In this episode, I address the rarely discussed topic of woman-to-woman sexual assault. I respond to a listener who shares her story of being sexually assaulted by a coworker she trusted and saw as a close friend and mentor.

We explore the painful reality that sharing a similar cultural background does not guarantee safety. I also explain what grooming looks, discuss workplace grooming, and outline key characteristics. Throughout, we discuss the complex feelings of broken trust, self-blame, and the unique grief when harm comes from someone familiar.

As a rape survivor myself, I emphasize the importance of releasing self-blame — if you’ve experienced sexual violence, it is not your fault. While everyone’s healing journey is different, I offer guidance and advice on how to begin moving forward.

I also share a poem.

Please listen at your own pace. If you are a survivor, know you are not alone and healing is possible. Sending you all my love.

🔗 Resources & Show Notes: newviewadvice.com/139

❤️ Sexual Trauma Healing Hub: https://www.newviewadvice.com/healing-sexual-trauma

✍️ Poem Shared in this Episode: https://www.newviewadvice.com/poems-for-the-healing-journey/do-you-live-with-regrets-poem

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Feeling exhausted, disconnected, or unsure if your job is still right for you? You’re not alone. In this episode, I answer a listener’s question about burnout at work—what it really feels like, how to recognize the signs of burnout, and how to begin healing without rushing to quit.

We’ll explore:

• What burnout actually is (beyond just being tired)
• The most common burnout symptoms and causes
• Why people-pleasing, over-empathizing, and perfectionism can lead to burnout
• How difficult coworkers can influence burnout
• Reflective questions to help you better understand your burnout
• How to slow down, set boundaries, and begin true burnout recovery

Whether you're questioning your job or just feeling drained, this conversation will help you reconnect back to yourself and help you to begin to heal.

🕘 Timestamps:

• Intro: 05
• Listener Question: 1:40
• Outro: 29:25

🗒️ Show notes: newviewadvice.com/138

🩵 Submit a question: newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question

🎶 Choosing a New View Music Playlist to Help You Feel Inspired

In this episode, I answer the question: "Why do I cry every night ever since that one man broke my heart?" I explore five possible reasons the pain still lingers—grief, the stories we tell ourselves, the impact of toxic relationships, identity loss, and old wounds that heartbreak can reopen. I discuss why healing can feel so hard, share new perspectives, and offer gentle, actionable tips to help you start moving forward.

🕘 Timestamps:

• Intro: 05
• Listener Question: 2:20
• Outro: 25:29

🗒️ Show notes: newviewadvice.com/137

🩵 Submit a question: newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question

✨ For more resources, check out the New View Advice Heartbreak Healing Hub

Grieving the end of a friendship that turned romantic? This week I answer a listener question about the grief and confusion that comes when a close friendship becomes romantic — and then ends.

Whether you're experiencing a friendship breakup, a "friends-to-lovers" heartbreak, or navigating unspoken feelings, I offer compassionate advice to help you process the pain, find closure (even if it's one-sided), and validate your emotions.

🎙️ In this episode:

• How to grieve a friendship breakup with romantic feelings involved
• Why blurred boundaries can deepen the heartbreak
• Self-blame, red flags, and learning to trust yourself again
• Healing after queer friendships and relationships end
• Tips for protecting your heart and rebuilding your social support
• Unique challenges in queer friendships and relationships — and how to navigate them with care

🕘 Timestamps:

• Intro: 05
• Listener Question: 2:02
• Outro: 25:33

🗒️ Show notes: newviewadvice.com/136

🩵 Submit a question: newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question

✨ More free content & healing resources: newviewadvice.com

In this episode, I respond to a listener struggling with limerence and intense infatuation for their best friend—a love that feels impossible and is tangled with self-hate, shame, and depression. We dive into the power of self-love, self-compassion, and curiosity, offering practical guidance for anyone caught in obsessive thoughts or fantasies.

Together, we explore why our minds turn to fantasy and limerence, especially when past trauma and grief remain unresolved. I also share my own experience using fantasy as a coping mechanism and how uncovering the roots of these feelings can lead to genuine healing and a more loving relationship with yourself.

