In this episode of lovelustfridays, hosts Jake Deptula and Michelle Locke sit down with retired FBI agent and profiler Julia Cowley, who reflects on her 22-year career investigating serial killings, sex offenses, and other violent crimes. Julia discusses the realities of working as an FBI profiler, sharing her insights into high-profile cases, including those involving intimate partner violence. They cover the heartbreaking case of Vashti Forrest, a mother of two killed in 2011 after filing for divorce from her abusive husband, Brett Seacat, a police officer. Julia sheds light on the warning signs of domestic violence, the psychology of offenders, and the emotional toll of such investigations. As the host of highly rated The Consult: Real FBI Profilers podcast, Julia offers an honest, in-depth look at the complexities of FBI profiling, debunking myths often portrayed in TV and film, and providing a deeper understanding of criminal investigations.

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-consult-real-fbi-profilers/id1586909557

https://open.spotify.com/show/4BRyHb1KZjdGYrMfu2zMeM

https://www.truecrimeconsult.com/ 

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https://www.michelelocke.com/

https://www.instagram.com/attorneymichelelocke/

Haley Gray | Producer & Researcher

https://www.instagram.com/HaleyGrayResearch

www.HaleyGrayResearch.com 

Strictly Stalking Podcast - Featuring Julia Cowley “Real FBI Profiler”

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/207-real-fbi-profiler-julia-cowley/id1494237083?i=1000640310287

https://open.spotify.com/episode/2rHGTzMSo5J6FjEx0jvqvP

FBI Retired Case File Review Podcast

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/fbi-retired-case-file-review/id1082012464

https://open.spotify.com/show/5gtvYJG343U7NBxcOfI2P4?si=eZD1ISmESmKoSIaJZYTKaw&nd=1&dlsi=e1969a41e5f54afa

https://jerriwilliams.com/ 

National Domestic Violence Hotline (24/7/365)

Call 1.800.799.SAFE (7233)

Text: START to 88788 

https://www.thehotline.org/

https://www.facebook.com/NationalDomesticViolenceHotline

https://www.instagram.com/NDVHofficial/

State of Kansas v. Brett T. Seacat, Supreme Court of Kansas, 15 January 2016

Brett T. Seacat v. State of Kansas, Court of Appeals of Kansas, 11 February 2022

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topics | #FBI #profiling #criminalbehavior #investigations #emotionaltoll #podcasting #relationships #lawenforcement #dating #trauma #domesticviolence #trust #roadrage #policeabuse #intimatepartnerviolence #caseanalysis #accountability #emotionalresponses #legalanalysis #officerbehavior #patternsofabuse #investigativestrategies #communication #casestudies #vashtiforrest #theconsult

In this episode of lovelustfridays, hosts Jake Deptula and Michele Locke are joined by Debra, who shared her harrowing story in lovelustfear Episode 12, “I’ve Always Seemed To Attract The Crazy Type.”

Debra talks about her journey to get sober after a tough first marriage and dealing with toxic relationships. They dive into the challenges of staying sober, how addiction can impact relationships, and how important it is to have self-worth and resilience in recovery. Michele and Jake also share their own experiences with alcohol and dating and the pressure to drink at social events. They also discuss online dating, dating age gaps, narcissism, and the rise of professional matchmaking services.

The Alternative Hair Alchemist | Podcast

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/alternative-hair-alchemist-a-podcast-about/id1627588998

https://www.michelelocke.com/

https://www.instagram.com/attorneymichelelocke/

Haley Gray | Producer & Researcher

https://www.instagram.com/HaleyGrayResearch

www.HaleyGrayResearch.com 

https://www.threedayrule.com/

Call 1.800.799.SAFE (7233)

Text: START to 88788 

https://www.thehotline.org/

https://www.facebook.com/NationalDomesticViolenceHotline

https://www.instagram.com/NDVHofficial/

If you have a dating or relationship story to share, want to participate in a discussion here on lovelustfridays, or have a topic you’d like us to cover, contact us below.

