In this episode, I answer a listener’s question about how to forgive oneself after cheating in a relationship. This listener is struggling with feelings of loneliness, sadness, and fear, and they feel as though they have to carry this burden and heavy shame by themselves. We discuss why it’s important to be supported throughout the healing journey, the importance of beginning to communicate with partners, and self-compassion. We also dive into discussing inner child work and how the inner child and looking at childhood wounding can help us understand infidelity and relationship patterns better.

Check out the New View Advice Infidelity Hub - newviewadvice.com/infidelityhub

Timestamps

• Introduction: 0:05
• Listener Question: 2:50
• Outro: 27:56

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/123

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In this episode, I delve into a listener's heartfelt question – what does it mean if I fail at love? This listener is feels like they are getting a second chance at love with an ex, and finds themselves feeling fear arise. They have been in love before and are worried they will “mess up” this new relationship. Through the episode, we explore the intricacies of love, vulnerability, and self-worth, while also emphasizing the importance of self-love and being kind to oneself on the journey to finding meaningful connections. For anyone embarking on a second chance for love, this episode is here to reassure you that you are worthy of love.

This episode is a great follow up to episode 120 – Why Am I Scared of Love?

Timestamps

• Introduction: 0:05
• Listener Question: 1:53
• Outro: 22:31

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/122

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What do we do when life feels too good to be true? We often expect to embrace happiness when things are good, but the truth is many people struggle and feel triggered when things are going well. Many people ask themselves – is it too good to be true? In today’s episode I answer a question from a listener who is struggling with anxiety, fear, and overwhelm because they are afraid of “the other shoe dropping” during a happy time in their life. They faced many challenges during the COVID-19 pandemic, and now that things are on the up and up, they find themselves afraid of everything falling apart. I discuss why we struggle to be happy, the importance of compassion, and how to navigate anxiety and other hard feelings when things feel too good to be true.

Timestamps

• Introduction: 0:05
• Listener Question: 2:04
• Outro: 27:29

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/121

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In this episode, I answer a listener’s question: Why am I scared of love? I dive into the reasons so many of us experience a fear of love, including the fear of vulnerability, childhood trauma, low self-worth, and even the anxiety that love or a relationship might be “too good to be true.” This episode is for anyone who’s afraid of love but is ready to embrace it rather than pull away. If you’ve struggled with opening your heart, this episode offers insights to help you move through those fears. You deserve the love you desire, and it’s time to lean in.

Timestamps

• Introduction: 0:05
• Listener Question: 1:58
• Outro: 25:50

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/120

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In this episode, I explore how to overcome the fear of rejection. I answer a listener's question about struggling with the fear of rejection in love, specifically feeling frozen when it comes to asking someone out on a date. I also dive into how and why the fear of rejection can leave us feeling paralyzed, triggering the freeze response. Throughout the episode, we discuss why the fear of rejection is so overwhelming, how it's a very human (and unavoidable) experience, how to recognize fear cycles, and strategies to move past them.

Timestamps

• Introduction: 0:05
• Listener Question: 2:14
• Outro: 26:10

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/119

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For this episode, I am joined by special guest, Kate Chisholm, founder of Survivors RISE, for a candid discussion about the realities of healing and surviving rape. We discuss our personal journeys of healing from rape and sexual violence, and Kate shares her story surviving rape, as well as her experience going through the criminal justice system and the impact of institutional betrayal. The episode also highlights the importance of community support, empathy, and various healing modalities we have used. We candidly laugh, cry, and talk about our lives as survivors. Our intention with this episode is to help other survivors feel less alone and more supported on their healing journeys, because we both personally have felt the feelings of isolation, and we don’t believe that should be the case. We hope you enjoy!

Timestamps

• Introduction: 00:15
• Conversation with Kate: 1:34
• Outro: 1:19:00

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/118

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In this episode, I chat with mental health counselor Katie Landrum, to discuss our personal experiences with “good” and “bad” therapy. We discuss what makes therapy beneficial, and also what we have found harmful throughout our own experiences.  We emphasize the importance of finding a therapist who is the right fit, offers a safe space, and is non-judgemental. Katie provides us with a list of questions you can use when interviewing a therapist. We also discuss how to prepare for your first session if you have never been ro therapy and what we believe the most important thing to remember is when beginning your therapy journey.

Timestamps

• Introduction: 00:15
• Conversation with Katie: 2:25
• Outro: 40:14

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/117

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In this episode, I share about my own mental health struggles in 2024 and why I believe prioritizing mental health is so important. I discuss how I believe society impacts our mental health, and how I felt impacted by the 2024 election (specifically as a rape survivor), living through a pandemic, and social media. I also discuss how the healing journey impacts mental health and how for me healing from rape and family dynamics has continued to impact my mental health. I also discuss a few suggestions that have helped me to improve my mental health on a daily basis.

Timestamps

• Introduction: 00:15
• Mental Health Convo: 2:26
• Suggestions for Improving Mental Health: 16:16
• Outro: 29:57

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/116

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In the final episode of Season 1 of Reflections, I dive into the question I am most commonly asked - after everything I have survived, how do I still have faith?

This story is about how leaning into faith helped me to survive my darkest days. I share the intimate story of grappling with suicidal thoughts and how an astonishing midnight miracle helped reignite my hope after the death of my close friend and sexual assault.

And for anyone who relates to thoughts of suicide, I promise you it does get better. Your life matters.

Thank you so much for joining me on this journey of Reflections.

Timestamps

• 0:00 Introduction
• 1:00 Story - That Time I Found Faith as a Trauma Survivor
• 9:40 Final Thoughts

You can also read this story on my website: https://www.newviewadvice.com/reflections

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This week's reflection is about how I made everyone uncomfortable surviving sexual assault. The more I tried to talk about sexual violence, sexual assault, and rape, the more I felt shamed. As I reflect on my healing journey, I see clearly now how painful it was for people to be so uncomfortable with me and my story, and how I don't think that needs to be the case.

Timestamps

• 0:00 Introduction
• 1:15 Story - That Time I Made People Uncomfortable
• 9:41 Final Thoughts

You can also read this story on my website: https://www.newviewadvice.com/reflections

For FREE Resources for the healing journey, check out: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

Like Poems? Check out my poems about the healing journey: https://www.newviewadvice.com/poems