Make Your Damn Bed

People inherently WANT to love photos of themselves but go in with a very critical filter that makes them expect NOT to like it - which adds a whole nother level of discomfort that can have a tangible effect on the result. To me, the overthinking that happens is very much a metaphor for overthinking any of our insecurities in relationships. We end up nurturing the problem by honoring the insecurity instead of the reality.

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The most important part of the show I think is so chronically overlooked in the breakdowns I have read is that we are constantly hearing about Joe’s crimes through Joe’s perspective. He stalks because he “cares” he kills because he “loves” he lies because he “protects” and the audience is now only attuned to the perpetrators perspective of the crime. If they made this part more clear, maybe we would know to not be so understanding or empathetic with his violence. It’s muddled because we’re stuck watching a violent act, from the violent actor. 

Violence is never love. Regardless of the root of your intention, if your effect is HARM in any way, physically, socially, psychologically, that isn’t love. Period, point blank, end of story. Violent acts rooted in love are not loving acts.  

RESOURCES: https://medium.com/@catrinframe/you-season-2-is-joe-goldberg-capable-of-love-netflix-series-9a600300114f

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If you have been listening a while, you know I am constantly adding disclaimers so that my messages aren’t misconstrued or taken out of context in a way that can promote harm or danger. That said, it’s nearly impossible to accommodate for every type of perspective that can be taken towards every message. But still, I try. I listen back and try to put myself in the shoes of a more depressed or more angry version of myself and I interpret the message with my worst intention just to ensure I’m not encouraging someone to do something potentially harmful or rash. 

But regardless of my futile attempts to accommodate all humans at all levels, I recognize the impossibility of this idea. Then I watched the finale of Netflix's YOU and realized just how futile and silly my attempts were...

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Hack your body, to hack your brain, to hack your body.

RESOURCE: https://www.inc.com/jessica-stillman/stress-public-speaking-stanford-brain-hacks.html

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I read an article on elderly having trouble sitting, so practice squatting, I say if you’re having trouble sitting practice sitting. Train at it. I’m no physical therapist, and don’t get me wrong, do I believe that if I’m struggling to sit on a toilet I’m also OPTING for wall sits?! Absolutely the fuck not. I’m simply saying as someone who often makes lofty goals when I’m feeling like I need to change, and suddenly shifts personalities when it comes down to actually changing shit… I have spent a lot of time simplifying where I can and it’s really made a difference in my progress. 

Not to say you shouldn’t learn the squats, and if you progress past the seating and eventually you want to elevate the experience, get that shit moving, but in my opinion, training in the gym is all well and good, but finding movement that is healthy for your body, where your body is at this moment, is even fucking better. THAT is functional to me. 

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Make a list of all the shit you're good at + a list of all the good shit in your life + all the shit that bothers you about your life.

Using the first two lists, attempt to solve the last list and bingo-bango you've got yourself a lil action plan template.

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Did you know bonding over trauma is different than trauma bonding!?!? I surely tf DID NOT and was shocked to make the distinction. Subscribe on patreon to hear the rest of this SUPER SPECIAL BONUS* release.

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RESOURCES: https://www.verywellmind.com/chronic-stress-3145104

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the final stage of getting outta survival mode is all about taking that shit one step at a time. that said, it's all about balance. take your time, but do what ya NEED not what you THINK you should be doing.

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if you’re trying to get out of a funk or like we’ve been discussing: escape the survival mode - there are different things that will work at different times. I think the foundation still stands: 1. IDENTIFY sources and see if you can downsize stress. What can we delegate? What can we improve the process of? What can we switch up for the better? IDENTIFY - REDUCE - RESTRUCTURE - and then if you’re stuck with shit you still don’t wanna do - so REFRAME with gratitude and more positivity if you can. What can we change our perspective on to get more rewarding feedback or wisdom from it. I'm a RETREATER. What about you?

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Sometimes, it's not about what we have to do, it's about how we have to do it. What can we restructure to make it less stressful? What can we reframe to make it more enjoyable or less intense?

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