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My guest today is Srikanth Seshadri.

Sri is a returning guest, previously on episode 169 in 2022.

Today, Sri and I discuss the book, What to Make of a Life, by Jim Collins.  

Sri is an executive coach who helps CEOs scale their companies and accelerate performance.

When Sri and I talked about doing another podcast together, he sent me a link to this book, suggesting we both read it and talk about it for the podcast.  

What to Make of a Life is an exploration through the study of a dozen or so people: writers, actors, scientists, leaders and others, asking the questions, How do we find our way in the world? How do we make it past the significant events that can radically change a life? How do we keep the inner fire burning bright, long and late? Inspired by relentless curiosity, Collins devoted a decade to studying these questions and to minutely analyzing those moments when life flips from clarity to confusion and casts us into a befuddling fog.

I'm so grateful you shared this book with me, Sri, and that we had this conversation.  It has given me new perspectives on twists and turns my life has taken, new ideas for continuing to shape my life and choices for living in meaningful and purpose-filled ways, and inspiration to keep taking one step at a time into areas of exploration and unknown.

In our conversation, Sri mentions a number of other books and resources.  You'll find links to all those in the show notes as well as ways to learn more about Sri and the work he does in the world.

Resource Links:

• Connect with Sri: https://agilegrowthpartners.com/a1/
• What to Make of a Life by Jim Collins
• Mindset by Carol Dweck
• The Right Kind of Wrong by Amy Edmondson
• Adaptive Leadership by Ron Heifetz 
• Why Bad Things Happen to Good People by Harold Kushner
• Movie: Just Mercy (About Bryan Stevenson and his justice work)
• Jim Collins interviewed by Oprah 

Keep an eye out for Sri's book on Leadership Agility coming in 2027!

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My guest today is Deonna Marie Cattledge.

Deonna Marie is an EMMY Award-Winning Vocalist, Storyteller, Keynote Speaker, Actress, & Intuitive Vocal Coach from Grand Rapids, Michigan. A classically trained singer with over a decade of experience, Deonna Marie has worked with internationally known vocalists, vocal teachers & coaches, stage directors, and choral conductors. 

She is the writer & creator of The Deonna Marie Experience: From the Crack House to the Opera House, a one-woman show about her life.  OETA Gallery America released an EMMY Award-Winning segment titled, “The Deonna Marie Experience” currently available to stream on PBS.com.

Deonna has told her story on The Moth MainStage in seven cities around the US and Canada.  She is a keynote speaker, storyteller, Artist, Performer, and Intuitive Coach.

I'm recording this introduction a few minutes after recording my conversation with Deonna Marie and I have to tell you, prepare to go on a journey!  Before we started recording, I told Deonna Marie that I wanted to invite her to tell her story.  She warned me that her story was long and had many chapters and asked which direction I wanted her to go in and focus on.  I said, truly, I just want you to share as the spirit moves.  I know there's so much more than we can capture in one episode, but wherever you take us, it'll be the place we are meant to go.

Being with Deonna Marie in this telling of her story felt like watching a movie and being swept along a fast flowing river with twists and turns and rapids... absolutely incredible and amazing.

Wherever you are, I invite you to create a space where you can immerse yourself in this storytelling experience of Deonna Marie.  

Deonna Marie -- thank you doesn't capture the gratitude in my heart and soul.  I'm so grateful to be connected with you and cannot wait to spend more time with you!

You'll find links in the show notes to learn more about Deonna Marie's work and the wisdom she offers the world:

Website: https://www.deonnamarie.com/

PBS Gallery America special: https://www.pbs.org/video/the-deonna-marie-experience-dnssxa/

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My guest today is Ashley T Brundage 

Ashley is the Founder and President of Empowering Differences, a consultancy that helps people and organizations turn personal and identity-based differences into a source of strength rather than a barrier. 

As a transgender woman, Ashley has overcome harassment, discrimination, and homelessness.  After beginning her transition in 2008, she started as a part-time bank teller and rose to National Vice President of Diversity and Inclusion in less than five years. 

That journey has been captured in a 4-step empowerment process, now the basis of her book and online leadership course, both called Empowering Differences. 

Ashley works tirelessly to promote awareness and acceptance of gender identity and expression. Ashley speaks locally and nationally on transition, workplace equality, leadership, and change management, and has been featured in outlets including Forbes, InStyle, Bloomberg Businessweek, and the Miami Herald. 

