Make Your Damn Bed

there may be times when one partner is picking up more slack than the other, but because our lil ecosystems (homes) will need different things at different times, I felt it important to rant about the heteronormative piece of the pie for a few minutes, today.

LINK: https://english.emmaclit.com/2017/05/20/you-shouldve-asked/

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Emma Clit is ridiculously talented and everything I've consumed so far has been great and on brand, so I highly suggest going to check out her blog!

LINK: https://english.emmaclit.com/2017/05/20/you-shouldve-asked/

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Today we're talking about the Baader Meinhof Phenomenon (the tendency to notice something more after noticing it the first time, leading us to believe we're seeing it more frequently) and why learning about the mental load can be painful if we're not careful.

LINK: https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/what-is-the-mental-load and https://hbr.org/2016/09/managing-the-hidden-stress-of-emotional-labor

and https://english.emmaclit.com/2017/05/20/you-shouldve-asked/

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The mental load (aka emotional load or cognitive labor or worry work) is the invisible labor that it takes to manage a household and if it's not going unnoticed, it's being undervalued. Recognizing when we're taking on more than our fair share of the emotional/mental burden is the first step in recognizing why we're so exhausted, but then we need to do something about it... so it doesn't eat us alive.

LINK: https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/what-is-the-mental-load and https://hbr.org/2016/09/managing-the-hidden-stress-of-emotional-labor and https://english.emmaclit.com/2017/05/20/you-shouldve-asked/

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TW: mention of ED, diet culture, and poor body image.

Lately, I've been in denial about aging and as a result, I've let my "self care" fall to shit. That includes eating vegetables, fruits, and moving (at all). But I'm figuring it out. One day at a time. In the meantime, I'm figuring out how to deal with the shame.

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The term “quiet quitting” refers to employees who put no more effort into their jobs than absolutely necessary.

LINKS: https://www.nytimes.com/2022/08/23/style/quiet-quitting-tiktok.html and https://www.investopedia.com/what-is-quiet-quitting-6743910

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Work, as we know it, its a recent construct.

We must begin to think RADICALLY about the nuclear family and how we structure our lives and our goals and our sense of internal fulfillment. We’ve shaped our lives around work, and we must de-center the toxicity of work culture as a society if we want to escape it. If we decenter work we can prioritize communal spaces and sharing culture and the commons, in a way that prioritizes luxury for ALL people, not just the few. Plus, decentering the idea of work culture as we know it, we will automatically improve the perceived value of domestic labor and child rearing. That shit has never been respected, but it’s a full time job, and we should have the time to treat it like one. 

LINKS: https://www.theguardian.com/news/2018/jan/19/post-work-the-radical-idea-of-a-world-without-jobs and

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Universal_basic_income

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We've been indoctrinated to associate self worth with work ethic and alternatives have been suppressed and mocked for generations, but it's time we listen to the humanitarians and scholars who have been doing the work, so we can all have a better relationship with work.

LINKS: https://www.theguardian.com/news/2018/jan/19/post-work-the-radical-idea-of-a-world-without-jobs and

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Universal_basic_income

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We MUST start prioritizing people over profits, but systemic changes are huge (and uncomfortable) however necessary bc the way it is now is uncomfortable unfair, unsustainable. 

It starts with imagination, because the people in charge of what we see and consume have a vested interest in keeping the status quo. So, it’s hard to imagine a future not dictated over growth/profits over it’s people. 

Laziness is a capitalist myth, made to make us feel shame for not producing capital or profits in a society that depends on it. 

We need to reframe our relationship with productivity so we can reassess what work is actually important. 

We pitch business ideas to friends, we ask kids what they’ll be when they grow up, we focus our identity around our work, CEO’s install nap pods and bars so you never need to leave work, we idealize gig economy and call it freedom but freelancing is, in practice, a24 hour a day job. 

Our relationship with work is toxic. 

We’re producing more, commuting further, retiring later, striking/unionizing less, laboring harder, and earning less. Corporate profits are at an all time high but we are at a cost of living crisis nearly double the one that spurred the French revolution. 

Digital tech could’ve helped us become more free, but under the current system - it’s becoming increasingly invasive and enforcing labor “from anywhere” instead of just at work. 

Our identity will change, because we identify with work at the moment, but we have to stop prioritizing it. 

Work doesn’t work. It hasn’t for a while. It doesn’t provide for people. A majority of those living in poverty are working families. 

Most of our jobs are not only unnecessary but they’re actively damaging.

It’s not our fault for working these jobs, but just because we were born into a shitty today, it doesn’t mean we cant work together to make a more proactive and inclusive tomorrow. But in my experience we have to be willing to admit when we’re part of the problem without feeling shame - so we can fix it, rather than avoid it like we have been for so long. 

RESOURCE: https://www.theguardian.com/news/2018/jan/19/post-work-the-radical-idea-of-a-world-without-jobs

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critical thinking never goes out of style. especially when we consider how MUCH information we are forced to take in on a daily basis.

Historically speaking, Never have people had so much information FORCED upon them - we gotta be diligent about how we learn new information so we’re not falling victim to the Riff-raff. 

RESOURCES: https://stimpunks.org/glossary/critical-thinking/ and https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Demon-Haunted_World

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