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Apple

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topics | #sobriety #addiction #relationships #personalgrowth #alcohol #recovery #dating #selfdiscovery #support #empowerment #onlinedating #narcissism #relationships #matchmaking #selfdiscovery #datingprofiles #threedayrule #agedynamics #personalgrowth #empowerment #love

In this lovelustfridays 2024 Year-End Wrap-Up, Hosts Jake, Michele and Producer Haley engage in a candid conversation about relationships, personal growth, and the valuable lessons they've learned throughout 2024.

Jake opens up about his three dating rules—and why they still keep getting broken. Michelle reveals her essential dating hygiene must-haves, while Haley reflects on her people-pleasing tendencies and where they stem from. In addition, they delve into the application of AI—specifically ChatGPT—to analyze their personalities and uncover surprising insights. The conversation wraps up with an exciting announcement: a brand new podcast series for 2025, aimed at demystifying the legal system and examining how it impacts relationships.

https://www.michelelocke.com/

https://www.instagram.com/attorneymichelelocke/

Haley Gray | Producer & Researcher

https://www.instagram.com/HaleyGrayResearch

www.HaleyGrayResearch.com 

National Domestic Violence Hotline (24/7/365)

Call 1.800.799.SAFE (7233)

Text: START to 88788 

https://www.thehotline.org/

https://www.facebook.com/NationalDomesticViolenceHotline

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Host Jake Deptula and family law attorney Michelle Locke are joined by Lauryn from Episode 17 of lovelustfear, titled “You Have to Learn to Trust Me.” 

Lauryn reflects on her first toxic relationship, sharing the emotional toll of repeated breakups and reconciliations that led her to question her self-worth. She describes how these painful cycles pushed her to emotional extremes and behaviors she didn’t recognize in herself. Lauryn also opens up about her struggles with body image, self-confidence, and how societal pressures influenced her perception of beauty. The conversation delves into the challenges women face today, the journey to self-acceptance, and the critical role of family and friends in overcoming adversity. Michelle offers valuable advice for parents on how to help their children navigate emotionally challenging breakups.

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Here’s a link to my show Little Things on YouTube: 

https://youtu.be/BowNWLggBzQ?si=mGcgCnGkVUrcNdmb

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Haley Gray | Producer & Researcher

https://www.instagram.com/HaleyGrayResearch

www.HaleyGrayResearch.com 

https://www.nami.org/

NAMI is the National Alliance on Mental Illness, the nation’s largest grassroots mental health organization dedicated to building better lives for the millions of Americans affected by mental illness.

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https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/One_Tree_Hill_(TV_series)

https://people.ucsc.edu/~sgrabe/Shellys_Home_page/Publications_files/Grabe%20&%20Ward,%20Hyde,%20Media%20Meta%20(PB,%202008).pdf 

https://www.pewresearch.org/internet/2020/05/08/dating-and-relationships-in-the-digital-age/ 

National Domestic Violence Hotline (24/7/365)

Call 1.800.799.SAFE (7233)

Text: START to 88788 

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topics | #bodyimage #selfconfidence #toxicrelationships #mediainfluence #personalgrowth #selfworth #societalpressures #healing #friendship #parentingadvice #heartbreak #parenting #emotionalsupport #relationships #love #mentalhealth #copingstrategies #familydynamics #stalking #selfdiscovery #intuition #theater #empowerment

Lauryn’s romance with her movie theater coworker spirals into a toxic cycle of heartbreak, doubt, and obsession, leaving her emotionally crushed but driven to prove her instincts right.

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"...in middle school when girls and boys were starting to pay more attention to each other. And I had crushes, but they were not reciprocated..." - Lauryn

“At the time, I was just like, we're going to be together forever. We had talked about it. You're the love of my life. I'm the love of your life.” - Lauryn

"He breaks up with me, I'm devastated, I start to move on, he calls me, we get back together, he starts to pull away again." - Lauryn

"I'm crying and sobbing, and I wake my parents up. I wake my mom up, and I tell her…I feel like I'm going to die and I will do anything to make this pain stop." - Lauryn

"I'm begging him, begging him, please just break it off with me. I can't do this anymore. I know that you're cheating on me. I know something's going on. I feel it. He was like, I know that we've been through a lot, but you have to learn to trust me." - Lauryn

“Most people that know me, I guarantee you would be like Lauren would rather eat glass than sit around and let someone disrespect her because it's not who I am. But back then, it was who I was…” - Lauryn

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Women Deliver

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An Unwavering Advocate for Girls and Women – Women Deliver

We’re a global advocacy organization guided by one end result: that every girl and woman exercises her rights to full bodily autonomy and health.

