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Host Jake Deptula is joined by family law attorney Michele Locke and Allyn Amerongen, a survivor, advocate, and podcaster, featured in lovelustfear episode sixteen, "It’s A Lot Worse Than We Thought."

Allyn opens up about her traumatic experience in a long-distance relationship, the double-edged nature of vulnerability, and the challenges survivors face when navigating relationships after trauma. She also shares her personal journey while creating her podcast, “When Heaven Meets Hell”, and its global impact on listeners. The conversation emphasizes that survivors should never feel pressured to prove their trauma and be encouraged to embrace their truths. The episode highlights the importance of setting clear boundaries, fostering trust, and supporting survivors as they share their stories and continue their healing journeys toward recovery.

​​**This episode of lovelustfridays contains topics including sexual abuse. Please listen with caution.**

Apple

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/when-heaven-meets-hell/id1757647021

Spotify

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Instagram

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https://www.michelelocke.com/

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War Party Movement

https://warpartymovement.com/

National Domestic Violence Hotline (24/7/365)

Call 1.800.799.SAFE (7233)

Text: START to 88788 

https://www.thehotline.org/

https://www.facebook.com/NationalDomesticViolenceHotline

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If you have a dating or relationship story to share, want to participate in a discussion here on lovelustfridays, or have a topic you’d like us to cover, contact us below.

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Allyn meets a captivating man who swiftly declares his love, asks her to be his girlfriend, and proposes. But as their long-distance relationship deepens, she uncovers his lingering connection with an ex, leading her down a dark path of deception.

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“My criteria was something more serious and committed in hopes of finding my person in marriage and all the things that I had kind of been shown and was striving for in life…” - Allyn

“He was all the things that I hadn't experienced in conversations prior with people, and that was something that really drew me in and that I appreciated about him.” - Allyn

“Within less than a week, he told me that he loved me. That was right after our first FaceTime, within probably twenty minutes of us getting off the phone. At that same time, he told me that he wanted to have kids with me, couldn't wait for me to be their Mom.” - Allyn

“Within two hours, probably two hours of being there, I was with his mom…and his mom was with me and she ended up on the phone, on speaker with someone. And they said, Allyn and, and him are going to be coming by, they're with us now, we'll all be together later or something. And the person said, who's Allyn? Who's that? I can't keep track of them.” - Allyn 

“And I leaned down, pull something, and out comes lingerie from under his bed. And I just froze. And I look under there, and there's also a woman's shirt and a purse. And I'm thinking really fast, how do I want to handle this?” - Allyn

“...but, in my mind, I was just waiting for, we were waiting for something to happen with his work, we were waiting for a green light on something, and again, he left me in limbo. I just felt like a weird suspended state.” - Allyn

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Podcast | When Heaven Meets Hell

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Allyn Amerongen: Coaching. Speaking. Community.

https://doingitdespite.com/

War Party Movement

https://warpartymovement.com/

At War Party Movement we're about having "less thunder in the mouth, more lightning in the hand." We are fiercely committed to taking action in breaking cycles of abuse and fundamentally changing the way women are treated, across the country and particularly in Native communities, through our 501(c)3 non-profit War Party Ranch. We provide opportunities for women and girls to create working and life skills that foster independence and self reliance in all aspects of their lives and in all future endeavors.

National Domestic Violence Hotline (24/7/365)

Call 1.800.799.SAFE (7233)

Text: START to 88788 

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Host Jake Deptula is joined by family law attorney Michele Locke, along with Shaun and John from "Sins and Survivors: Las Vegas True Crime," to explore the heartbreaking case of Ashley and Dennis Prince, who were tragically killed by Ashley's ex-father-in-law, Joe Houston, during a deposition.

