this week i talk about how to change your reality when you feel stuck, uninspired, or like you’re living the wrong life. i get into what it means to lose your spark, how to start believing in yourself again, and why sometimes the smallest changes—a different route to work, a new song, a stupid hat—can shift everything. i also talk about self-sabotage, fear of success, and how courage is usually just being scared and doing it anyway. love u guys

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this week i talk about what it means to actually sit down with the voices in your head instead of just pretending they don’t exist. i get into jealousy, shame, why validation from other people never really fixes anything, and the way we convince ourselves we’re unlovable for the dumbest reasons. i also share what it felt like to disappear for a month, why my ego has a fuck ass bob, and how noticing the scary stuff might be the only way through. enjoy, missed u 

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 I'm done spreading propaganda this week. I love you guys

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this week i talk about rage baiting men and how it’s actually one of the most efficient ways to figure out who you’re dealing with. i get into the subtle ways misogyny shows up in everyday life, how to use small questions and jokes to poke at fragile egos, and why “i know” might be the most dangerous thing you can say back to a compliment. we also talk male validation, internet rabbit holes, and the false sense of safety we get from assuming “he was raised by a woman” means anything at all. no one is exempt, so let’s have some fun testing them. enjoy love u

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this week i talk about betrayal and how it never stops catching me off guard, no matter how much i think i’ve prepared myself for it. i get into the way it rewires your nervous system like a mf-ing xmas tree, how it lingers in the body, and why it feels harder to let go of than sadness. i also share how i’ve handled it differently this time, and what it means to finally let myself feel anger. enjoy love u

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fletcher is here this week and we talk about what it means to write honestly about the people you’ve loved and sometimes lost and how terrifying it feels to put those stories into the world when everyone thinks they know who your songs are about

we get into queerness and music as a home for it the way her new album holds both heartbreak and joy at the same time and why telling the truth can be the most freeing thing even when it makes you want to hide under your bed

i also ask if she ever regrets being so raw in her lyrics and she reminds me that there’s power in being messy and human. enjoy love u

17:59 yearning

21:14 public relationships

23:40 ocd / mental health

31:43 new album

43:30 struggling with being public

48:45 changing your sexuality label

50:19 being shocked by liking a boy

56:22 falling in love with a girl

58:00 distance

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before i get into the lesbian master doc, i would be remiss not to acknowledge belly betraying herself and rage baiting the audience, jeremiah’s weird possessiveness, and why conrad’s distance was love disguised as avoidance. then it’s onto compulsory heterosexuality, how liking gay or fictional men is safer, and why attraction doesn’t always mean action. also: how society makes us confuse friendship with crushes and why i hate that every guy friend would still sleep with you. welcome to my dissertation!

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i was supposed to talk about female friendships in this episode but instead i spiral about the summer i turned pretty the rise of ai and why your boyfriend is not your son and shouldn’t be your only friend like why are you breastfeeding him emotionally get a grip

we get into man keeping, how jeremiah is actually asking laurel to be his mum and the way laurel carries the weight of everyone’s grief while being the only one with a brain

also i accidentally solve the education system and consider letting ai chip my brain so i can go live in a mouse house under a tree. Enjoy love u

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I spent a week withdrawing from vyvanse, nicotine and caffeine all at the same time and this episode is the result of that. Enjoy

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this week I am talking about your stories and questions that you wrote in by unraveling a truly unhinged advice email about a boy who numbers his sexual partners (yes, literally gives them numbers), has a thing for helicopters (???), and ghosted a listener after prom. we also get into what real friendship looks like (spoiler: it’s not telling you to “do it for the plot”), how to move on from villains you dated, and unexplored queerness in committed relationships. loved getting to yap with you after 3 days in the desert

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