In this episode, I respond to a listener struggling with limerence and intense infatuation for their best friend—a love that feels impossible and is tangled with self-hate, shame, and depression. We dive into the power of self-love, self-compassion, and curiosity, offering practical guidance for anyone caught in obsessive thoughts or fantasies.

Together, we explore why our minds turn to fantasy and limerence, especially when past trauma and grief remain unresolved. I also share my own experience using fantasy as a coping mechanism and how uncovering the roots of these feelings can lead to genuine healing and a more loving relationship with yourself.

Timestamps:

• Intro: 05
• Listener Question: 2:26
• Outro: 36:48

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In this episode, I dive deep into the emotions and challenges that arise when you don’t get along with your partner’s parents—especially when toxic and hurtful behavior is in play. I answer a listener question about a difficult first meeting with a partner’s mother. I share insights on how to process the pain, anger, and fear that surface in these situations. I focus on strategies for regaining your sense of safety, honoring your feelings, and navigating triggers rooted in past family dynamics. This episode is focused on healing and restoring inner-balance. I also talk about the importance of self-compassion and inner child work, while offering guidance for anyone dealing with unsupportive or judgmental in-laws. To round out the episode, I read one of my own poems inspired by small-mindedness, reminding us all that other people’s cruelty is rarely about us. Join me as I hold space for both heartbreak and healing on your journey.

Timestamps:

• Intro: :05
• Listener Question: 1:46
• Poem: 29:03
• Outro: 30:13

Show notes: newviewadvice.com/134

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In this episode, I open up about the painful journey of healing from sexual violence—especially the heartbreak of not seeing your rapist held accountable. As a fellow survivor, I share how I’ve navigated a world that often protects the “nice guy” and fails survivors. We talk about validating our emotions, reclaiming our voice, why justice and healing don’t always align, and how to keep choosing ourselves. I also share practical resources, tips for finding support, and ways to reconnect with purpose after trauma. If you are a survivor of sexual violence, you are not alone. I am sending you so much love.

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Neither of these resources are affiliated with New View Advice. They’re simply here in case you need support today. Please take care of yourself. 🙏

Timestamps:

• Intro – 0:05
• Listener Question – 2:14
• Outro – 28:44

Show notes: newviewadvice.com/133

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In this episode, I dive into the tough question of when to let go of a relationship, especially when addiction is involved. We explore how even culturally accepted addictions can impact a relationship and cause real harm. I respond to a listener’s question about loving a partner who won’t change, coping when your needs aren’t being met, and the painful tension between the good moments and ongoing hurt. We talk about how to be honest with yourself about what you truly need and why acceptance doesn’t always mean giving up.

For more on this topic, I recommend you check out episodes 128: Why You Can't Change Someone You Love: Letting Go of Relationships that Aren’t Good for You and 131: Healing After Betrayal: How Do You Know When to Let Go?

Timestamps

• Intro :05
• Listener Question: 1:41
• Outro: 16:23

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/132

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Sending you all my love.

In this episode, I answer a listener’s question about healing after betrayal in a long-term relationship. A year and a half ago, this listener cheated on their girlfriend, and ever since, the relationship has been continued falling apart with no signs of improvement. We explore what it really takes to rebuild trust, how betrayal reshapes both people, and when letting go might be the most compassionate choice. I share insights on navigating emotional triggers, making difficult relationship decisions, and honoring your own healing journey.

Timestamps

• Intro: :05
• Question: 2:10
• Outro: 20:30

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/131

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Sending you all my love.

Losing a friendship can be painful and unexpected. In this episode, I answer a listener’s question about how to heal after the end of a female friendship. I explore why these relationships can be difficult, how to process the loss, and why it’s okay that not all friendships last forever. I also touch on the role of childhood wounds and patterns in our connections. If you’re navigating friendship heartbreak, you’re not alone. I open the episode with a poem I wrote about friendship breakups.

Timestamps

• Intro: :05
• Poem: 2:28
• Question: 3:42
• Outro: 24:11

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/130

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Sending you all my love.

In this episode, I answer a listener’s question: “How do we begin again after a major life change?” I dive into the emotions and feelings that come with starting over—whether after a breakup, moving to a new place, or losing friendships. I share my own personal stories of beginning again, from navigating unexpected loss to switching life paths more than once. I offer compassionate advice on reframing the narrative around “square one” moments, emphasizing that new beginnings are natural and often become the foundations of our most aligned lives. My intentions is to provide comfort and actionable steps for anyone feeling stuck or lost. Tune in for a compassionate conversation on embracing change, letting go of unfair expectations, and stepping into newfound hope—no matter how tough the reset. You’re not alone, and you’re exactly where you’re meant to be.

Timestamps

• Introduction: 0:05
• Listener Question: 3:00
• Outro: 25:53

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/129

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Sending you all my love.

This week I am sharing an episode from my other podcast, Love Under the Scope.

In this episode of Love Under the Scope, Amanda and Kelby explore how our romantic partners can trigger and also help us to heal childhood wounds. They share personal insights and experiences on how early life experiences and relationships with our parents can shape romantic relationships. Both Amanda and Kelby found Harville Hendrix's book Getting the Love You Want to be a key resource on their journey of understanding and healing childhood wounds with their partners. Throughout the episode, they reference concepts from the book. The conversation emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and offers actionable practices to help partners navigate triggers, do the inner work, and foster compassionate relationships. Listen to this episode for guidance on healing childhood wounds in long-term partnerships.

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In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who is navigating heartbreak after the end of relationship where they believed they could change someone, only to realize they could not. We discuss the question – how do we let go of the potential of someone and accept the truth of the relationship? Throughout the episode we discuss why we can’t change others and how we only have the power to change ourselves, the importance of recognizing your own worth, why you deserve someone who doesn’t hold you back, and how maybe you are your own soulmate.

Timestamps

• Introduction: 0:05
• Listener Question: 2:44
• Outro: 27:50

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/128

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Sending you all my love.

In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who struggles to speak aloud their experience of sexual assault. I think this is a very common experience for survivors of sexual violence, and I give a few reasons why I believe it is hard for survivors to speak about their experiences of sexual trauma. I share from my own experiences as a rape survivor and offer insights on the healing journey. I also share tools on how you can begin to share your story in ways that may feel safe for you. My intention is to guide you on your journey healing from sexual violence and also reassure you that this was never your fault and you are not alone.

Timestamps

• Introduction: 0:05
• Listener Question: 1:58
• Outro: 29:25

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/127

Blog Post: Why I Can't Stop Talking About Rape

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Sending you all my love.