New View Advice

In this episode, I dive into the tough question of when to let go of a relationship, especially when addiction is involved. We explore how even culturally accepted addictions can impact a relationship and cause real harm. I respond to a listener’s question about loving a partner who won’t change, coping when your needs aren’t being met, and the painful tension between the good moments and ongoing hurt. We talk about how to be honest with yourself about what you truly need and why acceptance doesn’t always mean giving up.

For more on this topic, I recommend you check out episodes 128: Why You Can't Change Someone You Love: Letting Go of Relationships that Aren’t Good for You and 131: Healing After Betrayal: How Do You Know When to Let Go?

Timestamps

• Intro :05
• Listener Question: 1:41
• Outro: 16:23

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/132

For more free content and resources about the healing journey, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you all my love.

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I created a new website called Hum n Play. It has games and activities to help with the healing journey. Some are stress relievers, others are designed to help you reflect and connect with your emotion, and some are just plain fun. I consider it a science museum for the inner world because maybe through exploration you’ll even learn something about yourself.

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In this episode, I answer a listener’s question about healing after betrayal in a long-term relationship. A year and a half ago, this listener cheated on their girlfriend, and ever since, the relationship has been continued falling apart with no signs of improvement. We explore what it really takes to rebuild trust, how betrayal reshapes both people, and when letting go might be the most compassionate choice. I share insights on navigating emotional triggers, making difficult relationship decisions, and honoring your own healing journey.

Timestamps

• Intro: :05
• Question: 2:10
• Outro: 20:30

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/131

For more free content and resources about the healing journey, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you all my love.

Mentioned in this episode:

CHECK OUT HUMNPLAY.COM

I created a new website called Hum n Play. It has games and activities to help with the healing journey. Some are stress relievers, others are designed to help you reflect and connect with your emotion, and some are just plain fun. I consider it a science museum for the inner world because maybe through exploration you’ll even learn something about yourself.

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Losing a friendship can be painful and unexpected. In this episode, I answer a listener’s question about how to heal after the end of a female friendship. I explore why these relationships can be difficult, how to process the loss, and why it’s okay that not all friendships last forever. I also touch on the role of childhood wounds and patterns in our connections. If you’re navigating friendship heartbreak, you’re not alone. I open the episode with a poem I wrote about friendship breakups.

Timestamps

• Intro: :05
• Poem: 2:28
• Question: 3:42
• Outro: 24:11

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/130

For more free content and resources about the healing journey, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you all my love.

Mentioned in this episode:

CHECK OUT HUMNPLAY.COM

I created a new website called Hum n Play. It has games and activities to help with the healing journey. Some are stress relievers, others are designed to help you reflect and connect with your emotion, and some are just plain fun. I consider it a science museum for the inner world because maybe through exploration you’ll even learn something about yourself.

hum n play

In this episode, I answer a listener’s question: “How do we begin again after a major life change?” I dive into the emotions and feelings that come with starting over—whether after a breakup, moving to a new place, or losing friendships. I share my own personal stories of beginning again, from navigating unexpected loss to switching life paths more than once. I offer compassionate advice on reframing the narrative around “square one” moments, emphasizing that new beginnings are natural and often become the foundations of our most aligned lives. My intentions is to provide comfort and actionable steps for anyone feeling stuck or lost. Tune in for a compassionate conversation on embracing change, letting go of unfair expectations, and stepping into newfound hope—no matter how tough the reset. You’re not alone, and you’re exactly where you’re meant to be.

Timestamps

• Introduction: 0:05
• Listener Question: 3:00
• Outro: 25:53

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/129

For more free content and resources about the healing journey, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you all my love.

Mentioned in this episode:

CHECK OUT HUMNPLAY.COM

I created a new website called Hum n Play. It has games and activities to help with the healing journey. Some are stress relievers, others are designed to help you reflect and connect with your emotion, and some are just plain fun. I consider it a science museum for the inner world because maybe through exploration you’ll even learn something about yourself.

hum n play

This week I am sharing an episode from my other podcast, Love Under the Scope.

In this episode of Love Under the Scope, Amanda and Kelby explore how our romantic partners can trigger and also help us to heal childhood wounds. They share personal insights and experiences on how early life experiences and relationships with our parents can shape romantic relationships. Both Amanda and Kelby found Harville Hendrix's book Getting the Love You Want to be a key resource on their journey of understanding and healing childhood wounds with their partners. Throughout the episode, they reference concepts from the book. The conversation emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and offers actionable practices to help partners navigate triggers, do the inner work, and foster compassionate relationships. Listen to this episode for guidance on healing childhood wounds in long-term partnerships.

