Man Alive

Today's Man Alive podcast guest, film director and producer Roger Nygard, spent seven years creating the documentary The Truth About Marriage. This is the first documentary he has appeared in, though he has created many others, including the well-known Trekkies! (Fun Shana fact you might not have guessed: I've always considered myself a Trekkie though according to Roger I'm not an actual Trekkie because I've never been to a convention!) In this documentary Roger interviewed well-known psychologists, including John and Julie Gottman, and Pat Allen, as well as other therapists, sociologists, couples and singles with a variety of views on marriage. He and his experts share about common breakdowns that occur in marriage and how to have the best chance at success. Whether you're married now, or want to be someday, Roger brings important information and perspectives to break free from the norm of people struggling to keep marriage alive and exciting these days! In our conversation we discussed:

• How people tend to sabotage themselves and create dissatisfaction in relationships
• Simple ways to maintain relationship well-being over time
• What it takes to be happy on your own, rather than depend on your partner for it
• The root causes of relationship struggles
• What made Roger's best date ever and led to the best sex of his life!

I REALLY enjoyed this conversation with Roger and highly recommend watching the documentary after you listen. Connect with Roger Nygard http://rogernygard.com/ http://thetruthaboutmarriage.com/ Connect with Shana James shanajamescoaching.com/3ways Curious what you'd need to become a better leader and lover? Take the quiz For Women: Modern dating doesn't have to be a nightmare for women

It's common to create a vision for your life and live into it for years, or decades. But at some point you may wake up and realize you have grown and your vision is no longer aligned with the current version of you! You may start to feel adrift in life, or on autopilot -- doing day to day tasks without feeling inspired. You may wonder if what you're doing is meaningful. Today's Man Alive podcast is with Taylor Morgan, a Holistic Lifestyle Specialist and founder of The Captain's Lifestyle. Taylor is an incredible and humble example of a man who is always finding and creating ways to optimize your life, while being more powerful, vital and impactful! In our conversation we discussed:

• The first thing you can do in the morning to make everything else feel easier
• How to have work-life balance without sacrificing business
• How men asking for help is actually a good thing
• Why no one can actually control you
• The difference between excellence and perfection
• Taylor's sniper platoon test and the important lessons it revealed

Pay special attention to Taylor's story about his sniper platoon test. Most of us never experience what Taylor did and he turned a potentially devastating experience into wisdom for himself and others! Connect with Taylor Morgan https://www.thecaptainslifestyle.com/ Connect with Shana James shanajamescoaching.com/3ways Curious what you'd need to become a better leader and lover? Take the quiz For Women: Modern dating doesn't have to be a nightmare for women

Anger is one of the scariest emotions for many people to feel. Often when it is expressed, it is not in a healthy way. But anger is important and we can't overlook it. It arises in moments when our boundaries are crossed, our needs are threatened or we feel disrespected. Today's Man Alive guest is a powerful example of a woman who has gone deep into her own pain to come out the other side with tools and understandings that work with the core of intense emotions and experiences. Ilan Stephani is the bestselling author of Skin and Games and a Somatic Researcher in the Fields of embodiment, sexuality, trauma, health and mysticism. She helps people unlearn cultural conditioning and gain back your natural orgasmic aliveness! Ilan helps us understand what to do with a woman's anger and your own.

In our conversation we discussed:

• Why women can get so angry
• Why it can be wise to hate your partner (and how to shift that!)
• How mastering rage, "No," and "Stop" naturally leads to love
• How sex becomes natural once people feel safe
• Your body's role in helping you release anger and be more alive and connected

Ilan's work is a breath of fresh air and is powerful. These ideas may seem strange at first but she and I agreed that if more conservative methods worked, people would be experiencing a lot more love and connection than they are these days. We cannot only explore the light side of life. We all feel anger, fear and grief and we need to bring them to the surface, rather than holding them in and on our own.

Connect with Ilan Stephani www.ilanstephani.com

Connect with Shana James

shanajamescoaching.com/3ways

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You don't have to be the CEO of a business, to be the CEO of your life! The more you are following your visions, rather than the visions laid out by cultural or family expectations, the more you are the CEO of your life, and it will be meaningful, exciting, and successful.

