Maker/Mistaker Podcast with Jeff Finley

By Jeff Finley

We are powerful creators, yet we stumble and struggle. Overcome fear, self-doubt, and get inspired as Jeff Finley and his amazing guests give you unfiltered, real-talk about personal growth, finding h... more

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October 16, 2015 True Love vs Toxic Love: 14 Core Differences (ep 16)
I saw this post yesterday on Facebook the other day and thought it was on point. It was a list of 14 core differences between true love and toxic love. I’ve experienced my share of both.
It’s always hard to define what true love is, but another word is unconditional love. You may have felt divine, true love in one moment, but then dipped back into attached and needy love the next moment.
What is interesting, is as a collective, humanity is beginning to shift into more of the “true love” state of mind.At least, that’s what I’m noticing for myself. This is what I am calling “new world.” The “old world” paradigm is founded on separation, attachment, and fear. I notice thoughts and feelings come up that also carry this insight that this is “old world” and it’s bubbling up to my awareness for me to heal and integrate. This is something I am seeing myself naturally progress to the more I follow my heart’s instincts.
“Love is not supposed to be painful. There is pain involved in any relationship but if it is painful most of the time then something is not working. Loving relationships are based upon appreciation & affection and not fear and manipulation.” – Lightshifter.com
Listen to this week’s podcast episode where I break down this list and give my oh so humble opinion on the matter.
14 Differences Between True Love and Toxic Love
(source I found it from, original source)
Love: Development of self first priority.
Toxic love: Obsession with relationship.
Love: Room to grow, expand; desire for others to grow.
Toxic love: Security, comfort in sameness; intensity of need seen as proof of love – may really be fear, insecurity, loneliness.
Love: Separate interests; other friends; maintain other meaningful relationships.
Toxic love: Total involvement; limited social life; neglect old friends, interests.
Love: Encouragement of each other’s expanding; secure in own worth.
Toxic love: Preoccupation with other’s behavior; fear of other changing.
Love: Appropriate Trust (trusting partner to behave according to fundamental nature.)
Toxic love: Jealousy; possessiveness; fear of competition; protects “supply.”
Love: Compromise, negotiation or taking turns at leading. Problem solving together.
Toxic love: Power plays for control; blaming; passive or aggressive manipulation.
Love: Embracing of each other’s individuality.
Toxic love: Trying to change other to own image.
Love: Relationship deals with all aspects of reality.
Toxic love: Relationship is based on delusion and avoidance of the unpleasant.
Love: Self-care by both partners; emotional state not dependent on other’s mood.
Toxic love: Expectation that one partner will fix and rescue the other.
Love: Loving detachment (healthy concern about partner, while letting go.)
Toxic love: Fusion (being obsessed with each other’s problems and feelings.)
Love: Sex is free choice growing out of caring & friendship.
Toxic love: Pressure around sex due to fear, insecurity & need for immediate gratification.
Love: Ability to enjoy solitude by being alone.
Toxic love: Unable to endure separation; clinging.
Love: Cycle of comfort and contentment.
Toxic love: Cycle of pain and despair.
Love: Conversations based upon intent to Understand, Help, or convey affection.
Toxic love: Conversations based upon intent to blame, defend, or manipulated
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34min
October 08, 2015 Dating and Feeling Restless (ep 15)
This past week I've been feeling restless living at home with my parents. I came here to feel nurtured and comfortable after ending my marriage and working nonstop for 18 years of my life. And while I love my family and am grateful, they know I'm restless. It's nice to have a rent-free place to stay while I travel as well. But I'm finding that I just can't feel settled. I want to travel and explore! I want to have adventures! I want to experience love and freedom!
That's what this week's episode of the Maker/Mistaker Podcast is all about. I'm gonna start traveling again after I take care of some things here in town. But I want to have extended stays in different cities. Portland comes to mind, but I was recently offered a place to stay in Asheville, NC. I might do that, we'll see.
