Welcome to Reflections, a New View Advice minisode series! In the episode I share a story about a time in my life when I was grappling with the horrors of sexual violence and my own near-death experience. During this time, I cross paths with another victim of sexual violence, but she was murdered at age 15.

This story is in honor of Courtney Wilkes and the profound impact her life has had on me as a survivor of sexual trauma.

Trigger Warning: This story discusses sexual violence, death, and murder. I do not go into graphic details, but this episode does talk about these heavy topics.

Timestamps

• 0:00 Introduction
• 2:08 Story - That Time I Met A Black Widow Spider
• 14:08 Final Thoughts

You can also read this story on my website: https://www.newviewadvice.com/reflections

In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who was sexually assaulted by their biological father and is looking for guidance on how to navigate this situation and get support from their family. Navigating relationships with family and friends after sexual assault often feels scary, uncomfortable, overwhelming, and uncertain. It becomes even more complicated when the perpetrator of the abuse is intertwined within the family. We discuss how to navigate hard conversations with family after sexual trauma, the importance of creating safety, and why sometimes we need to set boundaries.

Timestamps ⏱️

• Introduction: 0:15
• Listener Question: 3:09
• Outro: 31:50

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Welcome to Reflections a New View Advice minisode series! In this episode, I tell a story about an experience I had in high school where I was stalked and then stalked my stalker. I share this story because I judged myself and felt shame for this experience for a very long time. I now know, after years of healing, that this was a trauma response and I am not alone with feeling lost and insane in the aftermath of sexual trauma. Trigger Warning: This story depicts my experience with stalking after being gang raped. I don't go into details of the violence, but I do talk about my experience as a survivor.

Timestamps

• 0:00 Introduction
• 1:33 Story - That Time I Stalked My Stalker
• 10:52 Final Thoughts

You can also read this story on my website: https://www.newviewadvice.com/reflections

In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who is debating leaving her husband who has narcissistic traits and has been manipulative and controlling in the past. When she told him that she was leaving the relationship, he begged for a second chance and did start to change his behavior. Now, the listener is having trouble deciding if she should stay or leave the relationship. In this episode, we learn about trusting our intuition and listening to our bodies when we are making challenging and important life decisions. We also discuss why it’s important to take the pressure off these large decisions, the importance of empathy in relationships, and practicing self-forgiveness.

Timestamps

• Introduction: 0:15
• Listener Question: 1:43
• Outro: 24:20

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/110

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Welcome to Reflections, a New View Advice minisode series! Each week I read short stories from my own healing journey. This week I share a story about a time I got really really angry after finding out that one of the guys that raped me got engaged. I share this story as an inside look at what it can look like to heal from trauma and to hopefully help someone out there who may have intense feelings and not be sure if they are normal. I know that I judged myself for this moment in time for a long time, but now see it happened because I had a lot of anger I had been ignoring for a long time, and that it is perfectly normal to have a lot of hard feelings.

Timestamps

• 0:00 Introduction
• 2:31 Story - That Time the Guy Who Raped Me Got Engaged & I Lost My Sh*t
• 6:45 Final Thoughts

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In this episode, I dive into the complexities of creativity for trauma survivors. In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who is a religious cult trauma survivor and wants to be a film writer / director, but is struggling with putting too much pressure on themselves to tell their story the “right” way.I share personal insights and advice on embracing the messy, emotional journey of creativity. I talk about the importance of releasing pressure and perfectionism, embracing the anger, processing difficult feelings such as shame and guilt, and leveraging creativity as a healing tool.

Timestamps

• Introduction: 0:15
• Listener Question: 2:06
• Outro: 28:58

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/109

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In this episode, I discuss how we can support ourselves after sexual assault, rape, and sexual trauma. I share advice on how survivors can begin to feel safe in their bodies again, take their power back, and navigate the journey towards a new normal. Drawing from my own personal experiences and a listener question, I provide heartfelt guidance aimed at helping survivors feel less alone and more empowered on their healing journey. 

Timestamps

• Introduction: 0:15
• Poem: 2:00
• Listener Question: 3:27
• Outro: 26:30

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/108

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In this episode, I dive into regret and how to forgive ourselves when past decisions. I answer a listener question who regrets telling the truth and questions whether it was the right thing to do. I offer guidance on how to process our feelings of regret and how to let go of past burdens.

Timestamps

• Introduction: 0:15
• Listener Question: 2:04
• Outro: 26:36

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/107

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Why do so many of us feel alone? Why do we feel alone even when we are with other people? Where does this feeling of loneliness come from? In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who is wondering why they always feel lonely. I discuss the feeling of loneliness, how it is present for so many of us, and how we can begin to heal, feel, and process feeling lonely. My intention for this episode is to offer you a new view on feeling lonely as well as help you to feel less alone, no matter where you are on your healing journey. I also give a life update, and discuss my own healing journey.

Timestamps

• Introduction: 0:15
• Life Update: 4:07
• Listener Question: 16:54
• Outro: 41:27

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/106

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Why is it that our head understands that a relationship is over but our heart still struggles to let it go? In this episode, I answer a question from a listener moving through the break up grieving process. I talk about the grief we feel at the end of a relationship and how so often the grief stage lasts longer than we expect it to. I offer a new view on healing from a broken heart and why this process will take as long as it’s going to take, and that there is nothing wrong with that. My intention is to assist you in feeling less alone, letting go of judgement around your situation, and offering you a few tools to help you grieve the end of your relationship.

Timestamps

• Introduction: 0:15
• Question: 1:24
• Outro: 17:36

For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/105

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