In our conversation today, Ashley shares stories of her journey of transitioning, starting her business after a successful career with PNC Bank, and some of her experiences running for the Florida House of Representatives in 2024.

Ashley, thank you for this inspiring conversation! Thank you for sharing these pieces of your journey and your insights and wisdom.  You are doing such important and much-needed work in the world!

You will find links below to learn more about Ashley and her work, her Empowerment Assessment, her book, and more!

Empowering Differences: https://empoweringdifferences.com/

Empowerment Assessment: https://empoweringdifferences.com/empowerment-assessment/

Differences Assessment: https://empoweringdifferences.com/differences-assessment/

Ashley's best-selling book: https://empoweringdifferences.com/product/empowering-differences-book/

Empowerment Cards: https://empoweringdifferences.com/product/empowerment-cards/

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My guest today is Phil Chu.

I had the privilege of meeting Phil through our mutual friend, Ravi Ram -- thank you Ravi!

Phil is the founder and head coach of SEEN, a relational fitness training company.  In our conversation today Phil shares about his journey to starting SEEN, what relational fitness is and means, the payoff of learning to step into conflict with a framework bigger than win/lose.

Phil shares his story of learning how to listen well (and learning that he needed to learn how to listen well!).  We talk about trust and its importance in relational fitness, and the value of feedback in relationships.

Phil, thank you for this inspiring conversation.  Thank you for sharing the stories of your journey in strengthening your relationships, both at work and at home.  And for creating resources to help others improve their relational and social fitness.

I've included links in the show notes for more information on Phil and his work as well as where you can find more information on some of the frameworks Phil mentions, such as the Thomas-Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument and The Trust Equation.

Phil on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/phillipchu/

Seen.health

The Thomas-Kilmann Conflict Modes: https://kilmanndiagnostics.com/overview-thomas-kilmann-conflict-mode-instrument-tki/

The Trust Equation: https://trustedadvisor.com/build-trust/trust-equation

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My guest today is Jordan Friedman.

Jordan is known as The Stress Coach.  He offers a ‘chill factory’ of virtual and in-person stress management and anxiety reduction speaker programs, coaching options, courses, and more to support mental health, productivity and retention. 

For 30 years, Jordan has pioneered innovative stress management training for companies,  coaches, schools, and individuals, including as director of Columbia University’s Health Education Program and host of The Chill Factory podcast. Jordan is also an engaging podcast and media guest.

In our conversation today Jordan shares how losing most of his vision to a childhood brain tumor taught him the power—and difficulty—of asking for help, ultimately leading him into a career in stress management education. He shares why stress becomes harmful when it's a constant "way of life" rather than an occasional response, and how practical, low-time-commitment techniques (like 60-second breathing breaks and checking your body's "dashboard") are surprisingly effective for preventing and reducing stress.

Jordan, thank you for this practical and timely conversation.  The work you do in the world to help us manage and reduce stress is vital!

You'll find links in the show notes to learn more about Jordan and his much-needed work in the world.

Website: https://www.thestresscoach.com/

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Today's guest is Stuart Voeden.

Russ Watts is hosting this inspiring conversation with Stuart.  Thank you, Russ!

In their conversation today, Stuart and Russ explore Stuart's journey from corporate burnout to embodied artistic practice, and how confronting one's shadow, embracing intuition, and "coming at life sideways" can make existence less difficult for ourselves and others.

Stuart is a wise companion, mentor and adviser, helping organizations and leaders through the maze of organisational change and people development.

With over 30 years experience in business, Stuart believes in the power of enterprise to be a creative force for good. He is particularly enamoured with developmental psychology—for his own learning, and especially in working with others on how we create meaning and sense making in a complex world.

Stuart’s current focus includes exploring the poetics of leadership: the role of creativity, art and story in enabling meaningful change. Stuart is a Certified Integral Facilitator, an artist, and business advisor.

Follow Stuart on IG: @stuartvoadenart

Connect with Stuart on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stuart-voaden-b3b48b58/

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My guest today is Kathryn Broullire.

Kathryn and I connected through the Georgetown Leadership Coaching mentorship program and from our first interaction, it has felt like a connection that was meant to be!

