Love Under the Scope

How do you maintain independence while in a long-term relationship? In this episode, Amanda and Kelby unpack the delicate balance between partnership and independence. They open up about moments of feeling small, lost, or even trapped — and how those feelings often stem from within, not from their partners. Through honest conversation and personal stories, they explore what it really takes to maintain a strong sense of self while staying deeply connected.

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In this episode, Amanda and Kelby take a deep dive into a topic that impacts many long-term relationships: why blaming men isn’t helping your relationship. With raw vulnerability and real-life experiences, Amanda and Kelby explore the roots of negative beliefs about men, how these narratives shape our connections, and why letting go of blame can create more love and ease in our partnerships.

Drawing inspiration from the book The Queen’s Code by Allison Armstrong and discussing their own journeys, they break down how old wounds, societal modeling, and “black and white” thinking can infect relationships with mistrust or resentment. The hosts also discuss how blanket beliefs about men (or any gender) often stem from childhood, share compassionate advice for shifting those beliefs, and highlight the power of awareness, gratitude, and open communication in reshaping our love lives.

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In this episode, Amanda & Kelby dive into what sex really looks like after the honeymoon phase in long-term relationships. Together, they open up about the pressures, expectations, and unspoken myths around sex, sharing personal stories of healing, communication, and growth. Both Amanda & Kelby found that sex in long-term relationships ebbs and flows, and has ups and downs, and this is something they wish more people spoke about. From unlearning damaging cultural narratives and addressing sexual trauma, to building safety and embracing playfulness with your partner, Amanda and Kelby get real about the ups and downs of intimacy over time. Tune in for honest, relatable insights on everything from navigating shame and initiating sex to embracing pleasure at every stage. Whether you’re struggling with mismatched desire, working through old wounds, or just curious about how to keep sex meaningful and fun beyond the early days, this episode is here to support you.

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In this episode, Amanda and Kelby discuss the dynamics of connection and disconnection within long-term relationships. The episode highlights the role of vulnerability in creating genuine connections with your partner and how small moments of intentional connection can add up to deepen relationships over time. They emphasize that building a strong, loving relationship is about making a conscious effort to connect. They also discuss common obstacles that can lead to disconnection - such as cellphones, work, busy schedules, and more.

They share personal insights and experiences from their own relationships, offering listeners an honest look at the challenges and joys of staying connected.

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In this episode, Amanda and Kelby explore how to soften in long-term relationships. They discuss the journey from a “hardened” state to embracing a softer, more feminine energy within romantic partnerships. The conversation delves into how softening fosters trust, safety, and support. Sharing personal stories and real-life examples, Amanda and Kelby reflect on how their past experiences and healing journeys have helped them let go of control and embrace vulnerability. They also touch on the importance of allowing partners to offer support, the impact of stress on intimacy, and how societal expectations often favor a masculine approach, making it harder to soften. This episode also offers practical tips for cultivating softness, focusing on compassion, quality time, and mindful practices to nurture a more balanced, open-hearted connection with partners.

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What is love? In this episode, Amanda & Kelby dive into exploring what really is love and how do we be more loving in our everyday lives. They believe we all have different definitions of love, so they begin the episode by reading different definitions of love and then continue to unpack what love is for them. Join them for this conversation where they take a closer look at love and put it under the scope. 

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In this episode, Amanda and Kelby dive into the complexities of arguments within long-term relationships. They discuss how childhood experiences and inner child wounds often resurface during disputes with partners. The hosts emphasize the importance of self-awareness, communication, and compassion in navigating these inevitable misunderstandings. They offer practical tips and share personal stories on identifying triggers, repairing after conflicts, and fostering emotional intelligence for a healthier, more connected relationship. Whether you're new to navigating relationship arguments or seeking to deepen your bond with your partner, this episode is here as a guide for navigating the inevitable conflicts that happen in long-term relationships.

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In this episode, Amanda and Kelby explore how our romantic partners can trigger and also help us to heal childhood wounds. They share personal insights and experiences on how early life experiences and relationships with our parents can shape romantic relationships. Both Amanda and Kelby found Harville Hendrix's book Getting the Love You Want to be a key resource on their journey of understanding and healing childhood wounds with their partners. Throughout the episode, they reference concepts from the book. The conversation emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and offers actionable practices to help partners navigate triggers, do the inner work, and foster compassionate relationships. Listen to this episode for guidance on healing childhood wounds in long-term partnerships.

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In this inaugural episode, Amanda Durocher and Kelby Knutt share why they decided to start this podcast where they will be exploring the nuances and “nitty-gritty” of long-term relationships. They also highlight how this podcast will be a place for open conversations about the often unseen and unspoken challenges within relationships. They both believe that challenges are normal, but when we feel alone these challenges can lead to shame and self-judgment, and Amanda and Kelby want to change that by having open and honest conversations about relationships each week. Throughout the episode, you'll learn more about who Amanda and Kelby are, their respective relationships and how they've each navigated personal healing and growth. They share how their long-term partners have played pivotal roles in their self-discovery and healing journeys.  The hosts also hint at future episodes to come!

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Welcome to Love Under the Scope! Join Amanda Durocher and Kelby Knutt each week as they explore the realities, nuances, and joys of long-term love. In this candid podcast, they share personal stories, real-life advice, and fresh perspectives on what it means to grow, evolve, and thrive together in a relationship. While both Amanda and Kelby have faced their fair share of struggles, they’ve also found that these challenges have deepened their self-love, and also helped them to connect deeper with their partners. Long-term relationships can be messy and sometimes triggering, but they’re also a beautiful part of the healing journey. Tune in for honest discussions about the nitty gritty, messy, and beauty of long-term relationships and look at love under the scope.

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