Mental Constraints: How to change your thoughts and break invisible limits you can't see

From Zen bugs to aeroplane windows, Sam breaks down how we’re all stuck in routines that make life two-dimensional. And the worst part? We don’t even notice.

You’ll learn:

Why your habits aren't just habits—they're constraints dressed as convenience

How to inject randomness into your week to break mental inertia

A simple way to use boredom as a creative tool

Don’t let your year pass in fast-forward. Open your thinking to start living in widescreen.

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Episode: How to transcend your normal habits and routines to have original ideas

Chapters:

00:00 The Observing Centipede

01:25 Transcendent versus experiential thinking

03:02 The Flatness of Our Existence

05:33 Thinking in Dimensions

07:50 Routines and Potential Decisions

11:51 Introducing Novelty and Chaos

13:36 Entropy and Being Anti-Entropy Machines

15:45 Living with Intention After a Near-Death Experience

18:03 Forgiveness and Letting Go

20:05 Send off

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What if everything we believe about finding love is designed to keep us searching instead of finding?

This episode debunks some of the worst common advice and showcases what's genuinely useful.

It might start with you. The people most focused on finding the perfect partner often remain alone, while those focused on becoming the right partner tend to attract extraordinary relationships.

Shift from scarcity-based dating to abundance-based connection:

Understand "optimal search theory"

Focus on shared vision for the future rather than identical current interests

Recognise that generosity and a growth mindset matter more than initial chemistry

If you find someone, will you recognise them when you do?

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Episode: How to Tell if Someone Will Be a Good Long-Term Partner (and find them)

Chapters:

00:00 How to choose a partner

00:51 Importance of shared values

03:21 Know what you really want

05:29 What is the "Optimal Choice"

06:08 Increasing the pool of potential mates

06:57 Go on more dates

08:27 Improving yourself to attract better partners

10:10 4 Mistakes and bad advices when choosing a partner

13:22 4 Dating myths to uncover

19:40 4 Signs to look at when choosing a partner

22:45 Past Relationships

27:06 Screening for a positive mindset

28:42 Optimal Search Theory

31:30 Send off

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Ever felt like life just sucker-punched you out of nowhere? That's exactly what Nassim Taleb calls a Black Swan event.

Most people think they can predict the future by looking at patterns. They study charts, analyze trends, and feel safe in their little bubble of certainty.

However, the biggest events that shape our lives—market crashes, pandemics, breakthrough innovations—are the ones nobody sees coming. ..

Beyond that, it's about how your brain tricks you into thinking you understand a world that's fundamentally unpredictable:

Stop trying to predict everything and start building resilience for anything

Rebuild your investment portfolio and life plan to deal with shocks

Prepare for worst-case scenarios instead of hoping for the best

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Episode: Radical Uncertainty: How to deal with surprises and Black Swan events - w/ Nicolas Vereecke

Chapters:

00:00 Introduction: Navigating Life's Unpredictability

02:02 Understanding the Black Swan Concept

02:41 Real-World Examples and Implications

04:54 Investment Strategies for Unpredictable Events

12:00 Mediocristan vs. Extremistan

18:39 Ludic fallacy

18:39 The Ludic Fallacy and Risk Assessment

21:46 Conclusion and Takeaways

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The tools of thinking that fueled the Growth Mindset and fast decisions behind the success of Jeff Bezos.

Bezos frames business as a series of silent promises: to customers, to colleagues, to the future. Each promise is a primitive—simple, sturdy, waiting to be linked. When those links form, independence evolves into interdependence, and a whisper becomes a flywheel.

In this conversation, we explore how “Day One” thinking keeps the path clear, how a “regret-minimization lens” invites bold choices, and why “single-threaded leadership” protects the soul of a project.

Name your primitives—identify the small assets that can connect to others.

Map the flywheel—draw how each promise fuels the next.

Practice long-horizon thinking—act today as if seven years depend on it.

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Episode: 10 Mental Models to Create Long Term Thinking and Better Decisions from Jeff Bezos

Chapters:

00:00 Thinking in Primitives

05:58 Story of AWS

08:32 2 Customer Centric Obsession

10:13 Working backwards from the customer's experience - Why they built Amazon Prime

12:11 3 Long Term Thinking

13:27 Story - Kindle and e-publishing industry

16:10 Willingness to be Misunderstood

16:49 Team - Single Threaded Leadership

17:58 Team - Employ and Empower Builders

19:03 Culture - Meetings are for Decisions

20:03 High Velocity Decision making - Reversible vs Irreversible Decisions

22:15 Regret Minimization Framework

23:51 Disagree and Commit

25:01 Embrace Failure

25:44 Total Fails - Amazon Fire Phone, Amazon Wallet, Amazon Destinations, Amazon Restaurants

28:01 Importance of Timing and Competition

30:16 Day 1 Thinking

32:58 Useful Bonus points

33:06 Flywheel effect

33:34 Word of Mouth Marketing

34:30 Opposing beliefs - Ignoring vs Crushing Competition

36:38 Opposing Beliefs - Stubborn and Flexibility

37:14 How this helps a with Growth Mindset

41:12 Wrap up

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Ever wondered how to really change the world?

After thinking about the question for too long, Sam has started a new podcast to answer it.

Sam's new show 'How To Change The World' tells the stories of the greatest innovations throughout the entire history of humanity.

As he goes, he'll be breaking down the mental models and frameworks to create change.

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Episode: How To Change The World - Introducing my new show - The history of innovation.

Chapters:

00:00 About my new show

01:28 Introduction: The Dawn of Human Influence

03:49 A Journey Through Time

06:38 The Plan for the Podcast

08:36 What counts as an innovation

09:59 Release Schedule

11:08 Beyond a history podcast

12:22 Why this point in history

14:02 A map is not a blueprint

15:52 Why am I doing this?

