What if you could learn to love your husband before you even have one? That’s what we are talking about today with author and speaker, Kim Vollendorf. Kim once thought Jesus was boring and irrelevant, but she changed her mind about Him in college. As a result, she has spent the past three decades working with the campus ministry Student Mobilization, discipling college women, and mentoring StuMo staff.

She made it through thirteen weddings as a single bridesmaid before she met and married her dreamy husband Sean. They have been married for more than twenty years, and have three sons.

As Kim has experienced the ups and downs of being both single and married, she found herself saying over and over again, “Young women need to know this.” One day she scribbled down on an index card the key lessons she learned as a single woman that really paid off in her marriage. The notes on that card became a series of talks which drew in thousands of young women, and those talks eventually became the book Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One.

Hit the Highlights 

(3:00) How Kim’s ministry began 

(10:30) What are the biggest lies women believe before getting married?

(17:45) What to do if you waited until marriage, and the sex still isn’t that great. 

(22:00) Kim’s own love story 

(27:42) What to do if you’re thinking about breaking off a relationship

(36:40) Does the church contribute to unrealistic and unhealthy expectations in marriage? 

Additional Resources 

Get Kim’s Book 

https://amzn.to/3jxQHUS

Sex is Like Legos 

https://www.focusonthefamily.com/marriage/sex-is-a-creative-process/

The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God

https://amzn.to/3mo35Zk

Passion Pursuit: What Kind of Love Are You Making?

https://amzn.to/3kvGj12