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This week's reflection is about how I made everyone uncomfortable surviving sexual assault. The more I tried to talk about sexual violence, sexual assault, and rape, the more I felt shamed. As I reflect on my healing journey, I see clearly now how painful it was for people to be so uncomfortable with me and my story, and how I don't think that needs to be the case.

Timestamps

• 0:00 Introduction
• 1:15 Story - That Time I Made People Uncomfortable
• 9:41 Final Thoughts

You can also read this story on my website: https://www.newviewadvice.com/reflections

For FREE Resources for the healing journey, check out: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

Like Poems? Check out my poems about the healing journey: https://www.newviewadvice.com/poems

Where is the holiday season magic? In this episode, I answer a listener question from someone feeling sad, depressed, and lonely this holiday season. I explore ways to process and accept these emotions, reconnect with your inner child to rediscover holiday magic, and practice self-love. We also discuss the importance of taking care of yourself this holiday season.

Happy Holidays from me, Amanda Durocher! Thank you all for your continued support!

Timestamps

• Introduction: 00:15
• Listener Question: 2:12
• Outro: 21:38

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/115

For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

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CHECK OUT HUMNPLAY.COM

I created a new website called Hum n Play. It has games and activities to help with the healing journey. Some are stress relievers, others are designed to help you reflect and connect with your emotion, and some are just plain fun. I consider it a science museum for the inner world because maybe through exploration you’ll even learn something about yourself.

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In this episode, I reflect on the bystander effect. What responsibility did the bystanders have to step in, speak up, or intervene when I was being raped? Throughout my healing journey, I have asked myself how can I trust people to do what's right after living through this experience.

Timestamps

• 0:00 Introduction
• 1:13 Story - That Time I Survived the Bystander Effect
• 8:38 Final Thoughts

You can also read this story on my website: https://www.newviewadvice.com/reflections

For FREE Resources for the healing journey, check out: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

Like Poems? Check out my poems about the healing journey: https://www.newviewadvice.com/poems

Welcome to Reflections! This week I share a story about healing from betrayal by women after sexual assault. I speak of two women I felt betrayed by - one was the teenage girl who was with me the night I was raped, and the other was a spiritual leader who betrayed me when I went to her for help and healing. This story goes into the complexities and feelings of betrayal in the aftermath of sexual trauma.

Timestamps

• 0:00 Introduction
• 1:15 Story - That Time I Was Betrayed By Women After Being Raped
• 10:21 Final Thoughts

You can also read this story on my website: https://www.newviewadvice.com/reflections

For FREE Resources for the healing journey, check out: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

Like Poems? Check out my poems about the healing journey: https://www.newviewadvice.com/poems

In this episode I talk about how to become comfortable with physical touch after sexual assault. Many survivors of sexual trauma struggle with sex and being touched after sexual violence. In this episode I discuss the importance of being kind to yourself, how to practice awareness and listening to your body, and reconnecting to your body . My intention is to help you connect back with yourself while also assuring you that it's okay no matter where you are at on your journey. You are healing.

Timestamps ⏱️

• Introduction: 0:15
• Listener Question: 2:37
• Outro: 28:27

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/114

For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Mentioned in this episode:

CHECK OUT HUMNPLAY.COM

I created a new website called Hum n Play. It has games and activities to help with the healing journey. Some are stress relievers, others are designed to help you reflect and connect with your emotion, and some are just plain fun. I consider it a science museum for the inner world because maybe through exploration you’ll even learn something about yourself.

hum n play

This is a story about my experience survivor's guilt. I share how I suffered from survivor's guilt as I was healing from sexual violence and suicidal ideation. I share this story as an example of survivor's guilt and how I processed the intense feelings of guilt and unworthiness.

Timestamps

• 0:00 Introduction
• 0:47 Story - That Time I Had Survivor's Guilt
• 8:57 Final Thoughts

You can also read this story on my website: https://www.newviewadvice.com/reflections

In this episode, I answer a listener question about processing repressed memories of childhood sexual trauma and how we can learn to trust ourselves. Throughout this episode, I discuss my own experiences with repressed memories of sexual trauma. I discuss how self-doubt is common when processing repressed memories of trauma, how to listen to your body, the importance of acceptance, and how to practice gentleness with yourself throughout this process. My intention is to offer you some solace if you too find yourself navigating the stormy waters of repressed memories and to help you to trust yourself and your own process for navigating this trauma response.

Timestamps ⏱️

• Introduction: 0:15
• Listener Question: 2:47
• Outro: 30:44

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/113

For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you so much love <3

Welcome to Reflections, a New View Advice minisode series! In the episode I share a poem about the healing journey, and especially my experience healing from fear. I wrote this poem when reflecting on how fear used to debilitate me, but overtime I have learned how to navigate the fears that arise.

Timestamps

• 0:00 Introduction
• 1:35 Poem - That Time I Met the Devil
• 3:47 Final Thoughts

You can read more poems on my website at: https://www.newviewadvice.com/poems

You can also read all reflections here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/reflections

In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who is wondering why they still seek validation from their parents even though they already know their parents are unsupportive and are often left feeling unhappy. I discuss how so often our need for parental validation and approval is tied to deep rooted human fears, including the fear of rejection, the fear of abandonment, the fear of criticism, and the fear of being unlovable. My intention is to help you to feel less alone, validated in your experience, and offer you ways to begin healing from these fears and how we can begin to validate and love ourselves, one step at a time.

Timestamps ⏱️

• Introduction: 0:15
• Listener Question: 1:45
• Outro: 35:28

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/112

For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/

I am no longer accepting new questions for the podcast, but if you’d like to reach out, you can still email me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you for listening and for your support throughout this journey!

Sending you so much love!

Mentioned in this episode:

CHECK OUT HUMNPLAY.COM

I created a new website called Hum n Play. It has games and activities to help with the healing journey. Some are stress relievers, others are designed to help you reflect and connect with your emotion, and some are just plain fun. I consider it a science museum for the inner world because maybe through exploration you’ll even learn something about yourself.

hum n play

Welcome to Reflections, a New View Advice minisode series! In the episode I share a story about a time in my life when I was grappling with the horrors of sexual violence and my own near-death experience. During this time, I cross paths with another victim of sexual violence, but she was murdered at age 15.

This story is in honor of Courtney Wilkes and the profound impact her life has had on me as a survivor of sexual trauma.

Trigger Warning: This story discusses sexual violence, death, and murder. I do not go into graphic details, but this episode does talk about these heavy topics.

Timestamps

• 0:00 Introduction
• 2:08 Story - That Time I Met A Black Widow Spider
• 14:08 Final Thoughts

You can also read this story on my website: https://www.newviewadvice.com/reflections