But lately I've been obsessed with dating apps. I went on two dates last week and had nice connections and I'm grateful. They definitely helped me expand my comfort zone and opened me up to what is possible. But the issue I'm struggling with is there's a desire to see these women again and get closer, but I know I'm going to have to leave and end whatever consistency we establish. Will people get hurt? Is this safe? Am I doing this right?
I wonder how much I want to keep this dating thing going. If I'm being honest, it's fun but exhausting. It can be a lot of swiping and starring and messaging just to get a date. And then what? I still like to use these apps like OK Cupid and Tinder to meet people I never would otherwise know or consider asking out. I am enjoying it for now, but I know it's just temporary and something I'm "getting out of my system" so to speak.
My real priority is me and my personal growth. I find that when I'm feeling safe, secure, and loved by myself then good things tend to happen to me. You know, not giving that power away to other people. When I'm going after what I love and what feels inspiring, people are attracted to that and they come to me. It's a lot better than me feeling lonely and swiping right on 100 Tinder profiles only to get a few automated bot messages back. Haha!
The takeaways in this episode are
put the intent out there and be “open to receive”
be grateful for every experience and know that it’s temporary
everything is a mirror reflecting back your state of being
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16min
October 02, 2015 Now is the Time to Create From Our Hearts – with Elz Anders (ep 14)
We hear a lot about following your passion/heart these days, don't we? We also hear a lot about how messed up this world is with all the violence, war, and unfairness. But what can we do about it? My latest podcast episode was inspired by this amazing blog post by my friend Elz asking "What Will You Create?". Such an empowered voice!
After reading the post I decided to invite this wise woman on the show. We talk about why now is the time to create from your heart. There is so much fear-based discussion about "the state of the world" and lots of people feeling powerless as to what they can do about it. There's a lot of complaining and consuming going on, but what about creating?
What does being a heart-centered creator mean anyway? And what's the alternative? We even talked about how the Pixar movie Inside Out is super relevant to understanding ourselves and becoming more of our true, authentic self. We also talk about why authenticity is becoming a prime directive in this lifetime.
Enjoy the show, and please comment!
Links for the show:
Elz Anders blog - LivingDiscernment.org
What Will You Create? blog post
Inside Out movie
Charles Eisenstein's "The More Beautiful World" book
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1h 17min
September 26, 2015 I Took a 5-Day Out of Body Exploration Class at The Monroe Institute (ep 13)
In this episode of the Maker/Mistaker Podcast, I talk about my week at The Monroe Institute where I was enrolled in the 5-day Out Of Body Exploration Intensive workshop taught by William Buhlman. It was quite an experience. Listen to the episode to hear the story!
William Buhlman lecture
OBE Course Materials
Me at William Buhlman at the Monroe Institute in 2015
Links Mentioned in this Episode:
The Monroe InstituteOBE Intensive WorkshopWilliam Buhlman official siteMaha Mrityeonjaya Mantra by Hein Braat (beautiful meditation chant)Homecoming by John Bradshaw
Additional Links:
My first Out of Body experience everMy personal how-to guide on Astral ProjectionOut of Body Experiences - all in your head? Gossipist Podcast
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September 18, 2015 Love, Sex, and Building my Tribe (ep 12)
A common theme on my trip has been following my heart, surrendering to love, and awakening my sexuality. Yes, my sexuality. And I'm already feeling triggered and embarrassed just mentioning that.
In this episode I break down my week on the road as I traveled through Austin, Houston, New Orleans, Georgia, and Asheville, North Carolina. I seem to be drawn toward connecting with women, but I'm beginning to realize there is a greater purpose for this. Now, in this podcast episode, I get really vulnerable and honest.
I apologize in advance to anyone who hears what I'm saying and is triggered in any way. I must speak my truth, but I always feel unsafe when talking about people and they might listen to the show. But this is my honesty and authentic truth. So if you have an issue with what I'm saying, please talk to me about it.
Two unrelated people sent me this message last week and a psychic told me I was building my tribe. If you look at the lions, it looks like the females are leading the pack. Boom.

As I come out of my marriage, which was largely a companionate, non-sexual relationship, I realize how much I had repressed myself in this area. I'm awakening to my sexuality and am starting to see hints of hope and fulfillment coming my way. I want to learn Tantra and learn how to express my truth and own this part of myself and heal emotional wounds. Listen to the episode to hear my story.
