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This is a story about my experience survivor's guilt. I share how I suffered from survivor's guilt as I was healing from sexual violence and suicidal ideation. I share this story as an example of survivor's guilt and how I processed the intense feelings of guilt and unworthiness.

You can also read this story on my website: https://www.newviewadvice.com/reflections

In this episode, I answer a listener question about processing repressed memories of childhood sexual trauma and how we can learn to trust ourselves. Throughout this episode, I discuss my own experiences with repressed memories of sexual trauma. I discuss how self-doubt is common when processing repressed memories of trauma, how to listen to your body, the importance of acceptance, and how to practice gentleness with yourself throughout this process. My intention is to offer you some solace if you too find yourself navigating the stormy waters of repressed memories and to help you to trust yourself and your own process for navigating this trauma response.

Timestamps ⏱️

• Introduction: 0:15
• Listener Question: 2:47
• Outro: 30:44

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Welcome to Reflections, a New View Advice minisode series! In the episode I share a poem about the healing journey, and especially my experience healing from fear. I wrote this poem when reflecting on how fear used to debilitate me, but overtime I have learned how to navigate the fears that arise.

You can read more poems on my website at: https://www.newviewadvice.com/poems

You can also read all reflections here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/reflections

In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who is wondering why they still seek validation from their parents even though they already know their parents are unsupportive and are often left feeling unhappy. I discuss how so often our need for parental validation and approval is tied to deep rooted human fears, including the fear of rejection, the fear of abandonment, the fear of criticism, and the fear of being unlovable. My intention is to help you to feel less alone, validated in your experience, and offer you ways to begin healing from these fears and how we can begin to validate and love ourselves, one step at a time.

Timestamps ⏱️

• Introduction: 0:15
• Listener Question: 1:45
• Outro: 35:28

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/112

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Welcome to Reflections, a New View Advice minisode series! In the episode I share a story about a time in my life when I was grappling with the horrors of sexual violence and my own near-death experience. During this time, I cross paths with another victim of sexual violence, but she was murdered at age 15.

This story is in honor of Courtney Wilkes and the profound impact her life has had on me as a survivor of sexual trauma.

Trigger Warning: This story discusses sexual violence, death, and murder. I do not go into graphic details, but this episode does talk about these heavy topics.

You can also read this story on my website: https://www.newviewadvice.com/reflections

In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who was sexually assaulted by their biological father and is looking for guidance on how to navigate this situation and get support from their family. Navigating relationships with family and friends after sexual assault often feels scary, uncomfortable, overwhelming, and uncertain. It becomes even more complicated when the perpetrator of the abuse is intertwined within the family. We discuss how to navigate hard conversations with family after sexual trauma, the importance of creating safety, and why sometimes we need to set boundaries.

Timestamps ⏱️

• Introduction: 0:15
• Listener Question: 3:09
• Outro: 31:50

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/111

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Welcome to Reflections a New View Advice minisode series! In this episode, I tell a story about an experience I had in high school where I was stalked and then stalked my stalker. I share this story because I judged myself and felt shame for this experience for a very long time. I now know, after years of healing, that this was a trauma response and I am not alone with feeling lost and insane in the aftermath of sexual trauma. Trigger Warning: This story depicts my experience with stalking after being gang raped. I don't go into details of the violence, but I do talk about my experience as a survivor.

You can also read this story on my website: https://www.newviewadvice.com/reflections

In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who is debating leaving her husband who has narcissistic traits and has been manipulative and controlling in the past. When she told him that she was leaving the relationship, he begged for a second chance and did start to change his behavior. Now, the listener is having trouble deciding if she should stay or leave the relationship. In this episode, we learn about trusting our intuition and listening to our bodies when we are making challenging and important life decisions. We also discuss why it’s important to take the pressure off these large decisions, the importance of empathy in relationships, and practicing self-forgiveness.

Timestamps

• Introduction: 0:15
• Listener Question: 1:43
• Outro: 24:20

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/110

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Welcome to Reflections, a New View Advice minisode series! Each week I read short stories from my own healing journey. This week I share a story about a time I got really really angry after finding out that one of the guys that raped me got engaged. I share this story as an inside look at what it can look like to heal from trauma and to hopefully help someone out there who may have intense feelings and not be sure if they are normal. I know that I judged myself for this moment in time for a long time, but now see it happened because I had a lot of anger I had been ignoring for a long time, and that it is perfectly normal to have a lot of hard feelings.

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In this episode, I dive into the complexities of creativity for trauma survivors. In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who is a religious cult trauma survivor and wants to be a film writer / director, but is struggling with putting too much pressure on themselves to tell their story the “right” way.I share personal insights and advice on embracing the messy, emotional journey of creativity. I talk about the importance of releasing pressure and perfectionism, embracing the anger, processing difficult feelings such as shame and guilt, and leveraging creativity as a healing tool.

Timestamps

• Introduction: 0:15
• Listener Question: 2:06
• Outro: 28:58

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/109

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