Love, Lust, and Laughter

Lou Paget author of five books on sexuality was on the program again (www.LouPaget.com). Sex is something you do, sexuality is something you are…Dr. Diana and Lou partially sorted this out by delving into the clitoris and its role in female sexual arousal. The clitoris and its structure with all it erotic components were explored, including the crura. The vestibular bulbs under the outer labia grow and blossom when a woman is sexually aroused.  Sometimes the clit is considered the Emerald City of women’s orgasmic response.  If a woman is “spectatoring” – i.e., observing herself during sex, not in an erotic mirror-on-the ceiling sort of way, but in a judgmental critical way – she is less likely to be sexually satisfied and reach orgasm.  Mindfulness is a practice that may help! Kinsey in one of his books observed, “Cheese crumbs spread in front of a copulating pair of rats may distract the female, but not the male.” Lou and Diana enjoyed a lively discussion – including talking about Amy Schumer’s latest photo shoot. She is comfortable with her body—proclaiming, “I’m 155 pounds and can get laid any day!”

Dr. Charlie Glickman (www.MakeSexEasy.com) is a sex and relationship coach, sex educator, and a sexological bodyworker – bringing to this program some fascinating areas for discussion. He and Dr. Diana looked at an important question: How do you reconnect with your pleasure?  Dr. Charlie offered some great tips for sexual communication: talk when you are not having sex; talk on a car ride or on a walk (not being face to face can be helpful); say what it is you want.  In general he advises: “Talking about sex is like preparing food…You have to get into the kitchen to give it a try.” Overcoming sexual shame was another topic. Guilt and shame are funny things…without them, some become sloppy and unmotivated. Yet with too much guilt and shame, folks can become at war with themselves. On his website, you will notice he offers a 30-minute consultation without cost. Part 2 will air on December 15th, and we’ll discuss prostate pleasure (his book is The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure), open relationships, and BDSM. Tune in, please!

Mali Apple and Joe Dunn are relationship coaches, lovers, best friends, and authors of award-winning books The Soulmate Experience: A Practical Guide to Creating Extraordinary Relationships – and the newly released sequel The Soulmate Lover: A Guide to Passionate and Lasting Love, Sex and Intimacy. Dr. Diana and this dynamic couple discussed sexual healing…how couples can transform sexual concerns and challenges into deeper intimacy. Lingering issues from the past can impact the ability for vulnerability and reciprocity. For more, visit www.thesoulmateexperience.com where you can see Joe and Mali interacting on videos and get information about their books. They will return for Part 2 December 8th.

Lou Paget, a frequent guest, is the author of five books – www.LouPaget.com – which deliver information about sexuality and relationships with accuracy and fun! Dr. Diana and Lou reconnected recently in Seattle for a Program in Human Sexuality(PHS) where the University of Minnesota has established the first Chairs in Sexual Health headed up by Dr. Eli Coleman (www.sexualhealth.umn.edu). The meeting was organized by Dr. Pepper Schwartz, the AARP Ambassador for Relationships and Sexuality. Joycelyn Elders, MD, was the featured speaker. (She is an inspiration! Remember when she was hired and later fired by President Bill Clinton?) Lou and Dr. Diana also discussed aging and sexuality – and the health benefits of sex. There will be a Part 2 very soon!

Bradley Coates, Esq., (www.CoatesandFrey.com) is the author of “DIVORCE with DECENCY – The Complete How-To Handbook and Survivor’s Guide to the Legal, Emotional, Economics, and Social Issues.”  Brad and Diana are friends: the first appearance on her radio show was in Honolulu in 1999 when the First Edition of his book was published. Now he’s about to publish his Fifth Edition. The topic for this program was Romantic Relationships in this Modern Millennium. Unmarried cohabitation is on the rise…What are the ripple effects? Legally, the Paternity Calendars as well as the Domestic Abuse Calendars are full. The children often suffer because happy adults usually produce happy children. Modern couples often want it all: intimacy and autonomy, reassurance, safety and novelty, coziness but with thrills. Personal growth can occur after breakups – and as Bradley Coates says, “Keep your eyes open. Learn and improve!” Listen to this program; it’s likely you too will learn and improve!

Did you know that October is Kink Month? What better way to acknowledge and celebrate kink than with Dr. Susan Block! She returned to the program with a focus on Bonobo BDSM. Her book is “THE BONOBO WAY – The Evolution of Peace through Pleasure” (www.BonoboWay.com), and there are many comparisons between humans and bonobos. People who practice BDSM tend to prioritize sex – they make time for it, they’re accepting of their sexuality, and they communicate openly with their partner. With bonobos there is a dominant/submissive hierarchy; in managing their aggression, they turn it into sex, keeping the peace. In their matriarchal communities, the females share the rule, brokering peace. In fact, all those interested in human happiness should read this book!