Thanks for listening to me speak from my heart.
Resources for this episode:
Codependency and Narcisissm YouTube playlist
Human Magnet Syndrome book
Allison Armstrong books
In Sync with the Opposite Sex
Celebrating Partnership
Keys to the Kingdom
The Amazing Development of Men
Understanding Women
Enlightened Sex by David Deida
SkyDancing Tantra
Margot Anand Tantra Teacher
Ecstatic Marriage
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46min
September 11, 2015 I’m Completely Changing the Way I Do Podcasts (ep 11)
I talked to a new friend here at Circles and he inspired me to change the way I do my podcast. In fact, I talked to a few people who told me they liked it and want more of it. And I gave them a bunch of excuses why I wasn't making them so frequently.
Here are my excuses to why I wasn't podcasting as much:
I don't have anything important to say
I dont' know who else to interview right now
It's too much of a time commitment
I think I need a co-host, I can't do it by myself
It's a pain to edit and write show notes
So this new friend encouraged me to just do it quick and dirty. Raw, real, and unfiltered. Together we shot down each of those excuses:
I don't have anything important to say Bullshit. Just speak from the heart. Don't worry about teaching anything or being smart. Don't worry about coming up with something important. Just talk about what you talk about when you are in one of those deep conversations with people you like. Duh!
I dont' know who else to interview right now You don't need to interview someone every time. Just share all this cool stuff you are into, man! You are growing so fast and learning so much, you talk about it in person with people, why not on the podcast?
It's too much of a time commitment Forget the really long episodes. Do shorter ones that are more spontaneous.
I think I need a co-host, I can't do it by myself Relying on anyone else is just another barrier to actually doing it. Just speak from the heart! You don't need a cohost unless it naturally comes up.
It's a pain to edit and write show notes Then don't edit them! Seriously, editing and quality is overrated. You aren't going to win the game of best produced podcast. And it's not like you are recording in a noisy cafe. Forget the intro music, forget the editing out of bad parts, forget writing detailed show notes that take forever. Just record from the heart and post it. Nothing else really matters.
So that's it friends. Enjoy the new episode.
I will be releasing one new episode a week. How long will I do this, well, I can't promise you anything. And if I try to set expectations, I'll rebel against them. So I'm just going to post a new episode every Friday. And see how long I can keep it up.
Feel free to ask me questions! I will address them in podcast episodes!
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July 09, 2015 April Hannah and Michael Habernig – Beyond the Physical (ep 09)
April Hannah and Michael Habernig of the Path Documentary Series
On Episode 9 of the Maker/Mistaker Podcast, I talk with April Hannah and Mike Habernig, creators of The Path Documentary Series. A documentary trilogy about the afterlife, the realms beyond the physical and the science of consciousness. They are also the hosts of the fascinating Path 11 Podcast where they interview experts in consciousness exploration, out of body experiences, the paranormal, and other esoteric subject matter. Some of their guests include William Bulhman, Teal Swan, Todd Acamesis, Robert Waggoner, and Nancy McMoneagle.
I discovered them after I started researching after my first few out of body experiences. I saw their films Afterlife and Beyond the Physical and they were really well-made and eye opening. At the time I didn't know much about this stuff so it was all extremely new and mind-blowing. Here are the trailers for the films below. The full films are available to see on Vimeo On-Demand or on Amazon Video.
Mike and April blend the mediums of film, psychotherapy, intuition and visual effects to address the age old questions:
Why am I here?
What will happen when I die?
Is there an afterlife?
What is beyond the physical body?
What is consciousness?
More about Mike and April (from their website):
Director Michael Habernig, the owner of Habernig Productions and Director of The Path Trilogy, unknowingly at first, created a path for himself. After years of investigation and interviewing experts in the field of healing and consciousness, Michael is slowly unraveling the science of the soul. By creating a series of films, Michael hopes to help viewers by giving a perspective on the subject of consciousness, that they may not have heard before and eventually the viewer will find their own path. His inspiration comes from his own soul’s journey and life experiences when he was confronted with many friends and family members who had died in a short period of time. These deaths in his life quickly sprung him on to his path. Along with running a video production company for over 10 years, Michael Habernig has over 15 years’ experience in film and video production.