Kathryn is a Learning and Development expert and has worked in the educational space for over 13 years.  She's completed the Georgetown University Leadership Coaching program and is passionate about helping others find what they love, find their voice, and live out their potential.

When Kathryn and I first met, we quickly learned that we had parallel stories of loss -- my first husband and Kathryn's best friend, Gwen -- both passed away as the result of brain tumors.  

It's a tenuous thing to discover this commonality.  While the details are unique, the emotional journey contains many points of resonance.  

In our conversation, Kathryn shares the story of her soul-sister-best-friend since 7th grade, Gwen.  How her brain tumor was discovered through a random accident, and how Kathryn walked beside her friend to the very end.

In talking about our loved ones who are no longer with us on this earth, there's always a mix of tears and smiles.  Grief and gratitude.  If you have lost a loved one, you likely relate to this.  Grief is not linear.  Memories contain a multitude of emotions... and different emotions on different days.

Kathryn, I'm so grateful that our paths have connected.  Thank you for the gracious sharing of these pieces of your journey and story with Gwen.  May the sharing of this story bring comfort or perhaps companionship to someone who is grieving the loss of a loved one.  

If for any reason, you are in a place where the weightiness of this story feels like too much, please take care of yourself first and foremost, even if it means not listening today.  And please know you are not alone.  And may knowing that you are not alone make the difficulty of the day just a little difficult.

If you would like to connect with Kathryn, her email is [email protected].

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Today my conversation is with Russ Watts.  Russ co-hosts and guest-hosts here on the podcast, so his is a familiar voice to many of you.  Russ and I have been co-creating and co-facilitating storytelling experiences since 2019.

It was such a delight to sit down with Russ and dive into a conversation today.  We made no plans, just pressed record and started sharing.

Our hope is that as we explore the ideas of soul space, story, pilgrimages, as we share some of our own recent experiences and stories, as we ponder with awe and enchantment, that you would be inspired to connect with matters most, listen to what your soul is saying, be curious about the experiences of now.  Where can enchantment be reawakened in your life?

Russ, as always, thank you for jumping into the flow of conversation.  Thank you for sharing your stories, your wisdom, your questions, and your curiosity.  

Thank you for joining us for this conversation.  May you enjoy the free flowing conversational river of exploration and curiosity.

If you are in the Washington DC area, Russ and I will be hosting a day of Soul Space on Monday July 20.  There's a link below with more information about that.  And if you miss this one, there will be more in the future!

July 20 - Soul Space: http://makelifelessdifficult.com/soul-space

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My guest today is Derrek Cooper.

Derrek is an executive coach and had a masters in applied positive psychology.  If his name is familiar, you may have heard his conversation here on the podcast with Russ.  

Today, Derrek and I get to have a great conversation that I think you'll find very inspiring, especially if you find yourself in some kind of transition.  We talk about positive psychology, the power of vulnerability, the idea of bouncing forward after setbacks or failures.  

Derrek shares pieces of his own story of transition out of his corporate career into his own business venture.  One of the things I love most about how Derrek shares this story is how it is an extremely fulfilling experience AND it's terrifying too!  I can really relate to this!

Ultimately, Derrek encourages us to find our thing and to do more of whatever that is!  

Derrek, thank you for this thought-provoking conversation!  Thank you for sharing your stories vulnerability and authentically.  Your wisdom add so much value to the world!

To learn more about Derrek and the work he does, you'll find links below:

Connect with Derrek: https://derrekcooper.co/

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My guest today is Niki Mathias.

Niki is an author who is helping the world better understand what it means to be a highly sensitive person.  Her upcoming book, Derby and the Dandelions, explores this through the unique lens of a teenage girl and her best friends.

I'm very excited to share this conversation because I learned so much from talking with Niki.  Her stories and sharing come from firsthand experience and hard-earned wisdom.  She shared the framework of understanding people's nervous system processing as Dandelions, Tulips, and Orchids.  If you have never heard these terms in relation to Highly Sensitive Persons, you are in for an enlightening listen.

Niki's book is in the publishing process so we don't know exactly when it will be available, but believe me, you'll want to pre-order it!

Niki, thank you so much for sharing these pieces of your story, journey, and wisdom!  I'm so grateful to be connected with you and seriously can't wait to read your book!

Find more about Niki and her work:  https://nikimathias.com/

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