What if your rock bottom was actually a launchpad? Melissa Monte, host of the Mind Love podcast, shares how hitting her lowest point became the catalyst for building a life she truly loves.

Melissa's journey wasn't a straight line to success. After facing trauma, bad relationships, and even a felony charge for someone else's crime, she found herself in a jail cell with a choice: let her limitations define her or use them as guideposts. She chose the latter, teaching herself digital marketing and eventually launching a successful podcast.

This episode dives into the raw, messy process of self-discovery and how our biggest failures can become our greatest teachers.

Ask yourself what you can do without anyone else's permission.

Use your limitations as guideposts to steer you in a new direction.

Instead of chasing shiny objects, ask yourself: What am I endlessly curious about

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02:32 Melissa Monte: Host of Mind Love Podcast

07:14 The Power of Adversity and Self-Development

10:10 Raising a Child with Growth Mindset

15:10 Introspection and Self-Discovery

21:35 Introduction to Podcasting Journey

22:14 Self-Reflection and Discovering Purpose

23:18 Identifying Strengths and Superpowers

24:32 Creating a Podcast and Sustaining Passion and Growth

26:52 Podcasting Skills and Insights

29:07 Epiphanies and Personal Growth

33:02 Overcoming Challenges

35:31 Building Relationships and Networking

39:57 Kindest Thing

43:39 Final Thoughts and Contact Information

44:05 Outro

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What if the stories we tell about stress and adversity are holding us back? What if the most resilient people are not the strongest, but the most adaptable?

This episode is an invitation to rethink resilience. Dr. Steven Stein shares how the hardiness mindset shifts our relationship with challenge. A concept born in military research but relevant to artists, entrepreneurs, and everyday heroes.

It’s not about stoicism or sheer willpower; it’s about seeing meaning in difficulty, embracing uncertainty, and committing to a journey bigger than the immediate obstacle. T

You’ll discover how small shifts in thinking can ripple into profound changes in how you live, work, and connect.

Actionable takeaways:

Cultivate challenge as a lens for growth, not a reason to retreat.

Practice focusing your efforts where you have influence, not where you feel powerless.

Let your commitments guide you beyond temporary discomfort.

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01:57 Hardiness: The Three Cs

08:11 Positive Thinking vs Reframing

09:20 Hardiness in Acute vs Chronic Stress

12:03 Writing habits and hardiness

15:40 Does Hardiness Grow over time

15:44 Hardiness: The Three Cs

21:15 Weird Memories

22:32 Kindest Thing

24:30 Moments of Wonder

26:02 Send Off

26:15 Wrap up

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We revisit a classic episode to understand the circuitry of the self as we uncover the neurological pathways behind the Ego and explain what the Default Mode Network is.

Topics covered:

Starting with Hans Berger's pioneering work with EEG this episode covers the history of Default Mode Network discovery, its role in ADHD symptoms, and the impact of Default Mode Network on depression.

We also explore the connection between DMN and anxiety disorders and discuss the benefits of therapeutic interventions targeting the Default Mode Network.

Learn how modern neuroscience uses DMN insights to enhance psychiatric treatments and the overall understanding of mental health.

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Chapters:

00:00 Introduction to the Default Mode Network

02:04 Hans Berger and history of EEG and brain mapping

04:49 Discovery of the Default mode network

06:14 What is the default mode network?

06:33 #1 Self-referential thought

07:00 #2 Theory of mind

07:43 #3 Autobiographical memory

08:12 #4 Envisioning future scenarios

08:32 #5 Mind wandering and daydreaming

09:16 #6 Creativity

10:21 Depression and the brain

11:28 Anti Depressant medication and the DMN

12:41 Anxiety

14:08 Anti Anxiety medication and Benzodiazepines

15:27 ADHD

16:16 ADHD medication and stimulants

18:03 How Meditation Regulates the DMN

20:34 Psilocybin impact on the DMN

22:41 Wrap up

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Ever tried surfing and ended up just swallowing seawater? That’s what life feels like when you’re glued to the problem and forget to look up.

In this episode, I share how learning to surf taught me more about perspective than any self-help book ever could. We’ll break down why your brain loves to panic, how focusing on the wrong thing can make you fall (literally and metaphorically), and the simple hacks that help you zoom out when you’re stuck in the weeds.

Think of it as a manual for getting out of your own way—using surfboards, driving lessons, and a dash of Bob Marley.

Takeaways:

Use physical cues or mantras to trigger perspective shifts.

Schedule regular “look up” moments—weekly reviews, coaching, or just a walk.

Reframe panic as a signal to check your focus, not a reason to double down.

Ready to stop face-planting into your own problems? Hit play and start steering toward the horizon.

