What happens when the people who were supposed to guide and nurture us were never taught to emotionally grow up themselves? In today’s episode, we dive into the psychology of emotionally immature parents - their behaviours, their blind spots, and the lasting impact they can have on our sense of self and emotional well-being.

We discuss:

• How to spot emotional immaturity in parents
• Where it can come from, and links to attachment theory
• The impact on your identity, boundaries, and adult relationships
• Why detaching with kindness can help
• The guilt, grief, and tension that often comes with this dynamic
• How to begin healing and reparenting yourself

If you’ve ever felt like the parent in your own family, or found yourself stuck in a cycle of seeking validation from someone who just can’t give it - this episode is for you. 

 

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If you're like me, there are always a million things on my 'To Do' or 'Should Do' list and they seem to take up all my time and attention. What ever happened to just having FUN! Being silly. Being joyful. Being delighted. In today's episode we're going to talk about why your life feels boring and exactly HOW and WHY you should be prioritising fun experiences over serious, important ones. We talk about: 

• Why fun is easier to achieve than happiness
• The real health benefits of having more fun
• The 3 types of fun 
• 4 tips to have more fun in daily life 
• Why acting like a child may make you live longer + so much more 

Listen now and have fun! 

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We often take our health for granted in our 20s, but this is one of the most crucial moments for investing in your long term wellbeing. Despite that, it's often hard to know what to do and where to start, so today we have on Dr Mark Hyman to discuss the best things you can do for your health during this decade, including: 

• The power of sleep
• How to curb your nicotine addiction 
• When to drink, when not to drink 
• The truth about processed food and how much should we be eating
• The value of social connection 
• The next wave of mental health treatment 

Listen now!

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Function Health: https://www.functionhealth.com/ 

Dr Hyman's podcast: https://www.youtube.com/@drmarkhyman/videos 

 

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*please note the views of guests are not necessarily shared by those of our host. We invite open discussion and differing viewpoints, experiences and information. 

 

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Being an assertive communicator is so much more than just being demanding or confident, it comes down to our emotional ease, how we hold ourselves, how we make others feel, how we frame even the smallest of questions. It's also not something that is taught to us and if it doesn't come naturally, we have to learn on our own. In this episode I break down the FIVE scientifically proven ways to be a more assertive communicator, including: 

1. The power of the pause
2. How assertive communicators use their body 
3. Self authoring language 
4. Visualisation! Visualisation! Visualisation! 
5. How to leverage the Dunning-Kruger Effect 

Plus 7 rapid fire tips you may or may not know! Happy (assertive) listening! 

 

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Have you ever opened up, shared something real, and then immediately regretted it? That post-overshare spiral—the “why did I say that?” dread—is what we call a vulnerability hangover. In this episode, we dive deep into the psychology behind why vulnerability can feel so physically and emotionally intense, even when it’s necessary, honest, and healing.

We explore:

• The two types of vulnerability hangovers (and why both are valid)
• Why alcohol, trauma dumping, and people-pleasing make it worse
• How shame and past betrayals shape our fear of being seen
• The neuroscience behind your emotional "come down"
• What to do the day after you said too much
• How to make vulnerability a tool for connection—not something to fear

Plus, we answer listener questions on post-therapy crashes, drunk confessions, and how to stay open even when it’s hard. If you’re sitting with a case of the cringe, this episode is for you.

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The dreaded talking stage. A whole new level of complexity that has been added to dating in our 20s. The talking stage is this strange should be about information gathering and date organising, but it's become such a snagging point for so many would be relationships. In today's episode, we discuss: 

• Why we even have a talking stage
• The 1 month rule for the talking stage 
• Why they are so psychologically intense
• The 3 signs you're never leaving the talking stage 
• How to find closure
• How to not get attached too quickly + so much more 

Listen now when you need a pep talk that you will survive the talking stage once more!

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Why does satisfaction always feel just out of reach? You get the job, then you want the promotion. You buy the item of clothing, then the buzz wears off. There is always something MORE on the horizon.  In today’s episode, we explore the psychology behind our constant craving for more - more success, more validation, more things - and why what we already have never feels like enough. Things we discuss: 

• Why your brain is wired for "more, more, more

• The Hedonic Treadmill

• The problem with "when...then" thinking

• The success void that follows meeting our goals

• The guilt spiral

• Capitalism, consumerism, and curated online lives

• What real, sustainable happiness looks like

If you’ve ever thought “I should be happy…so why am I not?”—this episode is for you. Listen now!

 

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Sometimes we just need to humble ourselves. We need to tell our ego to take a back seat and let ourselves fail, let ourselves be beginners, be bested, admit we were wrong and in today's episode I'm going to explain the exact psychological power of humility, including: 

• The 3 different definitions of ego
• Why your ego is sabotaging you and keeping you stagnant 
• 5 subtle signs your ego is taking over
• Why humility makes us happier, more successful, and better connected
• How to refocus from self-centeredness to contribution and connection + so much more

Listen now!

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I wrote a book and it's out today! Person in Progress: The Roadmap to The Psychology of your 20s contains everything you need to know about your 20s: how to find your purpose, how to manage relationship breakdowns, fight your self doubt, break bad habits, manage your money, heal your childhood wounds, embrace your authenticity, all from a scientific place!

In this episode we break down exactly HOW I wrote my book and all the advice I would give to a new writer, including: 

• How to find your big idea
• How to find a publisher 
• How to write a pitch
• My 5 best tips for writing even when it's hard
• How to manage imposter syndrome and worrying 'will anyone read this'
• How to deal with writer's block + so much more 

Listen now! 

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If nothing else, our 20s are a time for reinvention and transformation. We become clearer and clearer about the version of us we want to be, and hopefully more confident around expressing our authentic elves, but sometimes this is interrupted by periods of boredom, stagnation, isolation and discomfort. These are all signs that something in our lives needs to change, and it needs to change now. In today's episode we break down five ways to reinvent yourself during your 20s, including: 

• Theory of opposites
• Visualisation and choosing the 'theme' for your next era
• The timeline for change 
• The power of risk + microrisks 
• Changing 'what if' thinking into 'what else' or 'so what?' + more 

Listen now when you're ready for transformation.

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