Producer April Hannah, the owner of Hannah’s Healing and Producer of The Path Trilogy has been on a path of healing and discovery ever since she was a young girl. She has always had an interest in the metaphysical world ever since she was a young child. Her early childhood experiences inspired and launched her into a career of psychotherapy and wellness while always striving to work on her spiritual path of development. Her goal for The Path Trilogy is to raise the consciousness level of the world, one viewer at a time. April brings a psychological awareness to the film that allows the viewers to connect with the filmmakers and feel connected to the concept that “we are all one” through the viewing of the films. Her experience working with clients in the spiritual realm also assisted in collecting the experts for the documentary. April’s clinical career began in 1999 and since then she has worked with people from all walks of life. Her clinical and healing practice includes having working with people of all ages from veterans, sexual abuse survivors, at risk children, the “severe mentally ill”, people with disabilities and those who are searching for their own path and purpose in life.
Music for this episode (by me):
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Links and Resources discussed in this episode:
The Path Series official site
The Path: Afterlife
The Path: Beyond the Physical
SHOW NOTES
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1h 12min
May 18, 2015 These are Things – The Pressure to Be Successful When All You Want is to Make Art (ep 08)
On Episode 8 of the Maker/Mistaker Podcast, I sit down with Jen Adrion and Omar Noory of These Are Things. These are Things is a powerful illustration duo based in Columbus, OH that strives to make things they love. They've dealt with their fair share of success and failure.
There was so much honesty and transparency in this conversation. If you are fortunate enough to taste "success," then you''ll find this pressure to keep doing what worked, even when you don't want to anymore. Sometimes you keep trying to "recapture the magic" you once had but never get "back there." How does it feel when you were a household name one day and then moving back in with your mom and dad and tossing 24,000 prints in the trash because they just aren't selling?
How do you deal with failure? How do you keep on going and following your passion when your cool side projects become your day job and daily grind? And finally, how do you deal with being afraid to speak your truth and be your own unique self when there are vocal critics and haters out there?
Jen and Omar bring a refreshing positive and loving energy to all these heavy subjects. Listen to the episode for the full story!

Music for this episode: Maker/Mistaker Podcast Intro by Jeff Finley
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These are Things - How We Learned to Stop Worrying and Enjoy The Ride from Weapons of Mass Creation on Vimeo.
SHOW NOTES
00:00:54 Introductions and Updates
00:02:40 Jen and Omar - Welcome to the show!
00:04:28 The story of success and failure that led to WMC Fest
00:08:00 It all comes crashing down, what are we gonna do?
00:09:00 Tess Vigeland speech At World Domination Summit
00:11:00 Being so open and vulnerable on stage
00:12:00 Sharing too much online
00:13:00 Moving back home with Mom and Dad
00:16:00 What else happened after WMC Fest 2013?
00:17:00 When your side project becomes your day job
00:18:00 Being discontent when you're supposed to be happy
00:20:00 Falling out of resonance with what you've created
00:22:00 The eBook curse! Closing the chapters in our lives
00:25:00 Doing the same thing for years
00:26:45 Things have changed, struggle to adapt
00:28:00 Being attached to the past while trying to move forward
00:29:40 Purging the old, feeling light
00:31:31 Deciding to make what we want all over again
00:33:20 Trying to recapture the magic of success but failing
00:34:00 Go Media's story of success and failure
00:39:00 FAB.com failures - the last straw
00:41:41 When something goes well, you feel pressure to keep it going
00:43:00 Throwing away 24,000 greeting cards and cutting your losses
00:45:15 The pressure to be important and successful as an artist
00:46:18 What do you do when sales just aren't there
00:48:00 Reducing expenses and cutting everything
00:50:00 What about getting a part time job?
00:51:20 The 100 Things project - making art every day!