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Chapters

00:00 Introduction

00:32 The problem learning to surf

02:54 Don't look up

04:25 Surfing is like driving

05:39 Surfing and driving is just like any sport

05:52 Life analogy

06:21 Running a business analogy

07:49 Get some perspective

09:25 Outro

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Ever feel like creativity is reserved for “real” artists? Rick Rubin’s 12 rules say otherwise. They’re for anyone who wants to live and create with more honesty.

Rubin, the legendary producer who can’t play an instrument, built his career by helping others strip away what’s fake and tune into what’s real. His rules aren’t about being clever; they’re about noticing, subtracting, and getting comfortable with discomfort.

I’ll share how Rubin’s approach helped me stop overthinking and start making things that actually felt like me. Think of creativity as tuning a radio: your job isn’t to invent the music, it’s to find the right frequency.

Tune in to discover how to make your work (and life) feel more like you.

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Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Creativity

00:41 Who is Rick Rubin?

01:49 Lessons from Rick Rubin's Book - The Creative Act

02:53 Lesson 1: You Are a Receiver, Not a Creator

05:02 Lesson 2: Inspiration is Everywhere

07:32 Lesson 3: Vary Your Inputs

09:55 Lesson 4: Make Something Without Judging It

11:01 Lesson 5: Discomfort is a Creative Compass

13:30 Lesson 6: The Work Reflects the State of the Maker

15:25 Lesson 7: Reduce Until Only the Truth Remains

18:30 Lesson 8: The Audience Comes Last

19:29 Lesson 9: Nothing is Ever Finished

22:23 Lesson 10: Be a Beginner Always

24:04 Lesson 11: Create Your Environment with Intention

25:49 Lesson 12: The Artist's Job is to Be Open

28:13 Summary of 12 Lessons

28:53 Final Thoughts on Creativity

30:57 Supplementary Stories and Recommendations

31:28 Wrapping Up and Challenge for the Week

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The best lessons don't come from others, but from yourself.

As Socrates said, "The unexamined life is not worth living". This episode invites you to rethink how you engage with your past and future selves as a continuous dialogue of growth.

Journaling, sending future emails, and revisiting your old favourites aren’t just nostalgia trips — they’re time machines for your brain.

I share my own cringe-worthy stories from my own teenage journal flipped my self-doubt into confidence. Science backs it up: writing boosts memory and emotional clarity, and connecting with your future self helps you make smarter choices.

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Chapter:

00:00 Introduction: Conversations Across Time

01:24 #1 - The Power of Journaling

02:18 Personal Story: Sailing Adventures

04:21 #2 - Sending Messages to Your Future Self

07:18 #3 - The Impact of Revisiting Old Favorites

10:19 #4 - Recording Conversations with Loved Ones

12:46 #5 - The Concept of Life Reviews

12:56 Experimenting with 12-Week Sprints

15:41 #6 - Revisiting Your Own Work

18:31 #7 - Mentoring Yourself Across Time

20:00 - Bonus - Building a Life Library

21:34 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

22:09 Engage with the Community

22:25 Preview of Next Week's Episode

22:35 Closing Remarks

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Attachment theory and how to avoid the mistakes everyone makes when they learn about it.

It’s probably your attachment style. Think of it as the relational software installed in your brain during your first 18 months. This episode is a crash course in understanding your programming and avoiding common mistakes.

We break down the four main styles: Secure, Anxious, Avoidant, and Disorganized. We explore the classic Anxious-Avoidant trap, where one person chases and the other retreats, creating a cycle of frustration. More importantly, we debunk the myth that these styles are a life sentence.

You'll get a practical, no-fluff guide to understanding your patterns and, crucially, how to start changing them for the better.

Spot the Red Flags: Learn to recognize an avoidant partner’s mixed messages so you can bypass the drama.

Get Your Crazy Out: Why being direct about your needs (especially if you're anxious) is the best dating strategy.

Ditch the Ghost: For avoidants, learn why idolizing a fantasy ex is sabotaging your chance at real happiness.

Listen now to finally make your love life make sense.

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Chapter:

00:00 Attachment styles

04:48 Origin of Attachment Styles

06:17 Secure attachment

07:11 Anxious attachment

08:17 Avoidant attachment

09:00 Disorganized attachment

09:22 Impact on Relationships

12:38 Advert - Magic mind

12:38 Common mistakes with attachment theory

14:57 Overgeneralize attachment styles

15:50 Neglecting the influence of context

17:49 Stigmatizing certain attachment styles

19:13 Oversimplifying the complexity of relationships

19:46 Misapplication of attachment theory

20:24 Ignoring change in attachment style

21:13 Mid-roll ad

21:17 Improving Attachment styles

24:31 Improve Anxious Attachment

27:06 Avoidant attachment traits

29:00 Avoidant style tips

30:23 Deeper areas to explore

31:11 Send off

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Where does the scarcity mindset, imposter syndrome, and loss aversion come from?

