Making Space for Conversations That Matter with Laura Prisc

Do you ever wonder why you or someone you know does the things that they do? In this episode, Maureen Craig Mcintosh explains how all behavior is purposeful. It's our best attempt to satisfy one of our five basic needs. Hear as she describes what those needs are, the choices we make to fulfill those needs, and what it means to be demonstrating or receiving caring habits or deadly habits.

Maureen shares examples of the deadly habits, and explains how they are used to control someone else to get what you want, instead of controlling your own actions. She also speaks about 'first date' behavior; putting your best self forward to get what you want, until it is too hard to continually maintain.

Laura speaks to the thought that love and kindness are behaviors that we choose – and it seems that they are now principles that businesses need to teach. She mentions a book called Love Does, and describes how love is an action. The author, Bob Goff, followed up with another book called Everybody Always, which shares the idea that we should always love everyone even when it's difficult.

Listen as they discuss how all actions are a means to an end, but certain behaviors and habits bring more success than others. Laura and Maureen give examples from their own lives of needing to make a conscious change to the caring habits in order to become the person she wanted to be.

Scientifically, we learn how to externally control our environment at birth. And through life, we have to adapt our behaviors to get what we want. They discuss how we have to change our behaviors and adapt in order to be our most authentic selves.

Maureen dives into the toxic triangle, and describes the negative actions we should avoid. She and Laura also discuss relationships and how to properly navigate these difficult situations.

Hear how these concepts can be shared with today's youth to cultivate a happier society. Maureen and Laura speak again to the importance of shifting habits to create better, healthier reactions that help us succeed.

Choice implies responsibility. Listen as Maureen and Laura discuss emotions and actions, and how becoming more self-aware can allow us to take control of our lives and become more empowered.

Hear about our Five Basic Needs and how we should change how we go about achieving them as we go through life:

• Survival
• Belonging/Love
• Power
• Fun
• Freedom

Maureen helps us clearly define Caring vs. Deadly Habits and provides examples of associated behaviors. She explains how we should display the Caring Habits, and how we should cope, even when people are displaying Deadly Habits. She helps listeners reframe their thinking: What am I getting when I act this way? How can I behave to get a more favorable outcome?

Caring Habits:

• Supporting
• Encouraging
• Loving
• Caring
• Negotiating Differences
• Respecting
• Trusting
• Accepting

Deadly Habits:

• Blaming
• Complaining
• Nagging
• Criticizing
• Threatening
• Punishing

Resources:

Monctonrealitytherapy.ca

Love Does

Everybody Alway

About Maureen:

Maureen is a former registered nurse with a 20+-year history of working with youth in the field of healthy sexuality, a licensed counseling specialist, certified professional coach, and Senior Faculty Member with the William Glasser International Association, not to mention a great friend of Laura for the past several years.

Isn't it interesting that, often in our younger years, we feel as if we should be able to "Win the World in a Weekend!" Many of us get caught in the thinking that we have to really make a difference, make our lives count, and so we work, work work. Becoming workaholics, we disguise it as "passion," and neglect or take for granted the things and people who really matter most.

If we are fortunate, and paying attention, as we grow and experience new things, we come to understand there's more to life than the work we are doing. This is one of the personal stories Ed shares during this episode with Laura.

As a younger pastor, with a young and growing family, Ed had a sense that his family life was important, but more in the way of having responsibility for it rather than truly understanding it was intended to be a higher priority for his time and energy than his work in the church.

Laura asks him about a particular story he told in his book, One Small Barking Dog, about a powerful encounter with the Holy Spirit while tending to his wife who was not feeling well. The experience was beyond his imagination at the time but turned out to create a significant shift in his perspective on his "work" and what he was called to do in the world.

Ed goes on to share several nuggets of wisdom he has gleaned along the journey, including these:

• Learning is like seeds; we need to nurture them and allow them to grow within us first, before passing along what we've learned.
• A few minutes of stillness and quiet would re-energize him after a long day at work and before engaging with his wife and children.
• God is everywhere all the time, and often his work is hidden; we don't get to see what's really going on in all things around us, but there is definitely more afoot than what we see.

