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135: The Pain of Loving Who You Can’t Have: Overcoming Limerence & Fantasies with Self-Love & Compassion


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In this episode, I respond to a listener struggling with limerence and intense infatuation for their best friend—a love that feels impossible and is tangled with self-hate, shame, and depression. We dive into the power of self-love, self-compassion, and curiosity, offering practical guidance for anyone caught in obsessive thoughts or fantasies.

Together, we explore why our minds turn to fantasy and limerence, especially when past trauma and grief remain unresolved. I also share my own experience using fantasy as a coping mechanism and how uncovering the roots of these feelings can lead to genuine healing and a more loving relationship with yourself.

Timestamps:

  • Intro: 05
  • Listener Question: 2:26
  • Outro: 36:48

Show notes: newviewadvice.com/135

More free content & healing resources: newviewadvice.com

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

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