The discussion reflects on Ashley and Dennis's lives, the legal proceedings, and the emotional and legal complexities that culminated in their deaths. They examine the intense divorce proceedings and custody battle, highlighting how Ashley's attempts to escape an abusive relationship were overlooked by a justice system that missed vital warning signs. Michele provides valuable insights into the motivations of those involved, pointing out the instability within the legal framework. The conversation also tackles systemic issues surrounding domestic violence and the emotional strain on families while advocating for greater community awareness and resources for survivors. Shaun and John reveal their mission to enlighten the Las Vegas community by shedding light on these devastating stories. 

topics | True Crime, Domestic Violence, Ashley Prince, Dennis Prince, Legal Perspectives, Advocacy, Community Awareness, red flags, relationships, divorce, Las Vegas, survivor stories, law, podcasting, courtroom, legal profession, community, instincts, lawyers, professionalism

​​**This episode of lovelustfridays contains graphic depictions of murder. Please listen with caution.*

Apple

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sins-survivors-a-las-vegas-true-crime-podcast/id1712245894

Spotify

https://open.spotify.com/show/1W2swCx9LP38sFY06294pB

Amazon Music

https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/18ce5b73-c8ec-4e38-827d-df4119e845ea/sins-survivors-a-las-vegas-true-crime-podcast

Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/sinsandsurvivors/

Website

http://sinsandsurvivors.com

https://www.michelelocke.com/

https://www.instagram.com/attorneymichelelocke/

The Vegas Justice League (Cold Cases)

https://www.vegasjusticeleague.com/

Original Episode Link

https://sinspod.co/episode36

National Domestic Violence Hotline (24/7/365)

Call 1.800.799.SAFE (7233)

Text: START to 88788 

https://www.thehotline.org/

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If you have a dating or relationship story to share, want to participate in a discussion here on lovelustfridays, or have a topic you’d like us to cover, contact us below.

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Host Jake Deptula speaks with Desiree, who shares her dating misadventures, including cringe-worthy encounters with older men who misrepresent themselves.

Their conversation highlights issues like catfishing and the bait-and-switch phenomenon. Desiree reveals the aspects of old-school dating and the early days of AOL Online romances. She emphasizes critical criteria for partners, such as having a job, apartment, and car, and discusses the dangers she has faced, including awkward and potentially risky situations. She reflects on the importance of personal safety and learning from past mistakes while navigating the modern dating landscape. The episode also touches on sensitive topics like sexual assault and boundaries in relationships, encouraging listeners to be aware of red flags and the significance of trust and accountability in dating. 

​​**This episode of lovelustfridays contains topics including sexual assault. Please listen with caution.**

topics | bad dates, catfishing, true crime, online dating, SMITTY, dating stories, friendship, betrayal, dating criteria, dangerous situations, dating experiences, personal growth, dating, personal stories, domestic violence, abuse, sexual assault, boundaries, relationships, trust, instincts, accountability, sharing experiences, red flags

Desiree - Episode Link

"His Name Was SMITTY"

https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/lovelustfear/id1735876283

https://open.spotify.com/episode/1jQ7VjUQ0S7feHDADg1fM6

National Domestic Violence Hotline (24/7/365)

Call 1.800.799.SAFE (7233)

Text: START to 88788 

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If you have a dating or relationship story to share, want to participate in a discussion here on lovelustfridays, or have a topic you’d like us to cover, contact us below.

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Introducing: Next Realm - Have you ever felt a presence, heard a familiar voice, or received a sign that made you believe your loved ones were reaching out from beyond the veil? Next Realm is the podcast that explores the profound and heartwarming stories of individuals who have experienced messages from their departed loved ones. In each episode, we delve into personal accounts that transcend the boundaries of the physical world. From mysterious dreams and unexplained coincidences to undeniable signs, our guests share their extraordinary encounters that go beyond the realms of explanation. Host Amber Rasmussen guides you through these captivating narratives, exploring each encounter's emotions, connections, and spiritual significance. Together, we embark on a journey into the unknown, where love transcends the boundaries of time and space. Whether you are a skeptic or a believer, ’NEXT REALM’ invites you to open your heart and mind to the possibility that your loved ones may communicate with us in ways we never imagined. 