As Laura and Ed near the end of a conversation filled with laughter, insight, and a few Bible verses, Ed shares this thought: "Everyone is in a battle. We have no idea what other people are going through, afraid of, challenged by, or working on… Simply be kind."

He and Laura both share stories of when an opportunity to be kind presented themselves in their respective lives and how they responded. It doesn't take much to change the course of someone's day if we are paying attention to what's happening around us and who we are with. And, in fact, those simple actions may actually change the course of someone's life for generations into the future!

Resources Mentioned:

One Small Barking Dog

Other books by Ed Gungor

The Order of St. Anthony

About Ed:

Ed Gungor is a veteran pastor who focuses on philosophy, church history and current trends. He became a follower of Christ as a teenager in the early 1970's and has been deeply involved in the spiritual formation of others for over forty years. Ed has a passion for authentic transformation; a phenomenon he feels is all too rare in today's church.

As a kind of "church futurist," he is constantly aware of the changing needs of the next generation of Christians, the ones who haven't yet experienced spiritual formation. To effectively communicate the gospel to this group, he believes our notion of "destiny" in the American church needs to be re-imagined. Ed longs to see believers willing to abandon their Christianized versions of the self-important American Dream, embracing instead the miraculous, surprising, and contagious Christianity that comes when they see themselves as the servants of God who find their home with Messiah and his people, as they participate in the mission of God (missio Dei).

Ed is known for his down-to-earth, engaging communication style. With transparency and his own unique brand of wry humor, he cuts through the usual "church-speak", gleefully slaughtering any sacred cows that distort the true message of Christ. He is the author of several books, including: Religiously Transmitted Diseases: Finding A Cure When Faith Doesn't Feel Right; The Vow: An Ancient Path Of Spiritual Formation That Still Transforms Today; the New York Times bestseller, There is More to the Secret; and One Small Barking Dog.

Ed and his wife Gail have been married forty-two years. They have four children, eight grandchildren and live in Tulsa, Oklahoma. Ed currently serves as the Bishop of the Diocese of St. Anthony (dicoceseofstanthony.com).

Leading others can be described and defined in a variety of ways. In today's episode, podcast host, Laura Prisc, shares her thoughts on what it means to lead and shines a light on one of the most prevalent mistakes organizations make when promoting or hiring someone into a leadership position – especially if it's that person's first time becoming responsible for the people on their team.

Laura's Bio

If you're not already familiar with her and are curious about who Laura is, what she believes, and what she feels called to create in the world, take a few minutes to peruse her website, read her blog, and listen to the other podcast episodes posted there. www.lauraprisc.com

You can also find her here: Schedule a complimentary consultation

Laura by email

Request a copy of her book – Are Your Leaders Wide Awake?

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If you're in business, especially a smaller business, you are likely always in pursuit of new prospects and effective methods for connecting with and drawing them into your circle so you can offer your products and services. You've also likely discovered there are a variety of marketing methods to use, and the practitioners of each approach will enthusiastically assure you their approach is THE BEST!

The truth is every method has some merit and some will work better for you than others. The key is finding the right approach for you and your business, and the right practitioner or firm that is a good fit for you. Enter, Deb Monfette.

Deb worked in corporate for 2 decades, ranging from product development to customer service and along the way mastered her craft of discovering what matters to customers, honing her skill at discerning what they really needed, beyond the features and benefits most businesses focus on in their marketing efforts.

When she chose to start her own business, she focused her efforts on content marketing because she deeply understands some foundational principles embedded in the decision to buy. During this episode, she shares those principles with Laura, as well as the roadmap she uses with her clients.

Keeping the customer at the heart of the effort, she has created what she calls the Irresistible Content Code and it's built on the process of C-E-N-T-E-R-ing your efforts, stories, and materials in a way that will powerfully connect with prospects and draw them to you.

She also discusses the stages prospects go through when they are looking for resources to potentially meet a need or solve a problem. Understanding these stages and the principles behind the buying decision will help you discern what steps you need to take in your marketing process to grow.

Here are a few hints: Words matter! Stories are so powerful. Deciding who is the Hero of the story is crucial. Listen in and take advantage of Deb's experience. And, click the link below to access her Free Offer!