Follow Love Under the Scope on Spotify

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Learn more about Love Under the Scope

Follow us on Instagram - @loveunderthescope

In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who is navigating heartbreak after the end of relationship where they believed they could change someone, only to realize they could not. We discuss the question – how do we let go of the potential of someone and accept the truth of the relationship? Throughout the episode we discuss why we can’t change others and how we only have the power to change ourselves, the importance of recognizing your own worth, why you deserve someone who doesn’t hold you back, and how maybe you are your own soulmate.

Timestamps

• Introduction: 0:05
• Listener Question: 2:44
• Outro: 27:50

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/128

For more free content and resources about the healing journey, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you all my love.

Mentioned in this episode:

CHECK OUT HUMNPLAY.COM

I created a new website called Hum n Play. It has games and activities to help with the healing journey. Some are stress relievers, others are designed to help you reflect and connect with your emotion, and some are just plain fun. I consider it a science museum for the inner world because maybe through exploration you’ll even learn something about yourself.

hum n play

In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who struggles to speak aloud their experience of sexual assault. I think this is a very common experience for survivors of sexual violence, and I give a few reasons why I believe it is hard for survivors to speak about their experiences of sexual trauma. I share from my own experiences as a rape survivor and offer insights on the healing journey. I also share tools on how you can begin to share your story in ways that may feel safe for you. My intention is to guide you on your journey healing from sexual violence and also reassure you that this was never your fault and you are not alone.

Timestamps

• Introduction: 0:05
• Listener Question: 1:58
• Outro: 29:25

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/127

Blog Post: Why I Can't Stop Talking About Rape

For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you all my love.

Mentioned in this episode:

CHECK OUT HUMNPLAY.COM

I created a new website called Hum n Play. It has games and activities to help with the healing journey. Some are stress relievers, others are designed to help you reflect and connect with your emotion, and some are just plain fun. I consider it a science museum for the inner world because maybe through exploration you’ll even learn something about yourself.

hum n play

In this episode, I answer my own question - what do we do when things don’t go according to plan? After a disappointing couple of week’s I found myself needing a reminder about how to pivot when faced with feeling lost and feelings of heartbreak, disappointment, and just like nothing would go my way. I discuss the challenges of suppressed memories, how to pivot after a creative “failure”, not being where I want to be, and how to find the gifts in the tough chapters of life. I also discuss self-doubt and how self-doubt can feel crippling, but you can trust yourself.

Timestamps

• Introduction: 0:05
• Listener Question: 3:19
• Outro: 28:28

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/126

For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you all my love.

Mentioned in this episode:

CHECK OUT HUMNPLAY.COM

I created a new website called Hum n Play. It has games and activities to help with the healing journey. Some are stress relievers, others are designed to help you reflect and connect with your emotion, and some are just plain fun. I consider it a science museum for the inner world because maybe through exploration you’ll even learn something about yourself.

hum n play

This week I am excited to introduce a new podcast on the New View Advice podcast network - Love Under the Scope with Amanda Durocher & Kelby Knutt!

Do you ever feel like you’re the only one navigating the highs and lows of a long-term relationship? If so, you’re not alone.

Join Amanda Durocher and Kelby Knutt each week as they explore the realities, nuances, and joys of long-term love. In this candid podcast, they share personal stories, real-life advice, and fresh perspectives on what it means to grow, evolve, and thrive together in a relationship. While both Amanda and Kelby have faced their fair share of struggles, they’ve also found that these challenges have deepened their self-love, and also helped them to connect deeper with their partners. Long-term relationships can be messy and sometimes triggering, but they’re also a beautiful part of the healing journey. Tune in for honest discussions about the nitty gritty, messy, and beauty of long-term relationships and look at love under the scope.

This podcast is for anyone in a long-term relationship, those interested in learning more, or those who wonder if there’s something wrong with them when they find relationships to be triggering. This podcast is here to offer all humans a new view on long-term relationships.

Follow Love Under the Scope on Spotify

Follow Love Under the Scope on Apple

Learn more about Love Under the Scope

Follow us on Instagram - @loveunderthescope

In this episode, I welcome special guest Kelly Schooner, a licensed marriage and family therapist, to discuss what is EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) and how EMDR can help people on their healing journeys. We discuss who EMDR can help, how EMDR can help people with “big T trauma” and also “little T traumas”, the difference between suppression and repression, how EMDR can help people with ADD, and more. We also touch on the question - can you trust an EMDR memory. If you have any follow up questions about EMDR, reach out to Amanda at [email protected] and we can do a follow up episode. Thanks for listening!

Timestamps

• Introduction: 0:05
• Chat with Kelly about EMDR: 1:45
• Outro: 53:15

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/125

For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Mentioned in this episode:

CHECK OUT HUMNPLAY.COM

I created a new website called Hum n Play. It has games and activities to help with the healing journey. Some are stress relievers, others are designed to help you reflect and connect with your emotion, and some are just plain fun. I consider it a science museum for the inner world because maybe through exploration you’ll even learn something about yourself.

hum n play