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Host Jake Deptula and family law attorney Michele Locke are joined by Lori Morrison, a retired private investigator, speaker, author, podcaster, and church safety coach. 

Lori shares her insights into spiritual abuse, the role of women within religious communities, and offers advice for those seeking guidance in handling church-related disputes. The episode also covers Lori’s journey into private investigation and her continued dedication to helping victims through her podcast, The Unlovely Truth. The conversation emphasizes the gender-based power dynamics prevalent in many faiths and how women need to challenge such oppressive structures respectfully but firmly, highlighting the paramount importance of understanding and asserting one's rights. Jake and Michele also discuss their personal experiences with the Catholic Church, addressing issues such as the hypocrisy observed within religious institutions and how churches handle misconduct accusations. They highlight the problematic nature of internal conflict resolution within churches and discuss the broader issues of abuse and cover-ups in various denominations. 

Apple

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-unlovely-truth/id1490970256

Spotify

https://open.spotify.com/show/0oOJagNw54yyATuQ5dI6l0

https://theunlovelytruth.com/

https://www.facebook.com/theUnlovelyTruth

https://www.instagram.com/theunlovelytruthpodcast/

https://www.michelelocke.com/

https://www.instagram.com/attorneymichelelocke/

Haley Gray | Producer & Researcher

https://www.instagram.com/HaleyGrayResearch

www.HaleyGrayResearch.com 

National Domestic Violence Hotline (24/7/365)

Call 1.800.799.SAFE (7233)

Text: START to 88788 

https://www.thehotline.org/

https://www.facebook.com/NationalDomesticViolenceHotline

https://www.instagram.com/NDVHofficial/

If you have a dating or relationship story to share, want to participate in a discussion here on lovelustfridays, or have a topic you’d like us to cover, contact us below.

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topics | #ChurchSafety #SpiritualAbuse #LoriMorrison #PrivateInvestigator #ChurchAccountability #GenderAndFaith #ReligiousReform #AbusePrevention #FaithAndJustice #WomenInChurch #TruthAndHealing #AddressingAbuse #ReligiousHypocrisy #FaithBasedAbuse #TheUnlovelyTruth #ChurchLeadership #ChurchSafetyCoach #EmpowerWomen #ReligiousCommunity #SpeakUpForJustice #SupportSurvivors

Jake Deptula, host of lovelustfear and cohost of Strictly Stalking, sits down with Terra Newell to discuss his journey and the inspiration behind his podcasts. Jake opens up about his own experiences with toxic relationships and how they shaped lovelustfear, which delves into the darker side of dating. Terra and Jake discuss the importance of providing survivors with a platform, creating safe spaces for sharing, and the challenges of covering such sensitive topics. Their conversation also touches on self-discovery, setting boundaries, and the impact of generational trauma. 

Terra Newell - Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/terranewell/

Other links 

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Barking B**ches 

Adopt Juneau!

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Book a 1 on 1 call! 

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Host Jake Deptula is joined by family law attorney Michele Locke and Gabi Conti, an author, producer, and TV host known for her candid discussions on dating and relationships.

This episode explores the challenges of workplace romances, the impact of dating apps, and how to recognize and address emotional and physical abuse. Gabi, who previously shared her own toxic dating story in LoveLustFear Episode 4, "We Can’t Break Up," offers valuable insights on spotting red flags and empowering others through her work, including her book 20 Guys You Date in Your 20s and her podcast Bad Influencer. Michele reflects on her own hesitations about reentering the dating scene after two decades post-divorce, while Gabi provides practical advice for navigating modern relationships—emphasizing the importance of practice, staying open-minded, and prioritizing personal well-being. The discussion also features workplace anti-fraternization policies, celebrity relationship dynamics, and essential steps for identifying and escaping toxic situations.

