sharing it? How will I feel if I don't share it and why?
Will this help my relationship or am I seeking for chaos?
How can I ask for my partner to offer me support while I share this?
These questions will guide you to making a decision on whether you need to share your past experiences or is your ego just seeking chaos.
You may have entered the relationship carrying baggage from your past relationships. And that's why you need to make it clear to your partner that you need him to be present and hold space for you while you heal from those.
Two souls in one relationship can accelerate the healing process. You will get triggered in a relationship and that's normal. This is why it is important to have those tough conversations but needed conversation. I have noticed with a lot of couples, the only time they speak about their exes is when they are comparing and trying to make their partner jealous.
Every single relationship is different. There shouldn't be any comparison because if you didn't engage in any healing before you enter a new relationship, it will not be any better or easier!
Until you don't choose yourself, no one will make you a priority.
This is why healing is life-changing. Once you choose yourself, you teach the world to put you first.
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