Timestamps:

• Intro: 05
• Listener Question: 2:26
• Outro: 36:48

Show notes: newviewadvice.com/135

Submit a question: newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question

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In this episode, I dive deep into the emotions and challenges that arise when you don’t get along with your partner’s parents—especially when toxic and hurtful behavior is in play. I answer a listener question about a difficult first meeting with a partner’s mother. I share insights on how to process the pain, anger, and fear that surface in these situations. I focus on strategies for regaining your sense of safety, honoring your feelings, and navigating triggers rooted in past family dynamics. This episode is focused on healing and restoring inner-balance. I also talk about the importance of self-compassion and inner child work, while offering guidance for anyone dealing with unsupportive or judgmental in-laws. To round out the episode, I read one of my own poems inspired by small-mindedness, reminding us all that other people’s cruelty is rarely about us. Join me as I hold space for both heartbreak and healing on your journey.

Timestamps:

• Intro: :05
• Listener Question: 1:46
• Poem: 29:03
• Outro: 30:13

Show notes: newviewadvice.com/134

Submit a question: newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question

More free content & healing resources: newviewadvice.com

In this episode, I open up about the painful journey of healing from sexual violence—especially the heartbreak of not seeing your rapist held accountable. As a fellow survivor, I share how I’ve navigated a world that often protects the “nice guy” and fails survivors. We talk about validating our emotions, reclaiming our voice, why justice and healing don’t always align, and how to keep choosing ourselves. I also share practical resources, tips for finding support, and ways to reconnect with purpose after trauma. If you are a survivor of sexual violence, you are not alone. I am sending you so much love.

If you need support:

RAINN 24/7 Hotline: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) | rainn.org

Free online community: aftersilence.org/forum

Neither of these resources are affiliated with New View Advice. They’re simply here in case you need support today. Please take care of yourself. 🙏

Timestamps:

• Intro – 0:05
• Listener Question – 2:14
• Outro – 28:44

Show notes: newviewadvice.com/133

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In this episode, I dive into the tough question of when to let go of a relationship, especially when addiction is involved. We explore how even culturally accepted addictions can impact a relationship and cause real harm. I respond to a listener’s question about loving a partner who won’t change, coping when your needs aren’t being met, and the painful tension between the good moments and ongoing hurt. We talk about how to be honest with yourself about what you truly need and why acceptance doesn’t always mean giving up.

For more on this topic, I recommend you check out episodes 128: Why You Can't Change Someone You Love: Letting Go of Relationships that Aren’t Good for You and 131: Healing After Betrayal: How Do You Know When to Let Go?

Timestamps

• Intro :05
• Listener Question: 1:41
• Outro: 16:23

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/132

Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question

For more free content and resources about the healing journey, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

Sending you all my love.

In this episode, I answer a listener’s question about healing after betrayal in a long-term relationship. A year and a half ago, this listener cheated on their girlfriend, and ever since, the relationship has been continued falling apart with no signs of improvement. We explore what it really takes to rebuild trust, how betrayal reshapes both people, and when letting go might be the most compassionate choice. I share insights on navigating emotional triggers, making difficult relationship decisions, and honoring your own healing journey.

Timestamps

• Intro: :05
• Question: 2:10
• Outro: 20:30

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/131

Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question

For more free content and resources about the healing journey, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

Sending you all my love.

Losing a friendship can be painful and unexpected. In this episode, I answer a listener’s question about how to heal after the end of a female friendship. I explore why these relationships can be difficult, how to process the loss, and why it’s okay that not all friendships last forever. I also touch on the role of childhood wounds and patterns in our connections. If you’re navigating friendship heartbreak, you’re not alone. I open the episode with a poem I wrote about friendship breakups.

Timestamps

• Intro: :05
• Poem: 2:28
• Question: 3:42
• Outro: 24:11

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/130

Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question

For more free content and resources about the healing journey, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

Sending you all my love.