Deb's Bio: Deb began her career in a startup at a tech company and worked in technology for over two decades in marketing, design, product development, and training directly with customers. She had to understand them, figure out new possibilities to guide them, earn their trust, and simply help them buy. But instead of digitally, LIVE.

After she left corporate, she became a content marketing writer and consultant working with small-to-large tech companies, soon experiencing one overwhelmed client after the next… Frustrated uncovering ideas, strapped for time without a roadmap, and finding it difficult to attract customers along the sales cycle with content. So, by combining her content and customer experience, she designed an easy-to-use content framework with the customer at the heart or center. It's even more critical with the changes sparked by the pandemic. She now empowers small to mid-sized, growing, B2B businesses to build relationships, trust, and influence digitally with content. This framework doesn't rely on bright shiny objects, new trends, and tech. Instead, it allows businesses to get back to the basics and adapt to the changes going on around them in a virtual world. It's a real strategy for real people. Her framework is called The Irresistible Content Code.

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In 2011, Valoria Walker's mother was nearing her end of life. While Valoria's sister was her primary caregiver, Valoria provided respite care when she could. There was a point when her mother's health was in serious decline and she was moved from the hospital to hospice. She had chosen to end her dialysis treatments and did not want to be on a ventilator.

Valoria was there with her. Within a couple of hours, her mother was started on powerful anti-anxiety meds and soon slipped into unconsciousness. Hospice staff explained that "sometimes, they don't awaken, again."

While her actually passing wasn't immediate, essentially, her mother was gone and Valoria and her sister would not have another chance to have those final, oh-so-important conversations with their mother. There was no closure. No goodbye. Valoria's brother missed the whole experience!

Not surprisingly, this was a powerful turning point for Valoria; one that would change her life and the course of her work. She began working on Advance Planning Directives, to help others in similar situations have a different experience, to help those who were anticipating their own passing to have a say in what would happen and how the process would progress.

Eventually, she found "Doula" training, jumped in, and formed her practice: Doula by Destiny! Her mission is to ensure others don't have the same kind of experience her family had.

Her time now is spent helping others plan for their transitions thoughtfully, so that the individual's wishes are known and honored. She gets to know and support whole families. She is able to have potentially uncomfortable conversations that loved ones may avoid.

She notes that while we seem to be getting better about talking about death – before it happens – there's still a lot of fear and discomfort associated with it. She wants to reframe how we think about, talk about, and experience it.

Listen in as Valoria and host, Laura Prisc, share experiences, insights, and resources that may help you have a different experience when the time comes.

Valoria's Bio: Valoria Walker is an Advance Care Planning Trainer and End-of-Life Doula. She is the founder of her private practice called Doula by Destiny. As COVID-19 continued to spread, Valoria pivoted her business to serve patients and caregivers by providing companion calls and virtual meetings.

Valoria partners with organizations to promote the significance of advance care planning for medical emergencies and holistic care at the end of life. Serving as a speaking ambassador to bring awareness of The End-of-Life Doula Movement, her desire is for everyone to achieve comfort and peace at the end of life.

Her recent accomplishments include her interview, Parting Gift, published in the October edition of The Oprah Magazine. She is the reigning Grand Prize winner of the 2019 Boom Competition sponsored by AARP.

Her plans are to continue supporting individuals in various care settings to stay connected to her calling and the community. She sits as an Advisory Council Member, International End of Life Doula Association (INELDA), and End-of-Life Doula Advisory Council Member for NHPCO.

Valoria holds a Master's in Management of Aging Services. She believes receiving a degree is an accomplishment, but having compassion is a gift.

Connect with Valoria + Resources:

Oprah Magazine – Parting Gift

What is a Doula? Article

Let's Talk Aging Article

Human Composting? Article

Recompose Life – Composting Service

In this first episode of 2021, host Laura Prisc, shares her reflections on and gratitude for 2020 and shares her hope for how 2021 can unfold if we're all in it together.

She also invites you in to get connected, get acquainted. After all, if you're going to eavesdrop on her conversations, shouldn't she get to know who you are?! (wink wink!!)