Apple Podcasts

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/next-realm-beautiful-stories-from-beyond/id1768386038

Spotify

https://open.spotify.com/show/3tRhWVtSSdDfhqeGqMyo4T

Amazon Music

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Website

https://www.nextrealmpod.com/

Instagram

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Host Jake Deptula speaks with Danielle, a caregiver and spiritual healing advocate, who shares her traumatic experiences with domestic violence in high school. 

Danielle details the verbal, physical, and sexual abuse she suffered at the hands of her then-boyfriend, along with the stalking that ensued. Danielle highlights the critical support from her family, especially her mother, which helped her escape the abusive relationship and reveals the challenges of rebuilding her life in a new school, finding supportive friends, and learning to trust again. Inspired by her role as a caregiver for her mother, who is battling cancer, Danielle emphasizes the importance of spiritual wellness in her healing journey and aims to raise awareness about domestic abuse and spiritual paths to recovery.

**This episode of lovelustfridays contains topics including the sexual assault of a minor. Please listen with caution.**

topics | domestic violence, abuse, sexual assault, teen dating violence, stalking, healing, relationships, support systems, spiritual wellness, caregiving, mental health, awareness, cancer, cancer patient, domestic violence awareness month

Newsletter:

https://daniellegray.substack.com/

Awaken with Danielle Gray YouTube Channel: 

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Link To Danielle Gray's Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/iamdanielleegray/profilecard/?igsh=MXJsYjRvbGl4ZDVodg==

Strictly Stalking Episode 157 “Stalked At School: A Campus Confrontation”

https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/strictly-stalking/id1494237083

National Domestic Violence Hotline (24/7/365)

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Text: START to 88788 

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Introducing: Morbidology –  a true crime podcast created and hosted by Emily G. Thompson, author of “Unsolved Child Murders,” “Cults Uncovered” and co-author of “Unsolved Murders: True Crime Cases Uncovered.” Morbidology was voted ‘Best International Podcast’ at the iHeartRadio Podcast Awards. Join Emily as she covers a new true crime case – solved and unsolved – released weekly. You can listen to Morbidology across all podcast platforms.

I’m going to play a preview of episode 277 on the murder of Lise Fredette, a 74-year-old woman who failed to show up for her shift in Walmart in Peterborough, Ontario, Canada. Her daughter drove over to her home, and when she pulled up outside, she observed her car parked in the driveway. She headed up the drive but was stopped in her tracks by a large pool of blood on the ground. An investigation into her whereabouts got underway, and suspicion immediately fell upon an ex-boyfriend who had refused to accept that the relationship was over.

FULL EPISODE 277 HERE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/277-lise-fredette/id1463979546?i=1000672013286

https://morbidology.com/

https://www.patreon.com/morbidology

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/morbidology/id1463979546

https://open.spotify.com/show/69LQv3VWf6wodCBqvVmfZG

https://www.instagram.com/morbidology/

https://www.facebook.com/morbidology

Host Jake Deptula and former family court judge and family law attorney Michele Locke sit down with Terra Newell, a victim advocate, public figure, and survivor of multiple toxic relationships.

They explore the complexities of toxic relationships and the expectations placed on survivors who become public figures. They also confront misconceptions stemming from media portrayals that often oversimplify these experiences, particularly beyond the sensational headlines of “Dirty John.” Additionally, they discuss the responsibilities of true crime content creators, focusing on the glorification of serial killer culture and the ethical considerations that come with storytelling. Also, how advocating for a victim-centered approach is essential for fostering safe spaces for survivors and recognizing that each individual's journey through trauma is uniquely their own.

topics | terra newell, domestic violence, toxic relationships, true crime, survivor stories, ethics in media, accountability, red flags, healing, victim support, dirty john, survival, podcasting, serial killer culture, responsibility, survivor, domestic violence awareness month

Terra Newell - Episode Link

"I Want You To Always Be Available To Me”