Gabi - Episode Link

"We Can’t Break Up"

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lovelustfear-gabi-we-cant-break-up/id1735876283?i=1000654153175

https://open.spotify.com/episode/3GFc3ga6PgAKaAOGqySQFY

See Gabi in Holy Cannoli Comedy at the Hollywood Improv Lab on 12/16

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Host Jake Deptula is joined by family law attorney Michele Locke and Allyn Amerongen, a survivor, advocate, and podcaster, featured in lovelustfear episode sixteen, "It’s A Lot Worse Than We Thought."

Allyn opens up about her traumatic experience in a long-distance relationship, the double-edged nature of vulnerability, and the challenges survivors face when navigating relationships after trauma. She also shares her personal journey while creating her podcast, “When Heaven Meets Hell”, and its global impact on listeners. The conversation emphasizes that survivors should never feel pressured to prove their trauma and be encouraged to embrace their truths. The episode highlights the importance of setting clear boundaries, fostering trust, and supporting survivors as they share their stories and continue their healing journeys toward recovery.

​​**This episode of lovelustfridays contains topics including sexual abuse. Please listen with caution.**

Apple

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/when-heaven-meets-hell/id1757647021

Spotify

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Amazon Music

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Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/allyn.amerongen/

https://www.michelelocke.com/

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War Party Movement

https://warpartymovement.com/

National Domestic Violence Hotline (24/7/365)

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Allyn meets a captivating man who swiftly declares his love, asks her to be his girlfriend, and proposes. But as their long-distance relationship deepens, she uncovers his lingering connection with an ex, leading her down a dark path of deception.

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“My criteria was something more serious and committed in hopes of finding my person in marriage and all the things that I had kind of been shown and was striving for in life…” - Allyn

“He was all the things that I hadn't experienced in conversations prior with people, and that was something that really drew me in and that I appreciated about him.” - Allyn

“Within less than a week, he told me that he loved me. That was right after our first FaceTime, within probably twenty minutes of us getting off the phone. At that same time, he told me that he wanted to have kids with me, couldn't wait for me to be their Mom.” - Allyn

“Within two hours, probably two hours of being there, I was with his mom…and his mom was with me and she ended up on the phone, on speaker with someone. And they said, Allyn and, and him are going to be coming by, they're with us now, we'll all be together later or something. And the person said, who's Allyn? Who's that? I can't keep track of them.” - Allyn 

“And I leaned down, pull something, and out comes lingerie from under his bed. And I just froze. And I look under there, and there's also a woman's shirt and a purse. And I'm thinking really fast, how do I want to handle this?” - Allyn

“...but, in my mind, I was just waiting for, we were waiting for something to happen with his work, we were waiting for a green light on something, and again, he left me in limbo. I just felt like a weird suspended state.” - Allyn

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Music (CC BY 4.0):

Lost Place Atmospheres 002 & 003 by Sascha Ende

Very Low Note by Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com)

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Podcast | When Heaven Meets Hell

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/when-heaven-meets-hell/id1757647021

https://open.spotify.com/show/0Ck1Xm1rqmu8BgEUbZpyfE

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Allyn Amerongen: Coaching. Speaking. Community.

https://doingitdespite.com/

War Party Movement

https://warpartymovement.com/

At War Party Movement we're about having "less thunder in the mouth, more lightning in the hand." We are fiercely committed to taking action in breaking cycles of abuse and fundamentally changing the way women are treated, across the country and particularly in Native communities, through our 501(c)3 non-profit War Party Ranch. We provide opportunities for women and girls to create working and life skills that foster independence and self reliance in all aspects of their lives and in all future endeavors.

National Domestic Violence Hotline (24/7/365)

Call 1.800.799.SAFE (7233)

Text: START to 88788 

https://www.thehotline.org/

https://www.facebook.com/NationalDomesticViolenceHotline

https://www.instagram.com/NDVHofficial/

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