Laura's Bio

If you're not already familiar with her and are curious about who Laura is, what she believes, and what she feels called to create in the world, take a few minutes to peruse her website, read her blog, and listen to the other podcast episodes posted there. www.lauraprisc.com

You can also find her here: On Facebook LinkedIn

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One would think that wanting to offer solutions one's client actually needs – rather than what the business thinks they should have – is the way business works, but we all know that's not necessarily the case. So, when I stumbled across today's guest, Max Kabat, and heard about his approach to business, I had to hear more.

Max and his partner own and operate the goodDog agency, providing business strategy and support designed to help their clients get what they actually need, while being conscientious of their collective impact on people and planet. Their approach begins at the beginning – ensuring their clients are clear about the foundations of their business, what they are trying to create, and how to grow strategically based on where they are now.

It's not unusual these days for entrepreneurs to be involved in multiple business endeavors, and Max is one example of this. He and his wife, a documentarian and photojournalist, also own and operate The Sentinel, which is a multi-dimensional business, as well. The Sentinel produces two local newspapers, one in English and one in Spanish, covering the goings-on of the local Marfa, Texas, region, as well as providing the local perspective on stories from other areas – regional, national, and global.

The Sentinel is also an eclectic gathering place and boutique. They serve coffee, cocktails, taco's… and sell a variety of carefully curated items, including a custom blend of coffee they've developed in partnership with a small roaster from New Mexico.

This conversation spans many thoughts, from storytelling to business, from what it means to build real relationships to why a local news source is important, and from why socially conscious purpose-driven businesses matter to how we can intentionally create space for creativity, collaboration, and innovation.

Listen in as Max and Laura explore a lot of interesting themes and Max shares some really insightful data that will make you think differently about the news and business and the questions each of us should be asking…

Max's Bio

Max Kabat is co-founder of goodDog, which helps category creating, conscious consumer brands break through plateaus by realigning the business around one core concept and growth consumer. They call themselves Brand Idea Finders & Growth Engineers. With his documentary filmmaker wife he co-owns The Big Bend Sentinel newspaper and The Sentinel gathering space in Marfa, TX. A real-time experiment into how to evolve the business model of local, independent journalism with the community.

Connect with Max:

goodDog

Max via email

Coffee, Cocktails, and The News

Self-limiting beliefs are a universal phenomenon and something that holds too many of us back from fully living into our potential and creating and contributing at higher levels. Host, Laura Prisc, has been exploring the foundations of this challenge – and a variety of methods of releasing or transforming them – to help herself and her clients live fuller, richer, more meaningful lives.

When she first heard of Psych-K, it was while reading Dr. Bruce Lipton's Biology of Belief. Dr. Lipton explains that our beliefs are embedded in the cells of our bodies. If we are unaware of or unable to examine, change, or release them, we will be victim to our limited thinking about what we are capable of… and the world will be poorer for it. However, there are ways to make the exact shift we need to.

One of those ways is Psych-K, which Patti Lustig has been practicing personally and sharing with her clients for many years now to great effect. It's a facilitated process seeking first to discern where we are out of alignment, test what beliefs we hold strongly, and which are weak. Through a process of realignment, we can release those beliefs that don't serve us and emerge stronger, feeling more confident in ourselves and our abilities, which translates to higher levels of performance and achievement in whatever we choose to invest our time and energy in.

It's a fascinating concept and conversation. Listen in, take notes, then take Patti up on her offer of a complimentary session.

Patti's Bio

Patti has coached 100's of individuals and business owners for the past 21 years. She has a degree in Special Education and Psychology, a master coaching certification, a time management certification, and is a trained Psych-K facilitator. More importantly she has a remarkable life. She lives in her dream home in Florida, 5 miles from the beach with the love of her life, her poodle, Jasper, and her daughter - who lives 10 minutes away. Over her lifetime she has learned, grown, and transformed many times - and loves making a difference for others. However, 7 years ago and at the height of her business, she was diagnosed with a rare blood disease and told that she could bleed to death easily. She was shocked and unsure how to live her life going forward and spent 6 months depressed, while her business suffered. She didn't drive anywhere for fear she would have an accident. She didn't cook for fear she would cut myself. She kept herself very small and isolated, a victim of her circumstances. She wasn't even sure she wanted to go on. Then one day on Facebook, she read that Roger Ebert had died; he was a famous film critic who lost his ability to speak and move, yet he remained a functioning film critic for the rest of his life. It was that day, she said to herself, "If he can contribute in his state, I can get up and start living again!" She redesigned her business and has grown it steadily ever since. Now she has exceeded where she was 8 years ago and is loving every minute.