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lovelustfear-terra-i-want-you-to-always-be-available-to-me/id1735876283?i=1000663173031

https://open.spotify.com/episode/2H7GJVeaVXV3cLvCsBTuC7?si=TlkZexWPT5WsIVcbm4I5Nw

https://www.terranewellsurvival.com

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Terra’s Baddy Club (Podcast)

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/terras-baddy-club/id1477935020

https://www.michelelocke.com/

https://www.instagram.com/attorneymichelelocke/

https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/article/2024/jun/19/alex-murdaugh-son-sues-netflix

National Domestic Violence Hotline (24/7/365)

Call 1.800.799.SAFE (7233)

Text: START to 88788 

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https://www.instagram.com/NDVHofficial/

If you have a dating or relationship story to share, want to participate in a discussion here on lovelustfridays, or have a topic you’d like us to cover, contact us below.

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This October, lovelustfear returns along with brand new episodes of lovelustfridays!

We'll dive deep into compelling topics like cheating, catfishing, love bombing 101 stalking, and the FBI's approach to battling romance scams. I'll be speaking with new guests and guest speakers, including therapists, dating coaches, law enforcement professionals, private investigators, legal experts, celebrities, authors, and influencers. 

Additionally, I'm excited to announce I'll be participating in a True Crime Podcasting Ethics course with Terra Newell. You can find more information on her Instagram here:

https://www.instagram.com/terranewell/

And if you'd like to share your dating and relationship story, I want to hear it. 

You can reach me at [email protected] or: https://www.instagram.com/lovelustfearpod/

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If you're listening and eager for more dating and relationship stories, please consider supporting the show by rating and leaving a review wherever you listen.

Thank you so much for listening, subscribing, and sharing your support. 

Host Jake Deptula and former associate family court judge and family law attorney Michele Locke sit down with Lorraine, a narcissistic abuse survivor from episode fifteen of lovelustfear, "You Have To Be Very Careful With Him.”

They delve into Lorraine's experience of escaping an abusive relationship with a partner diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder and her legal challenges co-parenting with him. They also examine the significant struggles she faced within the police and court systems, which may have displayed bias and racism, particularly in Family Court. Also, they discuss how the judicial system focuses on child protection and how it sometimes fails to consider the best interests of the abuse victim, emphasizing the urgent need for reform in family courts to provide better support for victims.

topics | toxic relationship, unfair treatment, police, court system, bias, racism, co-parenting, narcissistic ex-partner, self-care, narcissism, white privilege, family court, psychological evaluation, coercive control, court reform, self-discovery, support networks, humor

Lorraine - Episode Link

"You Have To Be Very Careful With Him.”

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lovelustfear-lorraine-you-have-to-be-very-careful-with-him/id1735876283?i=1000664798749&itscg=30200&itsct=podcast_box&ls=1&mttnsubad=1000664798749

https://open.spotify.com/episode/54b3WJWHzDo324QLD2VU1o?si=P9hTAjHKTjW4HV73DUFYsw

https://www.michelelocke.com/

https://www.instagram.com/attorneymichelelocke/

Go Fund Me Page: https://gofund.me/5bd8a430

Narcissism The Comedy Night: 

https://www.montrealimprov.com/shows/narcissism-a-comedy-night

Narcissism The Improvised Musical: https://www.montrealimprov.com/shows/narcissism-the-musical-a-fundraising-event

Instagram:

www.instagram.com/thestarparentpodcast

Woman Aware: 

https://www.womenaware.ca/

Natalie Bedard better known as NatNat

Energy Healing Specialist: Regulating the Nervous System and Relieving Emotional and Mental Pain Through Breathwork

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Youtube:

https://m.youtube.com/@LiftOneSelfPodcast

National Domestic Violence Hotline (24/7/365)

Call 1.800.799.SAFE (7233)

Text: START to 88788 

https://www.thehotline.org/

https://www.facebook.com/NationalDomesticViolenceHotline

https://www.instagram.com/NDVHofficial/

If you have a dating or relationship story to share, want to participate in a discussion here on lovelustfridays, or have a topic you’d like us to cover, contact us below.

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