Today's Man Alive podcast guest, Rylee Meek, founder and CEO of Social Dynamic Selling System, has taken many businesses to 7-figures and produced $80 in sales in the last eight years. He is also the author of Food For Thought: How to Use Dinner Seminar Marketing to Grow Your Business in Ways You Never Thought Possible. Whether you run your own business or want to become the CEO of your own life, this episode is full of the incredible wisdom Rylee has gleaned on his path.

In our conversation we discussed:

• What it takes to not only grow a business but to create an inspiring life and legacy
• The path to predictable, sustainable and scalable revenue
• The language shifts you can make that create more and faster success
• The keys to effective sales in business, that also work in romantic relationships(!)
• How to avoid where most men get stuck in their business and financial journey

Connect with Rylee Meek https://ryleemeek.com/

Connect with Shana James

shanajamescoaching.com/3ways

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When you hear the word "Manhood," what do you think?

It may have a sense of power for you. It may seem suffocating or stifling. It may even be both at the same time.

Today's Man Alive podcast guest, Ilan Ferdman has done deep work and exploration around who he is beyond cultural constructs. He has even explored the Divine Masculine and shares his experiences of what it is and how it has impacted his life. Ilan understands that you are programmed into manhood and masculinity from the time you're born. The pressures and limitations are so much a part of "the water we swim in," it can be really hard to see or know where they come from.

Ilan is the co-founder of Satori Prime, a personal development, leadership and spiritual growth organization that has served more than 15,000 people with digital products, community events, coaching and corporate trainings. He is also co-host of the Old Souls and Seekers podcast, which blends life coaching, psychology, neuroscience, intuitive guidance and ancient energetic wisdom practices.

In our conversation we discussed:

• A process for working with catastrophic thoughts and fear of failure
• How to release the pressure of being the "rock" and provider, the one who holds it all on your shoulders
• The benefit of slowing down to become even more effective
• How to integrate masculine and feminine energies and what the divine masculine is
• Ilan's story of losing it all and the gifts that resulted from finally getting honest

Connect with Ilan Ferdman www.SatoriPrime.com

Connect with Shana James

shanajamescoaching.com/3ways

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In today's episode of the Man Alive, we have a guest who has traveled the world and created businesses based on his passions. Jesse Krieger is the author of Lifestyle Entrepreneur and is now the founder and publisher of Lifestyle Entrepreneurs Press, helping people with great ideas publish their books. Have you wondered whether the thousands of hours you spend each year working could be more enjoyable, or whether you could have more success or make more money doing what you love?

Would you like your work life to include more freedom and adventure? If you've set these aside to take on adult responsibilities, this is a good time to reassess.

The world has turned upside down and we are creating new ways to work that never before seemed possible. Now is a great time to envision what would be fun and meaningful in your future! Ultimately Jesse believes that being a lifestyle entrepreneur is about living creatively expressed and free, having a network of friends around the world and opportunities that present themselves in auspicious ways.

In our conversation we discussed:

• First steps for entering the entrepreneurial world with low risk and high gain
• Reframing the idea of risk to allow for less fear and more traction
• How to get clear about your vision and mission -- the foundation of any business
• Ways to ride the waves of instability that can come with entrepreneurship and business growth
• How to start having more adventure and freedom wherever you are, before you start traveling for business

Connect with Jesse Krieger www.LifestyleEntrepreneursPress.com www.publishizer.com

Connect with Shana James

shanajamescoaching.com/3ways

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Today's Man Alive podcast guest, Riana Milne, MA, CCTP, is a Life, Love and Trauma Recovery Coach who has appeared on CBS, NBC, ABC, Fox News. She is an author for top media outlets like eHarmony and Digital Romance. Riana specializes in helping people with childhood and love trauma heal and have the love they deserve. You may have wondered what you're doing wrong and why you're falling into the same conflicts or patterns over the years. You may have even beat yourself up about it.

Research shows 90% of all adults suffer in love. You are not alone!

The reality is, most of us receive hardly any education in communication, emotional intelligence, eroticism or sex. You are not set up to thrive in love. The good news is it's not your fault. This can be fixed.