Connect with Patti:

SageThink

Schedule a complimentary session

Patti via email

Call Patti: 612-363-7605

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Adam Jones was living in California and doing his dream work as an actor. He moved back to Pennsylvania to spend time with his aging grandmother and got active in creating and promoting events and festivals. During the 2016 election cycle, following a candidate event, he experienced a horrific and life-changing assault.

As Adam shares his story, you'll have no doubt that our justice system failed in a way that will leave your mouth hanging open in total astonishment and confusion. To say it was a turning point for him is an understatement.

While he's still on his own journey of recovery and living daily with the after-effects of a traumatic brain injury, Adam is not sitting around idly passing the time. He's now on a mission to create an active, real-time safety net for the rest of us, which also creates an inalterable evidence trail should something happen that would require police intervention or end up in a courtroom someday.

I won't spoil the impact of hearing Adam's story directly from him by sharing more details. Listen in and I guarantee you, you'll be inspired to help him and his team bring Zeer to life!

Adam's Bio

Adam David Jones was an actor from NY and California before a man brutally attacked him and tried to rape his friend. A year later, the perpetrator was acquitted by a jury though he was caught immediately covered in Adam's blood and with Adam's money in his pocket.

Adam chose a different career path after his coma. He has dedicated his life to preventing this from happening to someone else. To do so he started a technology company whose mission is to create a world where strangers no longer have to fear one another, and we are all free to be ourselves; a world where the truth is indisputable and powerful people are held to the same standards as the rest of us.

Resources and Connections:

Zeersafe.com

@ZeerSafe

linkedin.com/in/adam-jones-zeer

The noosphere

Adam via email

We've all heard of work-life balance, and it's the thing we are supposedly longing to attain. But given how one's typical day actually unfolds, is that even possible? And if it was, is it something we actually desire?

Listen in as host, Laura, dives into a different way of thinking with guest, Keith Campagna, who is on a mission to introduce the idea of Lifework Integration to others.

"It's the free-flowing exchange of ideas and energy between life and work," he explains. Through his personal journey – from an often on-the-road sales guy, husband, and father of two boys, Keith found himself in a nearly 180° changed situation! His wife left him, he took on a new job that allowed him to be home with his boys and pay his bills… and found himself immersed in a deep examination of his life, work, and dreams.

With a background in music, he applied a basic truth about stress and creation to his study of how life, work, satisfaction, and creativity all come together. He explains that musical instruments have to be put under a certain degree of stress in order to actually produce the music that moves us.

The same principal can be at work in our lives, and in fact is more likely to produce a life we are actively engaged in, finding fulfillment, and feeling creatively alive. It doesn't just happen, however; there's a process involved, and Keith has the tools to help others through it.

Listen in as Keith and Laura explore life, work, creativity, the idea that COVID is an opportunity reframe everything, the concept of money as energy, what it means to be 'in flow,' and why we proclaim "Here there be dragons…" when we reach of point of turning back.

Keith's Bio

As the Chief Sales Officer at The ROI Shop, Keith Campagna spends his time talking with Sales Executives, sales leaders, sales professionals, and sales enablers inside companies of all shapes and sizes.

Since 2006, Keith has sold "software as a service" on behalf of globally recognized companies such as ADP and SAP Concur. Keith's primary focus is on growing the 8-year-old, ROI Shop. At a time when "no-decision" is every sales organization's #1 competitor and selling "value" is most sales rep's #1 challenge, The ROI Shop's value calculators make it easy for sellers to have financial discussions with their buyer champions.

Keith keeps busy as a single father of two boys, 12 & 13, and he is also building out his passion project, called "Lifework Integration." Lifework Integration is a progressive employee development program helping CEOs, Sales and HR leaders, as well as anyone else turn stress into a competitive advantage.

Resources and Connections:

Keith on LinkedIn

Keith online

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