19:03 Why should you listen?

20:12 Psychology and Innovation

20:44 Bias and Hindsight

21:21 Illusion of obviousness

22:18 The Myth of Stability

23:25 7 Core Principles of the Show

23:34 1 - Interdisciplinary Thinking

24:17 2 - Systems Thinking

25:04 3 - Understanding of knowledge

26:44 4 - Context

27:49 5 - No current affairs and politics

28:58 6 - Side Quests

30:06 7 - Optimism

31:09 Mission and sign off

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Self-help is sometimes the opposite. It can end up increasing your task list with a bunch of unrealistic expectations you never achieve.

We explore the quiet difference between a compass you trust and a checklist someone sells. Passport stamps matter less than the personality you bring to the journey; so does the company you invite to walk beside you.

We trade a stack of generic self-help books for three simple ideas you can put on a sticky note.

The answer might not even be faster growth but perhaps wiser detours and a network that grows because we grow.

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Episode: 3 Ways to Avoid the Biggest Self-Help Traps and Just Start Enjoying Your Life

Chapters:

00:00 The Problem with Much Self-Help Advice

02:59 Reality's Complexities vs. Simplistic Advice

09:09 Principle 1: Be Kind and Helpful

13:12 Principle 2: Spend Time with Those Who Let You Be Yourself

16:52 Principle 3: Take Ownership and Responsibility

21:22 Send Off

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A sunflower doesn’t hold strategy meetings to decide which way to grow. It simply tilts toward the light.

This conversation with Dr. Harry Cohen invites us to do the same. The heliotropic effect—our quiet, evolutionary pull toward positive energy—may be the simplest, most overlooked lever of leadership and community.

We explore what happens when you become the light source instead of chasing it. Why a six-second smile hacks brain chemistry, how a clean apology resets trust faster than any marketing funnel, and what my own networking face-plant taught me about social tax.

Take homes:

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Episode: Master Magnetic Presence: How to be yourself but more likeable w/ Harry Cohen

Chapters:

00:00 Be the Sun, Not the Salt

01:55 The Heliotropic Effect

04:13 Personality vs Circumstance

08:09 Simplicity vs Complication

11:26 Giving Feedback Effectively

18:09 Apologizing Well

20:05 Embracing Negativity

26:14 The Moonlight Surfing Metaphor

29:37 Earliest memory

31:13 Kindest thing

31:57 Summary

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Uncover what it really takes to build greatness.

There's much more to genius than effortless intelligence or risky business bets. We dive into the consistent habits that drive long-term results for coming out on top.

They might not be sexy, but if you can leave your ego at the doo,r there's a lot more on the other side.

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Episode: How To Change The World - Introducing my new show - The history of innovation.

Chapters:

00:00 People who boast about their IQ are losers

01:45 #1 Focus on other people's achievements

03:11 #2 Always focus on learning over money or power

05:07 #3 Be the dumbest person in the room

07:17 #4 Use mentors (a lot!)

10:43 #5 Be embarrassingly weird

12:21 #6 Assume you are usually wrong

13:49 Bonus Tip: Work hard

16:18 Outro

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You’re not lazy. You’re overloaded. And no, another productivity hack won’t save you.

In this episode, I talk about how minimalism isn’t about white walls and hidden kitchen bins—it’s about your calendar, your relationships, your identity.

I unpack the joy of missing out using stories from travel, creative burnout, and watching a guy walk around Britain with nothing but a backpack. Turns out, when you’re doing too much, you're not living—you’re buffering.

We explore how having too many goals is like trying to break a window with a handful of dust.

Want more focus? You have to do less.

Three things you’ll learn:

Why doing less actually makes you better at what matters

How owning less clears mental space (not just your room)

A question to instantly identify what’s worth saying “no” to

Want your brain back? Hit play.

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Episode: The Joy of Missing Out: The simple way to reducing overwhelm and increase focus

Chapters:

00:00 2 ways to be rich

02:23 Doing too many things stresses us out

06:36 More things = more responsibilities and more problems

09:12 Less stuff = Less problems, less complaining and more happiness

09:12 Are you doing things that exhaust you or you actually enjoy

10:09 Analogy of Breaking A Window

10:45 Story of A Recent Hiking Trip with Jamie Lloyd

14:28 A Year Can Make A Huge Difference

16:07 Make Full Use of Your Stuff

17:25 Send Off

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Love isn’t just a feeling, it’s a pattern. And patterns, when understood, can be changed.

We are the descendants of beings who bonded, lusted, and survived—not by chance, but by biology.

In this episode, we explore the elegant architecture of love, divided into three distinct experiences: lust, attraction, and attachment.

Each has its own hormonal symphony: testosterone’s drive, dopamine’s thrill, oxytocin’s warmth. But these chemicals, while essential, are not our destiny. We must choose how we respond to them.

The opportunity lies in seeing love not just as passion, but as a practice—a practice of self-awareness, empathy, and intentionality.

Reframe love from chaos to conscious experience.

Observe your emotions without becoming them.

Build connection that outlasts dopamine spikes.

Your biology is the system, but your awareness can evolve it.

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Episode: The Science of Love, Desire and Attachment - Psychology vs Biology

Chapters:

00:00 The 3 main components of love

01:27 Biology of Love

02:33 Lust and the role of sex hormones

05:42 Attraction and reward pathways

08:25 Attachment and bonding hormones

10:37 Love's addictive power and irrationality

11:44 Infatuation, dependence and controlling behaviours

12:51 Reckless and destructive tendencies

14:11 How we lose rational thinking

16:46 Choosing the right partner

18:02 Cultivating healthy relationship habits

18:23 Send Off

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