Welcome to a mindset masterclass from history. Learn if the very instincts that kept humanity alive are now keeping you from truly living.

For 290,000 years, we survived by playing it safe, following the tribe, and hoarding resources. These weren't character flaws—they were survival strategies in a world where innovation could mean death.

This episode goes beyond history to recognise the invisible forces shaping your choices and breaking out of survival mode.

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Sam Webster explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement.

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Show: Growth Mindset, psychology of self-improvement

Episode: Do You Think Like a Caveman? Surprising Mindset Lessons From History

Chapters:

00:00 GM - 5 Mindset Locks on Innovation

02:58 The Hand Axe Conundrum

04:51 Episode Goals

06:06 #1 - SURVIVAL

06:42 Energy requirements

08:51 Time Scarcity

11:20 Risk and Psychological Safety

13:39 Survival and Scarcity Mindset

16:15 #2 - CULTURE

18:03 Culture in New Guinea

19:02 Results of trying ideas

20:46 The Grandmother Hypothesis

21:43 Widowhood statistics

23:07 Kaulong Tribe Widow killing

24:49 Catalhoyuk - 1000 years of stasis

25:59 Culture, Social Pressure, Perfectionism and Imposter Syndrome

28:47 #3 - KNOWLEDGE

30:51 Losing knowledge

32:14 Maths

33:01 Communication and Language

34:03 Ice Age Picasso Paradox

35:16 Knowledge and Cognitive Tunnelling

37:59 Wrap Up

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You’re not lazy. You’re just listening to the wrong voice in your head.

Think of your brain like an iPhone. If it runs on a 2012 mindset, don’t expect 2025 results.

Sam dives into the limiting beliefs that sneak into our self-talk, from the myth of perfectionism to the lie that you “don’t have enough willpower.” You'll hear how comedians bomb for years, why imposter syndrome gets worse with success, and what cats can teach us about distraction.

Flip the script on your inner critic before it sets the tone for your day.

Ditch “I need to be ready” and build momentum instead.

Learn to treat willpower like an emotion, not a battery.

You’re one mindset shift away from progress.

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Episode: 5 Self-Limiting Beliefs that Hold You Back from Who You Want To Be

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00:00 Perfectionism and believing we are too late

02:25 1 - Inner Critic

04:56 2 - Fear of mistakes

06:59 3 - Ego Depletion

10:00 4 - Imposter Syndrome

13:26 5 - I am Helpless against Distraction

15:40 ADHD and incorrect use of Diagnosis and Prognosis

16:47 Nir Eyal's 4 point model to beat distraction

16:56 Master Internal Triggers

17:22 Schedule Time for Traction

18:02 Hacking back External Triggers

18:28 Distraction Prevention Pacts

19:31 Recap

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Ever wonder why you can recognise your friend's face instantly but struggle to remember where you put your keys? Your brain is running the most sophisticated learning system ever created, and most of us have no clue how it actually works.

Nicholas Shea is an Oxford and King's College Researcher working in philosophy of mind, cognitive neuroscience and artificial intelligence.

He breaks down the fascinating psychology behind how we build concepts in our minds. Think of concepts as mental shortcuts - when you see a dog, you don't analyse four legs, fur, and a tail. Your brain instantly accesses everything you know about dogs.

We dissect these fundamental building blocks of learning into how the brain actually works and learns, and build mastery.

Three key takeaways:

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Show: Growth Mindset, psychology of self-improvement

Episode: The Building Blocks of Learning and Mastery in the Brain - w/ Nicholas Shea

Chapters:

00:00 How does your mind really work?

03:21 Playing with Concepts

05:00 Overview of Concepts in Psychology

06:14 Building and Storing Concepts

06:30 Concept Learning in Adults

07:59 Concept Acquisition in Children

08:46 Motor Skills and Conceptual Thinking

09:29 Automatic vs. Deliberate Thinking

11:00 Richness and Accessibility of Concepts

13:56 Cognitive Shortcuts and Biases

15:09 Narration on how media affects our thoughts

17:27 The Frame Problem in AI

22:25 Emotions in Decision Making

26:17 Animal Cognition and Emotions

29:14 Neurotransmitters and Learning

30:44 Philosophy methods and experimentation

31:32 Interdisciplinary Approach in Philosophy

33:13 Practical Implications of Abstract Research

34:29 Challenges in Applying Theoretical Insights

37:54 Recommended Books and Final Thoughts

39:45 Books Repeated

40:34 Take-home ideas

42:27 How to change the world podcast

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