In our Man Alive conversation we discussed:

• The top 10 childhood traumas that negatively impact adult relationships
• Some signs that you or your partner has past trauma that is sabotaging your relationship
• Why and how you can break free from toxic and unsatisfying relationship patterns you've repeatedly experienced
• The foundations of conscious love and communication
• Questions to ask, as you're getting to know someone, that clarify whether they can create a healthy relationship

Connect with Riana Milne Website: https://RianaMilne.com

Success in Dating Program: https://shanajames.krtra.com/t/QAx91SKCqNCp

Connect with Shana James

Website: shanajamescoaching.com/3ways

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Today's Man Alive podcast guest, William Matthews, is the author of three books, including Financial Lessons Learned From My Broke @$$ Friends. He brings lightness, humor and practicality to the financial domain, to help you make smart decisions with your money. It's important to be current with yourself about how you're doing with money these days. Are you making as much as you need? Are you saving for your future? Do you have a clear sense of a financial plan in the short and long term? Money is one of the greatest causes of stress people face. It's stressful on its own and then navigating it with a romantic, or business, partner magnifies that stress. Having clarity and plans with your finances reduces stress and allows you to strategize and navigate out of financial hardship. But most of us never learned how to create this clarity! Most education, at least in the U.S., does not include financial literacy. In our Man Alive conversation we discussed:

• Common financial pitfalls and how to avoid them
• How to set yourself up for a more secure financial future
• Tips to save and be more conscious about how you spend your money
• Options for borrowing money when you don't have it on hand
• Why you may not want to close your credit card and other tips for managing debt

Connect with Will Matthews Website: https://www.linkedin.com/in/will-s-matthews-b392b876/ Connect with Shana James Website: shanajamescoaching.com/3ways Curious what you'd need to become a better leader and lover? Take the quiz For Women: Modern dating doesn't have to be a nightmare for women

Today's Man Alive podcast guest, Dr. Nell Smircina, said Andropause can start as early as your 30's these days. But wait, do you know what Andropause is? Most men don't and it's important that you do! Andropause can be likened to a woman's experience of menopause. It's very common in our culture to talk about women's hormonal phases but we rarely talk about men's and it's so important! I can't believe I'd never heard of Andropause, and neither have many men I asked about it. If you are struggling with brain fog, tiredness, lowered libido, midday exhaustion, or generally not feeling like yourself, this is something to look into.

Dr. Nell has a Doctorate in Acupuncture and Traditional Oriental Medicine, as well as many other degrees. With a predominantly male patient base, she became interested in this critical phase in a man's life. She created PIQUE Health for Men where she also focuses how to help men achieve peak performance, based on their individual needs with work and lifestyle.

In our Man Alive conversation we discussed:

• What Andropause is and how to treat it
• How to be truly healthy, beyond the western medical model (which often leaves men struggling and confused)
• The 3 Pillars of Peak Performance and surprising ways to optimize your performance
• The keys to both mental and physical stamina
• How to stop settling for brain fog, weight gain, exhaustion or low libido as a fact of getting older

Connect with Dr. Nell Website: piquebh.com

Connect with Shana James Website: shanajamescoaching.com/3ways

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On today's Man Alive podcast episode I was joined by David Wood, a former Consulting Actuary to Fortune 100 companies who became #1 on Google for "life coaching," serving 150,000 coaches around the world. David specializes in helping people overcome their fears and reach their goals. To have an amazing career and relationships, a life full of passion, connection and adventure, it is inevitable that you will face fear at some point. Everyone does. The question is, what then? How do you move through fear so you don't miss precious opportunities? David believes that the tough conversations we avoid are our doorways to confidence, success, and love. They become the defining moments that shape our lives. He coaches high performing entrepreneurs, executives and teams – and even prison inmates – to create amazing results and deep connection, as well as to achieve more, by focusing on less. We discussed:

• How to shift your relationship with fear so it doesn't keep you stuck and unsatisfied
• Why fear tends to stop people but doesn't have to stop you
• When to move through fear and when to stop and nurture yourself
• How to share about your fear with others to create more connection rather than less
• What's possible when you let go of the fear of how you're seen or perceived

When you're done with this episode, check out David's first Man Alive podcast episode on How to Live a Regret Free Life. Connect with David Wood Website: https://focus.ceo/ Connect with Shana James Website: shanajamescoaching.com/3ways Curious what you'd need to become a better leader and lover? Take the quiz For Women: Modern dating doesn't have to be a nightmare for women