00:59:00 Being your brand - authentic or not?
01:01:00 Having the courage to be yourself online
01:03:00 Choosing to stay small as a business, living a simpler life
01:05:56 Being transparent and dealing with criticism or haters
01:07:26 Is it ok to be different than your online reputation?
01:11:04 What if you feel ashamed about being weird?
01:04:00 Living up to expectations of your online brand
01:15:00 Never take advice from someone who doesn't have to be you
01:16:00 Public shaming and Jeff's experiences
01:19:00 Donglegate shame story
01:21:00 How hateful comments affect real people directly
01:23:40 Trying to get everyone to like you
01:26:24 Being nice, avoiding conflict
01:27:00 How to detach from results and dis-identify with your work
01:30:00 Advice for those afraid to speak their truth publicly
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1h 51min
March 29, 2015 Is the Ego good or bad? (ep 07)
On Episode 7 of the Maker/Mistaker Podcast, George and I discuss "The Ego" and it's cousin, the mind. What is the ego? What does it mean to be egotistical? Is the ego really the source of our suffering? Is the ego bad or good and should we get rid of it?
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1h 17min
February 24, 2015 Overcoming Procrastination and Perfectionism (ep 06)
Just get started.
Those three words are often the solution to procrastination. It's so simple, but so hard to do. Why? George and I had a really eye opening discussion about procrastination, and it's cousin perfectionism.
I've been coaching clients on overcoming procrastination for a little over a month now and I'm already sensing some patterns that I also recognized in myself. We all put stuff off until tomorrow, but why?
We are avoiding something that's uncomfortable. We are afraid of finishing something because of what people might say. We fear judgment, ridicule, or embarrassment. We fear our own success or making other people look small. We don't give ourselves the priority in life and we end up doing nothing but obligations for other people instead of what we really desire. We are overwhelmed, disorganized, and stressed out and can't find the time to start. We resist and we resist. We run out of willpower and we end up doing what feels good now instead of making progress on our goals.
George and I get into all of these issues and more. And since we all know the solution is "just get started" we know there's more to it than that. A small bit of advice: Do something productive while you listen to this podcast!
Music for this episode: New Year Bounce by Jeff Finley
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Show Notes
00:00:40 Introductions and Updates
00:05:00 Coffee and sugar's effects on us
00:10:35 What is procrastination?
00:14:12 Perfectionism and fear
00:20:35 Looking for external validation and approval
00:25:00 Identification with your work
00:29:00 The solution for perfectionism
00:33:00 A simple cleaning habit to cure perfectionism
00:37:00 When you're not sure where to start
00:39:00 How to save your willpower
00:43:00 Become a person that likes to complete tasks
00:46:00 Just take action, don't over think about it
00:54:00 Reward yourself for accomplishing tasks
00:57:00 Using your procrastination tendencies to your advantage
01:02:00 Acting on inspiration energy right away
01:05:45 Removing distractions as a cure for procrastination
01:11:45 Increase your self-esteem with small wins
01:13:30 Don't use willpower to resist, but to create
01:19:30 Become a person with real personal power
01:24:20 Don't start your day by procrastinating
01:27:00 Two elephant analogies
01:30:00 Resources and recommendations
01:37:00 Closing thoughts
Links and Resources for Overcoming Procrastination:
Happiness Hypothesis
Kill Procrastination goal on Coach.me
Jeff's thoughts on Killing Procrastination
Grow Up: A Man's Guide to Masculine Emotional Intelligence
Truth, Love, and Power concept
Jeff's "No Coffee" detox
iProcrastinate Podcast
The War of Art
Sean Was on curing perfectionism
Are you a afraid of failure?
Jessica Hische is a "procrastiworker"
Execute book
Newsfeed Eradicator for Chrome
Stay Focused Chrome addon
Locus of Control
The 7 Secrets of the Prolific: The Definitive Guide to Overcoming Procrastination, Perfectionism, and Writer's Block
Hillary Rettig website
The Power of Habit
The Maker/Mistaker Habits podcast
The Miracle Morning book
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1h 40min

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The podcast currently has 27 episodes available.